Frame: every action you take progresses you forward some way. That is your motivation. For example, the reason I write for TRP is not to illicit a reaction from others, but to process my theories and flush out what I've learned from my life experiences.

This frame is inherently selfish. But even though selfishness has a bad connotation, making yourself the priority in your own life is critical to success and power.

Even when I help out a friend, I am doing it from the same frame. I am doing it to foster a relationship of mutuality and giving between the two of us.

Everything you do, you do because you want to do it. Because it will benefit you, either in the short or long term.

When you do something for someone else, you lose frame. Your happiness no longer comes from within, but from the whims of your target.

Lesson Learned: Your frame is that you are the one in charge. It is you who has control of your destiny. The thoughts, feelings, and interpretations of others do not matter to the strength of your psyche.