Basketball is an intricate, high-speed game filled with split-second, spontaneous decisions. But that spontaneity is possible only when everyone first engages in hours of highly repetitive and structured practice – perfecting their……

Much like a game of basketball, conversation can be explained as a high-speed game filled with spontaneous split-second decisions, perfecting a multitude of skills to truly master.

A lot of young men come to this sub looking for a script, a couple pick up lines to perfect that’ll guarantee pussy or your money back. Unfortunately, a lot of these guys are trying to play professional ball before they've learned to dribble. Most of you looking for lines, couldn’t keep a good conversation going with a strange male, yet alone a beautiful women you want to fuck. You boys need to learn to walk before you can run, some of the more inept among us need to learn to crawl before you can ever hope of walking.

If you can’t say Hello, confidently to a complete stranger you’re not trying to get something from, there’s no way you’re going to talk your way into pussy. This is why I recommend you get your ass out there and say hello to everyone you meet; men, pretty girls, women you’re not interested in, old folks and young one alike as a stepping stone in the right direction.

If you’re past this point, going forward, challenge yourself to simply say Hello to a dozen women a day that you're physically attracted to. It doesn’t sound like much, it’s not even really meant to get you laid but I guarantee you, or you money back if you can keep this up for a month, you’re going to accidentally trip and fall into some pussy. Being able to say Hi will set you apart. The fact I took the time in middle and high school, to say Hello Mr. and Ms. Barbra, how’s your day going? put me in a class of my own among my friends parents.

That boys so polite, at least he stops to talk with us before he runs up to the attic unlike all your other friends.

You can say Hello to pretty women with authority and confidence now, dope. Time to put some plates on that bar.

How’s your day going?

It’s just slightly heavier than the bar. I know a lot of people are going to say this is a dead end question and they’re right for now. It’s just another common courtesy that comes natural to almost everyone in forced interactions with cashiers, waiters, basically any customer service employee. That’s one of the main reasons you should have no fear running around town asking everyone how their day is going; men, women, ugly bitches, old folks, the underage skater punks always smoking cigarettes vaping at your favorite park. When I was a server I must have asked that question a hundred time a day. It rolls off my tongue at this point and it normally went like this:

Hey, how’s your day going folks?

Good and you?

Ohh just peachy! Now, what can I grab to get started?

It doesn’t matter if we’re having a shitty day. Most people are on autopilot when they hear this question because we hear it all the time. You’ve answered or asked it in forced situations a million times in your life but tell a lot of guys to go ask a cute girl how their day is going: Hell no!

If you haven’t figured it out by now, the reason you start with every single stranger, is so by the time you’re confident enough to tackle pretty women, it comes out naturally. With ease. Women know why you’re approaching them, they can smell the desperation on a thirsty man's dry breath. By talking to not just targets but everyone you become something of a social butterfly. It becomes more authentic opening women you’re interested in, if you’re opening everybody.

But, but, but it always ends in a one or two word answer, where do I go from there?

Well Billy, I’m glad you asked. If you’ve ever taken the time, as I recommend you do, to eavesdrop on a customer service employees, you’ll notice the more personable ones ask open ended questions. Questions that can not be answered by yes or no, or a simple one to two word reply, that doesn’t offer something to build off of.

  • What are you up to girl?

  • What are you plans for the night?

  • What brought you out today boys?

The point of these types of questions is to force the recipient to put thought and substance into the answer. Sure you can still catch stock answers:

  • Just running around.

  • Out enjoying the sun.

  • The game.

This is where sentence weaving comes into play. What you start doing, is picking out a, Who? What? Where? When? Why? or How? from their answer, to ask another question off of. Weaving their sentences into your questions.

  • Where’d you all stop?

  • What have you been doing outside all day?

  • You just lost.

Rinse and fucking repeat. This works well for a multitude of reason and there are a couple of strategies at play here:

Seek first to understand, then be understood, is habit 5 of 7 from the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It requires you to become an active listener, as does sentence weaving. Active listening deserves it’s own post. It was a challenge for me as a loud mouth. Often times, still requiring focused breathing to prevent blurting out some semi related detail from my life. Trying to push the other participants in the conversation out of the spot light. It’s in human nature. We all want to be understood, which is why people are all too happy to continually answer questions about themselves.

The best conversationalist are often active listener, may or may not be a direct quote from How to Win Friends and Influence People. Though I can guarantee this one or your money back, it is in fact, a huge take away from the book. Most people aren’t actually looking for someone to talk in conversations but someone to listen. Again human nature; we seek to be understood, we all desire it. This is why actively listening combined with sentence weaving can keep the conversation going. People will allude to what they want to talk about if you listen closely and ask the right questions. They’ll be all too happy to talk your ear off, all night long. Just keep asking questions they’re interested in answering.

It was a fucking blast racing go carts until my friend fucked it up.

A terrible question to ask, would be What color were the go carts? What they’re really trying to talk about, is how their friend fucked carting up for everyone involved. So ask them exactly that: How’d your boy fuck up go carts? Notice I mirrored part of their sentence back at them by using words/phrases from their speech. This is a taste of active listening and a live look at sentence weaving.

The pick up artists here are going to tell you to stay mysterious. Sound advice. One of the easiest way to do this, is to shut the fuck up, asking questions and listening instead of talking. Revealing as little about yourself as possible.

The machiavellian among us would take staying mysterious a step further for different reasons. They’d lead the conversation where they want it to go, by asking the questions they want answered. Mining their counterpart for key information to be used and weaponized at a later point. Revealing as little about them or their intents as possible by keeping quite. Often lying or when faced with questions, dropping seeds of disinformation. If you ask the right question, you don’t need the answer.

If you catch a girl in conversation, you can quickly close with, Hey this has been a great conversation but I have to get going, give me your number so we can pick up where we left off. Or you can go out and spam woman with pre-cocked lines. Ayye baby, let me get them digits. You’ll get numbers that way, feeding enough woman the same line over and over again.

What I’ve laid out here are baby steps to get you comfortable not just cold approaching woman but talking and socializing with everyone because what happens when you get her out on date and still can’t keep a basic conversation flowing. The better you get at talking to strangers the more unique and personalized your opening questions will become.

Speaking, socializing, active listing: these are all skills much similar to musical talents; use em or lose em. Much like musicians expressing their musical talents, a conversationalist can enter a state of flow. Ever get caught in a great conversation, where time keeps on slipping. The words and conversation go on without thought or effort, everything said, just sounds right. That's the magic of someone who truly has the gift of gab.This is why I stay speaking with the general public, I open girls I have no interest in closing; to stay warmed up and keep my skills fresh. Beside you never know who you'll end up speaking with or what you'll wind up hearing.

Now how many free throws do you think Stephen Curry has shot, just so he could make them under pressure when the games really on?