Divorced & Red Pill - Need Advice

[deleted] · 2013-08-01T01:17:10+00:00

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PittHarman · 2013-08-01T00:36:45+00:00

These were my standards

Why are you talking to me like that? I'm not your husband.
We're not having a half divorce. Even the bullshit stops.

etc etc.

You don't need to take any crap, not that you ever did.

Your kids will get estranged for awhile but the crazy bullshit will drive them crazy when she turns it on them.

My kids are coming back to me as mom goes goofier with time, about 4 years here.

What is it about "No further contact" is it that you don't understand.(My personal favorite)

vengefully_yours · 2013-08-01T01:40:31+00:00

Be polite. Do not ever be nice. Never give her a fucking inch, never allow her any concession. If you do she will take as much as she can get.

Ignore them as best you can, avoid as much bullshit as possible. I got to see my kids a total of 12 days for the first 7 years because of that cunt and the family courts. One is all kinds of fucked up, the other is just like her worthless mother. I was prevented from being there, and your ex can do it to you just as easily.

My first divorce was final in 2004, the second one will be coming up shortly. The second one is going to hate life once its done, because after the shit she put me through when she knows what the first one did, I am going to go all Dresden 1945 on her professional and personal life. I am done playing nice, and now I am all about vengeance for these cheating whores. No more Mr Nice Guy, and certainly never a door mat again.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-08-01T01:57:19+00:00

Married or single, your children need to see you as a strong, happy, fulfilled and actualized person.

Your children will model themselves after you. They don't do what you SAY, they become what you ARE.

And if you have a daughter, whatever type of man you are, that's the type of man she will be drawn to, later in life.

griesuschrist · 2013-07-31T23:54:09+00:00

I am always cordial to my exes and I don't give up any information about my current situation to them. If they ask prying questions I jokingly jab at their motive and switch the subject.

Being cordial and private is key. It shows independence. It's also great that you can make it to your kid's bday party.

Divorcedredpiller · 2013-08-01T02:46:37+00:00

I tried to stay civil and still come over for dinners, etc with my ex wife. When she continued her bullshit, I decided I just had to not put myself in those situations anymore. Now I just interact with her as needed for kid exchanges, etc.

I would say minimize contact and when you are dealing with her just make it all business and ignore any hamstering while you extricate yourself.

[deleted] · 2013-08-01T11:22:08+00:00

Do you really have to be on the birthday party? Can't you just take the kid out next day as a present to some place, alone? Can't you take turns in organizing birthday parties every second year? Why do you feel like there are cases when both parent has to be there? That sounds like half divorce or pretending to the kid that it is half divorce. Cut that out.

Of course your kid needs you but not at the same time. What does he or she get out of you at the birthday party, dad getting betaized by moms shit? What he or she needs from you is basically long walks just two of you and talking about everything, plus getting to know your life, getting to know what a mans life is.

There is absolutely no need to be together all three and pretend family when there is no longer one.

I mean, wouldn't you have been happy with that when you was a kid? I mean it is of course worse than a real and good family. Still. Suppose you are a kid live with mom and you don't really like it, she is not a very kind mom. And every second weekend your smiling, relaxed dad arrives, and takes you away into an entirely different world where you get to talk about school stuff getting an entirely different view while walking in the park, or going rock climbing or something. Would you really need your not very kind mom to be around those times?

Title	Divorced & Red Pill - Need Advice
Author	blackdivorce
Upvotes	11
Comments	13
Date	July 31, 2013 10:59 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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