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One of the earliest fuckups almost every new ‘unplugged’ man will make is that he will spew his confused, twisted, sad & angry emotions all over his wife. He will have come to the realization that up to this point he has been wasting his life and his wife is not attracted to the weaksauce pussy he has become. The pill is a bitter one to swallow, but I will always choose the pain of the truth over the comfort of a lie and you would be wise to do the same.

Pride will be injured, the ego is too involved, and the desire for immediate results will be alive and well – all ingredients leading towards a hurricane of emotions.

Like a Somali pirate this newly unplugged man will look to his wife and say, “I’m the Captain now” to which she will laugh or snicker and say, ‘yeah, ok…’ leading to further frustrations.

He will want to weep and apologize for being so pathetic and not leading her or the kids – which is what has caused them to be so disgruntled and lost in this life, having never developed their own genuine sense of self.

He will resent himself for letting things get so bad and will decide to make a desperate plea to the world, making posts on twitter & reddit about how he has decided to ‘man up’ and take ownership of his masculine nature.

He may get drunk and tell his wife he loves her and now that he is a man she should submit to his lead. He will get angry and sloppy and yell about respect and the way it should be.

All of this will happen, and all of this will work against him.

Myself and several other frequent contributors at MarriedRedPill have shared the message that these emotions – they are for your bros, your dog, & your beer.

Your wife is not your emotional tampon. She is a woman who is always judging your status as a man. Her shit tests are nothing more than checkups on your leadership & frame. To have you come to her spilling your guts about whatthefuckever – weaksauce, and she will take note.

Here is the kicker, in these initial stages – you have no idea what you need to do or who you truly are or What’s expected of a masculine man. You’ve been plugged in and stuck inside a bluepill mold that was forged by some weaksauce white knights over the years for so long that you have no idea how to even ‘man’. Because of this the last thing you want to do is lay out a plan that you’ll be changing the very next day/week.

For these reasons, you need to just start taking actions, making small permanent changes and hen let your results do the speaking for you. There is a reason that Lifting is Step #1

Your wife isn’t your mother. You don’t need to run to her and say, “Hey look at me, I worked out three days in a row this week” She doesn’t need another child to be proud of; what she needs is a husband – the masculine man you were and she thought you’d always be when she married you. The better way of doing that is to just start working out and during one of your romps in the sack she’ll say, “Wow, your arms are big or Whoa, your back is so hard.” You just shrug it off like that’s normal – because being a jacked muscular masculine man IS normal.

Men are the more romantic of the sexes, I’m not saying don’t feel – what I am saying, is be deliberate with whom you are sharing those feelings with.

You’re frustrated because you ‘used to be somebody’? Grab the leash, get the dog, and go for a walk. Let the thoughts bounce around in your head or talk it out with the dog as you walk (quietly or people will think you’re a weirdo). Or sit on the front lawn with the dog, petting him or throwing the ball and just hashing shit out in your mind or again, straight up talk to the dog – whatever you need to do to fix your mind without bringing your wife into the mental mix.

You’re sad because you recognize your wife will never love you unconditionally or that she isn’t attracted to you (yet)? Go out with the guys, if it’s a close friend, talk that shit out. Let him know you recognized that you’re a frumpy sack of soft dog shit and the Mrs. isn’t attracted. Maybe you’ll find a new workout buddy or some diet & fitness advice. Most importantly, you’ll have released the words & emotion without it landing on your wife.

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