Background:

Discovered TRP a few months ago. Just turned 18. Factors outside of my control have inhibited my ability to go out and actually apply TRP concepts. This and my prior beta game is a big part of the reason why I'm still a virgin despite the fact that I've made out with several girls and gotten head from one.

My soccer teams trip to Finland last month was an opportunity to freely go out and apply TRP concepts and it yielded invaluable experience.

Her having a boyfriend means nothing

Even after digesting TRP I was skeptical about the idea that boyfriend's are nothing more than a shit test. I've always thought of a girl having a bf as a dead end, but my experience last month in Europe completely changed my mind. It's one thing to hear about something, but entirely different to experience it first hand.

Fast forward to the second last day of our trip and we were watching a soccer game at a stadium. There was a group of 7-8 girls, two empty seats and then me at the aisle. Two more come, ask if the seats are taken, with the hottest of the whole group sitting next to me. She was an hb7 blonde (rest of the group was meh). I strike up a casual conversation and within a couple minutes my team notices and starts going nuts because someone finally hit up a hot chick and it just happened to be the guy known to be the quietest on the team(me). The girl starts blushing and the extra pressure/hype from the boys admittedly makes me a bit nervous as well. I keep making some small talk for another couple minutes (turns out she and her friends are visiting from Iceland). I go straight for the Snapchat close which is convenient timing because at that point our team decided to leave.

I didn't think much of the interaction because it was our second last day and our hotels are an hour apart. I honestly just did this to get out of my comfort zone and practice interacting with chicks. I texted her the next day anyway and asked if she wanted to grab ice cream and hangout during the evening after my match(plan was to grab ice cream from a parlor two blocks away from my hotel and then take her back to my room where I could isolate). The caveat was that she'd have to come to me because we had an early 2:30 am bus to the airport and our coach barred us from going into the city for the night.

She replied saying she wants to, but that she's not sure because she's seeing someone from her school in Iceland. This is normally the point where I'd give up because I've always thought it takes a 9/10 Chad with tight game to sway any chick that's not an obvious thot. I'm certainly not that kind of guy- at least yet (I'm a brown dude born in Canada with a decent face and good style, but a really thin frame at 5'10 and 150 pounds after lifting for a few months now). To top it off, while my game was decent when we met, it was far from perfect.

Regardless, I thought fuck it and said "you're never gonna get the chance to hang out with an attractive Canadian again, what happens in Finland, stays in Finland."

This chick shocks me and replies "do you want to go all the way?" Keep in mind that I talked to this chick at the game in person for 5 minutes and literally sent just a few texts before planning a meetup. I hadn't even sexualized things yet and she already showed that sex was on the table if I played my cards right. I replied saying "yeah"(not sure if this was the right response) and she told me to come straight to her place at 9. If this was any other night, I would have been able to go, but I realized to my frustration that I had a team meeting at 10. No chance I'd be able to make it in time for that. Regrettably, I had to explain the situation and tell her that the only chance would be for her to come over. She said she'd try and figure out a way, but she messaged me later in the night saying she's sorry and that she can't make it. It was pretty disappointing, but nothing I could do at this point.

I'd imagine LMR would have been a bit tricky, but thanks to this sub I think I would have been alright. Either way, it blows my mind that a chick would turn on her man for a guy she's spent 5-10 minutes with in person. And it isn't as if this she was an obvious hoe; she seemed quite shy, down to earth and innocent in my initial interaction. For me, this means I should consider the context in which a chick brings up her boyfriend. If it's a cold approach and she immediately brings up a bf, it's more likely than not that she's not interested. If she is interested, she'll probably keep you in the dark about it right till the point when you work out logistics.

This experience also reinforced my more confident and assertive approach to girls. This is a big step up from my beta game and it's nice to see that I'm seeing improved results. There's still tons of room for growth, but I'd imagine that comes with failure and experience.

The end result was disappointing because nothing came out of it. Had things worked out this would have been such a cool way to lose my virginity.

Outcome Independence Is Everything

I was kinda bummed out about not seeing this chick, but it did allow me to have a different experience as well. Me and a few of the boys snuck out and went to a nearby club(those that went had just turned 18, which is the legal age in Finland). Most of my friends had a couple drinks, but I stayed sober since I didn't want a hangover on a travel day in the morning. We were the only ones in our age group(everyone looked 21-27), but we decided to just dance amongst ourselves. I'm pretty trash at dancing (something I should probably work on later down the line), but as a group we were having tons of fun and were lively af. That drew the attention of a few different group of girls. These girls were older and for the most part they just fed off our energy and joined the group for a bit before leaving. After that, there were two blondes that came and really became a part of our group. One went around grinding on us and she was hot af, but she was also quite clearly drunk. Thankfully nobody was stupid enough to escalate with her given everyone was relatively sober, but what stuck out is how many people gravitated towards us as the high energy guys having a blast.

This was in sharp contrast to a couple of guys who tried to join in who were good dancers, but very clearly thirsty and trying to get with the girls. Those two dudes got pushed aside and ignored completely by the girls.

I've always been pretty self-conscious about dancing, but today taught me that it's just about having fun. It was pretty intimidating walking into a club where we stuck out as both foreigners and teens, but the result was great. As for girls, it taught me that you should never be aggressively chasing chicks; they'll generally send you IOIs if you're in their vicinity. This is important because I honestly really underrated the importance of outcome independence and just having a good time.

Conclusion:

Lessons Learned

  • It doesn't matter if a chick has a bf, it's just a shit test

  • You don't need to be Chad Thundercock to make moves on a girl that's "taken"

  • Even girls that appear innocent on the surface won't hesitate to cheat at the first opportunity that appears worth it

  • Outcome independence appears to be the key to having fun and attracting girls at clubs(one of my drunk teammates actually smashed a chick later during the night)

  • You need to go out and live life to understand TRP; first hand experiences are crucial for reinforcing TRP pillars

These are really basic concepts that I've seen before, but I honestly brushed them aside until getting these experiences. More than anything this is a platform for me to document my TRP journey.