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Depressing thread about dead bedrooms on the front page right now

trpill

February 28, 2014
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Marriage is terrifying

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Title Depressing thread about dead bedrooms on the front page right now
Author

trpill

Upvotes 25
Comments 49
Date February 28, 2014 1:19 AM UTC
(12 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1z51c9/depressing_thread_about_dead_bedrooms_on_the/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/depressing-thread-about-dead-bedrooms-on-the-front.11958
https://theredarchive.com/post/11958
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Comments

[–][deleted] 12 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Senior Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 22 points23 points24 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This is the most brutal thing iv seen on reddit today and iv seen a dude get cut in half.

[–]mbr902000 6 points7 points8 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'd have said fuck off

Don't give up hope, there's still time for that..

[–][deleted] 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I did almost the exact same thing. I increased my value before I added the dread game and quit begging completely. I explained it to her that if she refuses sex with me then she refuses me as a person. If she refuses me as a person we can't be together. My relationship is working as intended now and it's worth staying together, but the last 12 years was a fucking nightmare. Knowing what I know now I would never have married. The last 3 months isn't worth the last 12 years.

[–]football1010 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Muslim here, I would take a second younger wife, and move here into the same house.

[–]RebootedMale 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly I rejected her. Because she got fat. If a woman gains more than five pounds two years after you marry her, divorce her.

[–]omega_fat 50 points51 points52 points 12 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link

Q. What food kills woman's sex drive?

A.The wedding cake.

[–]RebootedMale 9 points10 points11 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

If you get married, go to the gym 3+ times a week and get fitter than ever, and flirt with girls in front of her. That's the cure for wedding cake.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

For some women, that's abuse, and enough to get them to threaten divorce.

[–]Endorsed ContributorRedPillDad 8 points9 points10 points 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

Q. What food kills woman's sex drive? A.The wedding cake.

Good one!

I laughed through much of the thread. there were some great lines..

"My wife is best lay in the world... at least that's what all my friends tell me."

It was like a Rodney Dangerfield sketch

[–]carrotplanter 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Picture related

[–]Endorsed Contributorgekkozorz 8 points9 points10 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Marriage is like serving time in prison with a big fat cellmate who DOESN’T want to have sex with you.

[–]positiveeagle 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Kind of sad to think you would get more love in prison. lol

[–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm not sure I'd call that love though

[–]carrotplanter 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

They call it manly love

[–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I love you man. Not in a gay kind of way though... more like a prison kind of way.

[–]boredinclass2 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Man, marriage is more terrifying for me looking at that thread because men seem like they turn into such pussies after. Blah. It's like I have a bad taste in my mouth.

[–]Evers89 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'll quickly fix this one up for you here. They were pussies coming out of the gate. Wife now has complete control over said pussy. Marriage and ultimate commitment has been won. Sex is no longer required. The very fact that r/deadbedrooms exists and ends up on the front page with the exact same problems should give men enough clue as to their own issues here.

Some men probably did start off decently sacked up, but fell into the comfortable trap. That stagnant attitude killed the whole thing.

Fun fact: Every so often one of them will flirt with another woman in front of their wife and find themselves getting laid constantly. Obviously they have no idea how this happened. Cycle repeats.

[–]positiveeagle 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

They were always pussies.

[–]jaysire 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That's the beauty of it. Once you take the red pill and unpussify yourself, you can't go back. That's why the Matrix reference works in my opinion: the process is one way and there's hope for every pussy-whipped man. Many other Matrix-details apply as well, such as "splinter in your mind" (you've always felt there's something not quite right with how society works) and "why do my eyes hurt?" (You've never used them before to see what the world is really like, but once you open them, it's quite easy to see that AWALT).

[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana 13 points14 points15 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

So tell me, as a man who does EVERYTHING around the house; gorcery shopping, cooking, cleaning, dishes, vacuuming, laundry, bins and even buying little treats like flowers and the like of occassion, despite the fact that I get home from work later than she does, and that we have no children in our lives. Why is it that my advances are met with sighs rather than enthusiasm?

Tough question, let me think about that one for a moment...

[–]sting129 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Saw that too. Was going to respond with some version of "because women aren't attracted to nannies" but fuck it.

[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The milquetoast reply was good, but I like your version better.

[–]scnickel 10 points11 points12 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Marriage doesn't have to be that way. I've been married 15 years and still have sex at least 5x per week. My wife is objectively a 6-7 for her age (35) but to me an 8+. She's a great cook, keeps the house clean, and is an amazing mom to my two sons. In fact she just told me yesterday how much she appreciates that I "allow" her to be a stay at home mom. She just loves taking care of me and my boys.

Maintain you frame and make sure that you are the leader of your relationship, and nothing can beat marriage.

[–]circlhat 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

thank you for this post, I 'm in a LTR thinking about getting married, your post lets me know there is hope

[–]1 Endorsed Contributormordanus 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The odds aren't in your favor for happiness man. Use trp to stack the deck if you are going to get married. DONT LOSE YOUR FRAME and keep applying the principles you learn here. If you fail the shit tests after marriage you're done for.

[–]positiveeagle 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You're attractive, so you win.

[–][deleted] 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–]RebootedMale 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Slap her ass and tell her to get the goddamn chores done. Give her a hug after you fucking blow a load in her, and say "good girl".

[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This is like some sort of Bizzaro beta fantasy world.

[–]bama79rolltide 6 points7 points8 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Eye opening stuff. I read every comment.

We have problems. Big time. Same pattern over and over.

Complacency and entitlement.

[–]CreepAcceptance 5 points6 points7 points 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

They've been misled their entire lives. Told to worship women, "happy wife happy life", "be nice, be yourself, you'll find someone", "don't become one of those pick up artist assholes". On the whole mainstream dating and love advice is absolute garbage, what chance did they have?

Edit: not to deny responsibility for where you end up in life - but many guys (myself included) were sitting at life's start line, in neutral, facing the wrong way, with a blindfold on.

[–]Iknwican 10 points11 points12 points 12 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link

I wouldn't say it is strictly because of marriage, most of the men in the thread sound like whiny betas and its no surprise that they do not turn their wives on. Come on one guy said he does all the house work and takes care of the kids even though he comes home from work after his wife. Classic beta bucks why would she work when he takes care of everything and she doesn't have to do shit not even fuck him. So sad these men don't even understand that doing all the chores sucking up to her and playing nice for some sex just makes her want it less. If they would hold some god dam frame and dread game the bitches, I am sure the legs would spread like Moses parting the dam sea.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 13 points14 points15 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Second that. Except marriage does turn men into whiny betas unless they take TRP.

[–][deleted] 12 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

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[–]2insickness 7 points8 points9 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

TRP really needs to come up with a relationship- problem solving technique besides "dread game".

This is one of the biggest misunderstandings of relationship game. There are not a host of relationship techniques that you can use. There is one single technique. There is one language that women understand. It is a binary language. You are either moving toward her or moving away from her. You are rewarding her or you're punishing her. You're giving her your time and attention or you're taking it away from her. Dread game is demonstrating that you are willing to walk away from her. If you find it impossible to demonstrate to her that you're willing to walk away from her then she feels like she's willing to walk away from you. Take your pick.

[–]robesta 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

TRP really needs to come up relationship- problem solving technique besides "dread game."

The are plenty.

-Blowing through shit tests

-Raising SMV

-Not seeking validation through your SO

-Maintaining frame

Dread game is more of a heavy hitting measure. Instant results.

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[–]robesta 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link

You're already at a disadvantage of you're married with kids. I know, I was there too. Married Man's Sex Life Primer is your best bet.

That list boils down to "be alpha". It also is pretty much general advice, not relationship specific.

Also, its maintaining that your not her supplicant. You always have to be standing on your own two feet.

Having something for those poor unfortunate souls who won't take the sorts of risks Dread Game requires would be helpful.

If you're not willing to walk out at some level of for some behavior, you're gonna lose. You have to have boundaries, even if it is, "Don't fuck other guys."

[–]positiveeagle 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Manly men take risks.

[–]robesta 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Huh?

[–]positiveeagle 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I think I'm just reiterating your point: some men don't want to take risks to get what they want and they wonder why their wives don't wanna fuck them.

[–]robesta 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok Gotcha.

[–]circlhat 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She comes to believe you only touch her when you want sex. Thus, when you touch her and she does not want sex, she gives you the cold shoulder. Eventually you respond to this conditioning and stop showing her casual intimacy.

In the context of the posted link, a lot of these guys are helping out with cooking and cleaning, and letting their wives choose when to have sex so they don't feel pressured, and trying to hold and cuddle their wives.

A women has just as much responsibility as a men when it comes to sex, trying to fix everything yourself and making it all about her is a bad path to take.

I have to disagree with your advice, it puts 100% of blame on the man, while the you make the woman a praise , something to be won.

According to the link above these man are to beta, not demanding , and not alpha, they are holding her to much, and touching her without expecting sex, your advice only feeds the problem.

[–]luxury_banana 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

TRP really needs to come up with a relationship- problem solving technique besides "dread game".

You can't do anything besides this. The legal system necessitates it.

[–]circlhat 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

wouldn't say it is strictly because of marriage, most of the men in the thread sound like whiny betas and its no surprise that they do not turn their wives on.

I read most of them and they aren't whining they are doing a lot more work than I do, and a lot more effort.

They are trying to make things better by helping her with chores, taking care of the kids, showing that they love her

You can't place all the blame on the guys

[–]Iknwican 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Those are beta traits there was a thread not too long ago that showed men who do female housework chores actually turn their wives off because it shows weakness. By them doing all those things they are actually making the women want them even less.

[–]bookman117 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

God what a contemptable society.

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