TLDR; You can never expect another person to follow through with what ever plans you've made together unless they are already your friend. Never let the idea of having a new friend/plate/whatever compromise your dignity and schedule, because it's not worth it.

As I transition into a more red version of myself, I've noticed a ton of changes for the better. We all have the occasional slip back into our BP tendencies, so here was mine.

I picked up Tinder again and have had more success with it than ever (matches, responses, numbers... Just short of meet ups due to a number of stupid reasons and/or excuses). I never took it seriously after really digesting the pill - I just used it for practice with text game.

Things seemed to be going pretty smoothly with some matches, but when it came to logistics and actually setting a meet up, AWALT, and they flake or go radio silent. Yes, I know online dating is a numbers game and flakiness is to be expected, but some people on there seem to be half-decent human beings. Perhaps not.

You may think you've figured out how to show that you're fun and compelling enough for anyone to meet in person - and maybe you have - but you can NEVER expect another PERSON to follow through on plans... Even if it's just to hang out. Always have a backup for yourself. (I did, but this still ticked me off.)

I let my guard down today as I was setting up a casual meet/greet in my area. I had a lot of stuff to do, but I actually moved things around to make way for this hang out as I'm fairly new to town. When I set the time and place, instant radio silence. I even let myself follow up TWICE (once should be okay), and now I feel like a piece of shit about it. This usually doesn't phase me, but I was actually getting optimistic about adding some new people to my local network.

Anyway, just a friendly reminder to never let your guard down. Never let the idea of having a new friend/plate/whatever compromise your dignity and schedule, because it's not worth it.