Dear Red Pill, please explain this situation and answer a few questions for me

Teknodruid · 2013-08-10T08:08:10+00:00

She is attention seeking, has low self esteem, sounds like daddy issues and in general is just batshit.

Walk away, stay away, don't look back and ignore her -> Ignoring her will drive her more crazy than any comment you can make.

Amuro_Rey · 2013-08-10T08:46:25+00:00

It's not unheard of, I would say a lot of women, and really men too, "amp" up their memories as time goes on."We had an argument and broke up" --- > "He screamed at me, threw a lamp and stalked me on facebook for years no matter how I tried to move on!" It's both a shaming tactic, a cry for attention, and creating drama for the sake of drama.

Of course you should have cut it off way long ago. Talking and explaining doesn't do any good, but shrugging your shoulders and going invisible can.

Could she attract and hold on to a beta

Oh yeah. All she'd have to do is create a cycle of: Lull period. Create some sort of drama. Framing drama as if it's beta's fault. Beta feels bad and supplicates. Repeat.

I notice that pattern in nearly every "My ex is a crazy dramatic bitch" story we hear from bluepills and reformed bluepills.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-08-10T18:54:24+00:00

It's typical, but not in a good way.

[deleted] · 2013-08-10T19:53:11+00:00

Is this typical? Or is she a rare breed?

Not common, but not unique either. There are enough to say "oh, she's one of those", but thank goodness they're not the majority.

What generally happens in this person's life, romantically? Could she attract and hold on to a beta, or would even they be unable to put up with her shit?

Her low self esteem means that she thinks she is unworthy of a decent guy- so any guy who wants her must be a loser, and the longer he stays the more of a loser he is. So she continuously loses respect for her partner over time, leading to worse and worse behavior- and he demonstrates even further loser-ness by staying with her despite her bad behavior. If she doesn't drive him away first, she will leave him once she has convinced herself that he has proven himself completely worthless by staying with her too long.

Why won't anyone call her out on her shit, especially since they don't know her personally and can hide behind their monitor?

Women care more about community than facts, and men generally don't give enough fucks to call out strangers on the internet.

projectself · 2013-08-11T00:21:34+00:00

Instead of talking about her, how about I call you out on your bullshit.

Why do you feel the need to explain to her how to live her life after breaking up with her?

Why do you feel like you need to "fix" her.

Why do you feel the need to communicate with someone who disrespects you?

Why are you writing page long emotional drivel about some bitch you used to fuck?

Bottom line, you cannot control anyone but yourself. Instead of looking to find her flaws.. look inward. If she only chooses loser emotionally unavailable men, why did she choose you? Why are you orbiting her still?

Then you end with a nice brag about how you were the mature guy and wished her well after she insults you..? wtf? Sounds passive aggressive as hell. Of course she called you out on it, it's bullshit. Tell that bitch you will not allow her or anyone else to disrespect you. Do not worry about her or her problems.

lastly.. Ignore words, watch actions. She may have all these lengthy explanations about why she does what she does.. she has to rationalize it somehow. Ignore that shit. Literally and figuratively. Watch her actions. Her actions say she is a low value insulting bitch. Treat her accordingly. Treat yourself better by not allowing people to treat you that way.

You broke a few rulese here..
you rewarded bad behavior. she acts batshit, you give her attention. This guarentees she will continue giving you more of the same.

Next you reacted inauthentic. She insults you and you take the "moral high ground"? She obviously got under your skin enough to write this.. and it is full of limbic stress so it's obvious you are using this as the release to your tension. Fuck that. Being open and honest and authentic allows you the freedom to express yourself. Repressing yourself in the name of being nice... yeah, fuck that. That's why you nice guys are such dicks, they go around holding all their anger in for the sake of being mature. It is not a virtue.

boner_drone · 2013-08-11T00:39:22+00:00

You gave her the Pussy Pass which is exactly the same thing society has been doing which is what emboldens psychos to go off the deep end.

If she were a man, people would have called her out on her shit early on. This would have made her/him have to stop being such a lunatic.

However, women are indulged and excused, with the result that they don't reign in -- and instead increase -- their worst behaviors until they are completely out of control.

This ends up with them not being able to be happy. All because people were not holding them to any reasonable standard, and were treating them like precious babies when they were having temper tantrums, reinforcing that behavior until it got out of control.

The same tyranny of hiding the truth happens when people don't tell women about to hit the wall that they had better stop fucking around or they are going to miss their chance. "I don't want to hurt her feelings!"

It's "nicer" to let a woman think everything will be fine in storybook fairy land and Prince Charming is on the way. Why, she might feel bad for a second if she were told that she had better keep HERSELF up and proactively seek out venues with high-quality males, and develop the FUCKING SOCIAL SKILLS to make high-value men WANT to keep her around for more than a quickie.

Feminism is designed to make women equal by ruining everyone's happiness. Bitter old hags designed it and don't want anyone to be happy since they aren't.

fuk_offe · 2013-08-11T05:25:53+00:00

/r/asktrp, not here... Read the rules.

Title	Dear Red Pill, please explain this situation and answer a few questions for me
Author	apathy2007
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	August 10, 2013 7:55 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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