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Extinguish the flame before it becomes a fire

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October 14, 2013
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Title Extinguish the flame before it becomes a fire
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Upvotes 6
Comments 11
Date October 14, 2013 12:00 AM UTC
(12 years ago)
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[–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal19 points20 points21 points 12 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Don't raise your voice. Keep a relaxed stance and posture. Be level in gaze, tone and temper. Do not argue, simply state your intentions and unwillingness to be talked to in any way except with the same courtesy you are showing.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

This is going to sound ridiculous, but lets say the situation was over text. How do I convey this?

[–]5 Endorsed ContributorStayinghereforreal15 points16 points17 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

"I don't address matters like this via text." And then no further addressing it via text. At all. Turn off the phone and leave it at home while you go out if you are too weak to follow your own rule and feel compelled to respond further.

[–]ChaoticParadox0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

And they will try their damndest to keep the argument going over said medium. You win by sticking to your word.

[–]no_game_player6 points7 points8 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I always like to use this example: self-defense experts when asked certain hypothetical situations respond with "I wouldn't find myself in that situation". ;-p

Text game is fucking hard. By the time you play, you've often lost. You can state your position as Stayinghereforreal said or you can just refuse to respond.

Whatever you do...don't send lots of text trying to convince her or asking for her to reply or such.

[+]test_ost-9 points-8 points-7 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Logical explanations do not filter through to women.

They only respond to projected authority and status.

This means a logically-correct beta is wrong, and a logically-incorrect alpha is right. Dominance matters, not the facts. Persuasion matters, not the facts. Just like in court.

You have to make them FEEL like they fucked up. Note that "fucking up" a situation doesn't mean doing something logically wrong, it means violating the prevailing social norms.

The social norms are determined by whoever is dominant.

A girl will cry and apologize to a dominant man for not wearing what he told her to, and thus not getting taken to the shindig.

The SAME girl will defiantly rub into a beta's face that she cheated and it isn't his baby.

[–]Bonkzzilla1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

^ This. The simplest suggestion I can give is to not grant attention unless she approaches you in a mature and reasonable manner. There's always going to be issues you two have to talk or argue through, but never, EVER give in to hissy fits or foot stamping behavior. Just don't. "We'll talk about this later" is perfectly acceptable. Whatever you do, don't get into a situation where you're upset and yelling back at her because it will only get worse from there.

[–]TRP Vanguardscottishredpill9 points10 points11 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You done?

[–]no_game_player6 points7 points8 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Personally, in my recent situation, I just walked out. I wouldn't call it "upper hand". I just wasn't going to deal with her shit, and she wasn't going to play my way, so I was done. I haven't heard from her since and don't expect to.

I'm happier with that than being her bitch.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Ignoring is a good tactic.

[–]no_game_player2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Not really a tactic in this case so much as an end. Weak friendship, got sick of her shit in various ways, and hit my limit when I felt like she led me on / only would do anything in her way.

Eh, anyhow, not about my play, just saying you seem to want to pull off a lot more than what I managed (back to my own shit).

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