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Exclusive Relationships = Oneitis

ADarkerNight
August 2, 2014
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Title Exclusive Relationships = Oneitis
Author

ADarkerNight
Upvotes 0
Comments 23
Date August 2, 2014 11:05 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2cgj5g/exclusive_relationships_oneitis/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/exclusive-relationships-oneitis.18833
https://theredarchive.com/post/18833
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Comments

[–]theredpillager 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's called abundance mentality. Read the damn sidebar.

[–]farbenwvnder 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link

What a load of bullshit.

We don't have to take everything too far

[–]ADarkerNight[S] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

I'll refer you to the recent mod post on policing tone.

Speaking in absolutes, generalizations, hyperbole, and analogy are all ways to communicate a basic set of concepts. The context of /r/theredpill already implies that generalizations are generalizations, we do not bother with or care for the standard disclaimers that make women studies majors and transgendered what-nots with bits and pieces of whatever fucked up sex they wanted feel fuzzy inside.

If you cannot read a piece and attempt to understand what the point was, then /r/theredpill is not the place for you. If you cannot comprehend the meaning, and instead get tripped up on tone and phrasing, /r/theredpill is not the place for you. If you cannot understand that generalizations and sexual strategy is probabilistic not deterministic, /r/theredpill is not for you.

[–]farbenwvnder 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I figured you were gonna link me the part about concern trolling.. Did you make a mistake? I don't see how this is relevant.

[–]ADarkerNight[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

"We don't have to take everything too far" is policing tone.

Instead of whining on a bunch of other LTR threads that complain about the woman they are in a relationship with, I decided to make a post about why being in an exclusive relationship is oneitis.

You on the other hand, decided to come to the thread and debate with us about why spinning plates is "taking things too far."

TRP is for the extremes. Maybe too extreme for some people.

[–]farbenwvnder 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

spinning plates is "taking things too far."

Not worth arguing with someone who has a difficult time reading.

As I already said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with plate spinning.

Are you aware what "tone" means? Tone policing is telling someone how to speak, not what to speak.

[–]JustTwoBrothers 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

He's not policing your tone, he's using his freedom of opinion to say that you're taking it too far, and losing sense the farther you go.

Stop using mod posts to shield your bad ideas.

[–]theredpillager 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

spinning plates is "taking things too far."

Actually, I think he probably meant that you saying "every LTR is oneitis" is taking things too far.

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[–]farbenwvnder 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

No, plate spinning is not a 100% requirement for a successful dating strategy. This is exactly what I mean, don't take EVERYTHING this sub stands for way too fucking far.

[–][deleted] 12 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

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[–]farbenwvnder 5 points6 points7 points 12 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Seriously? You think part of swallowing the red pill is spinning plates?

Absolutely nothing wrong with spinning plates but it's not one of TRP's fundamentals

[–]JustTwoBrothers 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

To you, /u/farbenwvnder I'll point out this sub's growing trend: being die hard fundamentalists. I see so many posts taking these small tips way, and I mean way out of context like this one, and looking at it like dogma.

[–]farbenwvnder 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

This is neither small, nor is it a tip. At least not a tip that actually helps with anything.

I'm not a "die hard fundamentalist" but sometimes you just need to tone it down a bit and not completely shoot past the fundaments

We don't need ridiculous ideas just for the sake of having content on this sub.

[–]JustTwoBrothers 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

To me, he took a fundamental truth like "oneitis" (when you pine over a woman you have no real reason to pine over and continually sit on that feeling) and applied it to relationships, which is beyond me since they don't intertwine in the least if you look at the original meaning.

I wasn't saying you were, I was saying there are plenty popping up here. They read this sub for about two months and start naming every sidebar term off of the list when presented with any situation.

[–]ADarkerNight[S] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

For me, oneitis is focusing on one girl to the exclusion of all others.

At it's worst it manifests as pining for a woman that you will never have. See plenty of posts in asktrp for examples. But it also manifests as the belief that one woman is better than all the rest.

The second is far more insidious to me, because of the slow creep that makes adopting this belief difficult to catch. You start with a plate, who you think is great, eventually upgrade to a LTR, drop the plates, and focus exclusively on the ONE girl that has caught your eye.

[–]JustTwoBrothers -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Alrighty bud, so if you don't want to be in relationships, then go ahead and tell me why you don't want to be in a relationship.

But don't tell me if I am in one that its oneitis. Because its not.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Oneitis is obsessing over a woman. If you have your shit together and clears goals in your life with the mindset that noone and nothing is going to stop you from achieving them you can't have oneitis.

In short, if you truly are an RP man, you cannot have oneitis.

[–]tylerdurden100 -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I've already deduced that you're mentally retarded from reading this first line. Read the side bar and stop polluting trp with your nonsense.

[–]ADarkerNight[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I urge you to try it. May solve the problems you're having with "disrespect" in your LTR.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Should I ask my gf about a threesome?

[–]jamieoneal82 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Watch out for two-itis next!

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If you aren't cheating on her, you're cheating yourself

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