Summary: Do not fear break ups or rejection. They can often feel shitty, but the emotions will steel you against being hurt again, thus make you less likely to give your commitment to unworthy women.

Body: When you're young and naive, you throw your commitment and love around like a slut. You see a girl in your maths class and you go home fantasizing about her and what she's like and what you'd do together, etc. By the time you're home, you're in love with someone else. You give your love to any girl who passes through your gaze.

Skip ahead to the first time you get dumped. You're heartbroken, you hate her guts, you feel lost without her, you want to run and protect her from making a bad choice in leaving you, you mope around the house. Maybe you even try to call her, in a moment of weakness.

After a time, you heal. But you've got some scars, so you're a little more careful now with who you give your love to. Your heart is precious and you don't want to deal with that horrible cocktail of emotions unless you have to.

This is positive growth.

What lesson should we learn?

Next time, maybe you'll be a little more demanding of what you are looking for in a woman. Maybe you'll not dismiss her dozen previous partners for her. Maybe you'll consider her broken family and how that affects her views on male/female relationships. Maybe you'll even be more secure in just being single and not blowing your love onto every girl you see.

As an added bonus, girls are more attracted to men who aren't giving away their power for free so you'll naturally start to attract more high value women.

Flame on, motherfuckers.