Hey all, been a lurker here for quite some time. Just got a bit of a situation, and wanted some input from the community. My wife recently told me she wants a divorce. We had been on the verge a few times, most notably two years ago when she was unfaithful. We somehow made it through that, and have since moved and "started fresh." I understand why it happened, because up until that point and doing research I had no idea of the red pill and was beta AF. It was my own fault. I acknowledge that I should have ended it at the time, but figured with my new found knowledge I would give it a shot. I am in the military and transferred a year ago. Things were going great for a while. But there were places that I started to slack on:

-stopped lifting, biggest mistake I know. Have gained 15 pounds in the last year. -slacking off at times with housework. I'll get to my schedule in a bit, but not doing my part there. -said that I always was mean to her and didn't like her doing things she wanted. -financially irresponsible. We accumulated alot of debt, and we were living paycheck to paycheck. -didn't do enough exciting things. She is a SAHM, and we rarely got an opportunity to go out. We went on dates maybe once a month.

A crucial part of the story is an ex that I have in the area where we got stationed a year ago. Her and my wife had become friends via social media. Me, my wife, my ex and her boyfriend all agreed to be friends, and I didn't have a problem with it as I had no more feelings for the ex and we really didn't know anyone. Turns out that my ex and her bf had no interest in being friends with me. My wife was always going over to hang out with my ex, and she could never do it with the two kids. My wife and ex opened up their own candle-making business, and work out routinely.

-on Tuesdays and Thursdays, I would wake up at 430 to go to work. My wife and the kids would sleep in until 9, go down for a nap at two. My wife would leave within 15 minutes of me getting home, with two toddlers that aren't ready to go to bed for a long time. She would get home around midnight. These were her candle making days. -on sunday, Monday and Wednesday, she would leave around 8 or 9 to go workout with my ex and not get home until midnight. -i would also like to note that on Friday and Saturday nights, I drive for uber to help make ends meet.

When I voiced my displeasure with the schedule and how we were living our lives, she would get frustratred and tell me that I don't like her doing anything to better herself. I believe that my ex is also in her ear, telling her to go through with the divorce.

I don't think our marriage was TERRIBLE enough to warrant a divorce, but here we are. I stopped fighting with her on it, and have decided to just give her what she wants.

Even with my weight gain, I am still healthy. I would give myself a 7 or 8 on a good day. I know I still have game, I got two numbers and also had sex with a girl this past weekend. I am in the military, good looking, and drive a jeep.

Here's the confusing part. Last night, she came on to me. I fucked her good. We always had good sex, and frequent. We had sex three days in a row leading up to the day of her telling me she wants a divorce. She says she wants to keep having sex because I'm good, big and the sex is always amazing. But she said that she doesn't want to be with me, and still wants the divorce.

I guess I'm just confused because it's obvious that she is still sexually attracted to me, but no longer wants to be with me. Thoughts?