I can not thank you enough for how learning from TRP has changed the way I understand relationships, avoiding the beta life culture teach us is the right way to be.

I dated yesterday a woman and I was amazed how different I treated the date compared with my blue pill version. Just removing the idea of "conquering" the woman is totally a game changer. We are two people knowing each other and I am bringing a lot to the table. I don't need to please her, tell her what she wanted. This is what I am, if you don't like it I am totally ok. I just fell totally comfortable and because what I think I have learn here I asked questions totally different that I used before when I first dated someone.

First of all, we were supposed to have dinner at certain time, and she should have called me on the morning. But she did not. Instead of feeling miserable, sad or whatever, I waited for calling another girl, just replacing the plate. This is a way of thinking that it just appeared normally in my mind, instead of canceling, instead of begging for another date and accepting any excuse. I had options.

She finally called and appeared on time. Being a first date I found it pointless playing too hard, rejecting her or whatever, at the end she was driving to my city.

During the date, I wanted to know about his previous partners, how the relationships were. When dating years ago, I always tried to avoid the theme, as is sometimes uncomfortable. But now, is something I need to know in order to decide. I am not taking whatever she is, if I don't like it, I leave it.

I asked her if she has cheated on any of her previous partners and she told me the sentence of the title after a pause considering "yes or no" abruptly interrupted by a "if you need to think on it, this is a yes".

So she cheated on one of her previous boyfriend but that was "at the end of the relationship when things already were bad". That is the definition of a technically yes. The moment the feelings of a woman for somebody start to shrink, is not a 100% cheating on their minds. Apparently, their idea of cheating is all about feelings, nothing related with the status of their relationship.

She had a nice collar, a gift from a previous guy dating her. He spent a lot on the first dates (a trip together to another country on the third date!). She talked about the stuff and you get the invisibility sensation of a hidden provider behind the scenes, totally secondary. Fortunately for us, you see how little impact all those gifts left on women. They will never compare you with the guy of the expensive gifts, just for the gifts.

Another game changer for me, is the idea of escalating. Previously I wanted to do small steps, not to act too soon. Now I know two things:

a) I will feel better if I try and she rejects me than if I don't do anything and nothing happens.

b) If you try more than what she is expecting or prepared, she will stops you and everything will be fine, maybe the next day she is. But if you try less, you can kill attraction and this is the end.

With both points on mind you just escalate comfortably, without any kind of anxiety, because rejection is even playing on your side!

Sorry for my English, I am from an underdeveloped European country.