Read the full post here: http://thefamilyalpha.com/2016/02/05/dont-live-life-vicariously/

This is your life and you need to understand that it is all there is for you. You don’t get today back, you don’t get 5 minutes ago back, it has passed and it will never come again. Every single thing you want to do has to be done in the window you’re given. If you want to have a six pack and get the admiration that is given to the good looking, then you need to make the time to prep meals, hit the weights, and get out in the public to display your art.

Do you want to write a book or get your degree?

Then get started! The time is going to pass either way so you might as well do something productive that brings you closer to those goals during the passing seconds.

I was originally going to write a parenting post bringing attention to dads who are looking to ‘do it again’ via their sons. I decided against this as while those dads who want to live through their sons are completely weaksauce, the guys who live through their friends are as equally deplorable.

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Father & Son NOT Father IS Son

I coach my son’s flag football team. This has exposed me to many instances where fathers, who are totally out of shape, are pressuring (sometimes physically) their son to do better, hit harder, suck it up, and stop whining. These points aren’t driven home as words to improve the kid, they are said with sneeringly pompous attitudes that make the dad look like he feels tough punking off his child. These weak fucks rocking the Dadbod are trying to relive their own ‘glory days’ through their kids. Not only are they pathetic losers for choosing to take this path of parenting, but they are preventing the kid from forming their own identity. Every choice these boys ever make is going to cause internal struggle as they won’t know if they are making the decision because they themselves want to, or if they are choosing something because it will make dad proud and would be the choice dad would make.

Gentlemen, listen up – if you have a son, allow your son to grow into his own man. Lead him, foster a masculine environment, train him in discipline, work ethic, and teach him the reality of the world – but for fucks sake – do not try to be him and live his life. I’m lucky in the sense that my boyo is all that is man. The kid loves sports, math, America, and all things boy. But, if he were to come up to me and say he wanted to join dance, I would support the fuck out of that too. I wouldn’t call him a pussy, because I am not living through him. My job is to raise him, not make him who I think I would be if I were to do it (life) again.

I would be the most badass father with signs, face paint, and air horns for my son the ballerina.

A Dad and his Daughter

I also have a daughter, and she is the girliest most feminine thing in this world. As I am typing this post up, she is jumping over my dog’s tail with her bedazzled purse over her arm and a huge bow in her hair (she cuts to my core).

I fucking hate how so many fathers I know say shit like, “When she goes on her first date I’ll be waiting – cleaning my shotgun when she gets home…”

Awesome dude, you’re going to scare off a 12 year old boy? That’s masculine as fuck, I’m sure that will make your daughter think, ‘Gee, my dad sure is great’. In reality, it will do the opposite and just the fact that you feel the need to play the role of ‘tough guy dad’ means you truly aren’t a tough dude.

Not only this, but you want to foster a relationship with your daughter where she feels that she can talk to you about anything. I don’t want to think of some boy with my little girl, but its life and the reality is, I’m going to have to cross that bridge someday. I would much rather my girl feeling comfortable discussing it with me and asking the questions than having her sneak behind my back. If you’re a weaksauce father and talk about how you’ll ‘scare the boys away’ then your little lady is going to ensure you never even know those boys exist.

Do yourself a favor, let your son live his own life and ensure your daughter knows that she can share anything with you.

Read the entire post @ The Family Alpha: http://thefamilyalpha.com/2016/02/05/dont-live-life-vicariously/