I met this girl on Tinder, we had been on two dates. I picked the time and place for both dates and each time I saw her I was progressively more physical but due to location this was only to the point of making out/feeling up. These dates weren’t setup to fuck, they were setup to demonstrate value through fun activities and build sexual tension. For the third date I invited her over to watch a movie on a weeknight. This was setup to close her.

We talked for 30 minutes over wine, swapping stories from when we were younger and in trouble with the police. I say “It’s getting late, let’s get this movie started”, she agrees. We make our way to the couch, I start the movie and she gets cozy with me. She's laying with an arm and leg sprawled across me, I put my hand under her chin, pull her face to mine and start making out with her. We stop and she says “we have to watch this movie”.,translation: “don’t make me watch this stupid movie, I just want you to fuck me.” I wait another 30 seconds, then bring her in again. We're making out, I’m feeling her up, as I'm doing that I roll her over on the couch so now I’m on top. I start kissing her neck and chest, rubbing thighs with one hand, I have one arm around her lower back pulling her into me. I'm rubbing my hard cock all over her snatch, I’m into it, she’s into it. I reach for her shirt. I feel some resistance, I let go. (my roommate is home, he had made an appearance earlier) She pulls her shirt down as soon as I let go. I kiss around her neck and earlobe a couple more times and then I pull back, everything. I lift up and look her dead in her eyes and say “do you want to go to my room”. I give her 2 seconds to respond. She's staring at me... 1... 2... I don’t wait for a response, “Come on, let’s go”. I wrap her legs around my waist, put my hand on her lower back and lift her off the couch. (I’m 170, 5’11 and I lift, so naturally she’s light.). I lay her on my bed. A little more grinding and making out, 10 seconds tops and I can already tell I’m just wasting time, she’s ready to go. I undress her asap. All that is left is her thong. I feel up and down her bare thighs as I grind on the outside of her pussy. She has huge tits for a girl her size, she’s rubbing them and looking at me, I start making out with her breasts, she’s moaning in my ear. I’m feeling up her legs and around her vag. I enjoy the build up.

Note that, I’ve made it a point to be better at dirty talk in the bed. It turns me on when a girl is vocal but in my experience you always have to take the lead. So I initiate with this brilliant line.

I sit up, look her in the eyes again, I say in a low voice “You want me to fuck you dont me?” Yes, that’s not a typo, I literally said “YOU want ME to fuck YOU don’t ME?”. Oops.

She stares at me for a split second, I say it a little louder, more clear, and slightly sexual “You want me to fuck you, dont you.??”. She responds with the slightest head nod and lip bite. I pull down her thong, her pussy is soaking wet, this girl wants to get fucked so bad. I walk over to the dresser pull out a boot, walk back. She's butt ass naked sprawled out on the bed with a wet pussy and her ass is A+, just waiting to be pounded. I go to strap on the jimmy and I realize my dick is soft, I don't know how, I dont know what…

I try to resuscitate the raging boner I had minutes ago but it’s long gone. I debated asking her to suck me off but by then she says she should leave and I’m already thoroughly embarrassed.

I was torn between two choices: Let her find her own way to the door. After all I’ve embarrassed her and myself exponentially, just next this chick and move on to a new match tomorrow. OR Walk her out, like one would any guest.

I did the latter… I didn’t even bother putting my clothes back on.

At this point I’ve invested close to 7 hours with this girl so I’m not nexting her even after something as devastating as this. I’ll assess the damage tomorrow to see if it’s worth salvaging. The next day I text her to tell her I felt like a jackass for what happened the previous night. She says I must not be that into her(Comfort test). I tell her she’s great but nerves got to me. She tries to guilt me even more so I just fucking ghost that bitch…

Suddenly, the next day, I get a text. She apologizes for guilting me, said shit happens, etc.. Amazing.

We text sporadically for the next few days, meetup at a local bar, chat for a bit over drinks then back to her place to smash. This time no complications, no resistance in any form we just banged it out. We hooked up frequently for the next month. Occasionally grabbing dinner or drinks before heading back to the house. Something I should also mention, whenever we hungout we would alternate paying the bill. I never had to say a word. She just knew it was her turn.

This is one of many times I’ve pulled a plate, one nighter or in this case a short term FWB by not being so fucking quick to next a chick. This is not to say you need to be overly invested in someone. Mark Manson teaches in Models, investment is a basis for attraction, never be more invested in a woman than she is in you.

That was almost two years ago. A few months ago I had a tinder chick bail on me twice after pulling her number, instead of nexting her I gave her one more shot. She came through, we got coffee. We made it back to my place and fucked, that day, all in less than 3 hours of meeting each other. I honestly thought she was going to bail again so I had already scheduled dinner with a plate, I was late. I opened her on Sunday night and closed on a Tuesday. I spent less than an hour communicating with her before the meetup. I didn’t invest in her but I didn’t next her after the first two times she bailed. These women have jobs and lives like us, they genuinely get busy. The key is to keep investment low but keep the line of communication open, especially if you have already established rapport with someone. In this case I connected with her on a mutual hobby.

As of late many men have come onto TRP looking for answers with very specific situations where he fucked up with a female. “I did this, she did that, what should I do??” And a lot of the times the answer he gets is “next her”. Which is completely mind boggling to me. This “cut your losses” mentality is causing guys to miss out on some seriously nice pussy. And guys go along with this partly because it’s easy, nexting can be a cop out. You can’t work out how to fix the situation so you say fuck it. Be fucking diligent brothers. On his show, the late Patrice O’neal stated, “diligence is underrated.” He wasn’t talking about his studies. He was speaking to being diligent when pursuing pussy. Don’t get me wrong, no one is saying to spend an exuberant amount of your hard earned resources on getting a lay. But if you maintain a good relationship with females, if you continue to invest in yourself, if you’re fit and fun, if you’re diligent in these areas, YOU WILL start spinning some serious plates.