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| 1 | Girl text "you ok?" after showing abundance, how to respond?It's an odd spot and certainly a learning scenario. When she says "We'll see..." and she has other plans, responding with "Ok, let me know" is completely the wrong way. I've learned anytime you put the burden on her to take an action, 75% of the time, she won't. Then you're left asking her to hang out again like a loser with no options, or simply moving on, neither of which are desireable results. TRP mindset tells you to respond with "I'll make other plans". This can get interpreted as "Don't w… | /r/askTRP | 19/12/17 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Is college life in America actually like the movies?This is a bit of a shit analogy, but it's a bit like how war movies are portrayed. We only see the large epic battles and a few scenes in between to create a story. In reality, there is a lot of sitting in trenches, waiting, moving troops, etc. Weeks and days worth. All this is boring, so it is never portrayed on the movie screen. Likewise, a lot of college is similarly portrayed. Movies will highlight massive parties, sexual encounters, etc. Yes, these things really do happen (to some level), e… | /r/askTRP | 03/11/17 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Someone help me understand what just happened?Had this happen before, but with more time investment. "Dating" (plating?) a girl for about 2 months. Hung out nearly every weekend, slept together multiple times, yadda yadda. Even had her sending provocative pictures and asking for me to come over constantly. It was one of the first times I had a girl chasing me REALLY hard. Went to a concert one night, came back, nothing seemed up. Next day I just noticed something we were tagged in on Facebook was removed. She was totally gone from FB. Sent … | /r/askTRP | 27/09/17 06:16 PM |
| 2 | We are surrounded by idiots - there is no reason you can't move upYep, that's exactly what I ended up doing. Minus the burpies and press ups. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/06/17 01:47 PM |
| – | What is your story?Elementary and middle school, I was a people pleaser, awkward, weird. Super Catholic upbringing. High school, I was a beta loser. Went nuts after girlfriend of 3 years dumped me senior year. Immediately went to a new girlfriend. Bad breakup at the end of college after dating some chick for 4 years, found the PUA world. Went out a handful of times with some guys. Thought we were super cool standing around in night clubs til 2am talking to 2 girls a night and getting completely shut down. I downed… | /r/askTRP | 30/05/17 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Insights after 2 years heavily in the game and on "leaving the game"You are correct, I was not a student there. I was out of school, actually through my masters at that point. Age 26/27, white collar job, full time. I started going there simply because this was the largest pool of people "generally" my age. Downtown, most people are 30-50 and have kids/family. I was actually working for a health insurance company and did the billing for many companies we supported, one of which was this university. Even as a now 29 year old, I still get carded! So back when I wa… | /r/seduction | 11/05/17 08:21 PM |
| 48 | Insights after 2 years heavily in the game and on "leaving the game"Question #1 I tried night game for months with no real results. Probably because when I was there, I was forcing myself to. I never liked bars/clubs in general. I went out with a group of guys way back in 2012ish and we all just stood around really. You do a few approaches, have to scream in people's ears over music. I tried going out a few times solo at night, but again, if you're not having fun, you're going to come across as not having fun. At bars and clubs, every tipsy or drunk guy is a her… | /r/seduction | 10/05/17 08:09 PM |
| – | Getting a girl pregnant while she 'has an IUD" ?Let's use your logic. LTR or plate has an IUD. Let's even say it's 100% effective, which it's not. You romp for months, no issues. She removes it without you knowing. You bust nuts like no tomorrow because fuck it, condoms aren't alpha and fuck fear. Kiddo pops out and it's actually yours. This happens a lot more with oral BC has it's much easier to stop. | /r/askTRP | 03/02/17 03:49 PM |
| – | Getting a girl pregnant while she 'has an IUD" ?Would you rather pay child support for 18 years? It's not difficult or worrisome. She does her part with oral BC, I use a condom. It's no different than anyone just using a condom as a normal person. If anything, I have less worry than if I was just using a condom or her just using oral BC alone. | /r/askTRP | 03/02/17 03:31 PM |
| – | Getting a girl pregnant while she 'has an IUD" ?Serious advice: Double up. No, not condoms. Use two forms of birth control. Males don't have a ton of options currently, so condoms are the go-to. Women have many better options. Oral BC, IUD, etc. Have her use one type and you use a condom. Period. Again, not full proof, but it gives both parties their own separate ways to protect themselves. If she chooses to remove the IUD or stop oral BC, you still have the condom. Likewise, let's say the condom breaks. If she's not being shady, you should b… | /r/askTRP | 03/02/17 03:16 PM |
| – | blindsided by 8+/10 girl that I hooked up with, thought it was just a fluke, she is still into me and I am a little confusedI had this happen once. I was seeing a former high school prom queen (same year I graduated, 2006) in 2015. I know this will come off pedestal-like, but I'd never been with someone that attractive at that time. We'd roll into bars and I'm not even joking, every dude would stop and stare. As soon as we'd sit down, bro-dudes would start hitting on her like crazy. They would buy her drinks and sometimes even for me. I never experienced this before, so I was uncomfortable, but for her, this was the … | /r/askTRP | 31/01/17 03:20 PM |
| – | PSA: Wrap it up and never beleive "I can't get Pregnant"My partner actually has PCOS, aka Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. And yes, low fertility is part of this. It actually runs in her family. HOWEVER, she has four sisters, two of which I know for sure have it and they ALL have kids. The two that are confirmed did want to have kids and with willing partners, but it did take them many years of trying. Also, one ended up with two. Just remember that 'low fertility' doesn't mean 99.9% effective like a condom. For those of you who also want to know, yes, we … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/17 11:35 AM |
| – | I can choose to display a Red pill OR a Blue pill self...and the results are predictable like clockwork.This. Personal examples: 1. A plate I was once spinning was nuts-o over me. I wasn't feeling it anymore and wanted to work on my career/lifting instead. Thus, I just stopped responding to texts and FB messages. Bitch went crazy. Calls/texts increased and become borderline violent. Even went as far as going to friends and starting to spread rumors, which was a bit of headache at the time. Come to think of it, I had another one similar to this too. Both went nuts with no-contact (not to be confuse… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/01/17 02:51 PM |
| 63 | I have had 5 different women in the past year say "if we're both still single at 30, lets get married.I just want to add/rephrase what /u/waynelett said almost perfectly in my own works. He's damn right about it though. With most women, from 20-30 they can date around, get free drinks at bars, have dating prospects with anyone from practically age 20-??????.... 60, 80? You name it. In general, they learn around the age of 18 that their looks and just being a woman gets them major bonus points. Life is on easy mode for them compared to guys. However, around the age of 30, they know their looks wi… | /r/seduction | 21/10/15 12:55 PM |
| 8 | Lost my virginity last week, here's what the girl said attracted her.Congrats. I love to see stories where the pickup community has actually helped two people have enjoyable experiences. That's what it's all about - not just the 'PUA' getting his dick soaked. Interesting inference on the virginity losing part - many people say the exact same thing. I was a person who put virginity wayyyyy up high on a pedestal and at one time was very much saving myself for marriage. Ironically, this actually created a lot of pissed off girls, weird encounters, and just general s… | /r/seduction | 15/09/15 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Law Enforcement Officers guide to dealing with womenI really like your picture and text message idea. Especially save texts or screenshot your iPhone for texts of her initiating sexual things towards you. Not fool proof, but additional ammo for the jury when she's claiming you just outright assaulted her. On Android, there are apps that allow you to backup your text messages before clearing them. iPhones, screenshots work - I haven't found a way to save the text and download it to a computer though. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/09/15 01:00 PM |
| 16 | Lets talk about text game.Just an additional note/support on this: "texting only for logistics". Don't get this completely skewed for ONLY texting "This is _____. Drinks tonight, 8PM, at Random Bar" and then an "Ok, see you then" confirmation in ALL cases. One of the main reasons this works is because you're not shooting yourself in the foot by typing too many messages, each which can be misconstrued or taken as too harsh, too funny, too joking, too needy, too whatever she might think. By texting only logistics you give … | /r/TheRedPill | 14/09/15 03:39 PM |
| 1 | I get girls but I have no friends?I used to be the same way. Other guys in high school, even college, were into sports, mainly football, drinking, and acting like asshats. That's cool, I can tolerate an extent of that. I met my best friends through cars and racing. It's my biggest hobby. Best advice is to get heavily involved in a few hobbies, or at least one major one. | /r/seduction | 10/09/15 04:09 PM |
| 1 | A Note on your Seduction JourneyNah, just approach them. If you were bored studying, wouldn't you want a girl, even a 6 or a 7 to come 'interrupt' you? | /r/seduction | 10/09/15 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to regain attraction from a girl you have seemingly messed up with?It's not a total loss, however you should consider it one in your head. Don't get hung up on this one girl. Best thing you can do is move on, lift, get into your hobbies more, talk to more girls, and become a better overall more attractive man. If this girl is in your social circle, you may be in contact with her and she might see the changes in you. Don't bank on it, but it's possible she could change her mind once seeing you massively change. You're looking at probably 6 months of work and tra… | /r/seduction | 09/09/15 04:14 PM |
| 2 | A Note on your Seduction JourneyOver summer, I did my city downtown at lunch hour. Now I've been doing college campuses now that classes are back in. | /r/seduction | 09/09/15 04:08 PM |
| 4 | Women love knowing that they can break up with you and crush youI've been on the receiving end of this THREE times. I guess I'm just thick headed. Most notable was a girl I dated for 4 years in college. She broke up after she 'wanted to explore other options' (aka, I went full beta). I just graduated and it was her senior year. I was crushed, probably clinically depressed for 6 months or more. Everyday I felt physically ill. During this time, she was at school, gallivanting around drinking, fooling around with some new guy, and even got into pain killers. My… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/15 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Am I cursed with women, does anybody experience the same thing I do with most women?It sounds like all your approach stuff is good. That's pretty much exactly what I do. I will say, once I even get a number, it's still 50/50 if they'll respond. I think that's just the nature of the game unless you go out a TON and get loads of experience. I can certainly say at least 25-50% of those numbers turn into dates though. | /r/seduction | 09/09/15 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Am I cursed with women, does anybody experience the same thing I do with most women?Most of us, especially early on, suffer from "just getting numbers". We go out, focus on just getting numbers, and claim a small victory when we do. So you learn to approach, chat, keep things going, with the 'end' in mind just to go the number and eject. Sometimes I even find myself still doing this. Many times these numbers I follow up with don't respond and I don't think I've actually ever met up on a day 2 with anyone I closed like this. The problem with this is the numbers are not solid and… | /r/seduction | 08/09/15 07:34 PM |
| 10 | Hidden Red Pill Habit: Drink Water!Protip: If you're looking to drink more water but it's boring for you... get a Camelbak Groove bottle. BPA free and uses carbon filtration so many tap water chemicals are filtered out. Tastes better too. I've noticed increased energy when working out and better mental alertness. Nothing massive, but certain better than if you're one who downs coffee in the morning, then doesn't drink water again until way later in the day. Quite honestly, 2 glasses in the morning really gets me going. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/09/15 05:39 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about lying during PU?I draw the line when it can impact a relationship down the line. Example: You say you're 24 when you're really 27. Or you way you work somewhere you don't just to try to impress her. Basically, anything that is actually fake about you should be avoided. If you're gaming like this, you're compensating for lack of experience and confidence with making up lies. It will haunt you later if you're going for a relationship, or even just FWB status. Where it's ok in my book are trivial things that don't… | /r/seduction | 08/09/15 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Great in groups, awful 1 on 1.I'm actually the opposite. In groups, I feel like I'm 'entertaining' her. So I'm chatting up others and she's there, I feel like I'm putting on a show to display value to her and using others in the process. I feel disconnected and not genuine with the others, as well as her. On the flip side, one on one, I feel I can make a better and much more meaningful connection. Tips: Genuinely want to find out more about her specifically. When you do this, you'll just easily keep the conversation going wi… | /r/seduction | 08/09/15 12:23 PM |
| 1 | No response after saying "yes" to date?You're right, it is beta to recontact her. The 'TRP thing' to do would be just to move on all together. However, it's your last ditch effort.. only expect about a 10% success rate. Best case, so says she forgot, likes your leading then, and wants to hang out. Then you'll have to show some better qualities. The best way to go about this would be to totally ignore the fact that she blew you off or forgot. Make it seem like you completely forgot about it and it didn't affect you at all. I wouldn't … | /r/askTRP | 06/09/15 11:13 PM |
| 1 | No response after saying "yes" to date?I don't have a huge problem with telling someone they're pretty, that's not where you really screwed this one up. I will say, in general, you should never comment on a girls looks and tell them they're hot, sexy, pretty, beautiful until after you have been with them. It shouldn't totally shatter your chances, but still puts her up in magical pedestal world. With that said, where you made just a general dating error was telling her to let you know when she is free. I'm 100% certain she'll never g… | /r/askTRP | 06/09/15 08:35 PM |
| 1 | RealityCraft: The Geekiest Self Improvement Tracking ToolWelcome! I think you really have something here. Needs some improvements, but anything new would need that. If you get it in Excel and possibly add some 'customization slots' for things. For example, I love autox/racing, so I'd love to add something about that in skills, or almost like a 'class'. Each person might have something different, so it would be impossible to add everyone's hobbies. The biggest thing I really liked about it was it has an extensive list of general things everyone know ha… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/09/15 02:54 PM |
| 5 | Long time lurker, need my state pumped up!I daygame almost everyday on my lunch our at work. I walk to one of the local college campuses and try to get 2-3 approaches in. Usually I can net one number a day. About 50% of those numbers respond. I'll tell you this quick story to get you motivated. In June, I was doing my 2-3 approaches a day in the city since the campuses were out. I saw a girl in a running outfit sitting, reading a book, legs crossed indian style. I almost bailed and didn't approach, but just said 'fuck it' and went in. W… | /r/seduction | 03/09/15 01:14 PM |
| 4 | How do you get over break ups?Shit happens. Sorry to hear about your sister. Sometimes, when things happen to us like that, we're not at our best. Girls see us just losing that spark we had before and not directly associate or understand that what's up. They just aren't attracted anymore, or at least less, then want out of the relationship. I won't pity myself too much, but with us both at age 27, you almost feel like, yep, this is the person I'm marrying. For me, I would have waited another 2-3 more years, then pulled the t… | /r/seduction | 02/09/15 11:36 PM |
| 9 | How do you get over break ups?100% listen to me on this one. I'm 27 and have been in 3 serious long term relationships. Each was for 3-4 years each. After the first in high school, I just wanted to date again. Dated some girl for a few months, then that crapped out, then hit up this other girl for 4 more years in college. That ended because I was needy and got comfortable. Then I found seduction, but only used it to get try to get a girlfriend again. Had limited success because I was still not working on me or fixing problem… | /r/seduction | 02/09/15 11:11 PM |
| 2 | Oneitis and Abundance MentalityOneitis should be classified as a feeling of overly intense feelings for one person, that they are ALL that you have and they are the ONE. What you're experiencing is just better chemistry and attraction with one girl out of the few you seem to be plating - which is completely normal. You'll have some better plates than others just as you have best friends, ok friends, and acquaintances. It's good you're noticing this so you don't fall into the trap where you cut off everyone else and rely only … | /r/askTRP | 02/09/15 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Some TRP guidance towards giving LTR space.Anytime I've had a girlfriend come to me saying she needs space or wants to talk, they've already thought about it 1000 times and ready to leave. I specifically remember a girl I was dating for 4 years (pre-TRP). She came to me one day, said we needed to talk. Explained she wanted space and needed time to figure out some things. I obliged and asked if we were still 'together'. She said, no not really, but to keep in touch and talking. So I did... meanwhile, she was already moving on, just wanted… | /r/askTRP | 02/09/15 04:56 PM |
| 5 | Improve Text GameI feel 90% of 'text game' issues can be avoided with more solid in-person interactions when you get the number. Work on that more, rather than trying to come up with some magical text or strategy afterwards. I've seen that a girl is 100% willing to meet up with you 'alone', but obviously at a public place first, even if you just got a number off the street. If you're trying to talk to them for 5 minutes, get a number, then immediately invite them back to your place, no that won't work in 95% of … | /r/askTRP | 02/09/15 02:01 PM |
| 6 | Struggling to get the second dateDigging deep is good... typically on emotional or childhood things. Basically bringing up 'feelings'... not just where do you work, etc. Also, physically escalating is obviously really good too. It's almost a must. You can nab second dates without it, but you still need to be making you intentions clear. Specifically online, many Tinder girls are probably looking for the physical and sexual quicker than others. | /r/seduction | 01/09/15 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Do what you love and they will follow2004 WRX, modded, "stage 2", plus bunch of suspension and braking upgrades. | /r/seduction | 31/08/15 08:12 PM |
| 1 | How likely will a woman cheat if she is happy in a relationship?I think you really need to define 'happy'. So, take a woman who's with their SO, get on on trips, have fun, have normal sexual experiences, and said boyfriend even hangs out with the family on a normal basis. Picture the 'perfect' Facebook couple from your high school or college friends. All is relatively normal, but I'd find the girl will have an urge to cheat anytime someone with perceived higher value comes along. Essentially she's 'bored' even though all her needs are met. The only thing hol… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/08/15 02:58 PM |
| 3 | Dumped my gf of 1 year todayThanks for the advice and welcome. You're lucky you learned what I did in a 1 year LTR... for me, it took 3 LTRs spanning over 3-4 years each, about 10 years in total! Each one was gotten into over being desperate and just wanting to have 'success' without putting in much time dating or understanding seduction. Just like you, I wasn't confident in pickup - just used it as a means to get to what I thought was an end, a relationship. Looking back on it, each one, especially the last, was very unha… | /r/seduction | 30/08/15 12:31 AM |
| 8 | seddit how do i become a good wingmanThis is not being a wingman. Being a wingman is going out, approaching, getting into sets, and normally occupying other people in the group while your bud isolates or chats up a girl. You can also increase his value and whatnot along the way. What you are describing is your friend needing to man up and ask said girl out. She'll say yes and they'll live happily ever after. | /r/seduction | 28/08/15 01:14 PM |
| 2 | I'm a fucking joke. And I want to change.Your comment on the children's menus really hit home. I remember around the 17-18 year old mark still getting them too. Even at age 27 now, I consistently get carded up until last year-ish. I know it's their job to card, but it sucks a bit when you're in a group of 24-27 year olds, sometimes the oldest, yet you get carded. Anyways, about 8-9 months ago, I really started hitting the gym harder. I worked out here and there, but didn't put enough into it. I also didn't eat enough. Still working on … | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 06:28 PM |
| 6 | I seem to attract guys more so than girls. What does this mean?The dynamic is different with 'gay' dating. Fun fact: I went to my first gay bar with some female co-workers and their boyfriends/husbands after hitting up some normal bars and drinking. The girls wanted to just dance. Rolled in, dudes dances naked on the bar, gay guys all around. Within 5 minutes of us guys chilling together and trying to stay sane, this guy comes over to me and starts trying to chat me up. I was hugely turned off and trying to swoosh him away. In that moment, I felt what most … | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 03:03 PM |
| 1 | [FR] My First Day in The Field - 0 approachesHey bud, I go out daygaming everyday on my lunch hour and still, even years later, have much more approach anxiety on my first approach. After that, I'm much much better. Case in point, Monday and Tuesday, it took me about 15 minutes to bring myself to approach anyone. Literally, had to just start with a simple question, not even looking to get into conversation or show intent. I did this twice, both days. Then on my third approach, I did it 'for real' and just said 'Excuse me, hey, who are you?… | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Turn Questions in to StatementsAnother simple way to do this is instead of saying "How was your day?" (or insert mostly any question here) Say "Tell me about your day" It's almost like a command. Like OP suggests and everyone else commenting, the general idea here is to lead. "Let's do XYZ" instead of "Do you want to do XYZ?"... etc... You're taking initiative, you're leading, you're allowing her to object at any point and she knows this. | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 01:49 PM |
| 1 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!I just walk around. If you look around, there are teachers, some older, younger, even workers. Not just students. You could be anyone. I'm also dressed in a dress shirt and pants, so I don't look like a typical student. Clearly it looks like I have a reason to be there. Hell, I could say I was invited to speak to an finance class (my profession). I swear, no one bats an eye. | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 01:18 AM |
| 1 | What are the most helpful seduction videos you've ever seen?Honestly, I think this is a must watch for everyone: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWKZG1cnEnI James Marshall on "Relationship Advice: DON'T Get A Girlfriend...Yet " Cliff notes: You're here because you want to learn to be good with women. For me, it was bad breakup and just general awkwardness and no success. So you go out 'gaming' and learning this stuff, but a wonderful girl comes along. Along the way, you hit traction, get into a relationship, and months or years go by. Then it doesn't wor… | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 12:16 PM |
| 2 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!Help freshman move in. You meet people and friends of people. Many of them might not know anyone there the first day or week. I'd also say finish up strong with the school work thing too. No joke, I studied M-F and went to class from 8am-2pm. Library between classes, little hermit. After 2pm, I didn't touch a book. No books on the weekend unless a test on Monday. This gives you time to focus on school when needed, but also relax and party/game when you should be. Best of both worlds. | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 12:10 PM |
| 2 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!Honestly, the volume is insane on a campus, especially during sunny, nice days. I'd have to argue even more than bars/clubs. Shopping malls... meh, this is a good place if you're just out shopping yourself, or it's winter and you're in need of a place to go. Specifically the holidays are good malls. Nothing like a campus though. | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 08:23 PM |
| 2 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!Good question. Not necessarily 'college' related though - this happens to everyone. I found it very fun to just take something she says and turn it totally sarcastic or out of context. So, let's say you ask for her major and she says 'forensic science'... you could say something like "So when we run away to Mexico and a body is found trunk of our taxi, you could totally figure out the mystery, right?"... and obviously smile and make it blatantly obvious your joking. Next she might ask something … | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 07:49 PM |
| 2 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!Nope, not at all. You should really have no issues on campuses, in malls, or any other places as long as you're a normal, social calibrated person. If someone doesn't want to talk because they're having a bad day or whatever, just wish them a good day and move on. This is not a nightclub and there is no pushing or "plowing". | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 06:16 PM |
| 2 | LTR is ending as of this morning. I am lost, I don't know what to do. Help.If it's any consolation, I understand a bit what you are going through. 3 year LTR went to Europe, had a blast for 2 weeks with a few Australians they met, then came back wanting a break. Just said her live wasn't exciting enough here in the states and she needed time to "figure things out". We were both 27. That break last a whole day until she came crawling back. Over the next six months, I constantly saw her texting "Luke", even we were were on dates. This guy was also her top snapchat person… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/15 06:06 PM |
| 4 | Email sent by the ex-gf who cheated on me a while back apologising, but what're your interpretations?99% of the time, follow up reach outs are just another form of validation. She's just checking to see if you still care. If you respond, you do, she gets a hit of dopamine, and carries on in life with no regards to your actual feelings. She also gets some 'goof feelz' from pretending to be the bigger person. Additionally, it's an invitation to become a beta orbiter. You could reach back, say you understand and all is ok, then maybe she'll want to setup a meeting/date/etc. But rest assured, she'l… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/15 05:54 PM |
| 8 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!I do see your point. If you do just screen a little bit based on age, I find I'm normally approaching 21-24 year olds. I'd say half of them are actually going for masters degrees, which really surprised me. I also 100% agree on your 'improving yourself'. For me, this is working out 3-4 times a week, doing my car modding/racing hobby on the weekends, and target shooting. I learned from all of these, in order to be good, you have to practice. If anything, the college campus is a training ground. M… | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 05:48 PM |
| 1 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!I've never traveled abroad, but I've heard many European countries have very attractive girls, at least in comparison to the US. I think you answered your own question! You say you don't feel confident and that makes you doubt. That will make any interaction you have usually not pan out in your favor. You might just get lucky with some needy girl, but usually even they have a selection of other guys to choose from. Get your confidence up in other areas. Your hobbies, in school, with your male fr… | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 05:36 PM |
| 2 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!12:30-1:30... lunch hour. I eat at my desk, then go out for 1 hour. 15-20 minutes warm up, 30 minutes moving quickly, 10 minutes walk back. | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 05:34 PM |
| 3 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!A daygame 'pull' isn't really a 'pull' in my opinion. Expect to get a number and hit up one coffee 'get to know you' date, then a legit 'let's go get drinks' or do something fun date. Expect to close then if you're both down, or even in another date. I won't lie, I've even go one 4-5+ dates with girls. If you're looking for simply sex or a hookup, you may be able to shorten the process and just ask her out for drinks, then back to someone's place. However, this has not been my personal experienc… | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 04:15 PM |
| -100 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!Fraternity. Not sure what area of the world you are from, but in the US and Europe, there are usually a few fraternities per school you can chose from, pay a fee, and essentially meet and make friends, as well as party together. These are originally intended to be 'groups' back in the 1700 and 1800's for studying and other purposes... but today are largely party centers today. Access to these parties typically can net you higher social status on campus as well as entrance to large parties. | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 03:36 PM |
| 30 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!I have a special situation. I actually do the insurance billing for one of the colleges. This is all via email, but I just say I'm over there often delivering the invoices and just take a minute to walk around when it's nice out. Obviously, if that's not you, then you'll need another answer. Just make up something short and simple. "I was thinking about going back to get my masters and wanted to come check out the programs." Done, simple, easy. Just remember to fully believe it. Don't make it lo… | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 03:12 PM |
| 2 | What's your trick when scared?Well, it should put pressure, but positive pressure as a motivator. Try this... I'm going in with the intent of "I have no idea who she is, but let's see if she's right for me."... that should take off the negative pressure. You're just seeing who she is, either good or bad. If she is an idiot, not your type, whatever, then so be it. If she's comparable, then great. Either way, it's ok. | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 02:30 PM |
| 7 | College Campuses - It's that time of year!I work downtown in a big city doing a desk job. We have two college campuses within 10 minutes walking distance. I eat lunch at my desk while doing email, then take my 1 hour lunch break walking around there. I try to do this M-F, weather permitting. I mainly approach any girl sitting down between classes. Maybe they're just checking their phones, or enjoying the weather. Maybe they're studying. All seem to be receptive, even if they're little busy. There are so many girls just sitting around ou… | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Acne Scarring and ConfidenceLooks do matter. Don't let anyone fool you on that. When we say 'looks don't matter', there are certain things you can't change like height, or even sometimes general weight. Yes, you can certainly workout, but in the case of us skinny guys like me, you'll never be 'big alphas'. You must work on what you can, but embrace what you can not. I had bad acne and still do have a lot of flare ups even at age 27. I will admit, I use concealer on the big red ones that pop up. I wash my face rigorously an… | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 12:35 PM |
| 2 | What's your trick when scared?I have no magical tricks, but what works for me just thinking every girl I open might spawn a great relationship. What if that girl sitting on the park bench vibes with you 100% and you really have a deep connection with them?... or what if you walk right past and never know? This is motivation for me to never be scared - if I open, I did my part and took action. Just walking by is scary. That's not to say each girl is 'the one', or even the one exists. I actually don't believe in it. I do know … | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 12:31 PM |
| 2 | 610 cold approaches. Personal PostJust wanted to comment two things... NoFap - I did game for almost a full year with very limited results. I knew every tactic, mindset, everything. I studied 1-2 hours of audiobooks/seminars/products a day. I had so little success, I don't even think I got any numbers through night game at all... or even daygame. I had issues even starting and keeping regular conversation going. Did NoFap for 30 days, had a few 'relapses'. Did 45 days, then another 100 days. On my 100 day streak, I was hitting u… | /r/seduction | 25/08/15 12:14 PM |
| 4 | I just can't make myself do it.Only advice I can give is just to go do it. In a nightclub, no one even sees you or can hear you asking a girl anything. They assume you're friends. During the day, people might bat an eye, but won't stick around to see anything more. Even if they hear you say "Hey, just thought you looked interested and had to come introduce myself." or whatever... they usually think "OH shit, that dude has balls.".. and that's about it. | /r/seduction | 24/08/15 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Good community to be a part ofFind friends for whatever your interests are. For me, it's cars. Subarus specifically. I'm a Subaru nut. So I found friends online with far forums and Facebook who like racing, car meets, autocross, track days, garage nights, whatever. We all hangout and are best buds. Literally, I know probably 25 really solid people and another 25 acquaintances, just around me from it. People with interests go along way. Many of them I know their wives, kids, their friends, etc from it. It's not just about tha… | /r/askTRP | 24/08/15 06:09 PM |
| 2 | As a girl who's been on countless dates - great things guys have done to pick me up, and a few notes on when I've picked up girls.Got it. Figures. Appreciate the reply. | /r/seduction | 20/08/15 09:51 PM |
| 9 | As a girl who's been on countless dates - great things guys have done to pick me up, and a few notes on when I've picked up girls.Pulling the trigger on sex. I find many times I'll take a girl out, often from cold approach (mainly daygame), for coffee or a drink. It's immediately "expected" we have sex that night or at a bare minimum the next date we're doing it. Great, awesomecakes, most guys don't have this issue. What's your take on it? Many times, I often want to hit up 4-5 really great experiences, or at least get to know someone before heading back to one of our places. If I ever decline an invitation stating I need … | /r/seduction | 20/08/15 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Coffee date tipsHug and make body contact the absolute first thing you do when she comes or you meet her. Without doing this, it makes any moves further on in the interaction rough and out of context. It's hard to escalate, even subtly in coffee shops. Bars/clubs, and other places, it's much easier and comfortable. Number two, make sure to not just sit across from her. Sit close and to the side, or at the edge of the table. Anything to get easy access to touching and be closer. I prefer rolling in a few minutes… | /r/seduction | 20/08/15 12:53 PM |
| 2 | PUA vs TRPI think of it this way - PUA without TRP will net you limited results, but much of it will be 'work', a numbers game, and just general bullshit. TRP alone will net more 'natural' results, with less direct work focused on women. Your time will be spend lifting and living your life with women as a byproduct of your awesomeness. Pairing TRP with aspects of PUA will net the most results. You'd probably want to combine this 70/30 or so... majority of the results are from whatever you're really doing … | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/15 12:24 PM |
| 1 | What do you feel when someone cheatsYes and no. I had been in LTRs in the past. One for 3 years in high school - she ditched me for a freshman football star senior year. Another through college for 4 years - she left after I graduated and needed to stop partying and going nuts, wanted to 'explore' other options. Then this most recent 3 year one that ended.... Currently I'm in a state that I would love to trust women for what they say and do at face value, but understand that I doesn't work like that. I've learned a LOT about mysel… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/15 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Is asking this girl on a date a good idea?Just do it. No reason not to. I don't care if with any girl the cards are in your favor or out, logistics suck or are lined up, or any other excuse. Do what you can to plan and prepare to give yourself the best chance, but always pull the trigger and ask. | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 12:40 PM |
| 1 | What do you feel when someone cheatsSimilar story. Let LTR of 3 years go to Europe for 2 weeks with her cousin on a trip with 20 other people. They partied, got drunk, and she saw all the sights she dreamed to do for years. Little did I know she met a group of Australians, one guy in particular. Kept in contact with him for 6 months, then found he was coming to the states for Christmas and New Years. I was really heartbroken about it. I tried to rationalize saying he'll never support her like I can, the distance thing won't work, … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/15 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Being straightforward or playing hard to get. Which one is better?I used to be indirect and not straightforward, then spill all the beans as soon as a girl started to get attracted. Both I found were the exact opposite of what I should have been doing. Now I am very direct. Creating a sense of 'I want to fuck your brains out', and pair that with being aloof, mysterious, and slowing revealing myself and past. Pro tip though: Make sure you are revealing yourself and not holding everything back. I wanted to be that James Bond character who didn't tell anything ab… | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 12:30 PM |
| 42 | So I finally did it! As a girl, I asked a guy out.I wish more girls would do the same. Would make our 'job' a bit easier sometimes. Example: A girl from HS was really into me, but she didn't register on my radar at all as she was a grade below me. She never talked to me, not even a word. Didn't even know she existed. After I graduated, I started talking to her on MySpace (2006) after I got word from a friend she 'had a crush' on me. A four year relationship flourished from that. ..... I know it's the man's job to go after what he wants, but if … | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 12:21 PM |
| 2 | Why the fuck do straight men let women get away with this shit?My best friend from high school was gay and I can certainly say he acted different than most of us 'beta males' then and even now. Normal, beta guys today will bend over backwards to 'get it in'. They do anything and everything to please women. Bring flowers, take them to movies, dinner dates, write love letters, etc. Even just buying drinks. I've seen, and this is only from observation, that gay men are a bit more straight up about "dating". This is due to their being much less of a societal no… | /r/askTRP | 18/08/15 08:15 PM |
| 1 | My (19f) girlfriend wants me (20m) to go to a club... and i am scaredI used to view bars and especially clubs as combat zones. Think of it. People everywhere, screaming, running around, dancing. Bottles and drinks flying around. You can't hear, it's hard to talk. Chaos of the lights and sounds. I still remember my first times in large, loud bars/clubs. I was scared to order from the bar because I had no idea what to say or do. After doing it for years and especially approaching in them, I literally feel a sense of calm in them now. You're nearly invisible in them… | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 12:49 PM |
| 7 | [Advice] Problems with flirting with girls in groups.On your isolation issue, I saw on one infield videos of guys saying to the others in the group "I'm going to steal your friend away for 30 seconds, sit tight"... or something like that. Tried it. Seems to work if you're not weird about it. Make sure to state 30 seconds or something short. If you say "I'm going to steal your friend away from you, sit tight"... usually one of her girlfriends will jump and say "No you're not!" or something. And obviously you can chat them up for more than 30 second… | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 12:44 PM |
| 5 | Reality Check: Girls just want to have fun.Great, but understand, most girls aren't doing this in their twenties. Girls only start to get smarter about money and finances in their early 30's to fund babies, families, and houses. Not being sexist either. I think many males do the same. New cars, bikes, watches, etc. So people in general really. After you wake up about it, you realize, do you even want a relationship where both people just save and don't do anything exciting? Save, but you need to life at the same time. | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Reality Check: Girls just want to have fun.Well, after a breakup, I started taking road trips and traveling solo. I bought a camera and started a Youtube channel. I upgraded all my well aged electronics like my phone, computer, GPS, etc.... not top notch stuff, but I finally had an iPhone, and not some super slow ghetto phone. All of this made be feel and act better. You look like a fool running around with this phone that barely works, computer from 2008, and GPS that doesn't even have the current roads on it and doesn't speak to you...… | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 11:16 PM |
| 8 | Reality Check: Girls just want to have fun.WRX, modded, autocrossed, raced. | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 11:01 PM |
| 2 | I hate how this girl is making me feel, should I just drop her?I understand what you're going through. For example, I've been dating this girl for the past 2 months or so. 'Dating', meaning just that, not in a relationship. We've gone on 7-8 dates and each have been mindblowing. The physical attraction is particularly high, but certainly not the only thing. I never met a girl I could vibe with and talk/chill with in the middle of no where, in a park or something, for 2+ hours. Our personalities and likes are different, yet very much the same in theory. Yes,… | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Bad behavior: what to do?I agree with you on this. Fine line between giving in and totally hard nexting her. I don't see any positives that can come from confronting the non-reply issue. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/15 03:44 PM |
| 4 | Going to Bars AloneI used to go out alone a lot. Biggest thing is acting like your having fun... or rather, actually having fun. Think about how easy it is to talk to people or run game when you're with your bros, or friends, laughing, dancing, and having a good time. Now think of you alone, thinking all eyes are on you, sitting at the bar, looking for someone to talk to. Totally different vibe. Literally, they shouldn't be able to tell if you're there alone or not. I do drink, just 1-2 to get started. Then talk t… | /r/seduction | 14/08/15 08:28 PM |
| 1 | How do I get into the hookup mindset?I was the same way. I'll even admit, I'm emotional/sensitive too. Just approaching over and over was the only thing that worked. Eventually, you just become numb to it. You don't hate either, you just don't care. And maybe a good bit of lifting helped too. | /r/seduction | 14/08/15 06:17 PM |
| 1 | I'm a virgin, dating model/prom queen, semi-success story. TRP is true.I guess after not being able to tell anyone for my entire life, I figured someone here would want to hear it. 'In real life', I actually keep my mouth shut 90% of the time and keep responses short. With everyone, not just girls. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/15 03:07 PM |
| 1 | I'm a virgin, dating model/prom queen, semi-success story. TRP is true.I would have completely fine with doing my usual.. BJ, fingering stimulation, etc... honestly, I can make a girl cum multiple times easily this way if you know what you're doing. I was rock hard and ready. I should have just went for what I wanted. Even then, I knew I was heading down the path of "If I don't put out, this is going sour soon". I didn't have a condom, so I wasn't even entertaining the thought of going bareback. She had a race in the morning and needed to be up at 6am. I dragged he… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/15 02:23 PM |
| 3 | How do I get into the hookup mindset?I'm the same way - I prefer relationships over hookups. In fact, I've actually never had a hookup or one night stand. However, I still practice seduction and talking to new women on a regular basis. My rotational is, I need to get good and comfortable with it so that I can achieve the relationships I want. So although my long term goal is to find a really solid, high caliber girl, I can't do that unless I experience many many types of women to find out what I want and how they work. I've gotten … | /r/seduction | 13/08/15 03:48 PM |
| 1 | about that top 10% - always keep improving (short)I don't even seen top 10 or 20% as something measurable. It's an idea to strive to, something that is theoretically obtainable. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/08/15 01:03 PM |
| 1 | After being asked whether it's easier for girls to get laid, AskWomen responds "Ugh, it doesn't count as sex if he's an unattractive beta!"Serious thought. Is it better to be an average dude with the abilty to change your SMV through lifting, building wealth, and creating an enjoyable life, thus becoming the 20% and getting the women and relationships you want. Or to be a female, even an attractive one, and be placed in a world with a bunch of betas you have to constantly avoid and Chads who pump and dump you. But on the side, you get a lot of favors, shit for free, and ability to move up the career ladder more easily (due to looks… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/08/15 12:26 PM |
| 0 | Girlfriend going to college, confused on how to handle the situationInteresting situation considering you took her virginity and she's a family friend you'll be seeing. I would present the situation as a 'gift' you're giving to her in a way. Now, obviously, you're not actually giving a gift - this is for your benefit and hers to an extent too. But there's no way this LTR is going to work out that far away. You'll both be unhappy, unsatisfied, and you won't hit your full potential. Either of you, her or you. Something like "This isn't going to sound right at firs… | /r/askTRP | 12/08/15 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Is having sex in college even worth it anymore?I had a girlfriend through college, 4 year LTR, ended right after graduation as she was a year younger and it was time for me to move on with a real job. Anyways, I often look back and say "Wow, I wish I would have dated around and had fun"... not that I didn't have any fun. Far from it. It was very easy partying it up and knowing you had someone to 'go home with' that night. Graduation was about 5 years ago now and I must be getting old, but we never had any rape accusations on campus or off in… | /r/askTRP | 12/08/15 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Is being turned from women to a certain extent normal?Everyone goes through the stages and 'feels' them different. Might be a good indication you're already in the 'depression' stage. All the stages kinda intertwine and don't have the same lengths.. so it's hard to pinpoint an actual start and stop for each. Some might go through one stage a week and take 3-4 months in another. I myself was caught in the anger stage for a solid 4-5 months... which was probably unhealthy. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 08:25 PM |
| 4 | Should I join a fraternity?I had a Greek roommate... no, really, from Greece. He was very against 'greek' campus life, so I took a disgust at fraternities and sororities. This was all pre-TRP. He labeled it as 'paying for friends'. However, it is a fact that college campus game has much less to do with traditional SMV principles (wealth, degree, job) since most students don't have most of these by default. Girls tend to prefer guys with high social status in the college rankings... aka, your place in frats. I'm not saying… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 06:14 PM |
| 4 | Going away on business trip, LTR is worried I will cheatI like this because it's sarcastic. Not that everything is a shit-test, but a GF asking you if you're going to sleep around on a business trip sure sounds like one. She's looking to see how you handle the question really. Handle it sarcastically and you pass with flying colors. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 05:57 PM |
| 3 | The Club Scene is gross, so where is the best place to meet women?I've found just daygame on the street. I live in a big city, so this works. I've done the bar/club scene and although it's good for practice and fun, it's not goo for meeting quality women. You can on some rare occasions come across good people there, but you have to filter out all the shitheads. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/08/15 04:09 PM |
| 1 | What am I doing wrong?Robert A. Glover | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 03:18 PM |
| 2 | Do you respect women?I respect human beings when human beings earn respect. Same for males or females. Just as you may find females riding the CC, engaging in hypergamy, etc, you will find males not keeping their word or using you for things. Others males can and will become best friends with you, and females can and will become respectable partners in some cases. Few and far between for both. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 01:51 PM |
| 1 | MiserableYes and no. Your mom appears to be a bit more emotionally crazy and nuts-o than most. Society keeps most at bay. However, I do agree that a large majority are nuts-o. I find solace in the fact that women aren't like this biologically, but as a result of the society we belong to today. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Is there a benefit in not jerking off?NoFapper here. There is much truth to the movement, however the insane superpowers many report are from highly addicted individuals. I found the same 'superpowers'.... basically, just an uncovering of what was already there, but was hide by anxiety. However, a major point: I feel NoFap makes sex out to be a negative thing. Be sure not to fall in with this crowd. It's ok to think this way initially or about porn this was, but don't slide into believing any sexual experience is something to avoid.… | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 12:44 PM |
| 3 | What am I doing wrong?I think you suffer from where I came from. My background: Fairly good looking, gym for the last 10 years ever other day, not jacked just in shape. MBA, 3.9GPA, good job now, nice car. Fun hobbies, etc. However, I was raised in a family where sex was absolutely shunned upon. My parents sleep in separate rooms. Even in college, I was railed out many times when my parents found my girlfriend was sleeping over. You brought up you're a 'nice guy' and I think you hit the nail on the head. You can be g… | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 12:22 PM |
| 2 | What's the best way to get over an ex-girlfriend?I agree with most here... no contact (absolute key!) and lifting. I'd add picking up new hobbies and/or getting into old ones that my have died off in the relationship. As far as the 'go fuck other women' comments - yes, it works. But I still advise the above first for a month or two, then get out there and kill it. I'd found if you immediately try to go out to meet more women, you'll get shot down as you'll come off as needy and possibly depressed. Fix issues first, then band-aid it up. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 12:12 PM |
| 1 | How to create a more masculine face?Diet/lifting. But you should already be doing that. I've heard chewing gum can create a more defined jawline. I couldn't hurt... keeps your teeth clean too. Choose something like Trident. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/15 12:06 PM |
| 9 | [FR] "I'm getting married in 14 days, I'm gonna have some fun."You are speaking the truth here. Hands down. Also 27, and I was going to be one of your ill fated brothers. Under some circumstances I found myself here and the rest is history. I see my former roommates marrying off, fiance's posting pictures, status updates, etc leading up the weddings. Likes and shares all around. That's all they really care about - validation. Even my ex told me she couldn't wait to post up baby pictures and wedding invites. This was huge red flag for me. Then the ones who a… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/08/15 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Guidance on ending monk mode.You're looking for someone to tell you a set amount of weeks or months. it's different for everyone. To give you my story, I'm 27 and experienced a breakup after 3 years in an LTR. This girl was ready to get married, I wasn't and kept stalling. Eventually she found someone else ready. This was around December 2014. It took January and February to really decide TRP was the way and to read everything. Then it took another 2-3 months of grinding away lifting, not pursuing women, and not thinking ab… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/15 03:49 PM |
| 5 | Coming off as a virginYour sexual experience level is all relative and in your head. You think your bros are 'bangin hotties' every night, when in reality, they probably aren't. Also, think of quality vs quantity. And even when I say 'quality', I don't just mine a woman's attractiveness. You'll see that may top notch 9's and 10's are garbage in bed as they just lay there and don't do anything. Quality sexual experiences come when you're with someone a few times. Or even LTRs. Even if those are casual LTRs or FWB. Ver… | /r/seduction | 07/08/15 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Is there a wall for men?Men don't have a wall because our value it's 90% based on our looks. Sure, it is somewhat based on looks, but if you lift and eat right, you should be in the top 20% rather easily past 35. Women hit the wall because roughly 90% of their value is base on their physical looks. This inevitably declines around age 30, give or take. Ironically, men seem to increase in value because our SMV is based on things like income, wealth, status, experiences, wisdom, etc... all of which increase with age. | /r/askTRP | 07/08/15 12:33 PM |
| 1 | How do rich guys get a lot of hot girls?Money is another 'status' and social thing. Same thing as looks are too. It's all relevant. It's widely accepted subconsciously that if you have money, you must be successful, lucky, know people, or be good at what you do. All of which are attractive. It's not necessarily the number in the bank account, but what got you there. | /r/seduction | 06/08/15 12:34 PM |
| 2 | drugs and confidence..I'm not familiar with opiates, but a quick google search nets "produce a sense of wellbeing or euphoria". Appears similar to the result of your first or second beer, but might be amplified. Either way, your internal chemistry is changed. Receptors and other neurons fire differently and/or things are produced or stop the movement against. So a drug is a drug, same as pain medication, etc. It alters body chemistry to make you feel different. How well can you game when you're depressed because your… | /r/askTRP | 05/08/15 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: 1 Day; 3 GirlsEnjoyed the story, sir. Loads of motivation to just go ahead and take charge. I find myself, even after being a TRPer for months, not acting on my full intentions. Then when I eventually do, I get tests like "I wish you would have kissed me like that last Sunday".... this results in a facepalm by me as last Sunday I was questioning if she was into me and not just going for it. Also, I like how your story is REAL. Meaning, you came in 3 minutes, admitted to laying there and talking with women, et… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/08/15 05:23 PM |
| 29 | They're on your mind. How often do you really want them there?NoFapper here, but also a straight, heterosexual male with the same wants and needs as you all have. This post really brings to mind the amount of time I waste waiting for texts, or thinking about what to plan this weekend for dates, etc. Many times, even right now at 8:30am, or on the way to work, I find my mind wandering about certain women. In reality though, I actually don't want to see anyone today, tomorrow, or even the next (weekdays). I have to sleep early tonight after some long hours e… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/08/15 12:47 PM |
| 3 | Come back from a bad reputation?Lifting Going out and making new friends Having more interesting experiences (think traveling, etc.) Eye contact, better style, better in-person vibe Abundance mentality, talk to more women ... basically, things you can't change overnight. But it really seems like you're doing this to get one girl who's already formed an opinion about you. Sure, it can happen, but the odds are stacked against you. It's better off just learning from it, knowing you have to improve, and doing XYZ to get there. Oth… | /r/seduction | 05/08/15 12:35 PM |
| 2 | 3 Reasons Why You Will Never Make GainsAnother option is a protein shake. And no, not your normal supplement with water... Here's what I hit up on the fly: 1 cup instant oatmeal 1/2 cup blue berries 1 banana Throw in some chia seeds Tasteless fiber powder 1 scoop of your favorite protein Optional: Peanut butter, 2 teaspoons Chuck it in your on-the-go blender, boom done. Less than 5 minutes and you'll getting some good nutrition and macros. Tupperware for me for lunch. Veggies, etc. I did the veggie and eggs thing for breakfast for mo… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/08/15 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Bodybuilders, gym rats and other athletes of seddit, where and when do you find time to game?No problem. Question for you: Since you appear to be more dedicated to the gym, how do you balance drinking and game/dating? I find many times girls love to meetup at bars, even after just daygaming. Yeah, there's coffee, museums, rock climbing, etc... but it's hard coming up with a multitude of non-alcoholic events. Hell, half the museums and gardens in the city do beer tasting and other events, which everyone love. I feel even after 2-3 drinks on a night, I'm done. Factor than in with male bud… | /r/seduction | 04/08/15 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Scientific studies/papers that proves that men are the providersI don't think you really need any scientific studies to prove this. Simply look at history. In caveman times, men went out and hunted, gathered, waged war, etc.. women essentially raised children and kept the community running. Both were needed for survival. You can see the same all over the world right up until around the 1960's here in the US, if we want to to take a look at a more specific time period. This is when feminism and Civil Rights were all going down. From then on, there was a slow … | /r/askTRP | 04/08/15 09:08 PM |
| 4 | How to prove to your ex, you are NOW an Alpha after going through a BB phase.You are not out of your BB stage. I guarantee it. Four months is nothing. You feel like you're out of it, sure. But you're not. You'll relapse a bit, struggle onward, make more progress. Seriously, let us know in 6 more months where you're at. Should be even much further along. Number two, I've been there multiple times too. We all have. Girl fucks you over. Either cheating, or the typical "find myself again" and "want to be single" crap.. all just an excuse for losing attraction and/or you goin… | /r/askTRP | 04/08/15 07:56 PM |
| 1 | How do people find their girlfriends?I've been in your shoes. From my community college days, until age 25ish, I just assumed the only way to meet women was through your social circle. I was introverted, so this sucked. I was rarely in contact with new people. This is mainly why I would get into relationships that would last 3+ years, even if they weren't going well at all. When they did end, I'd beg for the other person to take me back. Basically, scarcity mentality. If I lost X girl, I knew it would be months or years before even… | /r/seduction | 04/08/15 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Bodybuilders, gym rats and other athletes of seddit, where and when do you find time to game?Clicked on the thread because I'm a 'casual' gym rat. Lifting, mainly just to stay in shape and improve my body. You're probably more involved than I am. I hit up 1 hour after work every other day. Work is 8am-5pm M-F with a 1 hour lunch. I take my lunches, my co-workers eat and work in their cube. I eat first, then walk around town for an hour doing daygame. We've been super busy recently, so this has diminished. I feel your pain with a 5:30am-6:30pm work related schedule (commuting, working, e… | /r/seduction | 04/08/15 04:02 PM |
| 146 | The best blowjob of my lifeThis also supports the cock carousel 'fact'. I'm sure Anna didn't wake up one day with the glorious ability to suck a dick like a professional porn star. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/15 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Always read about being alpha to keep a woman sexually loyal, but...Ah. Insightful. Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 04/08/15 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Always read about being alpha to keep a woman sexually loyal, but...I agree with this, but rarely post about it because TRP tends to not accept it. Most here think you must be full out 110% alpha all the time. I don't disagree with this mindset at first though. Many of us are full beta idiots when we start. Even going full alpha tends to net good results for plating, one night stands, etc... However, if you ever do try another LTR after TRP, you'll find it's actually hard to stay 100% alpha all the time. You're going to have your beta days... aka, your 'off' day… | /r/askTRP | 04/08/15 12:37 PM |
| 2 | LTRs and gift givingI find experiences for the both of you are best. I've gone down the road of buying material gifts, sometimes even expensive back in the day. Either they like them, or they don't - they also cost a lot. Example: Almost bought a girl one of those KitchenAid mixers... $300 or something. Fuck that. I'd suggest now, even a day out horseback riding for the both of you. This builds your life experience as well as hers. I'd suggest again small idiotic gifts such as flowers, cards, etc... | /r/askTRP | 04/08/15 12:31 PM |
| 19 | I can't f*** new girls, or any girl, the first time !!Probably a combination of porn and anxiety. I'd totally cut out porn. That way, that will never be the issue. Anxiety... meh, well that's all in your head. It has nothing to do with bloodflow or anything mechanical. We've all been there - first time with a girl, things are getting hot and heavy, but it's time for the real fun to begin. Shit starts flying through your head... is it big enough? What experience has she had before? Can I last long enough? And boom, bye bye little friend. Best advice… | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Question about sleep and game, and not shiting where you eatFor daygame, it depends on your style, but I'd found 'The Natural's Lifestyles' is really TRP oriented. It's literally just you in your low-key self walking up to a girl on the street and being direct, but calm. Even if you're not going full PUA 'approach everything with two legs' style, their infield videos will give you some tips on what to talk about and how to act. It's all really just natural, but for a lot of us, we need to see what that really is. | /r/askTRP | 03/08/15 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with PopularityI get up at 5:30, shower, eat, 30 minute drive to the subway, 30 minute ride into town. Start at 8am. I leave at 5pm, get home around 6:20, eat. Ready to do whatever at 7pm until about 10pm. Usually this is lifting every other day for an hour, then something else like just relaxing, reading, preparing for the next day (food prep, etc). I also have friends that are constantly inviting me out for beer, food, and late nights. Then tend to stay out until about 10/11pm, then a 30 minute drive home. I… | /r/askTRP | 03/08/15 04:23 PM |
| 2 | So tiredI used the 'plow through' method when faced with something similar. Back around January/February, it's stressful time in finance/accounting. We have to file these huge reports to the state for the year and it was my first time doing them. I had nothing to look off of as my business unit was new. There are also no instructions. Additionally, we had to close the books and have other reporting, as well as our normal duties. The lady I was teaching to do my weekly billing bailed and went to Florida … | /r/askTRP | 03/08/15 12:39 PM |
| 2 | I'm 37, divorced, 3 young kids, and just broke up with my girlfriend of 1.5 years. I don't know how to be alone. Help!Been there.. kinda. No marriage for me, but I was right on a cliff at one point. Like you, I went from relationship to relationship. 3 years with my first girlfriend in HS, then jumped into a much shorter one after she dumped me for the football star. Then 3 months later, jumped into one with a girl for 4 years through college. She bailed after wanting to party and let loose more. Found the seduction community then, but didn't 'get it' fully, or have much success. Ended up in a 3 year relationsh… | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Male-Female friendships. Can men and women be friends? How is the dynamic different VS male friends or girlfriends/plates?Yes, pretty much. | /r/askTRP | 01/08/15 01:08 PM |
| 1 | What happens when you get redpilled AFTER marriage? What can i do to alpha up once im already in too deep?My belief is that soft dread game should be applied in any relationship, even if it's two 21 year olds dating. Dread game is especially useful in married life too, but it's more about applying the correct degree for your application/situation. Again, 'soft' should always be applied and should net good results for anyone. It's those harder situations where individuals need to ramp it up more. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/15 08:25 PM |
| 8 | Making that first moveI always (and still do to some extent) have issues with making the first move. This is what helped me the most: Start the absolute first time you guys meetup. Literally, within the first 3 seconds. Hug, whatever. Immediately go for the hand next to lead her to where you are going. Then escalate from there. Remember, hands, arms, shoulders, legs, hips, finally face/hair, etc. In that order as time progresses. My sticking point was I always didn't start off physical from the start, so then I sat t… | /r/askTRP | 31/07/15 05:43 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with rejection?I reframe it like "Hmmm, your loss then." Then onto the next one. Or go lift. Or go do a hobby. Or go do work. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/15 04:17 PM |
| 2 | When women forcefully extract commitment out of a man, they receive congratulations all around.First and foremost, they're fucking... just in case anyone things this is some completely beta cuckhold relationship. Support: "Dates have occurred 2-3 times per week and have been romantic in nature (cooking dinner for example) and have usually ended in sleepovers. " 'Sleepovers', huh. Did you two dress in pajamas and play Pokemon together? "As he began to put his pants on, I asked him to stay." O rly? Ok, so now my main point: "he proceeded to pour his heart out. He said he had been being fool… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 03:43 PM |
| 1 | The 30 Day Challenge #1 - SLEEPIf we're starting from last night, I got about 4-5 hours of sleep, which is really bad for me and not normal. I normally go to bed at 10pm, fall asleep around 10:30pm. Up at 5:30am... so about 7 hours of sleep total. Now, case in point, why so late last night? Well, on the way home from work, I ran into one of my car chicks I hand out with and we met up with some other guys just for a beer at this brewery. I had every intent to go home, at 6:30, workout, and go to bed by 10pm. I didn't start wor… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 02:20 PM |
| 7 | I'm getting married tomorrow, and I don't have a lot of friends to share that withMaybe he's just THAT beta. Certainly seems that way. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 02:11 PM |
| 6 | Can We Say "Don't Get Married" Enough?My parents also didn't get divorced. They dated for about 5-6 years, then family and others pushed them for marriage. They finally did it after a long engagement. Fast forward almost 30 years now. Mom quit working when I was born. Became completely financially dependent on my father. I wasn't planned, nor an 'accident'.. I was told, it just happened, but they certainly didn't want another. My dad now works 50-60 hours a week as a janitor. They sleep in separate bedrooms and have for 20 years now… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Too drunk to consent? You're still the rapist.This incident almost makes me feel good about just having a girlfriend in college for the full 4 years and not sleeping around. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 01:33 PM |
| 11 | I'm getting married tomorrow, and I don't have a lot of friends to share that withIt's not really. OP is here to post a point, not hurt the bro. The guy we're discussing is 21, has probably never cold approached, and was on Tinder to find 'love', not a hookup. Also being 21, he's probably not even out of school yet and hasn't even found his calling in life. I find it really sad in a way that he's a good, quality individual, but is going to get sucked down by this girl. Even if all 'goes well' and they stay together, his growth will be stunted greatly professionally, emotional… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 01:25 PM |
| 10 | I'm getting married tomorrow, and I don't have a lot of friends to share that withI also noticed "she's not very good looking"... Everyone is saying she is... but I say not really. Wedding pictures, makeup, editing, all make people look 100% better. Case in point - my acene covered face senior year of HS and professional pictures. I go from being pizza face to a golden biscuit. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 01:22 PM |
| 6 | I'm getting married tomorrow, and I don't have a lot of friends to share that withI just creeped on his replies and comments. He's only 21 and I'm assuming has never cold approached anyone in a bar or club. Here are some things he's saying to users who comment on his thread: (This first comment KILLS me......) "Yeah I was in the same boat. I met her while we were in school. I only spent time with her. And I dont regret it one bit :) Yeah she knows I'm not a social butterfly, and she accepts me for me. That's when I knew she was a keeper." "I AM CRYING FOR YOU RIGHT NOW! PLEAS… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/15 01:18 PM |
| 1 | A lot of guys are starting to read TRP, and it worries meLike people have said, many will wash out in their lifting 'careers' or dog out after getting bored hiking and biking for a time. Even better yet, many might improve themselves to a point, get a girl, and become beta again. Thus some other washed out beta replaces him on the squat rack and bike trail. The cycle repeats. True TRPers are in it for life. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/07/15 06:12 PM |
| 1 | What are your guys opinions on virgins?Haha, yep. I think it applies to a ton of people's stories. If it helps someone realize what I realized without living through it, I'm doing you gentlemen a favor. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/07/15 05:34 PM |
| 2 | "He understands how lucky he really is"I almost threw up my protein bar and salad. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/07/15 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Lost all my game after breaking up with my girlfriend?Yes, I know. Sounds dumb, right? Problem is, you get out of a relationship and every girl you approach, you're comparing her to your ex. If she's more attractive, it fucks with your head making you put her on more of pedestal, or if she's less attractive, you treat it like she's just not good or not worth your time. Girls can pickup on this too.. they just feel something is off. Completely not thinking about sex/women for a period of time is actually good. It allows you to forget about your ex s… | /r/seduction | 30/07/15 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Lost all my game after breaking up with my girlfriend?Quick story, got into game for a year after a bad breakup and 4 year relationship ended. Gamed for a year with limited results. Ended up getting into another relationship for the next 3 years. Got back out there within a month, like you, and had extreme approach anxiety. Numbers were flakes that I did get. Dates went like shit. I took 2-3 months off to lift, travel, re-center myself. I also got back into hobbies I left go. After doing this, I had new confidence in myself as a whole. I started go… | /r/seduction | 30/07/15 03:40 PM |
| 15 | The girl of my dreams stepped on the train this morning, and I didn't do shitUse this as a reminder to always approach everyone you find interesting/attractive. The pain/guilt/sadness you're feeling now... what's worse, this feeling, or a possible rejection? Probably this. Let that sink in. We've all been there though. I can even remember a similar subway story. Got off the subway in the morning, about 8am, girl got off at my stop with about 50 other people. Punk rocker type, black hair, ripped jeans, spiked belt. I wanted to approach, but same thing... 8am, everyone asl… | /r/seduction | 30/07/15 03:21 PM |
| 5 | What are your guys opinions on virgins?I've dated three virgins. One in high school, so we'll exclude her. That makes too... wait, we might even want to throw out one... Major points: Once a virgin opens up, it's like Pandora's box - they realize what they're missing or withholding and sometimes go nuts. I can see this happening with your girl. Just because they're a "virgin" does not mean they won't stray or cheat. I use the term "virgin" loosely, because everyone official virgin here clearly had some type of sexual experience... us… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/07/15 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Well..RP ConfirmedHa, true dat. | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 12:31 AM |
| 1 | School me 'protection' and 'etiquette'Appreciate it. | /r/askTRP | 29/07/15 02:59 PM |
| 3 | School me 'protection' and 'etiquette'I can actually answer this one.... ha. Yes, pull out. Immediately take the condom off. Tie it up. Reason being, if you wait, you'll go soft, it spills out everywhere. This leads to your goods floating around in the bed, on her, on you... bad idea. New condom after you rest up and get hard again. | /r/askTRP | 29/07/15 02:30 PM |
| 3 | Well..RP ConfirmedI wouldn't quite say 'full' like you see on here. I do not advocate locking yourself in your room and reading books like a hermit and lifting. In the past, I would get out of a relationship and go out searching immediately for someone else. In a bad way.. like a 'I need a girlfriend' way. It usually resulted in a year of bad dates. This time, completely blocked out women for 2-3 months. No masturbation, not even thinking about it. No dating, no sexually talking, etc. Nothing. I lifted more, and … | /r/askTRP | 29/07/15 01:55 PM |
| 6 | Girlfriend got a sappy "apology" letter from an ex. How to react?Just don't react and just brush it off with /u/vandaalen 's "Aww. How cute" response. She's using it as a test by telling you it. If you freak out, it gives her mind an idea to go back with said ex. If you hold frame, she'll stick around as you're the better catch. Quote honestly though, this ex is playing the major beta card as it is by writing the letter. | /r/askTRP | 28/07/15 01:38 PM |
| 241 | Had a date with a gorgeous, Redpill textbook, wall approaching ex party girl. Admits to a 50 partner count.Her: "I guess about 50, is that too high?" My response: "Yeah, too high" Her: "Ok then, how about 30?" .......... | /r/TheRedPill | 27/07/15 05:48 PM |
| 1 | I found that shoes with good support give me a big confidence boost throughout the day. Are there any other tricks like this that you know of?This one is going to sound dumb, but I adopted it after picking up a free toothpick at a Chinese restaurant with friends one night. ... popped it in, felt like a boss. I guess kinda that hardcore 1950's greaser feel, or even a solider. I keep about 10+ in my wallet at all times. When I go out, I pop one in my mouth and just let it hang there. Also gives you something to do with your hands if you get fidgety... take it out and hold it, move it around, whatever. Works wonders for me. | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 07:47 PM |
| 1 | I found that shoes with good support give me a big confidence boost throughout the day. Are there any other tricks like this that you know of?My aunt works at a 'beauty shop'. Although it mainly caters towards women, free hair cuts since I was born. Now age 27. Winning. Honestly though, I should probably get them sooner than I do. I end up going 4 weeks or more in between them. | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 07:44 PM |
| 4 | Would you travel for 3+ hours to meet someone you talked to for weeks through an online dating website?I wouldn't have talked to someone that far away in the first place... It'll never work. Seriously. You waste 3 hours driving.. that's like most of the way across PA for me. You meet said girl, have a drink. Drive back 3 hours. How long can you keep doing that? | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 05:51 PM |
| 3 | How to say "no" without sounding like a jerk."Put it right there points, I'll watch it." Reframe. You comply, but on your terms. You tell her what to do. And win win because she gets her bag watched. Plus you don't look like a doofus holding it. | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Well apparently the worlds largest cuckold checking in.Quite honestly, bro, your story resonated with me. I was with a girl for three years without sex. Talk about cuckhold. Then went she met an Australian party-goer on a European trip and kept talking to him for six months after, I still stuck around. Even when he had his plane ticket booked to come to the states, I was still begging and pleading with her to stay and that it would work between us. Thus, I found this place. I will leave the details out, but I am in a MUCH better place now and feel m… | /r/askTRP | 23/07/15 01:28 PM |
| 2 | College.I'm out of college, but did 5 years total - 2 years for an associate's, 2 more for the bachelor's, and 1 more for the masters. Community college was a waste social-wise. Great for saving money, social aspect was lame as hell. I'll skip this because I sucked back then. Bachelors at a public traditional, four year college. I did two years here as a junior and senior. Social circle is key. My roommate was Greek (from Greece, not a frat). He had high charisma and game just naturally. This led to us … | /r/seduction | 23/07/15 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Chalk this one up as a loss?Fun fact: with online dating sites, women are onto different guys every day of the week and have tons of options. If she doesn't 100% hit it off with you, like over the moon, she just goes to the next without even thinking about it. | /r/askTRP | 23/07/15 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Create ONLY positive vibes/thoughtsNot sure if this is a sarcastic reply or not, haha. But if not, here's what I think. I think it's a major turnoff not to be direct. Girls will almost gladly text back and forth for fun because they like the validation. They love when you hit them up first.. dopamine hit for them. But it negatively affects your cause. When you ask to meet after a week long of texting, it's almost like you're trying too hard and she senses that... because I know I was when I did it. I was trying to build up comfor… | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 11:32 PM |
| 4 | Aside from lifting, what are everyone's hobbies?Cars (modifying, racing [legally]) and shooting firearms. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/15 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Create ONLY positive vibes/thoughtsLimiting to logistics only before the initial "day 2" or first date. After that, I find that it's open for her to text you funny things, something that reminds you of her, etc... if she does, great, go along with it. It's actually a good thing, but always keep reserved in how many texts your sending. Be mysterious and be aloof. Many times I'm lifting, working on cars, sleeping, or whatever... I don't actually have time to be texting. I get to the text when I can. So, don't get a number after tal… | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Can't get over this very beta-move I did in front of my gf$10 says no one remembers this even happened besides you. Drunk broski doesnt, girlfriend does.. only you because it got to you. With that said, shit like that used to happen to me too... something stupid gets caught in your mind and you hold onto it for weeks/months and no one even remembers it because it was meaningless to them. | /r/askTRP | 22/07/15 04:29 PM |
| 1 | how do you guys handle breakups so well?TRPers get over breakups of losses of plates quickly because of two major reasons: A. They don't invest heavily in them, thus it does 'hurt' as bad B. They instantly convert all 'feelings' into positive energy in the gym, at work, in hobbies, thus not wallowing in their sorrows or even thinking about the loss. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/07/15 01:10 PM |
| 8 | Did you ever misunderstood IOI ?Don't just trust one IOI... trust multiple. For example, I find the standard hair touching/curling is a really positive, almost unmistakeable IOI. Let's say she's doing it over and over... you might think "Well maybe she just does that.. or maybe she is just feeling that nice conditioner she uses. It can't be an IOI...." But she's also smiling, is turned towards to, etc... you're in. Go for it. Escalate. If you get 2-3 different IOIs together, you're golden. When you start seeing a lot, you're g… | /r/askTRP | 21/07/15 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Sex Tips for Menhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nkYNAEqC7-Q | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 01:15 PM |
| 9 | my big success! ... and how to stay alpha?I get like this too. Best advice is to genuinely keep busy. Be doing so much stuff that you can't think of texting her too much, maybe can't hang out every time she asks because you have other things planned. You are being too invested in her. Remember this rule and follow it "The person who needs the other the least is the one in control" - you need her more than she needs you right now. Therefore you are not in control. It does not mean all hope is lost, but attraction will dwindle if you cont… | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Sex Tips for MenI was just going to comment on this too. This is common with most women. Don't have it ravaging all over the place, certainly trimmed up, but not bare. "Alpha M" on Youtube has a great video on this. | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 12:48 PM |
| 9 | What happened to make you swallow the pill?Dated a Catholic, family oriented girl whom I met through a buddy of mine at a party. We linked up a NYE party, hit it off from that night onward. We continued to text almost everyday for 3-4 months. She lived in Boston, but moved to my city after she finished her masters. We started dating shortly after that. Fast forward three years of mindless hanging out with her cousin continuously (drinking, going to bars), going to family events, and dodging "When are you two getting married??" questions.… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/07/15 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Confess Your Beta SinsSame thing. I remember one day in lunch line in high school some attractive girl came up to me and grabbed my ass. I turned around and she just giggled. I got embarrassed and quickly turned back around. Knowing what I know now, that was probably one of the most sexual ways for get to open conversation with me with no one else knowing. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/07/15 12:28 PM |
| 1 | 3 dates have now cancelled on me in a row. What am I supposed to say and why does this keep happening?You can try back. Nothing to lose really. But wait a bit. You will come off needy if you don't. Like even a week. It's really only a 20% chance or so.. so treat it like such. More numbers, more talking, more girls. I say if a girl doesn't want to meet up with you, then her loss. | /r/seduction | 17/07/15 03:03 AM |
| 29 | 3 dates have now cancelled on me in a row. What am I supposed to say and why does this keep happening?You say you text for at least a week before arranging something. This could solely be your problem. I used to do the same. It makes logical sense - text, build up comfort, joke around, and get them to want to meetup. I did this with numbers I got online, but also with day and night game numbers I got out and about once I quit the online scene. I had numerous instances where I'd meet a girl during the day, banter, laugh, she'd giggle, we'd swap numbers. Then I'd hit her up in 1-2 days, text. Try … | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 12:52 PM |
| 1 | A "Nice Guy"/Beta Bux tries to call out the new coworker in an email. Doesn't even realize he explains his BB position to the letter.Remind me again why people date or 'pursue' people at work? | /r/TheRedPill | 16/07/15 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Masculine activities or clubs?I promote shooting firearms. My opinion, for TRP purposes, but political beliefs aside. Shooting is the equivalent of 'military training' for the civilian. Various clubs/ranges have free 'run and gun' or 'active shooting' where you move around behind targets and/or with stress involved. I think about it in a more fundamental "This was how the world was created" sense.. like generations before us were in WWII and such, or even before that, people used firearms to hunt and bring food in for the fa… | /r/askTRP | 15/07/15 08:25 PM |
| 5 | How to disguise how much money I makeMBA, financial analyst here. Get the same response when I used to tell women what I did. I've been using "I work at the zoo. I feed the penguins and teach them tricks."... at least initially. Eventually, if you are going out with someone multiple times, it will come up again. I usually do let them know what I do, but NEVER give a number. Hell, I didn't even give my LTR of 3 years a number. | /r/askTRP | 15/07/15 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Girlfriend complains that I'm not romantic.Romantic is just the term women use. It does not necessarily mean being 'goo goo gah gah' spreading rose petals all over her room and bringing her chocolate and flowers. These are grouped into 'romantic' because they are out of the normal - this is the key. Also, understand that 'romantic' just means you aren't giving her the tingles as much anymore. Stagnation. You just need to reignite this. In all my LTRs I tend to be very spontaneous at the beginning, but then get comfortable and stop doing … | /r/askTRP | 15/07/15 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Tips for guys under 18?Yes, for sure. Change it up. | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 01:34 PM |
| 6 | Got a fairly surprising reaction from the BDSM subreddit when I posted about sex-neg feminism and "objectification"Feminists are all over. Yes, even in the BDSM community. I believe you got the responses that you did over there because a large majority of BDSMers are female (my opinion, no statistical backup). Secretly, I think many women gravitate to the BDSM community because they don't experience that natural dominant male. Think of why women, married or single, went bonkers over things like '50 Shades of Grey'... Many men these days are beta, don't lead, don't express what they want. This leaves the wome… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/07/15 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Tips for guys under 18?Understandable. Even at 27, I find most people who work downtown are 35-50. It's like looking for diamonds and the ruff for anyone under 30. Most college grads are only 23 and usually they don't start downtown. I'd say malls or shopping places still. Girls love to shop, period. Especially high school girls. | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 01:12 PM |
| 5 | Tips for guys under 18?I'm 27 and prefer daygame over nightgame. Here's why: 1. You can do it anywhere. I work in a big city and can talk to anyone on my lunch hour. 2. You don't need to spend 2 hours getting into state (joking around, drinking, etc) and then 2-3 hours crushing it at a bar/club. 3. Bar/club approaches put you in a category like everyone other dude. Doing it in the day when they're not expecting it automatically sets you apart. 4. You deal with baggage associated with going out at night. IE. All girls … | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 01:04 PM |
| 1 | College roommate is now the beta bucks, is getting marriedwow... yeah, now that's bad.... | /r/TheRedPill | 15/07/15 10:05 AM |
| 1 | How do you break that "lack of energy" feeling?Just adding to this. I didn't think this actually would make a big difference, but I tried it for a few weeks a while back. I did notice better alertness and overall energy increase in life in general. I since stopped just for lack of motivation doing it (come on, hot water is nice too)... I'll be starting again. Also, I felt it help get out of my comfort zone daily, so when out specifically, the approach felt like less of a big deal. Go for it. There are other health benefits too. | /r/seduction | 14/07/15 05:35 PM |
| 6 | I struggle with eye contact any tips?Integrate eye contact into your everyday life. For example, I work downtown, so I make sure to make eye contact with passerbys on the street on a regular basis and smile if they look back. It's not weird - usually they smile, especially if they are women. Once you start doing this everyday, when you're in a bar, club, or even on a date, it's just natural then. | /r/seduction | 14/07/15 04:25 PM |
| 3 | Suggestions for self improvement pleaseThis will sound dumb, but sleeping more has been on the top of my list. I've seen this help with lifting, but has also greatly improved my mood when going out, working, just everything. I don't function well and get frustrated/moody without enough sleep. | /r/askTRP | 14/07/15 03:46 PM |
| 3 | LTR and Gaming other ChicksI enjoy LTRs more than plating. Just me. Here are my tips: Always continue to improve, lift, ect. Don't get comfortable and don't stop. This is the main killer or relationships. Even if shit goes south, you can then get right back out there relatively easy. By doing the above you're implementing 'soft dread game'. Basically, if you're a guy on his path, improving, taking charge in life, she'll have no choice but to feel attracted to you. This is natural. As far as 'gaming' on the side. Keeping y… | /r/askTRP | 14/07/15 01:16 PM |
| 14 | Guys..I know you heard it a million times by nowJust because you brought up crying like a baby in the shower... I remember when I was in high school, got my first girlfriend. One of her friends actually talked to me. Ironically, I set out at the beginning of freshman year with the intent of "I'm going to get a girlfriend". Needless to say, I was all in, and spent the next 3 years with her. I thought I was in love, blah blah. Senior year came, she found out a new freshman football start was into her and woosh, I was gone. Typical TRP stuff... … | /r/askTRP | 14/07/15 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend likes degradation in bedYou could probably do better than a 3..... but here's my analysis of these girls after dating one myself. I've had experience with an LTR whom after about 1-2 years of dating (back in my BP days...) really opened up to her sexual kinks. Loved the dirty talk, being handcuffed, and told what to do. Also loved dressing up. Given we both just started college, we had free reign to do much more than we could back at home. You really need to trust someone doing a lot of the stuff we did. Sure, she migh… | /r/askTRP | 13/07/15 07:18 PM |
| 5 | Girl I've been seeing wants to be 'official'Number one, LTRs in TRP are ok. With that said, unless you are also 100% exclusive with her, don't do it. Period. And even if you were, understand that you're just being mutually exclusive for a time, and that time inevitably ends through one way or another. I see (and have experienced first hand) men being on their purpose, crushing it in life, or just starting out, then being derailed by a girl they fall head over heels with for some reason. I am not saying don't ever get into an LTR, but be v… | /r/askTRP | 13/07/15 06:49 PM |
| 1 | On friendsI believe there certainly are. I'm 27 and many of mine are 30+ and we share at least one major hobby in common. Cars, firearms, something like that. We can then bond and talk, drink, shoot the shit about anything. These people always are on time, pay back debts, and help you out too. I find with many people younger than me, especially in the 21-25 year old age range, men (or should I say boys?) are overly competitive with each other in the wrong way. No one wants to help or learn from each other… | /r/askTRP | 13/07/15 05:53 PM |
| 3 | Some BP Myths DebunkedComments on #1: For almost 10 years of my life, I got into LTR after LTR, 3 in total, all for years at a time. Each made me very happy at the beginning, only due to validation and that honeymoon feeling. The middle one was genuinely good in a lot of respects... ok, well just due to her sexual nature. Overall, none made me 'happy'. Hell, I got my happiness out of doing fun shit like going to concerts and doing hobbies with my male friends once I really took hold of getting involved recently. I wi… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/07/15 04:16 PM |
| 6 | How to turn shame off?No joke.... Chaaarrrrrrrmanderrrr. Sqqqquuiiiirrrrttttllleeee. I started chuckling to myself and thus started having a better time. Whatever works for you. | /r/seduction | 12/07/15 08:05 PM |
| 4 | How do you find out what is wrong with yourself?Read NMMNG by Robert Glover. I sounds to me like this is your issue. You're probably trying to please others and not yourself, thus leading to people using you, not paying attention, etc. It's also very unattractive for both sexes for someone to be needy like that. | /r/seduction | 12/07/15 05:18 PM |
| 2 | What is the RP view on porn?I've found many people start out watching softcore or even looking at 'harmless' magazines, then continuously escalate up to ridiculous things just to get that 'high'.. the lower stuff doesn't do it for them anymore. Thus, real interactions with women stuffer. Even sexual relationships with their wives or girlfriends suffer greatly. This really construes young people's sexual interests as many times, porn is their first look into sex with the internet now. This is personally why I'm against it. … | /r/askTRP | 12/07/15 05:14 PM |
| 22 | How to turn shame off?It's hard. I usually use alcohol as a crutch too to get those first approaches and rejections going, then taper off. Only 1-2 drinks. Even if I'm day 2ing a girl and we're out for drinks, it seems to go better.. easier to escalate, etc. Alternatively, I do daygame and don't drink. I do stupid things sometime like mumbling Pokemon noises to myself and laughing about it. I also laugh at each rejection... like overly laugh. This greatly helps get into the mood. Basically anything that self amuses y… | /r/seduction | 12/07/15 03:40 PM |
| 5 | What are your thoughts on Tinder?I did the whole online thing for a bit. Tons of flakes, even from 6 or 7/10 individuals. Literally, their profile is like "I work, but it sucks. I like Netflix and drinking. Hit me up!!!".. literally nothing going for them. You play around, even with a good profile and pictures, it takes 50 copied and pasted messages to get 15 replies, 10 of those die after 2 messages, 5 you get numbers from. Of those 4 want to just flake, text, and not meetup. 1 will go out with you ends up boring, lame, and ef… | /r/seduction | 10/07/15 05:53 PM |
| 3 | LTR GF possible pregnant. No option for abortion.Step by step checklist: Pregnancy test. Ok, late period, other symptoms... but still not confirmed. If yes, go to step 2, if no, rejoice! Paternity test. LTR, but still, TRP advocates this just in case. Too many men have been screwed over this way. This way, you'll always know and there will be no speculation ever. If it's yours, time to get a plan together. If it's not drop her like a sack of potatoes. | /r/askTRP | 10/07/15 05:36 PM |
| 1 | [FR] All it takes is a hot guyLove your thrill and stability statement. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/15 02:03 PM |
| 2 | [FR] All it takes is a hot guyAgreed. 6 months ago, in a 3 year LTR, I was the boyfriend in your story. She left me for an Australian. That accent and kangaroos. Instantly soaked down there. Fast forward 6 months to recently. TRP starting to set in fully. Approach girl on street, get her giggling, get number, hang out once for a coffee date for an hour. More giggling, touching, showing value. Two days after, she texts and says she just broke up with her boyfriend 2 days before meeting me and they are going to get back togeth… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/15 02:03 PM |
| 0 | Inspired by the female college roommates post, (european?) guys, BEWARE of the girls who live by themselves. Anyone have similar experience?I can see how an 'unsupervised' girl (as you state) can become a slut rather quickly. Think about how if you approach or isolate a girl how much more willing she is to give out her number or go on an instadate with you. When her friends are there, she's worried she'll be slut shamed, so many times she'll be less inclined to even give a number out. Let her live alone and roam around freely and her true inner self comes out... AWALT can we say? | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/15 01:50 PM |
| 1 | How to get girls off the pedistal even though I want a LTR...?It's ok to be looking for an LTR. When you meet girls, approach, all that.. go into it with the frame of "Who is this person and will they bring value to my life?" On first dates, same thing "I want to know more, would she be a good fit for me?" It sounds selfish, but it isn't. If you frame it like you are, or like most guys, you're going into interactions and dates saying "How can I get her to like me! I want a relationship.. how can I make her my girlfriend?" | /r/seduction | 10/07/15 01:26 PM |
| 13 | What's wrong about going movies as a first date? Best and worst spots. What's your say?Back in high school, I remember two movie dates with girls I just met. You hear it's a common, normal date, so that's what I offered. Each went like this: You awkwardly pick the girl up, kinda talk in the car, but you can't touch or even have eye contact. Then you head to the movies were it's awkward if you don't pay for the girl... so $20 out of your pocket, plus drinks or snacks. Then in the movie you can't talk, it's awkward to just start touching if you don't know them at all, and the date i… | /r/seduction | 10/07/15 01:12 PM |
| 3 | Study - Disgust dampens women's sexual arousal more than fearIsn't this a human thing in general? I'm pretty sure I'd be slightly less aroused if shown the same before being tested also. It would have been more interesting if the 'fear' stimuli resulted in any noticeable increase in sexual 'stuff'. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/15 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Plate anxietyThe best thing that helped me was understand why your heart starts beating fast and you get jittery. Back in caveman times, we lived in tribes of about 50 people. If you 'approached' another man's woman and he found out, you were beaten, hurt, or even killed. At the very least, you were excluded from the tribe, which usually ended up with you dying. Over time, a LONG time, millions of years probably, those who approached where killed off, those who feared approaching survived. Thus, us here toda… | /r/askTRP | 09/07/15 04:30 PM |
| 7 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/8/15Seduction is a lifelong journey. We're all men and we all have a biological need either for sex (when it comes down to it) and to have relationships. I will suggest that at your current age, start lifting (slow, light, and get more into it), developing and finding great hobbies you love, and being social at school and with friends. Don't expect to jump on here, read some things, and grab a girlfriend in a week. Pro Tip: Be very weary of getting girlfriends. Sure, if you haven't ever had one, go … | /r/seduction | 09/07/15 01:24 PM |
| 1 | What would you do if you were in my shoes ?My buddy, a doctor, also into seduction, was also losing his hair. Just completely shaved it. It looks much better and girls are ok with it. Just a suggestion. You'll have to eat to get big. More calories, but clean good ones. Meat, veggies, limited carbs, but you will still need them. Lift. Try the 5x5 strong lifts program. | /r/seduction | 09/07/15 01:15 PM |
| 3 | Fat woman on okcupid learns the hard way that men will sleep with her - but never commit.Cliff notes: Ex-boyfriend Maury - typical low SMV beta... but hey, he learned, and moved on. "He never touched my stomach or seemed eager to remove my clothes" Rob - Fat girl fetish... still couldn't get it up with her Hugh - Probably Rob's friend... again, couldn't get it up with her Jed - knows what he'd get at the end of the night, despite a dress in the color of red. Ejects 10 minutes in. Probably went to the bar and picked up Sarah, a 'solid' 6/10 with relative ease. Christian - Self procla… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/15 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Any thoughts on the FSU Quarterback?As much as I want to agree with most TRPers in that the woman is wrong, evil, racist, etc... (which is 100% true), him hitting her put himself in a bad spot, which he is now paying for. Yeah, she hit him first, but we all do know what happens when a guy, in 99% of situations hits a girl - he's punished. Especially if you are a college quarterback for FSU.. it's similar to being a low end celebrity - you need to keep extra care of your actions as society and the media can blow up anything you do … | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/15 12:40 PM |
| 1 | "No more Mr.Nice Guy" will it help me?I felt that it helped me. Now, keep in mind, I was one of those guys the book was written for. Literally every line of the book detailed my life. Does it help with seduction?... If you are a 'nice guy' then yes, it can help diagnose a problem of you wanting to please everyone but yourself (book in a nutshell). This allows some people, like myself, a better understanding of why they don't approach, or aren't direct with women. After reading and thinking about my own life, I realized it's not 'bad… | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 07:37 PM |
| 1 | I don't like to have sex on the first date...is this a problem?I'm the exact same way. I came from a past where I wanted to save myself... mainly due to STDs, pregnancy, etc... some religious stuff, but that really wasn't it. Just avoiding 'it' due to potential consequences. Case in point, I went out with this rather attractive girl to meetup at a bar a few Fridays ago. All went well, did my thing, ended up walking around downtown, first kiss on a bridge, went to a park. Then she invited me back to her place. Being relatively new to 'pulling' like that, I s… | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Raging boners during kino. How do I stop it?!This is a good thing. As weird as it's going to sound, I think when girl senses or sees your turned on, it's a turn on for them. Look at it on the flip side - you get that vibe a girl is being turned on by you, or you see it... doesn't it make you feel the same? | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Guy is paying $10k if you introduce him to a girl he dates for 6 monthsTotally felt the same. I was hooked on the book. What really had me wanting more and more was the character development, which you just couldn't fit in the movie. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/15 12:37 PM |
| 1 | [SERIOUS] [DISCUSSION] How to close with women?I found that starting early is key. Immediately be touching their hands/arms... especially in a club, it's completely normal. "Hey, who are you?".. and hang on just a little bit longer than a normal handshake. Take it to joking around, a high five, then brushing on her shoulder to get her attention.. keep bantering, talking, maybe the hips eventually. Basically start small and keep factoring things in. I had a real issue with this and still do to some extent. If I start small right from the star… | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Being too pushy? is my game lacking?The major mistake here was asking her to pick a time and date. Also, you don't have any direct plans except to 'hang out'. Also, you asked to hang out the night of.... way too quick, even if you know each other. Plan for at least 1-2 days ahead of time.. 2 is best. "Hey, let's go to Jimmy's Pizza at 8pm on Thursday" "I can't, I'm busy" (best thing here is if she offers another day, day it.. if not.... "Ok, make it Friday then." Done. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 10:06 PM |
| 3 | When, if ever, is it appropriate to apologize to a woman?If you really fucked up or did something completely nuts. If it's small, like let's say you forgot to take out the trash... "Sorry dear, it completely slipped my mind. It'll never happen again" Is worse than... "I will take it out tonight." | /r/askTRP | 07/07/15 09:43 PM |
| 8 | Guy is paying $10k if you introduce him to a girl he dates for 6 monthsI think it's incredibly ironic that my ex girlfriend of three years who introduced me to Ender's Game lead me to TRP. She had an original book, I read it, and we both watched the movie together in theaters when it came out. We were borderline obsessed with it for months. Ok, now back to reality! | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 09:33 PM |
| 6 | I need help getting girl's numbers.Great if you approached one. No number, no problem. Onto the next. Just as an example, it's normal for me to approach 2-3 women a day at lunch hour. Maybe 1-2 numbers a week, and half of those are fake or flake. It's a numbers game.... in more ways than one. Even another example.. probably did 20 approaches in a bar two weeks ago, only got one solid number out of it. I call that a win and had fun doing it. Don't rate yourself with a batting average. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 08:34 PM |
| 2 | The reason why late 20's guy hates his job but late 20's girl loves her jobI make sure to lick each bar before storing it away. But yeah, physical. Playing the paper market with metals is as good as playing the regular stock market. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Going out alone, finding a group of friends to go out with me.You need a group of friends into this thing. Wingmen. People you can talk to, motivate you, etc. Many forums and groups exist. I won't name names, but I went to a $50 seduction event in my big city and ended up networking with about 15 people. Going out with them consists of us amping each other up in a group, then roaming around the bar we chose on our own opening. We can always help each other out, but we really keep it solo. We can always return to the group to regroup or feel accepted again.… | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Critique my tinder dateI had the same thoughts when I started getting into it. You hear of guys going on Tinder, going for a drink, and boom, plated for 6 months or longer. Don't think of it like that. I can happen, but remember that those girls sleep around. Although the majority of girls on Tinder are sluts and are in it just for the fun, not all of them are. Honestly, it's kinda odd she's asking if it's 'going anywhere' on a first meetup. You got traction here. You made out the first time you met up. This is progre… | /r/askTRP | 07/07/15 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Probably the harshest slap in the face of reality and Red Pill truths.. Their really is no savour for a man.I hate to say it, but just remember, if you were a female any even just one person, a male or another female, confronted you in a similar manor, anyone you told would be up in arms. Remember that. Also, take close note of your girlfriend's response. I used to think that any girlfriend I had would be there to comfort and keep me solid in times of need such as what you outlined. Far from it. They expect you to keep them grounded, but offer no real grounding to you. That's just how it is once you r… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Should I even consider approaching at this point.I don't go for 'larger women' at all. They totally don't appeal to me because of my size. I've never dated or been with anyone over my weight. I will say, in the past, I tended to get into long term relationships and stick in them. This is because I was coming from a scarce mindset, but also because once the girl got to know me, they latched on. If you are looking to attract many women, sleep around, or even just have options for girlfriends, being small and lanky does have negative effects on i… | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Should I even consider approaching at this point.Here's the deal with your stature, coming from a 5'11" guy who's 145. We're almost identical. Yes, I do see 'bros' who are jacked or even just have weight on them, but look more massive and solid having an easier time with girls. It all goes back to looking alpha... and also acting like it. I would certainly not say to just don't approach. Improve your approach, gain mass, grow, and become what you want. Honestly, we both need to eat more and lift! I have been lifting for about 7-8 years now, bu… | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 02:09 PM |
| 2 | The reason why late 20's guy hates his job but late 20's girl loves her jobYep, I've thought about this many times. Balance is key... but I'd still edge more towards saving because it's more likely than not you'll be here past age 50. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 02:02 PM |
| 5 | The reason why late 20's guy hates his job but late 20's girl loves her jobI'd have to say 'stones' which have held their value throughout history have a better chance at keeping value than ones and zeros on a harddrive. But yeah, I get your point on the 'stones' thing. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Guys who were never good at "talking" their whole life, how did you change/improve?Best tip: Develop actually being interested in what they have to say. For the first 27 or so years of my life, I just generally regarded what others had to say as lame, stupid, or not matching my opinion. I didn't want to listen to anyone, nor input anything into conversations. I made my biggest strides when I actually cared about what people had to say, even if it was the direct opposite of what I thought, or if I even thought it was stupid. Now for a drill or exercise - If you have wings, play… | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 01:13 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Witnessed incredible Blue Pill moment at 4th of July partyIsn't it rational for even non-TRPers to not do that? A little something called social calibration. It's fucking weird. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 12:54 PM |
| 3 | My theory on LTR vs Single/plate spinning100% agreed. Been in three LTRs and each of them started and ended the same way. I'm on top of my game, crushing it, usually about a year out of a breakup with the previous. Then I catch onto a girl, we get into a relationship, 1-2 years go by and because I don't have to work for anything, I get soft. When dating around, you're constantly out 'hunting for food' (girls), thus 'staying in shape' (SMV). | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Captain save a broActually, I think he's getting setup nicely to accept TRP, but only if he wants. So he'll be in this relationship through the end of his college career probably. The girl is 16, so she has 2-3 more years until she's hitting college herself and ends up breaking it off saying "I just want to be free and have fun in college"... aka ride the cock carousel. He'll end up hurt, sad, being a little beta bitch, like many of us were. Thus, if then he is exposed to TRP in some way, usually through someone … | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 12:44 PM |
| 1 | How to stop clouds appearing before brain under stress ? aka 'somewhat 30% near to brain freeze ' .No, sex with a partner is completely different. Sex with a partner is good and is satisfying instinctive needs. It's when men jack off to pixels on a screen it's bad. This really messes with your brain. Fantasizing isn't as bad, but I still believe it isn't great. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/15 12:31 PM |
| 1 | The reason why late 20's guy hates his job but late 20's girl loves her jobMine was 27. Not to oversimplify it, but I think it relates directly to them knowing the wall is coming for them. We on the other hand are looking more longterm and have much more time to grow and expand. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 12:30 PM |
| 20 | The reason why late 20's guy hates his job but late 20's girl loves her jobYes, they 100% will, I subscribe to both those and any mention immediately gets trashed. I treat mine more like a 'write off' in my head. As crazy as it sounds, look what's happening in Greece right now. Shit can happen and it's a last resort backup. 5% or so of your wealth in metals isn't over the top, which is why I mentioned it last. The bulk of your investments should be in paper assets like mutual funds, stocks, bonds, etc... real estate is really great too, but typically requires more capi… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/15 01:40 AM |
| 52 | The reason why late 20's guy hates his job but late 20's girl loves her jobBiology teacher to be exact. But yes, point taken. That just set in - hard. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/15 10:48 PM |
| 11 | AWALT caught me off guardSo, you recruit someone or yourself to meet her quota, then you are "rewarded" with the chance to take her out and pay for a meal for her. She then has the option of whether or not she wants sex from you. Sounds like a great deal to me. Where can I sign up? ..... I mean, as the girl. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/15 10:05 PM |
| 135 | The reason why late 20's guy hates his job but late 20's girl loves her jobCase in point: Ex girlfriend had only $3k in savings (aka, 'play money'), yet went to Europe that summer, and only had about $1.5k in her 401k. She's been working as a teacher for 3 years. I am the complete opposite. I max out an IRA, contribute 6% to a 401k, invest in additional mutual funds, and even buy precious metals. Now, believe me, I'm probably a bit overloaded on the investing, but I figure I'll do it when I'm younger and have an easier time later. I'd rather not be 35 or 40 and be in a… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/15 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Beta male needs adviceBeen there.. well kinda. In my past life, I would go goo goo over a girl who was up to my standards, which were relatively low to medium. Basically, equal SMV at the time. Oh man, someone likes me?! They're kinda cute.. I'm all in! Why? Because I had no other options, no game, low SMV, and took whatever the frier spit out. I've recently fixed this though 6 months of greatly improving SMV, but also talking to more girls and getting out there. Abundance. It's as easy as having two girls interested… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/15 09:49 PM |
| 2 | A blue-pill adventure of King_Eggroll: The Rape AccusationI would have freaked the fuck out back then, or hell, even today for that matter in the same scenario. Glad to see things worked out for you. Typical case of a girl throwing anyone, even someone she 'cares' about out the window when her ass is on the line. Especially when younger, parents are like God judging you - judge, jury, and executioner. With no way out, she reverted to her only option to save herself. I remember back in college, my girlfriend (of 3 years at the time, pre-TRP) and I would… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/15 09:38 PM |
| 1 | How to stop clouds appearing before brain under stress ? aka 'somewhat 30% near to brain freeze ' .You feel good because testosterone production peaks around 7 days time. As long as you aren't rubbing one out everyday (or even more) you're probably in the clear. I will say that viewing porn as opposed to just using your mind makes a BIG difference. It seems porn will throw you off much more and generally leads to addictive behaviors if you can't keep it in check. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/15 07:32 PM |
| 1 | How to drop plates?Depends on the involvement with her. I would not do face to face though... text might seem a bit inconsiderate if you've been seeing each other for a longer amount of time. I would just reassure her you had a great time with her (because hopefully you did while with her) and that it's time for you to move on due to XYZ (non-women related things). | /r/askTRP | 06/07/15 03:31 PM |
| 3 | How to drop plates?I think it is. It's 'better' than just not responding or getting back to them if that affects you. It's being direct and straight up. "Hey, I can't continue to do this with you anymore. Something came up." ... if you even feel like giving that much info out. Personally, I'd just tell them you have to concentrate on "something else"... alluding to work, career, hobbies, etc... | /r/askTRP | 06/07/15 02:56 PM |
| 2 | Drink some water first.Here I am, sucking down water bottle after water bottle at work, clicking on this link. I can backup the OP's statement, just like we all probably can. Example: Even if I have one solid girl I'm going out with regularly and another I'm just texting to setup something with, I'm less needy for both of them. Now obviously, TRPers should be busy in life, lifting, working, meditating, and slaying dragons and unicorns, it still believe it's a common trap that happens with the best of us when only seei… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/07/15 02:26 PM |
| 2 | How to stop clouds appearing before brain under stress ? aka 'somewhat 30% near to brain freeze ' .I found that it was. Now, I'm not all about 'suppress all sexual desires, omg they're bad!!' However I did find a hard reset for most people of the typical 90 days does help get your realigned with your inner self. 'NoFap superpowers' you might have heard of.... it depends on your level of usage. I did find these things did happen when going for about 100 days: Increased energy (not tired) Better critical thinking and less brain fog for work Easier socializing, not holding back as much, easier t… | /r/askTRP | 06/07/15 12:51 PM |
| 6 | How to stop clouds appearing before brain under stress ? aka 'somewhat 30% near to brain freeze ' .Number one, if you are masturbating, completely stop or cut back heavily. This tends to help with brain fog - from the hormones and whatnot released during it. Two, meditation. I used to think meditation was just for hippie losers, nor did I have the time for it. Good example, just yesterday I was out on a 30 minute walk/hike and sat down by some running water. Closed my eyes and just chilled for 10 minutes, then sat there peacefully for another 10 looking around. Had a 'date' last night and alw… | /r/askTRP | 06/07/15 10:21 AM |
| 3 | Good text responses to "I so would, but I already have plans tonight "You should only be making plans for 'same night' if it's a girl you already have seen or have a deep connection with already through whatever means. 95% of the time, you do not. You should be making plans for 2 days away. Any farther and she can flake or forget. Any sooner (same day, or next day) it's seen as try hard or needy. Best response at this point: nothing. Yep, go cold turkey on the number. She'll hopefully contact you with a rescheduled date. If not, you can reengage in 3-4 days (after… | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 07:42 PM |
| 0 | Suits make men more attractive, ergo let's effectively ban suitsI find a properly fitted suit with a vest and nice shoes is the equivalent to a revealing, sexy mini dress and 4 inch heels on a woman. Now, as we all know, men are visual creatures, and females go more on behavior, but in terms of eye candy, suits are our equivalent. Case in point: I 'daygame' regularly during lunch hour solo in our big city. Most men are dressed in polos and khakis. Hell, even some on my floor here at work do jeans and t-shirt now... literally. I don't wear a suit, but wear dr… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/07/15 02:21 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15Be outcome independent. Don't go in looking for numbers, make outs, etc... not even a good response from her. Go in looking to find out who she really is behind what she looks like on the outside. | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Direct sexual openersI find that yes, being direct shows confidence and is very alpha. However, opening saying "You're hot" or "You're sexy" can put you in the sleezeball sector fairly quickly. I find that saying things like "You seem interesting" or "I just felt there's something about you" are direct, show sexual interest, but are not as 'normal' as hot/sexy wording. I also try to get physical, even if very small, quickly. Hand shake and hold that hand a few extra seconds while looking at or talking to her. I used… | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Women's stares - thoughts?A general rule is to always assume girls find you attractive and want you. Period. It's good for that abundance mentality and so you don't stall in escalating or even just opening. It's a quick cheat so you're not thinking "Wow, she's cute. But I wonder if she thinks I'm attractive. Maybe I shouldn't say hi."... and boom, she's gone or you're too in your head. Bro, you're 6'3"... that's awesome. You know how many people would kill to have your height? lol They're probably eying you up because yo… | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 01:13 PM |
| 3 | went out sober for once, it was weird.In college, I was THE SHIT. Well, my roommates and I were. We always hosted parties, were always the ones coordinating and inviting people over, and had tons of friends. Alcohol was always involved, which led to many great nights. Girls always thought I was hilarious, being goofy, not caring, all that. [Sidenote: I studied my ass off during the daylight hours. 3.9GPA and MBA] I noticed after college, when I was out with friends or at their house parties, when alcohol was involved, it was easy to… | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 01:06 PM |
| 3 | How do you show that you're interested in a girl while also seeming aloof and full of options?Be sexually interested, but emotionally and even logistically aloof. Anytime you're with her, be sexual and have intent. Anytime you're not with her, you should have things to do, even if it's sleeping, eating well, and lifting. You should be doing other things such as hanging out with your male friends, traveling, or engaging in hobbies. Her hamster mind will spin when you're 'out with friends' or 'busy this weekend'. This spikes her interest - you sexually want her and she knows that, but it a… | /r/askTRP | 02/07/15 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everydayLower... obviously just don't strain yourself | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everydayCorrect. This all about vocals, not language. | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everyday5x5 stronglifts (lifting program) | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 12:42 AM |
| 15 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everydayI lolz. | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 11:03 PM |
| 1 | It's time to swallow the PILL (Guys who swallowed it while married your help is appreciated)I am not married and never have been. However, I have been in 3 different LTRs, each ranging from 3-4 years, over the last 10 years. Essentially, I've been married.... Been in many similar situations, especially with holidays. Me: "I'm going to my aunt's for Thanksgiving this year, I haven't seen her since I was 15 and they just built a new house. I'll certainly be at your grandparent's tomorrow for the second day of your festivities." Her: "What?! My cousins and all their husbands and boyfriend… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/07/15 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everydayDeep, but don't hurt yourself. Just moderately deep. | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everydayI agree there are a lot of ways and increases testosterone is certainly one. I certainly lift (5x5 program) as well as take in a multivitamin (includes zinc). The above is a more longterm fix, what I gave is certainly a short term fix (potentially long if you do it for months). | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everydayI never heard this actually | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Show signs of sexual interest in person?It's funny, we're very very similar. I also just finished NMMNC and fail to show interest. For me, its mainly physically, so that's where we differ. Also, like you, I was raised in a religious household and have only been with one woman. I've been with a few for BJs, HJs, etc. Always had LTRs and never did any hooking up. For me, I don't escalate because I don't know for sure if she 'likes me'. Sounds idiotic and very blue pill. I think also another thing holding me back is the sense that I need… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/15 03:48 PM |
| 2 | Take it slow, but I have her house let and we have lots of sex and hangout every weekend?She's freshly out of a divorce. She want to sleep around. She is sleeping around. You bring up a relationship, she doesn't want that. "Let's take it slow" is a nice way of saying "I'm having a fun time with you like this, don't screw it up" ;) | /r/askTRP | 01/07/15 03:31 PM |
| 10 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everydaySpeak to your cat! Honestly though, you should be able to tell a difference yourself before and afterwards. | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 02:04 PM |
| 1 | My GF of 3 years rarely initiate sexShe's with you for your potential for making money (beta bucks) in the future. Take it from me, I have an MBA and good job. Previous LTR was hanging around for 3 years begging for kids and marriage with limited sexual initiation. Eventually things went to hell after she got with someone on a European trip that I found out about. Typical AF/BB story really. You being a law student is causing her to stick around for the long run. She won't change and initiate sex with you, unless you play some wic… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/15 01:38 PM |
| 8 | Simple exercise to boost your voice everydayHa. But it works, am I right? | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 01:21 PM |
| 2 | What does the science say about male virginity?Your first statement is wrong. Think of this - you don't have sex, wait until marriage (if you can even find a wife that wants to do this), then find out you're sexually incomparable. Or, ok, it fits, but you both suck, you remember your wedding night as being lame, and both of you are grossly unsatisfied. Maybe the mojo never gets going. Or let's say she's had sex before, but you hold your virginity. Now it's time to get at it and you're totally lost. You can't be great at something, or even go… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/15 01:20 PM |
| 7 | The best way to boost your inner game every day.I agree. Also, if you aren't into rap or rapping, just running a simple game out with your wings. It would be odd with your normal friends. Basically, stand in a circle and tell a story to one individual. This loosens you up and starts getting your brain thinking of random things you can riff off of in set. Let's say there's 4 of you guys. One is 'the girl' and the three others are guys. One guy starts off by saying something like "We once found this castle" and the second guy thinks of somethin… | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 01:00 PM |
| 1 | The best way to boost your inner game every day.Both are great. One part of it is the endorphins and dopamine released during either of them. The second, I'd give a slight edge towards lifting in the long run - increased side, manliness, and strength. As we all know, women are attracted towards alpha behavior, so looking 'alpha' or at least not like a skin flint that the wind can push over is a good thing. Not bashing cardio or running. I focus more on lifting because I'm 145lbs @ 5'11".. however I do love running sometimes, just not on a reg… | /r/seduction | 01/07/15 12:54 PM |
| 2 | How do I let go?More girls. Believe me, I'm 27 and always caught cases of oneitis, one after another. X girl is 'the one'!.. then her attraction declines due to my beta behavior and she leaves for some football stud. Y girl is better! Wow!... same shit, 'Just wants to party'. Z girl tops them all! Until she meets an Australian... You're 17, bro. Use this time to develop, grow, lift, and eat right. On the side, chat up every girl imaginable. Your skills will grow for college when you will play the field there an… | /r/askTRP | 30/06/15 08:35 PM |
| 1 | How to party without drinking/very little drinking?I find it very hard to 'party' with people who are drinking. You can find this excessively hard if you're going out from 10pm-2am 'gaming' in crowded bars and nightlife. Usually I have 1-2 drinks from 10pm-11pm to get loosened up. Yes, probably bad. After that, I start pounding water as no one really knows what you're drinking. By midnight, the alcohol wears off and you're in a good mood, talking, socializing, and getting things going. You're not drunk or even tipsy. I'd love completely cut it o… | /r/seduction | 30/06/15 07:08 PM |
| 1 | First Day of College . How to'sIntroduce yourself to everyone on your floor and dorm building. This leads to invites to hang out, go get food, or parties. Help others move in once you're good to go. Girls will sometimes latch onto guys they meet early on. My three roommates and I found a group of four girls who we hung out with for our entire time within the first few days. My roommate ended up dating one for a short amount of time. But all in all, this opened us up to meeting their friends and so on. | /r/seduction | 30/06/15 06:02 PM |
| 12 | GF (LTR) will be traveling alone, how to react TRPI never thought my 3 year LTR, catholic family girl, would turn when she went to Europe with her cousin, but she did. Met an Austrailian farmer who like to travel and party. That accent, kangaroos, and Fosters... couldn't compete. Trust me - if the opportunity is there, she will take it. I should have never of let her go with her cousin like that. She should have asked me or I should have just broken it off. I wasn't man enough to, so I had my ass handed to me. Just expect it to happen. See if t… | /r/askTRP | 30/06/15 04:26 PM |
| 0 | The Hamster that killedThe ship's name was 'Titanic' right? | /r/TheRedPill | 30/06/15 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Emotional Bonding with Girls and using your Oneitis as FuelIn regards to your question about using her picture as motivation, I say yes, it is a dangerous game. Here's why: I think as much as you can verbally and mentally tell yourself that you hate her, she's manipulative, etc.. our minds naturally block out all the bad things and relish the good, after a relationship ends. You'll think back to good times, sexual experiences, and those chemicals that generate that feeling of 'love' rush back. Bad news. It may give you a rush of motivation, but it's com… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/06/15 01:27 PM |
| 1 | "No Fireworks"I think this also goes to show to you can talk to women, have 'relationships' long distance or from online by talking online, but if you can't meet her sexual needs (even by sparks or chemistry means) then shit's just not going to work. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/06/15 08:09 PM |
| 6 | How do you give off a sexual vibe?I'm where you are. Over the last 6 months after a breakup I really got everything back together - 10x better than before. Lifting, new hobbies, fun, going out, new friends. I'm even hitting it off getting numbers and dates with relative ease now if I put myself out there. I do feel the 'sexual vibe' sometimes missing. When it's there, it's when I don't care about the outcome and just go after my intentions. More of an animal instinct rather than calculated conversation like we all try to do here… | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 06:28 PM |
| 3 | What to do when consistently crossing paths after being flaked? Advice needed.You say you are above her, but the fact that you've posted this shows you're totally and completely thinking about her. You are pissed she flaked, or at least defeated a bit. One of the biggest concepts to gasp with women, seduction, whatever you want to call it is that women are plentiful. This girl flaked, it's no biggie. Even in your gym, there are probably 10+ that you see on a regular basis. Out in the world there are hundreds and thousands you'll encounter throughout even one year of your … | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 04:15 PM |
| 16 | Casual Hookups and the Effect of OUR Emotional HealthOP is just asking if casual sex and many relationships may hurt his ability to commit down the line. I'd have to argue no, but abstaining very well might. Hear me out here. I'm personally a guy who looked down upon casual relationships throughout his teens and most of his twenties. At at 27, I've had 3 LTRs, I missed out on a lot of fun times in college being tied down, and always was needy and pursued relationships with one woman. The downside of this was, when I got into my last LTR for 3 year… | /r/askTRP | 29/06/15 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Um...how do I kiss?It's all about practice to get good, but it should be really natural to start. However, one major tip is to start soft and sweet. Then go further if the situation calls for it. Going head in and sticking your tongue down her throat is not cool. Many times, even with just a new girl, you'll want to amp up things other wise (touching, kindo, etc...), then gently use your hand to pull in under her back jaw/neck slowly and go for it. Hold it for just a sec, then back away and open up your eyes with … | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 12:50 PM |
| 3 | What is neediness? Add your ideas and discuss!It's an attitude that your life will be just fine with or without her; indifference. Sure, you can still care about someone's health, wellbeing, feelings, etc, but at the same time, their decisions are theirs - they can walk at any time and you will be just fine. | /r/seduction | 29/06/15 01:41 AM |
| 6 | 'The One' doesn't really exist. Get over your Oneitis.Reframe 'the one' as 'your journey'. You can be 'meant' to be with X person for X time, then Y person for Y time. Each relationship builds on another. Just remember that you can and will always upgrade - I think that's where most people get hung up at. | /r/seduction | 28/06/15 11:20 PM |
| 1 | who would you trade places with? Chad or Ringo?Chad. I think you can be more successful in life in general with these qualities. Ringo is great, but is the cheap way in. Cheap way out too... if that band goes under, etc.. he's done. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/15 08:30 PM |
| 120 | Beta male allows his wife to be gangbanged by Chad Thundercock, wife leaves hubby for Chad but he won't commitWhat's really interesting about stories like these is how 'fucked up' their lives and situations get from Chad rolling in, banging for <1 hour (or more, but we'll say not in the picture long enough in comparison to their 11 years together). Chad rocks out of the picture and two people's lives are severely distorted and torn to rags. This is what happens when two people's lives are both built out of paper cards. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 05:40 PM |
| 112 | Some girls passing me by are looking at me and turn away when I look at them?? Whats it meanIf they're looking at you, staring, etc... it's a subtle cue to show they're interested. This can happen even if they have a boyfriend or are married. This is your sign to go approach. When you look away, you show lack of confidence. It takes balls to stare at people in the eyes - this is attractive to girls. One tip - I started out wearing sunglasses outside and staring people down. This is easy because they can't see you. After days/weeks, try it without the sunglasses. It should feel more nat… | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Should I tell my brother about TRP?He has to directly come to you asking for advice. Period. No way around this. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/15 03:43 PM |
| 2 | NMMNG for Women?There are 100x more dating advice books, seminars, and pickup material for men. I have read NMMNG and a women does not have to dive that deep into their brain to figure out dating. Men however do. That's not to say there isn't anything for women, but in general, it involves revolves around making yourself available and social. They also go over a bit into style and clothing. There's not even much about showing interest, etc because that's all automatic and natural. That's about it because it's t… | /r/askTRP | 26/06/15 03:42 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15Just the other day, there was a girl sitting outside a Starbucks I was walking by and I just walked right up for her and motioned for her to take her ear buds out (pulling out imaginary ones out of my ears). "Hey, who are you?"... boom, in. 5-10 minutes conversation. Asked her out for coffee. She was seeing someone casually. I said, ok, cool, wished her an awesome day, and went about my life. You can do the same, although the gym is a little different as people are busy working out, not just sit… | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 03:34 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15This. I've found the only way to 'win exes back' is to improve yourself 10-fold. They might see it or heard from friends, then boom, they'll contact you. Usually other single women will see this and gravitate towards you.. or of course, cold approach while improving. If they don't, well you're out doing you and have other options, so it's a win-win. | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 03:31 PM |
| 17 | [FR] Blue ballsGood FR. Honestly, at the point where she was still holding your hand at the very end saying she had to go and you finally gave in and said "Ok"... she wanted you to keep holding her hand, take her inside, in the car, where ever. That was her LMR kicking in hardcore. It didn't make sense to her rational mind blurting that out, but she had 'teh feelz'. If you are in NYC next week, make sure you have your logistics worked out that you can stay at her place for the night. Or she can come to yours. … | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 02:36 PM |
| 2 | What could I be doing better appearance-wise? [20M]Yeah, I just had a quick discussion with these two attractive girls at work. One is married and one has a boyfriend she lives with. The boyfriend girl said randomly 'Yeah, I really noticed your beard coming in this week.I was like whoa, that's different'. So asked them both if I should keep it. It was a resounding 'Yes, it looks rugged. I like that look.' It will look straggly and stupid for a bit, but just keep trimming it down to a certain level. My parents bought my this for Christmas: http:/… | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 02:13 PM |
| 1 | What could I be doing better appearance-wise? [20M]Stubble all over. Sideburns work for some guys. I even tried it, but it just didn't look good. I think they work for guys with short hair on the sides, but more on top. Kinda like that 1950's "Grease" look with leather jackets and stuff. | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 02:08 PM |
| 1 | What could I be doing better appearance-wise? [20M]Exact same thing - patches on both sides. Chin is nice and dark, patches, then randomness on the cheeks. It's funny you ask, because those patches just started coming in recently. You'll die when you hear my theory on how though.... NoFap. Yes, you heard right. I cut out all porn for the last 90 days so far. Testosterone builds up. I also started lifting a little heavier and eating more protein... again, increasing testosterone. Just in the last 1-2 weeks, I've seen these patches starting to fil… | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: My First Cold ApproachJust a high five from a fellow TRPer who also got out of a 3 year LTR a few months ago and found myself here. Typical blue pill story. I would highly suggest lifting as everyone will say. Increases looks over the long run, but confidence over the short (and certainly long run too). Confidence comes with more experiences with women and general life things. Get out and do more. If you were like me, over those 3 years, so probably got into a comfort zone and failed to get out and do new things. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 01:39 PM |
| 1 | 3 months into the seduction game. Huge improvements in all areas, but problems closing. Was your journey like this? (story within)I am great getting physical with one girl, that I've gone out with once or twice and that I know 'likes me'. With everyone else, I freeze up, don't escalate, don't touch. However, I've been getting over it. Basically, just keep progressing and escalating... slowly of course. Even sometimes just randomly back off. Jump back in doing the same thing or upping it a notch in a minute or two. If you reach a point where she doesn't like it, again, back off, go back a step. Then progress to that level a… | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 01:35 PM |
| 7 | What could I be doing better appearance-wise? [20M]Nah, bro, you DO NOT need cosmetic surgery or anything drastic. Here are my appearance tips specifically for you: Facial hair - at least some stub. Not all guys look good with beards, but beards are sexy to women. 95% of guys can pull off stub. At 20, you should be shaving. Clean shaven, baby faces generally work ok with suits, but everything else, not really. In general, you just look young - I have the exact same issue when I used to cleanly shave every week and let it grow in. I now use a tri… | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Can anyone recommend a book or some material that focuses on conversation threadingTodd's solid, but his game is quite different than most. It's very simple and he's not over the top. He's always moving the conversation forward (threading, etc). He minimizes his mistakes and doesn't give a girl a chance to really reject him. Then keeps moving it forward again. If there is any remote rejection, etc, he just slightly backs off, then re-amps it up. You don't really need a book or anything on threading. What you do need to have is an actual interest in the topic, or really an actu… | /r/seduction | 26/06/15 01:03 PM |
| 1 | You have a sexual relationship with your smart phone and your computer and it's killing your desire to pursue women.Porn fucks your head up. Two big factors - it makes you bond with numerous clickable, pixelated 'women', tricking your mind into thinking it's spreading it's seed and/or has options. And two, bonds you away from other people and activities, more towards visual stimuli. Also, with all the additional stimulti of fantasies, fetishes, clothes, scenarios, etc that you search for in porn, 'normal' interactions with genuinely attractive real women won't get you going as much. With an ex LTR, I had to v… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Fighting and getting arrested, or getting a job but being a pussy.In my opinion, by punching him, making a scene, and getting arrested, you'd be breaking frame and making a fool of yourself. Not to mention the record. Another example: 2 years ago for St. Patty's Day I was out with my girlfriend, her cousin, and her friend. Crowded Irish bar, people drink all day downtown, we just got there. Had our drinks, dancing, this guy kept bumping into me... hard. Multiple times. The girls knew it, I had beer kept being spilled on me, sometimes my own, sometimes his. Eve… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else have problems falling asleep next to a girl and inadvertently keep her up all night because you are being physically needy?If you were escalating like that, then you did mostly right there. It's also ok not to F-close the first time, despite what most will try to drill in your head! Everyone goes to different stages at different times. Best thing you can learn to do is understand how far it's going, basically how far you're taking it, then stop. Feel her out for it... if you're pushing and she's enjoying it, keep it up. If either of you wants to chill out, do so. Sounds to me like she wanted to sleep due to work in … | /r/seduction | 25/06/15 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have problems falling asleep next to a girl and inadvertently keep her up all night because you are being physically needy?I had this happen once. Drove an hour to hang out with this girl I was seeing that I knew through a friend at her apartment at her college a few months ago. Bad idea to drive that far, number one. She put on a movie, then Netflix crapped out and the TV was on. It was late, so those late night infomercials were running ALL NIGHT. This mainly kept me up - I sleep in complete silence. She sleeps with the TV on every night. I kept trying to escalate, but she just happened to of have her wisdom teeth… | /r/seduction | 25/06/15 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Observing a Flock of Wild BetasTRP Analysis: Stretch as normal, some cadio ok, stength training is more important. Stamina and endurance can come with high rep days. Women do pay attention to men's bodies. It does not depend on the guy. Agree - work out for yourself... and others, because they're looking too. Motivation. Increase WHITE meats and egg WHITES. Red meats are ok, but too much isn't good. White meats are all good. Same with eggs... yes, cholesterol in the yolk is good cholesterol, but too much can throw shit off. S… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 06:31 PM |
| 1 | The true meaning of 'not giving a fuck'Ha, no wasn't Simple Pickup. It was actually Max from RSD. Although, I will agree Simple Pickup's stuff is really outlandish and random... probably a bit try hard, but works on the same "I'm just having fun and don't care" principle. The Batman one comes to mind | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 03:15 PM |
| 2 | The Importance of Male Bonding Activities and Life SkillsI always had trouble with male bonding. As a kid, my parents kept me out of boy scouts as my friends were camping, building soapbox derby cars, and 'maning up' as kids. Fathers and other figures were being fused into their minds. Me on the other hand, I was hanging out with my mother in the summers as dad was at work. I helped around the house, we watched the Price is Right, and she took me to the pool to associate in a controlled environment with said boyscout friends. That's probably where the… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 01:24 PM |
| 4 | [FR] My year since taking the Pill.Question: How would you rank your social skills before TRP? From being with 7 people, previous lifting, two LTRs... I'll assume average to above average social skills. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 12:55 PM |
| -2 | Is this real-life?Bro. I didn't expect the ending. I think this is a great field report on the power of endorphins and dopamine in humans in general. I very rarely run, but I know after you push through the wall, it's like you're jacked up on drugs. Similar effects happen if you're lifting and drop to do 20 pushups after a hard set... you're toast, but your body goes into beast mode. | /r/seduction | 25/06/15 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Those of You Getting "You Are Not A Member"Fixed. I convinced myself the end wasn't near. Woke up, logged on, figured we were done. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Natural Game is KingNatural game would be going up to a girl you find attractive on the street, in a bar, any social situation and saying "Hey, who are you?".. meet, greet, banter, joke, get number, done. Completely different than 95% of PUA gimmicks. It's as natural as you can get. You think she's hot, you go and want to find out more about her. it's that simple. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/15 08:43 PM |
| 2 | You have no excuse to eat like a fat piece of shitGlad I didn't take the leftover (free) PopTart in the break room someone left a few minutes ago. Currently eating the kale, beans, and chicken I brought. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/15 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Video games are a waste of your life.I used to be a big gamer. Final Fantasy, Zelda, and online RPGs. No, i did not play WoW or Runescape. However, in all of these games, the basis is to build your character to beat bosses and other players. You up your states in strength, defense, magic, and speed for example. The bad thing is, your mind rationalizes you're actually gaining usable skills. This is similar to how it rationalizes you're fucking hot girls and spreading your seed with porn. Both are false. Therefore, instead of buildin… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/15 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Dive deep: As a child, where did your validation come from?Thanks for bringing this up - the female teacher part. Now that I realize it, in elementary school, I was trying to be one of the 'cool kids' in the bathroom one day and intentionally pulled a shit ton of paper towels out of the roller thing. Everyone did it, all the badasses, class clowns. Of course, when I did it, the female teacher caught me. She took the paper towels, publicly shamed me in front of the entire class, and put the paper towels in a big ball on the window as a reminder. I was to… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/15 03:30 PM |
| 10 | Dive deep: As a child, where did your validation come from?Then I would say you don't have this issue at all. Which is a good thing. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/15 03:18 PM |
| 6 | How to f-close on first date without my own place?I have the same issue as I still live at home. I once brought a very attractive girl home after we both got drunk. She had a stunned look on her face of "Uhhh, so your parents live here to?"... last time I ever did that. She left. It's much easier to make the date closer to her place. Then we you're figuring out logistics, "I live out by XYZ, it's a bit farther than yours, right?".. she agrees, then probably says, "Let's just go to my place". Boom done. If you ever need to explain later that you… | /r/seduction | 24/06/15 02:55 PM |
| 1 | The internal conflict is killing meI believe this: If you're seeing results and progress, you want more and more of it. If you see gains in lifting, everything is stellar, you want more. Just got a promotion? You're an office god and want to come in and kill out that project the next day. We feed off progress. There is a Tony Robbins video talking about what happiness is and it's simple - progress. When we inevitably aren't seeing progress, because well, shit happens. We can't go 100% all the time and there are ups and downs. We … | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/15 01:21 PM |
| 12 | The internal conflict is killing meHey bud, I'm 6 months out of my 3 year LTR. Had two others of 4 years and 3 years right in line before that. Almost 10 years of one after another with very little time in between. I'm probably 4-5 months into TRP. We're not ready yet. I thought it would be a hard fought 6 months or so and I'd be all set, cured, awesome or something. I was never more wrong. Each day it's up and down almost. Some days I'm on top of the world, lifting, getting numbers, going on dates, not giving a shit, killing it … | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/15 11:16 PM |
| 3 | Did I screw up with this single text?Thanks for reality check. | /r/askTRP | 23/06/15 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Did I screw up with this single text?Still be learning. I thought it was pure gold. Any suggestion on how I should have responded to her initial text? | /r/askTRP | 23/06/15 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Screw up with this single text?Got it on the stargazing thing. Been in a long LTR over the past 3 years, so still getting back to basics. | /r/seduction | 23/06/15 04:08 PM |
| 3 | What's up with these girls?LOL at the last two. Outlandish as all hell. | /r/askTRP | 23/06/15 03:57 PM |
| 2 | "...stronger than 90% of men walking the earth."Can you give us a short rundown of your training, diet, and sleep? As much detail as you want. I know we could go on forever about it. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/15 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Did I screw up with this single text?Plate, date, whatever really. Honestly, I'm more of a dating exclusive kinda guy, but still with a TRP mindset. I do understand that starting out, you need to be sexual and moving it that direction almost before really getting to know someone. So serious question: would you suggest your comment to get it rolling again, or my [probably beta bullshit] stargazing thing? IE, are bars, clubs, fun places better than low key night types of things like this. I figure anytime alone is good. | /r/askTRP | 23/06/15 03:36 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Cold approach at a stop light.On a similar note, I was at small car meet at a local BBQ wing place. One out of four 21-22 year olds who looked like kids to me (I'm 27) flagged down this shitty Elantra with two girls in it. Literally just pointed to them, I guess made eye contact, and yelled at them to stop in the parking lot. This girls were probably 18-19. He chatted with them for 30 seconds, grabbed their number in his phone, and they were off. He thought really nothing of it and says he does it all the time randomly like … | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/15 01:00 PM |
| 5 | How Many Corpses Do You Need To See?Thanks for waking me up this Tuesday morning. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/15 12:49 PM |
| 1 | What income levels are associated with low/medium/high smv?Think of income as ball bearings during WWII - they were needed for just about everything. Tanks, trucks, planes.. without them, the war economy comes to a halt. Money is the same. Although the number might not be hugely important, what it brings you is. Someone with a $30k salary where I live is going to be rolling vastly different than someone with a $60k salary. $70+k gets you into what I'd rank as having a decent amount of disposable income. That cash gives you freedom, opportunities, and ex… | /r/askTRP | 23/06/15 12:36 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone else feel good when actively flirting with women, but when you don't have anyone to talk to for a couple of days, feel anxious/stuck in a rut?Same here. If I'm out meeting women or have solid numbers I'm planning dates with, all is good. Literally if I have 1-2 girls I'm just 'talking' to, all is well. I almost don't even feel the need to approach much. Then if they flake, I'll go to having no leads. Then I get uncomfortable and/or stuck in a rut. So then I run out approaching hardcore again. Then results in a few more numbers, potentially 1-2 actual leads. ... thus the process starts all over again. | /r/seduction | 23/06/15 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Actual timing of the '5 Phases'?Thanks for this long write up. It made me realize I'm probably rolling more into the bargaining stage actually. I guess there is some new rise of anger there too to some extent. Progress is good though. Reason I think this is because although I was getting some traction before (texting girls, actually getting solid cold approach numbers, continuing to hangout with new girls, etc)... I actually starting painting a blue pill picture with one. Like 'oh, no, this one's a little different. I'm still … | /r/askTRP | 23/06/15 02:06 AM |
| 3 | What do you say after an opener? (classical "i dont know what to say")Exactly. Doesn't have to be planned, but yeah, if you're thinking that.. say it. Better if you've been to Barcelona. Iffy if not, but usually they won't remember much about it or care later... you can always say you were just joking around if they call you out on it. | /r/seduction | 22/06/15 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Actual timing of the '5 Phases'?Thanks, this was a solid reply. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/15 10:29 PM |
| 2 | I absolutely cannot stop watching porn?Sub to r/NoFap too. Addiction is real and although some of the teachings of NoFap are very strict, they serve a point for those addicted. You need to go cold turkey. Start by deleting any and all porn saved. Erase any bookmarks if any. Setup site blockers as they'll act as another gate for you unlock when you want to watch. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/15 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Reputable charities to help Men?I normally donate a small amount of my PTO back to charity near year end. I usually end up doing Wounded Warriors. I'd have to reckon the majorly of those in the armed forces are male and I hear many stories about how many are cheated on while deployed. Also, I think it would be rather difficult for those physically wounded or mentally to come back and have to face their own 'war' against what we are already fighting here as men. Just my 2 cents. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/15 08:16 PM |
| 7 | Getting dumped is good for you.I can attest to this. Had a terrible 4 year LTR breakup right out of college. My needy bitchness went to insane levels, begged and pleaded for her to stay, which almost worked. In the end though, it ended. a 6-8 month spiral of bad times ensued. Years later down the line, 3 year LTR, still pre-TRP, had a girl dump me for some guy she met in Europe. I must say, although I was hurt, within a month or so, I was back on my path with relative ease. The pain wasn't nearly as hard. Armor up, folks. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/06/15 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Actual timing of the '5 Phases'?Glad to hear it takes that long. About a month ago I thought I hit an epiphany moment after some major progress across the board (not just with women). Then it went right back down. Frustrating to an extent. Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/15 06:18 PM |
| 3 | What do you say after an opener? (classical "i dont know what to say")I usually like to comment on something the girl is doing, wearing, etc... She comments back, thread is made, go from there. | /r/seduction | 22/06/15 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Need help analyzing this situationI think it's rather clear she has 'teh feels' for you. Kept amping it up via text to get you to come, wanted to get talk to you one on one, get you alone, see where it goes, etc... but with your girlfriend there, that wasn't happening. The better question is, you're on TRP, have a girlfriend (which is certainly ok), but then have questions about this girl. If you are thinking about this other girl at all, sometimes it's better to be playing the field at 24. I think many would agree. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/15 05:39 PM |
| 17 | GF fell for tattoo artist. AWALT.Typical alpha fucks, beta bucks story. It's cool though, I was there too. Mine involved a 3 year LTR, my girlfriend's trip to Europe, and a six month adventure of precisely the same hiding of the phone, abrupt discontinuation of future plans, etc.. it's funny how all these follow the same textbook storyline. Take focus on this though - She did 'love' you (love is just chemicals we have, but it's a feeling too). However, alpha tattoo guys here just hit her tingles. For me, this was an Australian … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/06/15 03:59 PM |
| 1 | One thing I did to overcome oneitisLOL @ Facebook purgatory. I kept my ex from college I dated for 4 years there for 2 YEARS. No joke. Then just accepted it as a dick move. Within a few days, she deleted her Facebook in full. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/06/15 01:29 PM |
| 7 | Do people disrespect skinny people? Is lifting the only way?I enjoyed this response. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/15 12:53 PM |
| 1 | PSA: If you can't get out of BB mode get your testosterone levels checked, seriously.I really wonder if this is my issue too. Been lifting for 8-9 years. Only put on 10lbs. Strength gains have stalled for months/years now. I'm skinny, but eat good foods... and a good amount of them. I'm always full and never skip a meal. Constantly tired. I sleep 7-8 hours a night, longer on weekends, but still fall asleep on the train into work and home almost every day. Struggle to get out of bed. The only thing that gets me motivated for a night out is being pissed off at not having success w… | /r/askTRP | 22/06/15 12:36 PM |
| 2 | How can I stop being such a nice guy/pussy?This. Especially pay close attention about the references to 'toxic shame'. I think many guys, including myself, suffer from this. Although the book is not a 'fix all' for our issues, it certainly allows you to understand it clearly and give you a chance to conquer it. | /r/askTRP | 22/06/15 12:02 AM |
| 2 | What is a good opener for texting/dating profiles?First, understand online dating sites are geared towards pictures. If you're jacked, have crazy pictures of traveling to 5+ countries, or have pictures with multiple female friends, you'll have an easier time there. Make your profile, random and sarcastic. Like a complete joke for the most part. Then start your conversations the same way. A classic: "I've been thinking of robbing a bank, can I count you in?" My specialty: "How well can you keep a secret?" (30% response rate, attractive girls).. … | /r/seduction | 21/06/15 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever approach women without first getting an IOI?You'll feel like that starting out. The good thing is, you'll notice changes quickly at the start! Keep with it. It does make a huge difference in 'seduction' because of the change in looks, but even confidence and other things. Think of how different I'll act and hold yourself when you just make some small gains and don't feel like a weakling! | /r/seduction | 21/06/15 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever approach women without first getting an IOI?I'm also a skinny guy, 5'11" and only 140 lbs. Yes, it is 100% true women do not like lanky, skinny guys... at least up front, approaching-wise. They will typically go for the 'hulk' like guys... borderline fat, but buff... basically they have mass and look intimidating to an extent. I do however approach anyways, but yes, I feel you pain. Just out last night, I noticed in general, all the lanky guys not talking to girls, but all the buff dudes chatting it up. May be other things in play like me… | /r/seduction | 21/06/15 03:07 PM |
| 0 | Tonight in particular is a great night to hit the bar scene.Ha, this is funny. I didn't even know this. I was heading out solo anyways. Cheers, good luck! | /r/TheRedPill | 21/06/15 01:01 AM |
| 2 | I've felt angry close to 80% of the time for the past year. Will this feeling ever go away?Experiencing this right now: Told a very attractive girl who've I've gone out with once to let me know what time her and her friend were going dancing tonight. She invited me, but didn't have the time/place down yet. It's now 9pm, no text. I thought about hitting her up, but said fuck it. Quite frankly, I'm mad. Had a similar situation happen after doing a standard noonish check in with another girl who made plans with me a week or two ago. Again, flaked and said she was sick the next day. I was… | /r/askTRP | 21/06/15 12:59 AM |
| 2 | Is my libido low?I can't comment on the exercise portion because I've been lifting since high school. But porn, yes, cut it all out. This made a big difference in my sex drive. It takes much less to get turned on, but didn't have any affect on lasting long enough. | /r/askTRP | 20/06/15 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Alternate use of Online Dating PlatformsBy having multiple options, you don't get needy with one. You naturally text less, don't break your plans to hang out with that one, and even conduct yourself a bit more risky (a good thing) when around here in escalation, etc. Without options, you text a lot, maybe break your weekend plans for her, and play it safe. All of this ultimately doesn't work. | /r/seduction | 19/06/15 04:06 PM |
| 2 | The waiting gameComing from a beta mindset too, I know what you're thinking. The answer is more girls - even if you actually do want to be with this one. Kinda paradoxical. Let's even assume you'd actually want an LTR with this girl or have feelings for her. Best option is to get more numbers, text other girls, and have abundance. Because #1, if she's actually interested, she'll see or feel this going on and become more attracted to you. Or worst case scenario #2, she doesn't, for whatever reason, feel the same… | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Text vs. Call for initial asking outTexting is best, but keep it direct and to the point (getting her out in person). Calling seems like a bold statement, however it's usually taken as creepy and needy these days. Making an impression in person is always best. This is why cold approach tends to net stronger numbers, rather than online. Online, you're just a number and a digital picture to her... IE nothing. Cold approach, you at least have a few minutes to make an impression. In your case, it was 'kinda' cold approach, although yo… | /r/seduction | 18/06/15 07:17 PM |
| 12 | Dating app shit test - How to respond?Sure fire way to pass any shit test: Be sarcastic. "Probably my inability to date everyone who asks all the time. I'm only one man, ya know?" | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Any tips on eye-contact?I always go left for some reason (my left, their right). | /r/seduction | 18/06/15 03:25 PM |
| 1 | What did you do during Monk Mode?Lifted - designed a better workout plan, ate better, set up goals. In the past, I just went to the gym and lifted things, results were poor. With direction, I've noticed a massive improvement. Traveled - Solo. State Parks, hiking, roadtrips. Took a GoPro with me and documented the trips. Even vLogged about it. Car racing - It's one of my hobbies, but I got more into it and really put my mind to it. Bought new expensive tires, worked on my racing line, and got tips from fellow drivers. All legal … | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Scare me straight about why I should start using condoms with my plate.Look at your bank account. Now picture it reduced by at least 75%. If that's worth the sensation, continue on your path. *On a 100% serious note, I really suggest you look at what you're doing. I've have friends go raw for 1-2 times I get a girl pregnant. I've had friends using condoms get girls pregnant. Not using one is absolutely nuts. I'd personally be scared out of my mind. I'd probably look like a cat being put in a bathtub rolling in without one. | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 01:13 PM |
| 1 | After going TRP, I want to pick a fight with everyone.I've noticed about 6 months in now, I'm regularly flicking people off on the road, almost without thinking. Not in a bad way though - they deserve it. Example: This one older lady is always in traffic with me after work. Every day she honks as soon as the light turns green at anyone not immediately launching their car off the line. Or if there is just traffic and we can't move with a green light, she blares the horn. I was in front of her the other day, she beeped, we couldn't move, instantly fl… | /r/askTRP | 18/06/15 01:09 PM |
| 2 | "I'm free tonight" reschedule...No, not really. Get home at 6:30 after my hour and half commute. Eat quick, workout an hour. 8pm by then.... then I'd have to drive half an hour back downtown to meetup. Factor in a shower after the workout and it's a 9pm start of the night. Need to be up at 5am for work the next morning. | /r/askTRP | 17/06/15 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Blondes vs brunettes, why is it that most guys say they prefer brunettes but society treats blondes better?Most guys say they like brunettes because blondes get a bad rap for being 'dumb'. They think they appear smarter or more intellectual themselves by not choosing blondes. | /r/askTRP | 17/06/15 05:59 PM |
| 29 | Just watched The Matrix...Believe me, you haven't 'fully adopted' it yet. I said that back in January/February and it's taken until just a few weeks ago to really hit some strides and have things connect. It's a really good thing you've come here from a breakup. I think it's the best way to get into TRP. Without getting burned, you have no fear or negative circumstances fueling your movement to the new world. Pro-tip: Don't try to convert anyone. They'll come when they're ready. Or never if they're not. It's really up to… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/15 02:07 PM |
| 1 | I just got rejected twiceBroski, I literally almost spit up my coffee here at work when I read what you said to her. Never never say that. It's like a cat chasing a ball of yarn. They have a great time pursuing it, but once they have it in their claws, the fun stops and they get bored. She needs to feel like she's chasing you at all times, even when you're in a relationship. You can use all the silly 'game' tactics like negging and DHV, but it won't do crap if you've given up your position. However, we've all been there… | /r/seduction | 17/06/15 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Faking and buffing your social statusFacebook is your online persona. Kinda like your stats page on a video game in a way. I used to post political articles and warnings. Shit about the stock market and other boring topics. Now, I've changed my Facebook totally up. I only post positive material directly related to my life. Only one post a day, absolute max. I started out having the idea to post fun places I wasn't even at. Tagged myself at some bar somewhere saying I was having a good time. At some event, etc... People took notice.… | /r/seduction | 17/06/15 01:08 PM |
| 6 | Feel like you need a little push?This is a big win. Been doing this off an on for about 2-3 months now. It sucks doing it, but once complete, you're ready to taken on the world it seems. I'd have to argue it even helps with approach anxiety. | /r/seduction | 17/06/15 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Entering Relationship - Advice RequestI've been there... 3 times. 3 LTRs through my late teens and twenties. I'm now in my late twenties. Each time, i started dating a girl, then after 3-4 years, became beta, uncool, boring, and set in my ways. Also each time, after coming out of the relationship, I hurried up and tried to get into another as quick as possible. This time, I tried something different and it has unlocked a whole new realm of attractive women. For the first 3-4 months out of the relationship, I quit talking and thinkin… | /r/seduction | 17/06/15 12:42 PM |
| 6 | How important is approaching?3 approaches is nothing. Keep doing 3 a day for 2-3 weeks and it will become very natural. Hell, even do 1 a day for 2 weeks. You'll see a big change spacing it out over that time. Even for me, the first approach I do of the day usually sucks. Second and third are much better and in the groove. Sometimes I even intentionally blow the first one or just go in to talk to whoever for the hell of it. | /r/askTRP | 17/06/15 10:28 AM |
| 2 | Relapse! Help?It's completely normal to have feelings like this when your ex comes onto you like that. I mean, clearly you had some chemistry to support a 3 year LTR before that. However, understand that what you were doing then and there fed her actions. You dancing with other girls, you having a genuine good time with your guy friends... basically, you not giving a fuck and doing you. Right then, you had value away from her she didn't think you had. This is in major contrast to what was probably your beta b… | /r/askTRP | 16/06/15 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Should I go with her and her friends to the sports bar?Decline. Work tomorrow is more important. Remember TRP - you first. Bending over backwards for some girl you just met and haven't even hung out with yet is bad. See how she reacts. Probably just like "Hmmm, ok." In a day or two, try scheduling something on your terms. | /r/askTRP | 16/06/15 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Is there night-life in big cities monday through wenseday?Nightlife here in our big city is rather dead Sunday-Thursday. Even Thursday we were just out at a happy hour that turned into a night adventure. Not many people out at all. Friday and Saturday it's packed. | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Call me Chad "I don't normally do this" ThundercockI need to buy a bike. I wonder if a tricycle will work the same? | /r/TheRedPill | 16/06/15 12:47 PM |
| 2 | RP truth from okcupid.You also have to wonder if she was alpha widowed ~2 years ago. Can't find someone better than that. Life is now fucked for her. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/06/15 12:40 PM |
| 82 | Lift even if you don't feel like it, lift even if you have excuses to not lift. Lift for discipline and not motivation.Neo: What are you trying to tell me? That I can lift 300 lbs? Morpheus: No, Neo. I'm trying to tell you that when you're ready, you won't have to. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/06/15 12:37 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endRed Beards, second level. Ha. | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 12:34 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endTelling them to fuck off (possibly starting a fight) would be a bad idea on multiple levels. Number 1, your personal safety, haha. Number 2, I believe it makes you look weak you can't hang with them and get flustered over it. Either sticking it out as I did, or getting up and leaving with the girl would have been best as /u/sunday_silence said. Quite honestly, sticking it out opens up more opportunities for them to hit on her or to eventually break you. Walking out would have been a good option.… | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 10:22 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endThanks for the tip, bud! | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 10:19 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endThis would have worked. I just think verbally confronting the group would have put me in a socially awkward position. I don't see any negative repercussions from the girl here. | /r/seduction | 16/06/15 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Approach or don't? TRP reading material seemingly inconsistent.Pretty good. Doesn't have to be strict like that, but if you need the structure, then yes. The main thing is to not just get stuck in monk mode for a year. Usually 3-6 months develops you enough for people to see changes and the habits you have formed stick. So although you're out of monk mode, you're still lifting and all that. Just meeting women then. | /r/askTRP | 15/06/15 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Approach or don't? TRP reading material seemingly inconsistent.Think of it this was: Many guys here get into 'monk mode', improving themselves, lifting, reading, working on their career for months and even years. Then they wonder why they haven't met any women and girls aren't chasing after them. They might continue the cycle thinking they're just not there yet. I advocate monk mode for a period of 3-5 months, depending on how much needs improved. Probably not more than 6 months is needed for most. Then transition into approaching and being social. You NEED… | /r/askTRP | 15/06/15 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Questions on PornIf it is only very small, just be absolutely sure you're keeping it that way. I see it as a slippery slope. Many addicts of anything (drugs, alcohol, porn) start small, build a tolerance, and engage in the activity more. You can go from watching some normal type genres to crazy stuff relatively quickly. | /r/askTRP | 15/06/15 07:12 PM |
| 8 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endI honestly don't think that would have worked. Picture yourself doing it. 5-6 overly masculine, drunk, big guys borderline trolling with you and a girl. Pack mentality. You say "Hey guys, with all respect, we're just chilling tonight after work. Can you just leave us alone?"... pretty sure that would have resulted in a "Ha, buddy, don't be all uptight, we're just having fun. Loosen up". Then the behavior continues, you get further alienated. I do see where you are coming from and it might have w… | /r/seduction | 15/06/15 06:58 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endI agree, I was in the same boat. Best advice I can give is get very comfortable with yourself. Also, expand your topics to talk to guys or even girls with. The football thing would have helped... or even if I had some friends in the military, I could have related to them that way. Relate and disarm. | /r/seduction | 15/06/15 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Questions on PornI myself cut completely out all porn. Some non-sexual related changes that happened: I had more time to concentrate and focus on more important things. Aka, lifting, work, hobbies, socializing, etc. I was able to connect with people and things much more. This is going to sound dumb, but when I first noticed it, I was at a car should and really could appreciate the damn cars, not just be in a coma walking around. Another time was out hiking. It literally felt less numb about life and sensory thin… | /r/askTRP | 15/06/15 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Any tips on how to go from number to date?After getting the number online, text her immediately saying who you are and continuing the conversation. She'll respond. Next text should be saying you'll be in touch with her in two days (state the day). Text her on said day. Start with a first text about something sarcastic or funny that she knows you by. Something from your previous chatting. Your next text should be asking her out. Skip 'building comfort'.. that's done in person. Plan for that date 2 more days out. 1 is too quick, but can w… | /r/seduction | 15/06/15 05:42 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Importance of investment on her endI agree with your second comment more (hence the title of the post). Since I spent about 2 hours talking, walking, joking, and doing things mostly right - I believe that's what held it together through the bar. Lesson learned though. I also fully agree with your 'lock down' tactic. We're both 27, I have an MBA and work for the largest corporation in the city. She works in retail, although she has an interview for a 9-5 office job next week. She may be looking beyond their alpha qualities to lock… | /r/seduction | 15/06/15 05:37 PM |
| 6 | What are some common ways men 25+ meet and sleep with really hot girls?I had LTRs in high school and college (all 3-4 years each) so I never experienced the 'easiness' of playing the field then. AKA, my beta days. Now I look back and do realize how many more chances and opportunities I would have had on campus and at parties. Being 27 ad working downtown in a big city, it has it's pros and cons. Most people are 30+, sometimes even older. Many are married or have boyfriends (yes, not even bullshit made up ones). There are more men than women, maybe a 60/40 split. Pe… | /r/askTRP | 15/06/15 12:52 PM |
| 1 | I want a LTR, but I've seen the worst of women.I know what you're feeling - kinda going through the same. Been there, had 2 LTRs wanted to move on to better prospects. Had another full out cheat on me. Branch swing, they were lined up for 6 months before this talking and texting, linked up, I found out, whole thing blew up. Yet, i still battle with the idea of actually finding someone of quality - a unicorn. Someone to settle down with. Hell, honestly, I'm loyal. I'll tell you straight how it is. I'll want to find solutions to problems and f… | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 02:51 AM |
| 6 | How do you go around inviting a girl to the gym?Why would you want to? The gym is place for YOUR growth and development. It's also a place she might want to do the same. More likely than not, she's won't be lifting with you and you probably won't be eager to do cardio. Keep the gym and your dates separate. | /r/askTRP | 14/06/15 02:25 AM |
| 8 | Machiavellian Bodybuilder/Miscer has faked high status on Facebook and is now reaping the rewardsI did something similar before. Girlfriend was being a lamer at one point, knew she may have been looking around (aren't they all?). Made two fake FB accounts, both females. Locked all profiles so you could just see the profile pic. Posted I was at happy hour at work. Had the two accounts comment on it, inside jokes, relating to what was going on there (made up). Within 10-15 minutes girlfriend send a text like "I see your enjoying your evening. Why do you never want to go out after work with me… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/06/15 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Text/call ideas?This is true - coming from someone about 6 months in TRP (me). I used to do this orbitor thing, long texts, try to build comfort, blah blah. Many times, the girl just stops talking to me, or doesn't want to hang out. With a new girl, I decided to reconnect via one text something funny that we shared when I approached her. Then went straight to set up a date. Boom. Instantly in. No "I'll have to check my schedule." or "Yeah, maybe next week".. etc. Had those before. Hell, I've even had girls set … | /r/askTRP | 12/06/15 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Books about improving game?I studied a lot (I mean A LOT) of PUA material. Hours upon hours of audio books, presentations, crap like that. All free, mind you. Every company out there. Honestly, it probably hurt more than it helped. Gets you too 'in your head' and you start trying to feel cool breaking down every little interaction, hand movement, and word. Nothing worked better than 'TRP' (sidebar mindsets) and was easiest. The closest 'company' out there is "The Natural Lifestyles". Both essentially are the same. Express… | /r/askTRP | 12/06/15 06:19 PM |
| 8 | "The Power of Horny" Part 2Chiming in here on the porn issue. I've done the NoFap 'crap' and there are truths to it. The 'superpowers' are real, to an extent. They're not magic, but since you're not spending time fapping away your life, you're actually living, improving, and focused on what you should be.... aka, mini-TRP for those who are not awaken. If NoFap was your subconscious mind, TRP would be your conscious mind. Women will start seeing you differently. Commenting on you. Looking at you. etc... Why? You're doing y… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/06/15 03:26 PM |
| 2 | I'm a young TRPer and I need some adviceAt 16, focus on this: Start lifting. You're at the age where you can start. Start light and work your way up. 1.2 - Sports are big in high school and correlate to SMV. Sports or a band, or something you're known for. Even photography. Eat well. Ask your parents to get good shit instead of garbage mainstream high fructose crap. Raw, whole foods. DO NOT get strapped down to one girl through high school or college. I did this. Long LTRs just to get cheated on. Get a girlfriend if she's cool. Don't … | /r/askTRP | 12/06/15 03:10 PM |
| 0 | You guys been to/seen girl webcam sites? I'm no misogynist, but I found these places and never felt more TRP in my life. How pathetic are the men there?I had a fun experience a few weeks ago. [Cam site money listed below] Started chatting up this girl from an online dating site. Turns out she works for the same corporation as me (not weird, it's the largest employer in the city, 55k jobs). So I manage to get her out, despite her being above my level in terms of looks. Personality.... we'll get to that. I googled her name on the site and found some Tumbler pictures. Provocative pictures in her panties, one nude, some lingerie. The nude one was a… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/06/15 02:48 PM |
| 1 | The swiping has begunI did the opposite. Did some other online sites, then started getting back heavily into daygame (daily, 1 hour). Results from daygame are 10x better and easier than online. In person, you're effectively skipped all the bullshit of messaging, getting her attention, getting a number, texting, and getting her out. Boom, you're there, you're already talking and have the best option to build attraction. From there, I honestly believe it's much easier than online to get more solid numbers. Don't mean … | /r/seduction | 11/06/15 07:59 PM |
| 8 | How often do you meet females that have a rational philosophical understanding of life/the universe?Many times, my ex and I would drink at her place and get into intense discussions about politics, firearm stuff, or elections. Mostly agreement and sharing views, but limited bantering and argument to keep it interesting. Quite honestly, I think we both just wanted someone to listen to us rant. This resulted in me thinking "Holy shit, this girl can actually speak and think correctly. I have a real winner here." DO NOT think that this changes her true nature (hence the 'ex'). Hypergamy, branch sw… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 05:54 PM |
| 4 | Chad meets the Submissive (#1)Profile - embellished a bit. What can I say - I upped my height 2 inches and doubled my income. Lying? Well, even when we meet in person, no one even questions the height. Income - no one needs to know. Added sarcastic stuff. Added random 'views' of the world instead of saying I like XYZ. Said things like "Most people live their lives in little comfortable shells - I like to break mine and live outside it" (literally just made that up right now). Think of what you'd see on those 'most interestin… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Do you keep an eye out for better girls than the girl you're dating?This. If opportunities present themselves in which they think they will not be caught, or Chad's SMV is well well above yours, the girl is all in. Read up on hypergamy and branch swinging. Before making a full complete dump and jump into a new relationship, girls will usually want a confirmation the new individual is 100% in. If not, she'll keep with you (beta bucks, even if it's just a dating relationship. You provide food, money, trips, expereinces) while having her fun. | /r/askTRP | 11/06/15 03:15 PM |
| 0 | Nerdy hobbies?My advice is to incorporate the things you love, like D&D, Magic, etc into your life, but limit them. I would say the same to anyone playing video games too. Hell, I'd even go as far as saying if women are a predominant force in your life, you should contain that also. Typical SMV building hobbies such as lifting, hiking, traveling, concerts, art shows, blah blah, on and on, are just the way to improve your SMV. It's just the nature of the beast and the rules of the game. You can't change that. | /r/askTRP | 11/06/15 02:39 PM |
| 6 | So apparently just not giving a f*ck is sexy.With LTRs, take it from me. I've been in 3 different ones over 10 years, each lasting for 3-4 years each. She'll be highly attracted in the beginning if you're on your purpose, improving yourself, and on your game. After a few months to a year, you'll notice yourself getting comfortable and lazy. You get off your purpose... attraction slowly dwindles over a year or two and then once someone else comes along who's at a higher level than you in terms of doing their thing, they'll jump. Then you wa… | /r/seduction | 11/06/15 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Social life/game suffering because of work schedule.Rock 9am brunch. It makes you different than every other guy shooting for 8pm Saturday or Friday night. | /r/askTRP | 11/06/15 02:01 PM |
| 5 | A program that trained first-year female college students to avoid rape substantially lowered their risk of being sexually assaulted, researchers reported.Avoiding rape in many cases (certainly not all) is common sense. Many times it's in college and many times it includes excessive amounts of alcohol. If you get blackout drunk at age 18/19 at a random place and don't know where you are, bad shit can happen. Also, what's up with the girl in the article that was at a party at age 16, got excessively drunk and then agreed to have a boy drive her home. That's just setting yourself up. Plus, what the fuck are you doing at age 16 doing that? I'm not a … | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 01:59 PM |
| 5 | Feel like I am stuck.If college is out, learn a trade. Welding, plumbing, electrical. Even automotive, although this field seems highly competitive. Just food for thought - my friend is 18 and has just started a job welding, working on the side. He's making $30/hour he claims. Not frequent hours since he's still learning, but the potential is there. | /r/askTRP | 11/06/15 01:38 PM |
| 4 | I wanted to ask TRP as a whole, anyone else have an irrational fear of getting a girl pregnant?I will whole heartedly admit I have this 'irrational' fear. We can say it's rational here, but I remember a long while ago I posted up a similar topic in another sub and the responses there were "You're irrational! Get over it! You sound like girls are out to get you." I've had a good friend 'accidentally' have a child with some girl. He's now paying child support. Had another broski at age 23-24 break up with a girl after dating for a solid 4-5 years and end up having to get married to this oth… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 01:09 PM |
| 1 | I wanted to ask TRP as a whole, anyone else have an irrational fear of getting a girl pregnant?Date girls younger. Problem solved. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 01:00 PM |
| 2 | Chad meets the Submissive (#1)Wow, really appreciate the post. Modified my profile a few weeks ago, increased responses ten fold. Just recently got away from long texting conversations and straight to the point. So far, so good. Flakers and unresponders evaporated. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 12:58 PM |
| 1 | News at Ten: Girl tries to game with with a pregnancy claim.I really have to commend you for holding things together in the face of everything. Major props. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 12:46 PM |
| 5 | News at Ten: Girl tries to game with with a pregnancy claim.Because deep inside, she couldn't handle the lie. Clearly she knew and was trying to get our TRP friend here linked up for the ride as he was a better candidate. She thought it was a great idea, but when it came time for execution, feelings and regret got the best of her. The major thing that pushed her over the edge was OP's call out on Facebook and getting the family involved. Girl could lie to our guy's face, but couldn't lie to her friends and family. As far as not demanding a paternity test… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/06/15 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Not having sex on first date, or day two, etc..I dig it. Thanks for the motivational kick in the ass. | /r/seduction | 10/06/15 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Neg in Tinder throwing my game off?Simply just because it's text and not thrown in with any flair. Like: "Wow, your such an asshole". Think of that coming from you to a girl over text or an online app. You actually sound like the asshole and the girl will be offended. If you're saying it in context, during a bantering conversation.. it can be very playful. | /r/askTRP | 10/06/15 07:24 PM |
| 3 | [FR] The Mimosas Queen$75? Shit.. are those like $6ish each? Anyways, you did the right thing. I always try to pay in cash just due to these things. It also makes the girl order on her own if she wants to drink. I never have an issue or any awkwardness doing it. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/06/15 06:30 PM |
| 18 | How I got over my crippling fear of rejectionI approve of this message. A few minutes ago, actually before reading this, I texted a number I got on Monday. Got a response.... a "This is a landland" automated message. I laughed out loud in the lobby where I work and went back upstairs. Thought it related a bit to what you said about rejection - it's no biggie. Tomorrow, out, do it again. And have fun. | /r/seduction | 10/06/15 05:38 PM |
| 7 | If you think no one wants youI agree and disagree. 'Fetish' kinda insinuates you're a smaller subset of the general population. Aka, no mainstream. So you're setting yourself up for a scarcity mindset. "Yeah, someone's out there, but maybe only a few since I'm a weirdo". It's better to just convince yourself overall that you are worth it and everyone, even though who reject your approach, would want to hang out with you if they knew more about you. You have to internalize and believe that. | /r/seduction | 10/06/15 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Not having sex on first date, or day two, etc..Got it. Agreed. | /r/seduction | 10/06/15 01:52 PM |
| 5 | How important was losing your virginity to you? How did it finally come about, and how did you feel before and after?26 when I lost mine. Not in great fashion either. 3 year LTR I was with had some guy from Australia coming for Christmas and NYE (long story, they met on a European trip). We were in panic mode and highly emotional. She was scared she was making a wrong decision, I was scared of her leaving. Dry humping as usual, she's a bit drunk, we slipped up, boom. In and out, that's it. Cool story though if you've never taken a girl's virginity, even as quick as that. She went off the walls bonkers with oxy… | /r/seduction | 10/06/15 01:02 PM |
| 1 | If you could do over your 20s, what would you do? Where would you go?This resonates with me at age 27. Wasted hours and hours playing Playstation and online RPG games (no, not Warcraft or any mainstream ones). Should have been lifting, practicing ice hockey more, and building a social life I wanted. Instead, I used games to improve my stats on them, instead of in real life. Now they are binary code stored on memory cards that haven't been accessed in years. Conclusion: Put more heart into your hobbies and be more social. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/06/15 12:44 PM |
| 2 | I came from a childhood spent mostly on video games and pornI was a gamer. Final Fantasy, Zelda, nerd-ish, yes. Enjoyed the games, but especially some of the FF ones, you sit there trying to get X item or Y weapon, or beat some boss that takes 2-3 hours.. etc... before you know it, your entire day is gone. I spent most of high school enveloped in 'play worlds' rather than building a life I wanted to live. I should have been hanging out with bros, meeting girls (stuck with one girl in HS), and going to dances (skipped many). Skipped football games and oth… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/06/15 12:41 PM |
| 1 | How do cold showers work for you guys ? how do you do it, and how long ?You do. After about 1-2 weeks, turning down to whatever 'cold' setting you've been consistently going down to feels normal. 2-3 weeks in, you'll notice even that level of coldness feels 'warm' and you'll want to go lower. I used to never be able to go under the halfway setting on mine. The last few times I've been checking it to see if it's really down that far and then pushing it further. | /r/askTRP | 10/06/15 10:18 AM |
| 5 | I understand my inner game and want to approach girls now. Best way to start and ramp it up?Yes. Plus stating she's cute does two negative things right off the bat: Automatically puts you in the category of random guys calling her cute/beautiful/sexy. She probably gets this a lot. You get written off fairly quick. Immediately puts here on a pedestal and makes her the prize. Ideally this should be flipped - you are the prize and she should be striving for you. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 07:43 PM |
| 1 | The biggest change that raised my confidence with womenFor what it's worth, the 'pickup crew' I used to hang out with years ago does Salsa classes. The one guy is really into it. They others only do it to help with interacting with women in general. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/06/15 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Your thoughts about LASIK?Muro 128. A godsend. ~$20 at any pharmacy place. Just put them in at night and they compresses the epithelial layer of cells down hard so they don't tear in the morning with dry eyes. You wake up with some discomfort (probably from the salt), but nothing 5 minutes of blinking doesn't fix. If you need more info on fixing it if you have it, PM me... there are a ton of other things that work wonders too. Highly educated in the subject since it took me 3-4 years to get a handle on it. | /r/askTRP | 09/06/15 07:09 PM |
| 4 | Girls flaking out after getting number. AdviceI've been having the same issue. Started tallying up numbers on POF, but when it came time to meetup, they go cold. Or sometimes, you just chat and all of a sudden, boom, gone. Hell, no joke, this one from POF, I've texted over a month with about 1-2 texts a day with hours in between. We were supposed to meetup, but when I sent a confirmation around noon the day of, she didn't respond for 9 hours. She then said she was sick. Another online, I chatted up and made solid connections with, or so I t… | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 07:00 PM |
| 2 | What is probably the worst area in the USA in terms of women and game?I've found some slight issues living in a more northern area. From November-March, it's freezing. The past two winters, January and February cold... teens and sometimes below zero. Of course, not Siberian Russia, but it puts a damper on the bar/club scene, or just general daygame. I notice a HUGE difference downtown during my lunch hour in May-September. People out and about, enjoying lunch, walking around, good moods. Winter, people want to chop your head off. | /r/askTRP | 09/06/15 06:47 PM |
| 1 | What do you do if your best friends want to have sex with youIf that is the case, by all means, rock it. Just be prepared that it changes your friendship. Good or bad. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 06:19 PM |
| 2 | What do you do if your best friends want to have sex with youNumber one, don't take this the wrong way, but... They probably don't want to fuck you. You're friends. They openly talk about sex with you. They invite you to parties because you're friends. You have physical contact - I mean, I had a borderline wrestling match with my buddy's girlfriend the other day, which whom she initiated in public. I don't believe she wants to get down and dirty. They sound like good friends and great gateways to parties and social circles. Use that and bring them awesome… | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 05:45 PM |
| 8 | I understand my inner game and want to approach girls now. Best way to start and ramp it up?Never wait for an excuse. You'll end up saying 'No, not yet. Or almost, she just has to turn a little more this way and I'll go in"... or sometimes excuses just don't present themselves. It would be like seeing 10 girls you want to approach. 3-4 of them might want to chat if you approached all. If you wait for excuses or perfect timing, you might only approach 1-2.. resulting in much more limited exposure. You won't come over as needy if you just walk up to someone and say "Excuse me, I know thi… | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 05:34 PM |
| 1 | You fuckers were rightSerious critique here... you sent a text at 2:30am asking if she was awake and wanting to sleep with you. If you're a man on your purpose, at 2:30am, shouldn't you be sleeping and preparing to conquer the next day. Something even tells me you initiating contact that late/early and wanting her to come sleep with you makes it seem like you're desperate and wanting some. At least from her end it's interpreted that way. Clearly more is going on, but I'm sure that was one of the things that pushed he… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/06/15 04:17 PM |
| 1 | How many sexual partners is too many sexual partners?It really depends on the guy. Personally, I have a low number as through high school, college, and right after, I was involved in 3 LTRs lasting for 3-4 years each. I prefer her number be around mine. Good example: A few years ago (we were both age 23), I was just starting to casually date a girl and the topic came up. Her 20+ totally trumped mine. I will say, pre-TRP, I felt intimidated in a sexual sense and also border line like I was going to be used without any real partnership. Post-TRP: I … | /r/askTRP | 09/06/15 03:28 PM |
| 4 | How to approach at night in a beach party?I think 'game' in general is about how you're saying things, not what you're saying. If you want to meet someone, go introduce yourself. Even at a party, introducing yourself isn't a bad idea. It's usually a solid go-to in all situations. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 03:14 PM |
| 0 | clean shaven or beard for first impression with the ladies?Funny story: My mom thinks and verbally states I look better clean shaven. "Clean up that dirty beard of yours! You look homeless." (when I do see her). Previous girlfriend and many girls I meet out very much enjoy the 4-5 day scruff. I now use a #1 trimmer on it to keep it a clean 1/2 centimeter all around. In my opinion, the majority of girls enjoy a bit of scruff, but it must be clean and defined. I really feel like completely clean shaven makes my face look like a little boy. I already look … | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Do you wear make-up?I've used coverup for bad pimple/sore red shit on my face here and there. You know, when you get one and pop it and it's healing. Gross - I know. Dab cover up on it, move it around with your finger, done. Blends in. It looks like shit if you have one pop up and you have this big red sore on your face. Other than that - no makeup. You're a dude. | /r/askTRP | 09/06/15 01:26 PM |
| 1 | "I want a man who can be himself, not one of those fake red pillers!""Just be yourself" is shit because for most of us that are here that means being weak, unsocial, unconfident, and not going for what we want. That is our currently starting self when we realize what's up. TRP is the change we need... a transition, a gameplan. Then we can "just be out NEW selves"... which is awesome and natural. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/06/15 01:20 PM |
| 4 | How do cold showers work for you guys ? how do you do it, and how long ?I rock the James Bond Shower. Mornings and night. Mornings really help. Gets you kickstarted for the day. I also notice a warm feeling afterwards when you get out. Direct benefits you'll notice are clearer skin, more energy, more mental toughness. Honestly, if you're afraid of approaching girls, standing up for yourself at work, whatever... cold showers, at least for me, get me out of my comfort zone (literally). This makes the above things easier to some extent as I'm used to getting out of the… | /r/askTRP | 09/06/15 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Your thoughts about LASIK?Take it from me, I'm a TRPer with some eye issues. Currently battling recurrent corneal erosion after an eye injury out hiking. Corneal abrasions are super painful and used to occur every other week when waking up... dry eyes and inability to heal. Special drops have seemed to fix this after 4 years of searching for answers. I've had a ton of issues with them. Had my eyelid almost completely sliced off and reattached. The hiking incident. And some other disease as a kid. All unrelated. Just horr… | /r/askTRP | 09/06/15 01:02 PM |
| 16 | How to approach at night in a beach party?That's prime real estate. 50-60 people, we can assume 20-30 girls. People are in the party/talkative mood, as well as very accepting of talking to 'new' people as everyone assumes they have mutual friends. Think of it less as 'omg I'm approaching!!!11!!11'.. and frame it in your head more like "Wow, she's cute. I want to go find out more about her." You sound really new, so bonus advice: Skip fancy long winded openers. Skip indirect 'gamey' openers. Keep to things like "Excuse me. Hey, I just sa… | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Best way to setup a "day 2"Listening now. Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 08/06/15 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Coffee date?True, but how are you going to save the table? lol Forget the table - that's not why you're there. I'd roll in, sit down, wait for her. Let her text you. She won't know if she's first, your late, whatever... it makes it seem like you're not trying as hard. You'll get something like "Hey, just got here". You respond with, "Cool, I'll be right there. Meet you at the door." Meetup, order, go try to find that table again or another if it's gone. | /r/seduction | 08/06/15 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Coffee date?Yes. I've done this in the past at this place with a bar that had a band we were going to see. Got there early, grabbed a table, and ordered a drink. She texted me when she got there and I said come up, I snagged us a table. Standing outside or waiting in your car is lame! | /r/seduction | 08/06/15 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Reaction to a rejection?This. She's not interested 'like that' if she declines to share her number. "Oh ok. Well, it was nice talking to you anyways."... boom, leave, go talk to someone else if it's a party, whatever. | /r/askTRP | 08/06/15 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Coffee date?Coffee dates are great because you're mainly there for talking, joking around, etc... but still have something to sip on and a purpose of being there. When you meet, hug, kiss, whatever level you're on with her (sounds like good sexual terms). Lead and get in line. Order first and then let her go. Just pay, no biggie, it's not he same as buying a drink in a bar. Sit and talk about whatever comes to mind. Joke. Banter. Poke fun. In my opinion, it's much easier to talk and get to know someone afte… | /r/seduction | 08/06/15 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Half way through 2015, how's your progress?Additional comment for OP away from my story I posted. Cut out all 'PMO' as the NoFappers like to call it. Just try it. Try a 'reboot'. 90 days, nothing. I guarantee you'll see a change. If you feel you have a porn addiction, you probably do. This is leading to your anxiety, laziness in the gym, and general lack of motivation. By seeing girls and jacking off to a screen, your primitive mind is thinking "Hey, I just got laid and spread my seed. I must be doing good in life. Time to conserve and n… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/06/15 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Half way through 2015, how's your progress?27, started TRP in February after a dying 3 year LTR exploded with her cheating on me with some guy from Australia. He paid to come see her, I held on and was a bitch. They had been communicating for six months after a summer trip they met in Europe on. January - Sucked balls. Depressed. Couldn't think of a way out. February - Bought a GoPro and decided my life needed more adventure. Started filming hiking at state parks, going on more trips, and exploring. Also joined Reddit and found TRP. Marc… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/06/15 01:05 PM |
| 4 | [FR] My Red pill weekend. This shit works guys, I'm a firm believer now.I agree on not bringing up TRP. From what I've seen, there's about a 90% chance he'll reject it and go spread rumors about you being the hookup type or just a mean 'user' guy overall. TRP comes to those who seek it. She was turned on by you. The shit test about if you are a 'relationship or hookup type' was her seeing if you were going to get all attached to her like the others. There are always varying degrees of pass and fail, but I think you had a solid pass on that one. She has classified yo… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/06/15 12:43 PM |
| 10 | Approach anxiety - What worked for you ?This is going to sound dumb, but talking to a camera. I run a small Youtube channel and talking to a camera just gets me in the talkative mood. When I first go out, usually daygame, I get out my phone and start chatting away for a solid 5 minutes to it just saying what I'm doing and what I'm feeling. No one around surprisingly gives a crap. That allows me to get over the fear of talking or approaching during the day with people around. Also, being talkative to an "inanimate object" basically cou… | /r/seduction | 08/06/15 10:22 AM |
| 7 | Hard time swallowing the red pill.There isn't any easy way. It's funny, the name is deceiving, isn't it? No magic pills here. The more and more I get into it, about 5-6 months in, my view has transferred from "Wow, I just need to lift weights, not give a shit, and talk to more people".... boy was I wrong. TRP is a full transformation of the mind and body which should take at least a year or more for most. Lifting is just something to get you started as it's an action. The mindsets, thinking, and gradual adaptations of all the te… | /r/askTRP | 05/06/15 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone think women are programmed to give sex to Mr. Right or Mr. Could be Right?I disagree. I agree with the "Mr. Right Now" statement. Basically, if you're at a bar/club/street talking to a girl, doing all the right things.. strong eye contact, manly voice and gestures.. you're triggering primal instincts inside her. I don't think women, men, or anyone for that matter, are thinking past that. For example, it took 2+ years until my ex realize or felt one night that I was 'the one'. I do however believe there may be a feeling of "Mr. Could Be Right"... essentially the same p… | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 03:45 PM |
| 2 | My Blue Pill To Red Pill StoryExactly on your latching on near 'the wall' comment. Short version of mine: Dated a girl for 3 years, met NYE 2011/2012, instantly kicked it off. Had a solid relationship, dedicated but it turned bland the last year. Let her go on a European dream trip last summer with her cousin. Came back crying saying we had to break up and her normal life was shit.. let her, she came crawling back the next day. Kept going for another six months until some guy from Australia is coming for Christmas and NYE. A… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/06/15 01:29 PM |
| 1 | How do you introduce yourselves (18) M ?It probably feels awkward since you're not used to it. I'm 27, and even my generation was leaning away from shaking hands back in the day... it wasn't until even after college it really became normal. Here's a tip with girls: When you shake their hand, don't just shake and let go like you would with a dude. Shake slip down to holding her hand, yours on bottom, hers on top for just a few seconds longer while you ask for her name or say something else. Those extra few seconds make a big impression… | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 12:31 PM |
| 3 | If you lift and have an ltr I'm sure you heard this shit testI've gotten the "you lift too much" comment. And no, I'm not massive by any means. Ignored it and kept doing what makes me tick. I literally only work out 3-4 times a week. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/15 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Nobody wants to swallow the red pill.This is the best post I've read all day. Love the analogy. And no, I don't even play chess. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/15 08:22 PM |
| 16 | Tinder , Okc and Online dating - favoring girls ?For online game, especially Tinder, not being 6'4", 200lbs of lean, cut muscle puts you at a disadvantage. Online is very focused on pictures and much less about the details. If you have that and post pics, they will be all over you. Now, I'm with you. 140lbs also, except I'm 5'11". I've messaged hundreds of girls and get about a 40% response rate, which is really good I'd say. Of those 40%, the majority of the responses are from idiots. "lol, wat?" or "haha ur funny" are normal. It's very hard … | /r/seduction | 03/06/15 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Are any of you late bloomers? Is there hope?I started in February. It's funny - it's harder than it looks. I didn't think it was an issue because it was normal for my college roommates to be open about their porn use. I realized it snowballed from about age 15 to now 27. At the end, I was 'using' almost everyday. You'll get a lot of mixed opinions on if abstaining is good or right. Here are my experiences: I started and lasted about a week. Next streak was two weeks. Then I hit up a 45 day period where I really saw some amazing stuff. Gir… | /r/seduction | 03/06/15 05:44 PM |
| 4 | Are any of you late bloomers? Is there hope?Through age 15-25 I was a lamer. Social anxiety, embarrassed about everything, red face, wasn't on my purpose. Yet I had 3 lame LTRs and just felt comfortable. Even found pickup around age 24, but quickly got into another LTR. Now, age 27, I'm really made some core life changes and have made massive gains in all areas of life. I had been lifting for 7 years, but just now, that has taken off. Social skills... snowball effect now. Literally, I SUCKED at anything outside of college parties with my … | /r/seduction | 03/06/15 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Question regarding Marriage LawsI'm actually in finance, so I have some insight in the investing portion. Things like IRAs, 401k, etc... retirement plans, are split in divorces. If you're like me, at age 27, I've been saving since age 24 and have a solid amount in there compared to my peers. I know my ex of 3 years had a total of about $3k in all her accounts combined. If I were to have been married and divorced, it would have been likely that should have have gotten half my saved retirement funds. Most people have 'bonds' in … | /r/askTRP | 03/06/15 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Without Morpheus there is no Neo: When and how to Share TRPDo we believe this holds true with TRP? At least in a literal sense. I've see a few, not many, divorced or married men age 35-50 finally make it here and figure it out. Funny thing is, from their experiences, they're usually the quickest to let go. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/15 12:58 PM |
| 0 | I need a reality check please (AWALT, plate spinning and low-quality women)I was very much into a girl for about 2 years. She was very much into me. All seemed well. Super family oriented. Religious. Yes, a virgin (*No, TRP folk, she was not alpha fucking at the time, probably is now though). Year 3, I started noticing a much more need to go to family functions and flaws started to appear. Realized she had no real girlfriends, no real hobbies. Noticed she never stayed at one job for more than 12 months. Every year it was a new teaching gig. Drinking on the weekends add… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Keep trying to bat 1.000 when going out. How do you get out of this mindset? What's your guys success rate usually like in night/day approaches?I make it a point to almost intentionally get rejected right off the bat. Basically, go with a high risk approach that has a small likelihood of working. Thick skin engaged, reminder it doesn't really hurt, rest of the day/night goes smoothly. | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 06:55 PM |
| 1 | [TIPS] Best methods of initiation convo in day game/public transport/on the street?In general, I've found what you say isn't so much the game changer, but how you say it. Go in weak or scared and you'll fail to get anything moving. Fully believe asking for the time and then indirectly moving to 'you're cute' or something can work too. My best times are when I'm just chill, probably got blown out 4-5 times before that talking to others and getting the rejection portion out of the way, then totally going in not caring. Yes, just with a "Hey you... who are you?".. and reaching ou… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 01:29 PM |
| 5 | How to become happy - Male, Female differencesI'll agree here. Ex girlfriend has a masters degree and was teaching a mid-level school. Upgraded to the highest paying school in the city.. even maybe the state. This was after moving around 2-3 times to different teaching jobs, which are hard to come by. Also had a big family, car, very nice apartment to herself, nights out drinking, world was her oyster. Even with all that, she was still unhappy and voiced her opinion by saying it multiple times. Why? Because I was being a lamer back then, he… | /r/askTRP | 02/06/15 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Contacting old friend from college...Whoops, mistype on my part. Meant to say: "Miss Katelyn. How's life treating you, goofball?" Think I should cut out the 'miss' at the beginning though? | /r/seduction | 02/06/15 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Lifting/bulking questionThat's actually funny (not due to your deficiency, coincidence-wise). I was in beta LTRs for most of this time. LTRs naturally lower T... wonder if it had anything to do with it. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Lifting/bulking questionI agree. It is. Thanks. I'm clearly not eating enough. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 08:45 PM |
| 1 | While we point out when women are being illogical, emotional, and not exercising critical thinking... are any of you devoutly religious?I think you need to disconnect the two. Here, in our world, there are law. Laws of physics, math, etc.. aka, things that are true. TRP is about expanding the knowledge of truth. So think of TRP as learning the laws of a science or math. Faith and religion is what you believe is true, other than that. IE. Where you go after you die, morals to live by, etc. These do not change the truths of TRP - they just go together along with it. Are you stuck on a subject like a higher being creating 'the one'… | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 07:51 PM |
| 5 | Recommend this book for inner gameThanks for book recommendation. Just finishing up No More Mr. Nice Guy right now which talks a lot about toxic shame. Realized that yep, I too am cursed by this. I'll certainly be looking for the audio book for this one. | /r/seduction | 01/06/15 07:04 PM |
| 5 | Grey - New 50 shades book to be written from Christian Grey's perspectiveThis may be the most truthful post ever on Reddit. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/15 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Lifting/bulking questionGot it. I figured it was best to be fully stretched out and work your way up to heavy lifts... kinda like pushups, then go into bench. Always did it this way, but look where t got me. I haven't transitioned from 5x5 to 5x3, etc.. didn't know there way a 'way'. Just recently added more weight to see if I could hit 170lbs and it ended up being 3 reps. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Lifting/bulking questionBefore. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Lifting/bulking questionThat is a big issue too - early on, I did not push myself. After many decades of lifting, my dad ended up with arthritis and fibromyalgia - basically too heavy. Thus is why I stuck to the lighter weight, more reps. Recently changed that. Just yesterday I was doing my max weight for 3-5 reps instead of the usual 8-10 standard reps. 'Program': every other day doing 5x5 in flat bench, squats, and rows. Every other workout, I factor in flys and overhead presses. 50 pushups and 50 crunches for warmup… | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 02:21 PM |
| 2 | The first girl to ever dump me is a single mother and waitress.Wish I had known this back with my first girl, which I dated for 3 years in high school. At the time, I went full beta retard. She broke up with me for an upcoming freshman football star our senior year. I didn't know it at the time, but he was hardcore alpha, not giving a fuck, and I really hated him for it. I begged, cried, and pleaded for her back. She would have none of it. Typical case. It's now about 10 years later and they're certainly not together. In fact, she jumped around to a few oth… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/15 01:12 PM |
| 1 | How has lifting specifically increased your SMV?Being 140lbs myself and working out for 8ish years now, I realize I've not been eating enough. Shit, I'm an idiot. Just realized it 2 months ago. Been 'bulking' for the past few weeks. No real noticeable gains, but looking forward to some bonuses down the line. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/15 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Are most women just dumb with money?Most women are not goo with their money because think more emotionally as compared to a man who thinks more analytically. Money is a number, a store of worth... a very analytical idea. When you think and use money emotionally, it tends to backfire. Think of those who ride the markets emotionally.... they often lose. From my personal experiences, 90% of girls are horrible with managing finances. Trips, shoes, purses, alcohol... then the biggie.. apartments/houses. A lot of girls I know are 'inves… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/15 12:40 PM |
| -8 | They'll literally throw themselves at her: FR from my sisters FacebookFlipping the cards, if you were a woman, such behavior would actually turn you off. Let's assume you jump on Facebook everyday and have to delete 10 friend requests and go through messages. Or you have 10 dudes every night coming up to you in a bar. Hell, what if you were getting approached by creepy ass people at the grocery store, Target, or mall constantly. We as men look at this and say "Damn, I wish I had the privilege to do have these opportunities. I just exist and they flock to me.".... … | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/15 12:26 PM |
| 24 | Anyone see the "Hot Girls Wanted" Netflix porn documentary.This hits home. Just 2 weeks ago, I went out with a girl who I got the number off of doing day game downtown. Probably one of the most.. ok, yeah, the most attractive girl I've been with so far. Lifting, new mindsets, thanks TRP for getting me there. She has a Kik account, so I googled her account name. Minecraft, blah blah, some other normal sites, Pintrest. On look, a 'cam' site. Well shit. Poked around more, found multiple lingerie/panty pics, even one nude. Decided to do the date anyways, re… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/05/15 06:41 PM |
| 5 | For the first time in my life...Move one to earlier in the day if possible. Two dates in one date - be a boss. | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 06:33 PM |
| 4 | just saw my plate's BB should i tell him?My opinion - don't. Not from a 'be a dick' point a view, but number one, a protection point a of view. Who knows if the guy is a nut?.. He very well might freak out on you, find you somehow, slash your tires, break windows, who knows. Sometimes people are complete nuts. Not likely, but expect some confrontation for sure if you do. Number 2, kiss your plate goodbye, but you already know this. So not only do you destroy that, you destroy their relationship too. You might think this is very noble, … | /r/askTRP | 29/05/15 06:31 PM |
| 3 | just saw my plate's BB should i tell him?Truth here. | /r/askTRP | 29/05/15 06:26 PM |
| 6 | Rejection actually feels goodAnytime you approach, you win. 1). Rejected - builds that thick outer shell. The next one hurts less. 2). You chat around, banter, etc.. find out she's lame, you leave without asking for a number. Or you ask and she declines at the end. Again, more layers to that outer shell. No biggie. 3). You get a number or insta date. Cool. Reference experience added. | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Can we discuss how tinder and similar applications may be creating a paradigm shift in dating?Surprisingly, most girl's I've cold approached in the last 1-2 months have been really receptive to being talked to. I only use the last 1-2 months because that's mainly when it started clicking for me and I ironed out some awkwardness and bad practices on my end. Before then, I was getting many dull stares and "Uhhhh, no thanks" comments. Even if they really do have a boyfriend, aren't interested, or are sucking at life that day, most are flattered that you talked to them. No harm no foul, Me: … | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/15 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Where to meet women without being drunk ?Ginger ale is sometimes free depending on the bartender. Just say you're DDing for the night if you feel weird about it. Alternatives are universities, malls, parks, or just general street settings. | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Lurked for way too long, want to apply. Who's in NYC?Go solo. NYC is huge! You have plenty of girls to meet and options. I've only been there once being the typical tourist, but there were so many people. I was scared to when I started. Your first approach will be hell, but the 2nd is easier, 3rd even more so. Approach anxiety is always there, but you'll notice it go from feeling like a 10/10 burden to a 1/10 light weight on your shoulder. I went out half-assed for months, then got a girlfriend through some other means. 3 years later, I was forced… | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Manti' Teo PrincipleWell, it's true. You can be The Hulk, or even have fame, but if you REALLY suck at just being normally socially aware, you're going to suck with girls. However, if those individuals who do lift, eat right, and have a decent job and their shit together would just have regular, normal social skills, they'd be better than at least 50% of the population very easily. Up the social skills a bit and you're looking at being in the top 20%. Most guys have general social awareness, but lack in the fitness… | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Not all girls like alphas1) Reverse thinking then says "If I be beta, then one of these girls will like me, I can be her bitch and have a girl." Then you ask you self "Wait, do I really want to be someone's bitch? No." You'll see a lot of women around the age of 30 want to date these beta individuals. They provide, they're safe, and they won't stray due to fear of loss and scarcity. 2) Alpha does not necessarily mean the godly beast of the group, so I do agree to an extent to what you've said there. Many times it does. … | /r/seduction | 29/05/15 12:45 PM |
| 2 | Why do girls LOVE being teased?I'd chalk it up to mostly just being different. Most guys supplicate, compliment, blah blah. She's heard it all. "Nice eyes", "you're beautiful". | /r/askTRP | 29/05/15 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Yet another AF/BB example.It sucked for the first few months, but hey, without the pain, I wouldn't be here. Bullet dodged, life on track better than before with her. I've done more cool stuff in 2015 than in 3 years with her... haha. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/15 10:10 AM |
| 3 | Yet another AF/BB example.LOL, so either you read another one of my posts, or this is coincidence. But she met an Australian over in Europe on a trip. They texted back and forth, snapchatting, etc for six months. Then he came for Christmas and New Years here in the states. 2 weeks after that, they're in a 'relationship'. I was in a 'Facebook' official relationship with her up until about a month before he came. She's a teacher in one of the best paying schools here. Nothing comes close in the state. Apparently either thi… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/15 01:59 AM |
| 1 | "Is that what you tell all your dates?"Oh shit. Thanks! | /r/askTRP | 28/05/15 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Am I fucked for life?Hey bud, there are plenty of people who realize what you've just realized even later. Think about that. Go with the advice here. Porn - bad, delete it. Go cold turkey. Stick with it. Eat better. Gym. Monk mode. Work on appearance. Then transition into getting more social. | /r/askTRP | 28/05/15 05:40 PM |
| 43 | Yet another AF/BB example.I always read things like this pre-TRP and said, "Oh wow, that's horrible! She's going to hell. This guy is a champ for sticking in there." Then realized it was commonplace, after it happened to me. Mine even spanned countries and oceans to Australia. A woman will let nothing get in the way of her wants. She will burn you, your friends, her friends even. Oh wait, her friends will actually justify her actions. Doesn't matter if she's super religious, family oriented, or even the town slut. AWALT. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/15 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Can a girlfriend hold someone back?My TRP experience has been this: Holy shit, my ex really almost had me tied down. This is great, I'm going to use TRP to get girls!!!111!! I'd actually rather lift, work on my career and enjoy hobbies. Girls are parasites and are weighing me down from my full potential. Girls can be gently factored in when I have time or resources for fun, but I must stay on my path. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/15 12:41 PM |
| 2 | Just 3 months ago I was scared to even look at a girl, today I've realized how far I've come.I agree on this cold shower business. I've been taking cold showers for about 2-3 months now. I initially picked it up off another subreddit around here.. I'll let you think on that one. It helped with that issue, as well as increasing testosterone and healing muscles from lifting. I am no longer sore and recover better. Also, as OP stated, it gets you out of your comfort zone. Talking to girls, no biggie. Work presentations, easy. Striking up conversation, yep. Maybe the increased testosterone,… | /r/seduction | 27/05/15 08:52 PM |
| 6 | Why don't women approach men?Depends what 'good' shape means. For TRP purposes, this is BIG, jacked. If you're a skin flint, it means bulk up. If you're obese, it means cut. | /r/askTRP | 27/05/15 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Life in your 30s as a male in the that decided not to get married or start a family.I'm 27, so not to 30 just yet. I'm having the same thoughts as you, OP. Currently, many of my friends, college roommates, etc are getting married. For example, my one college roommate is hitching up with this girl who no one really liked from college. He flushed is passion of being a shop teacher and helping with Best Buddies. He now delivers mail to pay for their 'life' together. Had another fat slob of a roommate just get hitched this weekend to another fat slob from college. Both will never d… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/05/15 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Ugly chicks are not any easier.Two comments. 1, ugly girls get approached a lot. Attractive girls, not as much. Surprising, isn't it? The less attractive ones will normally have their bitch shield up, just waiting to shoot down anyone. The attractive ones will normally let you in to see who you are, then decide. 2, realize that all girls, no matter how attractive or unattractive they are think they are a 10. Society has bred this mentality in females. That ok looking girl with her friends, who hasn't had a date in over a year… | /r/seduction | 26/05/15 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Choose your hunting ground carefullyThanks for the insight. I do make an effort to go out solo as much as my schedule allows, but never really have much success. I always wanted to prove to myself I could do it alone. My main issue is probably trying too hard and actually giving a fuck, only for the fact I want to do that proving to myself above. Results are 'meh'. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 02:03 PM |
| 7 | Choose your hunting ground carefullyMy experiences have been similar. Online is great for starting out and establishing an abundance mentality. Literally, you can toss a few short copied and pasted messages out after creating a badass profile and you should be able to get at least a 25% response rate. Of those you hook, mostly all of them should net a number. Of those numbers, as long as you aren't being needy and are following the frame you set during your first interaction, she should be down to meet. I have experienced some res… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 01:35 PM |
| 2 | What is your guide to redpill finances?"Pay yourself first." & "Live within your means." I see so many people shelling out so much for iPhones, cars, housing, clothes. All that is well and good, even goes along with TRP in the fact that you're increasing your SMV through those things, but you shouldn't put all of your value on those material items. It's funny how people drive around in $50k+ cars, $300k houses, and are in debt up to their eyeballs. | /r/askTRP | 25/05/15 03:18 AM |
| 11 | re: This is not rightMy opinion: Feminism in general pushes women's rights and the idea what women are borderline superior to men, not even just equal anymore. They demand equal pay, more job opportunity, etc etc. social justice. The reality is biologically, women's purpose is to be child-bearers. Attractive in their youth, attract a mate, have a child, and raise said child with the mate. Society is currently setup in favor of men's biological progression. Careers, job opportunities, expansion of thinking and resour… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/05/15 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Sarging Sucks: The Wrong way to Approach girls, and the Right way to Get LaidI found back in my pickup days that any time I was going out for practice I'd rarely get numbers, have any meaningful conversations, or even have fun. I'd call up the guys I knew into this, go to the hottest bars/clubs in the city, and run around like chickens with our heads cut off trying to 'stay in state' and build momentum. Conversely, years later, when I'm just out at lunch hour, at the store, or even the occasional happy hour, see someone I genuinely want to talk to, it always works much m… | /r/seduction | 22/05/15 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill Q&A Thread: Newbies, ask away.I go out during the day on my lunch hour in the city. Before, when school was in, I'd use a local college campus downtown. I look young and 27 isn't that far from the seniors and grad students there around 21-23. I would not suggest straight up bars/clubs alone at first. They're typically harder solo I've found. I did a mall once or twice and it was good. My buddy does Target just when he's shopping and has had great success. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Giant article called "Why it Pays to be a Jerk" Confirms RP Truths. Scientific studies cited.Yep, nail on the head. If one of us was alpha enough, we would have called him out on it alone, gave an ultimatum, and stuck to it. That didn't happen. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Giant article called "Why it Pays to be a Jerk" Confirms RP Truths. Scientific studies cited.Yep, we were. Myself especially back then. We put up with it a long long time before calling him out on it as a group. Even then, the problem didn't correct itself. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Help me pick a good hobby to get out of my house.Sure is. Everyone should start stock. They put you in classes so you're only timed against other cars that are similar to yours. My friend drives a regular non-turbo 2.5i Impreza and she does good for her stock class. Also, don't be afraid of breaking your car or anything... you won't. You wear a little bit more of your tires out, but it's minimal. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/15 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Help me pick a good hobby to get out of my house.Nah, I drive an automatic WRX. Usually just keep it in '3' so it doesn't go into overdrive. Works well. I've seen people use Camrys, Fiats, everything. Automatic and manual. No one is going to make fun of you for whatever car you drive. Loaner helmets are usually available. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/15 04:05 PM |
| 12 | Giant article called "Why it Pays to be a Jerk" Confirms RP Truths. Scientific studies cited.I'll take a look. I swear I read something similar on another mainstream site a day or two ago. Fun story, my college roommate was an alpha 'jerk'/'asshole'. He's 5'1" or so, 120lbs on a good day. From Greece, born in the states technically, grew up in Greece until age 10. We all verbally hated him sometimes. Us guys would comment on how he was a jerk, didn't take the trash out, didn't pitch in, was selfish, didn't care about his grades, overestimated and embellished everything. Yet, we all love… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Help me pick a good hobby to get out of my house.Number one, stop jacking off and looking at porn. It's doing a lot of harm to your mind you probably don't realize. Slippery slope. It's really hurting your ability to attract real women. Check out www.yourbrainonporn.com and Youtube some other stuff about it. Additionally, it's a waste of time and makes you lazy. It tricks your mind and body into thinking you're evolutionarily making progress. You're not and you're sensing this. Just a cool suggestion too. I'm not sure how much you're into cars… | /r/askTRP | 21/05/15 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Just found TRP, overwhelmedWomen front, fail. Check. No father figure when growing up. Check. Working hard and not getting results. Check. "Not to be a burden to anyone" Check. ... welcome to TRP, you're like most of us here, myself included. Read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' - you will be astonished. It's literally a book about me, you, and every other 'nice guy'. it's a good starting point. Try not to get wrapped up in all the 'women hate' you might see here. Change yourself and results will come. It's a long process, don't e… | /r/askTRP | 21/05/15 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill Q&A Thread: Newbies, ask away.1). It must be defined by the user. For some, they want many girls, a big house, a good job. For me, I personally would like one girl, but a high quality girl as a compliment to my life where I'm pursuing my passion of cars/racing as a side project to my career of finance. To each their own. 2.) Read books like No More Mr Nice Guy, The Way of the Superior Man, etc... all basically TRP related things. 3.) Force yourself. For me, it took getting my back pushed up against the wall to take action. L… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 01:38 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill Q&A Thread: Newbies, ask away.I'm 27 too and this has really helped me: Listen to 'epic' music mixes from Youtube. It sounds really dumb, I know. I download and pop on a 1-2 hour mix of epic battle songs while doing my office work and all of a sudden I'm a machine. Otherwise, I'm jumping on Reddit, Youtube, being lazy, and not getting work done. I use it to work out to and my workouts have gone from regular, unenthusiastic garbage with no gains, to epic boss battles with the weights and myself. Again, dumb, but it works. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 01:28 PM |
| 14 | Red Pill Q&A Thread: Newbies, ask away.Just to add a little to your 'monk mode'. I've always worked out, but in the last 1-2 months really ramped up 'training'. It's not not just something I do every other day for 45 minutes. Meal planning, more sleep, cutting out necessary internet usage. Hitting the (audio)books. By focusing and dialing in my time and effort on life progression items, I feel more empowered and on my path, which has lead to being more assertive, confident, and having a 'get the fuck out of my way' mentality. People … | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 01:25 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill Q&A Thread: Newbies, ask away.I've read 'The Way of the Superior Man'. It was good, but it didn't connect with me much 1-2 years ago. I shoudl reread it. Currently working on 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'. Mind is blown. Definition of me, pre-TRP. And even a good bit today. It's really hitting home. I highly recommend this one. I think my TRPers fall into the 'nice guy' persona. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 01:19 PM |
| 9 | Red Pill Q&A Thread: Newbies, ask away.I've gone out alone many times. I like solo because I don't have to ditch my friends when I find a group to join. It also massively gets you out of your comfort zone because it's something most people would be completely scared of. If anyone calls you out on it, just act like it's totally normal. When you do it a lot, it really becomes normal. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 01:16 PM |
| 7 | Red Pill Q&A Thread: Newbies, ask away.For me, this boiled down to not having enough references and experience. I noticed it when going to car meets when I was younger and since I didn't have much experience with cars, wrenching, and racing (legally), I wasn't able to hold conversation. Years later, with experience, I'm easily able to joke around and shoot the shit. I noticed I had a big void in other topics most normal people talk about. Traveling, food and restaurants, vacations. Just life experiences outside of the office. So I st… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/05/15 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Advice pleaseIf I read this correctly, basically your jacked, a bigger guy, and intimating, probably to most girls as well as guys. You're dominant and a god in bed, but rarely get girls into be because most likely your 'game' or approaches suck. You probably relied heavily on your social circle game through the drug scene you were involved with. Probably if you focused on approaching more, or even used Tinder or online sites, your results would multiply. I think you'd have a killer profile. For 'in real lif… | /r/askTRP | 20/05/15 06:33 PM |
| 3 | ok so i recently split with a LDR and she messages me this morning...Your best response there would have been. .... none. Or simply "hello" back. "hey! whats up?" clearly says "OMG she messaged me?! Yes yes, please come back, I still love you!!!111!!11" | /r/askTRP | 20/05/15 05:30 PM |
| 5 | Met a girl im interested in BUTShe's branch swinging. I.E. Keeping her eyes open for the next best thing while still clinging onto her boyfriend. Once you're classified in her mind as a better, more attractive, non-abusive match, she'll jump to you. Keep in mind that abusive boyfriends are most likely hitting a lot of key alpha male buttons with her. Confident, commanding, in control.. you get the picture. She knows it's wrong, but the reptilian part of her brain (which we all have) is going goo goo over those qualities. Keep… | /r/seduction | 20/05/15 03:14 PM |
| 2 | How do I approach?Skip the wing stuff for now. You'll end up being more worried about what he's doing or saying rather than your intent. I used to do this in bars/clubs and it ended up being like playing fighter pilot in a dogfight, directing the other people when to come in, leave, etc. Go solo. I enjoy and have much more success with daygame than nightgame. Make sure to use the 3 second rule - essentially, if you see a girl, just go in. Period. Don't think, don't circle around, don't wait. I found being direct,… | /r/seduction | 20/05/15 12:49 PM |
| 1 | The "Smart Guy" syndromeYou are exactly right. Even a course on personal finance would have been helpful, but nope, not really there. Even as a finance major, we glossed over the practical stuff everyone should know. There could be a whole class on that alone. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/05/15 12:53 AM |
| 3 | The "Smart Guy" syndromeThere have been a lot of approaches, a lot of flaked numbers. A lot of sleepless night with work and stuff. That was just a highlight of the good that has come. The first 2-3 months I honestly wondered if it was for me or not. Worth it, but I have a lot more to learn and much more to do. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/05/15 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Can a man only be an AF or a BB?A girl is ideally looking for a combined AF/BB, just the same as us guys are looking for a 10 who can cook, clean, as a degree, and can hold intelligent conversation. Picture it, a 6'2" jacked guy, on his purpose in life, traveling, working, has some fame... all alpha things. Oh, and then he has a shit ton of money from these things or even an inheritance. Beta bucks types of things - the provider half. Realistically, it's very hard to find both in the real world. Girls can find plenty of dudes … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/15 08:46 PM |
| 6 | The "Smart Guy" syndromeVery funny you ask, and no, I'm not tooting my horn right now. This past Thursday, I drove 5 hours to DC, stayed the night, and went to the most amazing concert ever (Nightwish, I love symphonic metal). I figured I'd never be able to see them and never put any effort into it... always said, "They'll never come to my city, I'll never see them. This sucks." No joke, as I'm at the concert and the first band was up to play, I couldn't wipe the genuine smile off my face and kept thinking to myself "W… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/15 08:16 PM |
| 3 | The "Smart Guy" syndromeIt's weird. I feel getting out of my comfort zone by traveling (problem area for me, not experienced at all here), lifting heavier or more intense, and focusing on eating even better helped. You'd think this would fuel it by 'making me better'... if anything, it's humbled me a bit, shown me how much more I need to see, do, and buckle down. Thus directing me towards my goals better and away from judging myself based on others. Just because a high school buddy or ex has a house, family, or is doin… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/15 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Tinder conversation that i think i fucked upI find many girls flake when you pop the number question. They're just looking for validation, not to really meet anyone. Most of the time, this is it. Even had conversations with people I know on these sites that are there only to see how many messages they can get. I'm sure they'd go out if the guy was a perfect model with a Lambo and millions. | /r/askTRP | 19/05/15 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Figured out my seduction problems in other waysRead "No More Mr. Nice Guy"... speaking of which, I need to. I keep looking for a free version of the audio book. I've been there too. You want everyone to like you. You want appreciation, notability for something. "That's cmiovino, he's really good at X, Y, & Z, and is just really awesome. I want to hang out with him!"... so you try to be a people pleaser. You try to help everyone, be friendly, and in the process, get walked all over by girls and even your guy friends. The reality is the less y… | /r/seduction | 19/05/15 05:56 PM |
| 4 | The "Smart Guy" syndromePretty much. Minus the pink polo shirts. He tends to wear striped polo shirts. For real though, I a father with beta tendencies is the root cause of why we're here. The tend I've seen though high school, college, and onward was that those with manly father figures tended to be more masculine, go for what they want, and were more competitive in life. Us TRPers are largely the outcasts of this club. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/15 05:28 PM |
| 1 | [Update] I'm feeling pretty beta right now with this new girl.Props to you for taking action, sir. I will remember this when I'm intimidated by someone and lacking in the action department. Be confident, pony up, and go for it. You'll never know otherwise. | /r/seduction | 19/05/15 04:26 PM |
| 2 | [Update] I'm feeling pretty beta right now with this new girl.Alpha essentially means you're leading, taking action, in charge, and holding frame. Don't think of it as a competition of being the 'alhpa one' in the group - although that's where it's derived from. Feeling beta would mean you sense you're not leading and not sexually escalating with a girl you like, with reference to those post and his other one. He went for it, took action, and took the scenario where we wanted... and where she wanted it. | /r/seduction | 19/05/15 04:24 PM |
| 49 | The "Smart Guy" syndromeHit the nail on the head. This funny, or actually rather not. I read your list and it lines up with me nearly perfect. I've changed a lot in the past six months, but here's where I was the 25 or so years before this: Beta dad. Just a provider. Didn't teach me any manly things. Mom taught me everything. Lower middle class too. Parents didn't go to college. Pushed me in school hardcore. Everything was dependent on grades. I'd compare my grades in middle and high school to a health meter on a video… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/15 02:58 PM |
| 0 | "Oh yeah, what're you doing?"I vote for the the 'Do not respond' action. If you saw what you are actually doing, she'll probably blow up. If you lie about it, that's being weak and deceiving... not exactly in a manly way. It also has a potential to backfire. Skip it too. Plus, if you are looking to LTR this other girl potentially too, morally, straight up lying is wrong here. It's ok to have morals in TRP. If she presses again and again, which can happen, give her the outlandish remark. This is usually a good bet for things… | /r/askTRP | 19/05/15 02:45 PM |
| 55 | HuffPost reveals the truth: Women want to be treated like prostitutes in bed.From the comments section: "thus confirming what every successful guy with women knew already, treat them like crap and you'll never get rid of them" He must be from here. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/05/15 01:15 PM |
| 5 | Tips for creating presence with othersI felt this helped me the most. Before, I was always thinking ahead. Thinking of what she thinks (or even guys in a conversation), where it's going, thinking about when to go in for a kiss, make a move, even potential sexual things later at her place if it came to that. Basically I was in my head going well far out ahead of where I was. Just recently I discovered the power of just being 'there'. There is in the moment. When doing anything really. Train yourself to only think of there right then … | /r/seduction | 19/05/15 01:05 PM |
| 4 | Sexuality Is All Screwed Up Because of Porn/Masturbation Addiction, Should I Still Approach?This. Everything is reversible. Youtube it. It is not normal to watch porn. It's acceptable by society, yes, but also is being blue pill and a nice guy. Tune out from porn and tune into your real sexual desires with real women. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/15 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Should I try a final time?I'd have to agree here. You reached out after her decline on the next meetup. She didn't respond. Leave it be. Even hitting her up in a few weeks/months and reviving something back would be out of pity or or because her other options at the time aren't working. AKA, you're the back burner. I try not to go out with girls like this. | /r/seduction | 18/05/15 07:41 PM |
| 1 | She keeps texting me.I'm there right now with a girl. Took her out this Saturday. Had an epic time, hit all the right buttons, ended up at her place, but nothing went down. I normally don't sleep with a girl the first date. She was totally down though. The next day, good morning text. Then more and more. I didn't respond to one, and that was met with a "guess we're not having a second date then" text. You are 100% correct in thinking that if she solves the mystery or if you text too much, give away too much, etc the… | /r/seduction | 18/05/15 07:39 PM |
| 3 | speech sucks, and I have acne.I had bad acne as a teenager, in college, and even into early adulthood. At age 27, it still flares up, but much much less than before. Even now, I see a significant improvement when taking two showers a day. One at night, and one in the morning. Sheets are a biggie. In college, I didn't change them for 2-3 weeks sometimes. Yuck. I bet that added to my issue. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/15 07:26 PM |
| 2 | The problem with dating appsI find most of the time, girls use it as validation. Messaged a girl once, turned out she was in one of my Facebook car groups. We got to discussing stuff and she said she never meets up with anyone from the site. I asked why and she said "I dunno, I just never really wanted to." Then why would you be wasting your time creating a very quick, bullshit profile and waiting for guys to message you? Oh yeah, validation/attention. In my experience, 95% of the people on them are not quality people. The… | /r/seduction | 18/05/15 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Afraid of the repercussions...Yes, yes, I know what you're saying. Yes she actually was, as odd as it sounds. Was with her for 3 years. Came from again, a super religious background. Parents, grandparents, etc all met in high school, only dated one person in their lifetimes. Same with most of the aunts/uncles. Kinda weird actually. Even her cousin did the same, just married, age 25. Another cousin, age 23, just graduated college - again, never had a boyfriend. Never went farther than kissing a guy. And no, they're not mutant… | /r/askTRP | 18/05/15 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Afraid of the repercussions...Touché. | /r/askTRP | 18/05/15 02:11 PM |
| 0 | How do you seperate from being needy and showing interest?Funny thing - I just had nearly the exact same experience. Met a girl for drinks at a local bar. She actually didn't even want to come out and almost bailed. She didn't seem interested, and I thought it would be a shit date. At the bar, we chatted, bantered, got into some light touching and joking around. After that, we went outside, saw the city line at night, I took her across a big bridge, shared our first kiss there. Then went into the city and explored at night. Eventually this ended with m… | /r/seduction | 18/05/15 12:58 PM |
| 3 | How do you seperate from being needy and showing interest?My belief is it's good to show sexual intent, but keep the 'needy' type things low key. Meaning, texting too much, asking her how her day was, all that. Sprinkle those things in, but don't constantly be bugging her every single day just asking "How was your day??" Showing sexual intent can be in the physical or verbal/text form. Again, make each move count and have a purpose. | /r/seduction | 17/05/15 09:16 PM |
| 4 | What to do when a girl rejects your kino?Yep. It should come quicker though. It would take longer if you were doing it with someone who you don't know at all. Basically, she's just not comfortable yet. For whatever odd reason, who knows. If she rejects over the entire 'date' then she probably doesn't want anything like that. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/15 07:52 PM |
| 6 | What to do when a girl rejects your kino?Back off, keep talking.. etc doing whatever you're doing. Then try again in a bit. Basically like, "Hey do you want this?", "No not right now", "Ok". .... 20 minutes later. "Hey do you want this now?"... | /r/askTRP | 17/05/15 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Girls flaking when it comes time to 'hangout'... few texts before this.. similar. Me: Planned to the every detail. I'm going to teach you to be spontaneous! Her Lol geeze!! I am spontaneous! Me: Oh ya? Name me one spontaneous thing you did in the last week. P.S. Mario's > Fatheads Her: Went and got a tattoo for my mother on a whim! [mom recently diagnosed with lung cancer] Her: PS Marios is awesome but fatheads food is way betta Me: Touche, nice response. I'm still bummed they got rid of Villa.. what did they ever replace it with? Her: Hmm… | /r/seduction | 13/05/15 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Exercising your second amendment, do it.I agree with this post. About 2-3 years ago, I went down to the local sporting goods store and picked up a Mosin Nagant for $99+tax. $89.99 later for 440 rounds of surplus ammo, I was at the range firing for the first time. I've put probably 1000+ rounds through it by now. If I had to do it all again, I would have started with a .22 rifle with a scope, which I eventually got. The recoil on the Mosin is a bit for a first shooter, but it didn't seem to bother me. There's something manly about shoo… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/05/15 05:10 PM |
| 5 | Am I (f,23) really the unreasonable one in this situation? (fuck buddy, anal sex)You don't have to do anything you're not willing to do. It's unfortunate because it appears it would workout otherwise. Personally, is he being unreasonable? In my context, I'd say yes. For me, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. For him however, it appears it is, he must be putting a higher value on it than I am (obviously). Keep chill for a few days/weeks and then hit him up again. Things might change on both ends. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/15 07:24 PM |
| 0 | Dress for success.Yes and no. I have a WRX, so that's met with a lot of 'Huh?'.. but the ones who like imports, or Subarus specifically are hooked. Just met a girl the other day who I was chatting up, brought up racing for something I did on the weekends, she asked what car, then proceeded to tell me all about how she's been looking for a '13-14 WRX and a dirtbike. Said I could help her look, she was completely in. Numbers swapped, bingo. One of the easiest (and most fun) random interactions. The work was done fo… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 01:20 PM |
| 1 | How can I work at my game while living with my parents?I hear ya on the living at home thing. I graduated, made that choice, and at age 27, I still do. Moving out soon probably though. Although I don't actually do the 'pulling' thing all that much anymore directly from bars/clubs, I just don't bring it up at all with girls. When it's time to pull or go back to someone's place, I'm usually just taking the girl home and work from that angle. Lift, focus at work, approach. Do all. Don't wait for a magical time when you're buff to approach, it just does… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 12:56 PM |
| -1 | AWALT reminderTypical, but not bad. Just the way the game is played. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 12:50 PM |
| 1 | What was the moment that fully indoctrinated you in to the red pill mentality?3 LTRs that essentially went haywire the the same way. I'm in shit when I get into a relationship because I'm doing me, lifting, doing my hobbies, etc. Meet the girl, hit it off, latch on for 3-4 years. Wake up and find the girl gone either screwing some other guy, wanting to 'explore', or whatever. Then I look at myself and go "what am I doing?" I should have been continuing on my path doing X, Y, and Z. Then came my PUA experiences, but always felt there was more to it than than. TRP filled th… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 09:54 PM |
| 0 | Dress for success.Check here on Reddit. I don't know of the name, but there are subreddits here that many have posted for just what you're looking for. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Dress for success.This is a big win. Congrats. Part of it probably was your actions obviously, but half the time, the suit or proper clothes gives you that confidence to act like a badass. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 04:42 PM |
| 111 | I see a lot of guys talk about girls approaching them, why does it happen and why doesn't it happen to me?I find my issue is I don't look approachable. Meaning, I might be attractive or whatever.. at least 'above average', but most of the time I don't have a smile on my face and I might be looking semi-serious when out. I'm with you though.. I've never had anyone approach me at a bar/club. | /r/seduction | 04/05/15 03:07 PM |
| 6 | Dress for success.I agree. Another example - I just recently was out late with some friends and once that was over, I decided to head out to the bars around midnight. Told myself I'd do a few approaches solo, then leave by 1am. Just was in the mood. I was dressed in a striped longsleaved top, jeans kinda ripped at the bottom, Puma sneakers, wallet chain. Also had a leather jacket on. Essentially you'd probably think I was an average Joe with a little edge. We were at the drag strip before... pretty much fit in th… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 02:54 PM |
| 1 | "The Dad Bod" - Don't you fucking dare buy into itI've been told many times by relatives that I'm "too skinny" and need to "fatten up". Actually I just lift a lot and don't eat shit. Dad Bod.. more like unhealthy piece of shit provider. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/05/15 02:07 AM |
| 2 | GF of ten years split once I followed my dream. Help me analyze why.What are your ages? This was all pre-TRP. What happened to me was I was 27, with a girl for 3 years, she wanted to get married desperately. All her friends were, cousins, we went to 2-3 weddings together. She got the feeling I wasn't going to pull the trigger with the engagement. There were many times she'd bring up kids and I'd shoot her down someway. A wedding, and I'd kinda of gawk at it. She hung around until she met another mate on an overseas trip. We even at a discussion about it towards … | /r/askTRP | 03/05/15 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Suit Up: A Scientific ReminderJust to confirm the article with two real world FRs: 1.) Ex literally CRIED the one night at a wedding that I could not stay with her in the hotel due to feeling sick (honestly, I was actually sick from the food). Was wearing a suit. She REALLY wanted me to stay that night for some reason... more than usual. 2.) Another time towards the end when things were dying out, I came over after work. we were kinda arguing over some things, I was wearing suit pants, dress shirt, no tie, sleeves rolled up.… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/05/15 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Should I be happy/elated when getting a girl's number?Ha, good point. These two are solid in the fact that we've texted and continued the bantering with ease. I've had other numbers they just dull out. I've actually not experienced a fake or unresponsive one yet, but I'm sure I will shortly at some point. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Recording myself while having interactions, or while aloneI picked up a GoPro and started making a car-related Youtube channel. It was very interesting to see myself doing intros to install videos or trying to explain something. I also started doing videos of roadtrips and exploring.. it's kind of a car/travel type of thing. In reality to whole reason I started was to get better at talking. I've found out I really need to pronounce clearer and talk louder. Other than working on that more, I've found it helps me think clearer and makes me start thinking… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 06:17 PM |
| 2 | Do wives/girlfriends actually enjoy spending time with you?I believe they do. For example, I've had many girls just say "Ya know, I just like sitting next to you on the couch.. it's really relaxing". Honestly, it is relaxing for them. And yes, this isn't a pry for sex or anything - they actually just crave being in the presence of a man. If you think too much into it, you could say as long as it's 'any' man, she'd be ok then, right? Well, another alpha man I'd say. Basically she like's you for you in this situation. You could even rationalize and say sh… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Taking things too literallyThat's just a retraining of the brain really, no magic pill. I still think the standup comedy advice would help there. They take seemly mundane topics and turn them into comedy sometimes. I'd suggest starting to make stories out of things. Like the girl in the break room just tried to use the water machine and it wasn't working so she said "This thing is always broke!"... I said "I'll make sure to tell maintenance you broke it when they come by." That's better than saying "Yes, I know, it was br… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 05:49 PM |
| 4 | [48 Days of Power] Day 38 - "Think as you like but behave like others."???I interpret it more like... Behave within the accepted sociological constructs.. ie, good hygiene, dress well, get a well paying job, etc, but THINK on your own terms and outside the box. Basically, don't be a complete social outcast that when people look at you, they go "What the fuck dude?"... but don't fall into group think. Again, just my interpretation. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 03:23 PM |
| 4 | cringed while reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy"That's deep. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 02:46 PM |
| 30 | cringed while reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy"I'm 27 and just reached your same epiphany. I was taught by my mom (main caretaker) and beta dad (just kinda there providing) to always be good, do what you're told, work hard, and be nice. Also sent to a Catholic elementary school. Three failed LTRs later which all ended the same, attraction just flatlining. Not being able to choose those LTRs, they chose me. Not being good with girls even in college. I asked myself, "What am I doing wrong?" Then I found TRP. Learned I was like most betas. Even… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Should I be happy/elated when getting a girl's number?Got it. Been there in the past. It's probably showing through. Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Taking things too literallyYou mention TV shows... I'd recommend listening/watching standup comedy. It makes you think of stories or things in a funny context and see the ridiculousness in situations, not just the seriousness. Just some background, I'm in accountant/financial analyst, MBA, high GPA coming out of school. I take things seriously and analytically, so I really need to tone that down. Train yourself to start thinking like a 'badass'. For example, a co-worker came over to the cube behind me to talk to someone a… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 01:30 PM |
| 2 | To gain confidence, is it OK to spend a bit of money on a date, knowing full-well that the act of spending is an outright blue-pill act?This is why I advocate simple, quick dates at the beginning. Cheap too. Like coffee, a bar. Less monetary investment on your part, as well as time. Because quite frankly, you don't know this girl at all. I think doing just these are enough to get you chatting and going out with girls. Given it appears you've already done this with the girl (hanging out a few weeks), I don't think it would be chump-like to buy an under $50 ticket. TRP just doesn't advocate doing this with a girl you literally jus… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/15 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Complete lack of attraction to females post-redpill?We have a very similar story. Also into PUA before TRP, came out of a 3 year LTR. Started NoFap, solid 30 days in, increased lifting weight. Started going out doing daygame again. I've racked in 5 numbers this week and actually don't even care to follow up. Funny thing is, I'd say all of them are more attractive than my ex, but I actually just don't give a damn right now. I think it's a phase. There's no 'hate' really, I've texted them back, all were down to meetup.. literally didn't set anythin… | /r/askTRP | 30/04/15 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Tips on increasing exposureDaygame. I mean, if you have access to a city. I'd recommend college campuses, but classes/finals are winding down (as you know). Meetup.com is good from what I've seen. Personally, bars and clubs aren't the greatest, so don't just be waiting to turn 21 and thinking you're going to have tons more options.. I mean, they do present an area where you can interact with many women, but most of the time they're bottom of the barrel. Those ones and even the other 'better' ones with level headed shoulde… | /r/askTRP | 30/04/15 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Seddit TIFUI've actually been in situations where I'll ask directions of say a girl sitting down studying on campus.. then say I have to run to a meeting for 15 minutes and I'll be back. I come back and boom, she's gone. Always try to close. If you don't you automatically lose. Remember "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take". | /r/seduction | 30/04/15 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Smiling Changed my LifeFunny story - in college I worked for a helpdesk on campus during my masters degree. I literally walked past a guy and he said "Hey buddy, smile a little bit, you look so down."... I kinda brushed it off, but I knew it was true. I wasn't down about anything.. that was normal for me. Mine is probably a combination of two things. At home, younger and even now, my parents are very grim, unhappy, and don't do much for fun. You tend to take on what's in your environment. Second, I'm really serious at… | /r/seduction | 30/04/15 01:18 PM |
| 11 | Because White men won't commit...Welcome to the world of being unplugged. Essentially any 'white men' on her racial and social level don't see her as a suitable mate. She's 31, nearing or at the wall, looking to lock down a man with money. She then rationalizes it's their fault they won't commit... when they can probably smell this off her. Beta bucks written all over it. Again, another story that supports AWALT. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/15 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Freaking out (pregnancy scare)Just caution: The pull out method is not anywhere near a good, effective method of birth control. Go look up the stats on that. Hell, even using a condom has it's risks. I say condom + birth control is best. With that said, two negative tests are a good sign if you can trust her that she's actually doing them correctly. Let us know how the one goes this weekend with you there. Hoping the best for both of your sakes. | /r/askTRP | 29/04/15 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Freaking out (pregnancy scare)Bro, I've been there. Had unprotected sex with an LTR, even 3 years in, but we were on rocky terms then. I was actually a virgin, beta boy then. Kind of the spur of the moment thing. It was a very quick, in and "wait, shit, what am I doing?!" moment. For a month afterwards I was feeling the same way you are now. Couldn't focus. Just sat there thinking "Did I just fuck up bad?". I ended up telling a co-worker I'm really good friends with - we're friends outside of work too, so he was closest avai… | /r/askTRP | 29/04/15 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Did I fuck up?I don't believe you totally fucked up, however you'll see with many cases, if a woman doesn't get what she wants (sex) the first time like this, it can really destroy her ego and self image. Any other guy would jump that pussy ASAP, a guy refuses, she says he's a jerk and never calls again. However, I'd say this is about 25% of the time. The other 75%, just like everyone says, it's the "You want what you can't have" thing... she couldn't have you then, attraction skyrockets, the next time you me… | /r/askTRP | 29/04/15 06:57 PM |
| 1 | BEGINNER needs help :/It's common. You get better with approaches and time. Best advice I can give is to not be too serious about it - treat it like a game and fun. You're just talking to people, poking fun, bantering, and smiling. Not shouldn't be a chore. | /r/seduction | 29/04/15 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Married 5 years, dead bedroom, sex maybe twice a week at most. I think I've gone Beta.... Help !Dread game, right meow! Especially about the weight/fitness issue. Not knocking you for, but if you slim down, you will be well built most likely. Try it. | /r/askTRP | 29/04/15 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Being the guy who knows his cityVery interesting. All going back to the whole 'caveman times' thing. On the notion of singled out 'prey'.. I guess that can also relate to the increase in approach anxiety when talking to a group of attractive women vs a singled out girl sitting on a park bench for example. | /r/askTRP | 28/04/15 03:16 PM |
| 3 | TRP is working....and my friend is getting pissed.Thanks for this post. It's made me realize I need to incorporate more alpha and TRP tendencies into my daily life. I get the motivation to and understand why, but then fall back on easy beta ways. Then I find myself trying to go out, or in social situation and trying to 'turn it on' then with limited success. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/04/15 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Being the guy who knows his cityJust a comment on the 'group of guys' thing. It's 100% true. Sort of a pre-selection thing. You'll notice if you are out with a girl or group of girls, another woman who you are interested in will see the other girls as proof you must be worth something. Same goes with guys, but on a lower scale. When you're out alone, it just makes it harder to show/prove to her you're worth something. She thinks your just some creepy guy out alone, even if that's not the case. | /r/askTRP | 28/04/15 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Online social experimentThis is very interesting. I once did an experiment where I took the pictures of a Facebook friend (acquaintance) who appeared to have a lot of success in life in general. Pictures of him in front of the Giza pyramids jumping, at bars, wearing an animal costume, with girls, on a boat, whatever.. just literally random shit. Filled the text portion with very little wording about 'adventuring' and that's about it. Literally copied and pasted some bullshit message to about 30 women, got at least a 75… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 08:22 PM |
| 2 | [Rant/Vent]Found Redpill 4 months ago and I think it nuked my marriage...Yep that was exactly it. Even right up to the end, she was explaining the exact moment she 'knew I was the one". It was some night down by a gazebo and pond with the stars overhead. Quite romantic. Then I realized, wait a second.... but I'm not. She already made the choice at that point. Had been seeing and 'hanging out' with this other guy for 6 months. Sure as hell I was 'the one' right? Quite honestly, even the night we first met, we were just bantering and shooting the shit, then she started… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 07:25 PM |
| 2 | #RingBySpring - college girls compete to see who get can their boyfriend to propose by springtimeHa, he's done. Been with this girl since high school. 7-8 years or more. She's never dated anyone else, never had sex with anyone else. Most of all, I hate to say it, but she's a real bitch. Whiny little princess if you ask me. Certainly no unicorn. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Don't expect changes overnightKeep up with it. Even four months in, I feel like I'm not making as much progress as most posting field reports here. I've seen major changes, then flatlines. Right now is a big flatline. Just remember to take a step back and make sure you're doing things as you're supposed to. For example, lifting... I thought I was doing it right by exercising, but I wasn't pushing myself. 8-9 years and my lifts were up, but only by the progress most see in a year or two. Same goes with my social 'game'... See… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 06:46 PM |
| 3 | [Rant/Vent]Found Redpill 4 months ago and I think it nuked my marriage...I was in your shoes and just dodged my own personal bullet. At age 27, my SO of 3 years wanted to get married, buy a house, and have 4 kids. I honestly thought she was a unicorn, really nice girl, always brought up actual princess stuff with her cousins and friends. They even have Disney Princess mugs. I couldn't pull the trigger. Something was nagging me about it. Something not right. After a year or stagnation on the commitment, she found someone from another country, age 23, and apparently no… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 03:29 PM |
| 6 | #RingBySpring - college girls compete to see who get can their boyfriend to propose by springtimeEx wanted to get married hardcore. Her sister paid $20k for just decorations alone. No idea what the venue cost - it was at a botanical garden.. the reception that is. Then she started talking about how her parents would pay for ours if I complied. I didn't. My best bud married her cousin. Was given the same offer. We talked it over. He rationalized he was 'gaining' thousands of dollars in wealth somehow and took it. Ex is now dating someone who is four years younger and from another country... … | /r/TheRedPill | 27/04/15 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Anyone have luck with Plenty of Fish?PoF seems to be the bottom of the barrel. OKC seems to be a bit better. However, keep in mind that most people on these sites have issues. Hell, I was on there, and I was in total needy mode about 3-4 years ago. I know others who are and know them personally - all are really needy and are seeking out 'the one' (mostly girls). After doing a decent amount of daygame, I find you can actually meet and screen girls much better. Nightgame is more for fun.. personally I find daytime approaches get bett… | /r/seduction | 25/04/15 03:10 PM |
| 1 | 2 best friends dating another set of 2 best friendsYeah, just be cautious. The good thing is, it doesn't appear yours are intertwined as family. Technically since my buddy recently married that girl, they're all related. I wasn't. | /r/seduction | 24/04/15 08:44 PM |
| 1 | AA and meI'm there too. Used to be decently good, then got into a relationship. Now it feels like I'm back to square one. I find myself seeing a girl I want to talk to, walking over, and sometimes walking right past... somehow I defeat myself in those few seconds. Or hell, I've even followed girls, rationalizing why I shouldn't approach, then ending up following for a block and bailing. Annoys the shit out of me. I'm with ya - I'll pledge too. I have a good job, MBA, no debt. Workout, have a life. Shit's… | /r/seduction | 24/04/15 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Cut off a HB9 to become less BB/more AF today. Was it all worth it?It's funny, half the time I think the club is easier. Girls are open to being approached, whereas in daygame they're more shocked by you even saying 'hi' which blows you out sometimes. "At the club" as long as you're confident and use good eye contact, it's usually much more acceptable to start conversation. I still prefer daygame as it's just more convenient, but each have their pluses and minus. I would not call night harder, just different. Just remember to talk loud enough. | /r/askTRP | 24/04/15 06:57 PM |
| 28 | What's a better way to say "How are you?"You shouldn't be using "How are you" or anything similar in texting AT ALL. It's lame, uninteresting, and puts the girl on the spot to provide direction for the interaction. Skip it. I do like u/YOUNG_G0D's response. "Anything crazy happen recently?" is a good alternative, but I'd use even that selectively. | /r/seduction | 24/04/15 01:55 PM |
| 2 | 2 best friends dating another set of 2 best friendsI have. A guy who I knew from high school got into the car scene and we started hanging out a ton and going to car meets, etc. Over about 2 years, we became really good buds... hung out every weekend, he was my go-to for anything guy-related. One NYE, the party I was going to was scrapped and I turned to him for something to do. Went with him, met the cousin of his fiance, we hooked up that night and it was the start a a really solid 3 year relationship with that girl. Sparks flying from 1-2 hou… | /r/seduction | 24/04/15 01:54 PM |
| 3 | Share your Routines: Skincare, Weightlifting, Morning Rituals and so on.TRP related. Meaning maybe one to do with fitness/lifting, another to seduction, or even entrepreneurship. I've hear there are ones related to MGTOW, however I find most of those to be just complaining about men's rights, how women suck, etc... I'd rather listen to thing that can help in life, not just reinforce how bad things are... ha. Too pessimistic for me. | /r/askTRP | 24/04/15 01:20 PM |
| 1 | If she wants to travel without you...I believe you my be right. Especially since he was on a vacation when they met, Europe. Then US 6 months later. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/04/15 09:29 PM |
| 1 | If she wants to travel without you...Wouldn't doubt it! I've had people say he's just trying to get his green card. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/04/15 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Don't want to lose LTR. Is it oneitis? Ego based?I get latched onto relationships too. Been in three long ones for 3 years. Each I just kept on with the girl until the bitter end. And then ended up begging and pleading for them to stay. I've never dumped a girl (however there have been many I haven't had chemistry with and just didn't get involved with). All this was pre-TRP... which is how I ended up here. Personally, I'm a relationship guy. I like being tight with one girl. It's easier and more time convenient. Plus I do like the emotional c… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 03:58 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with a burnout properly?I never used to be much of a traveler, but I've been driving about 1-2 hours to state parks just for the enjoyment of driving and then to see the sights there. Nothing extravagant, but a neat day trip. Sometimes even by myself. I get very burned out at work. 8am-8pm days sometimes, no lunch. We have state filing (accounting) with harsh due dates and no guidance. Time consuming, frustrating, and just plain hard. Taking the trips on the weekends helps. I'm currently planning on for tomorrow, takin… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Don't want to lose LTR. Is it oneitis? Ego based?I've been there. 3 years in, I totally didn't want to lose this girl. She wanted kids, house, all that, I don't want that at this time. I knew in my heart/gut I would never marry her, but I didn't want her to leave. You (and I) didn't want to leave what was/is comfortable. It's easy to stick around, keep the sexual stuff going, have someone to be with, all that jazz. We rationalize by saying we're learning and getting experience, which is somewhat true, but the real learning is with other girls.… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/15 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Don't LTR when your young..LTRed through high school (3 years), college (4 years), then a third time out of college for another 3 years. All different girls. Never played the field. The good: It brought me here. Without those experiences and horrible breakups, I may have just slept around through my 20's and latched onto the first half decent girl I met out of college and gotten married. The bad: I didn't play the field, especially in college. Some regret there. Overall, it is what it is at this point and I'm going to emb… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 11:05 PM |
| 28 | If she wants to travel without you...At the time I was really broken up about it, but many of my relatives and friends said the same thing you just did. Guy must be really desperate to be flying half way around the world for $5k just to get some. Desperate, and certainly not landing a unicorn. Quite honestly, I wouldn't spend that much to get a perfect 10/10. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 08:06 PM |
| 55 | If she wants to travel without you...Take it from me, I let my 3 year LTR go to Europe with her cousin. I honestly didn't care or thought anything of it - she always talked about how one of her life goals was to visit Europe... as a nice person, I wanted her to do that. She was super religious and family oriented, nothing could go wrong, right? Came back crying, said we had to break up, I agreed, but really didn't want to. Just another tactic to keep her around. Came back the next day saying it was a mistake and to take her back - … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Share your Routines: Skincare, Weightlifting, Morning Rituals and so on.Mornings, immediate shower when I get up. Pretty much just washing hair and face only to save time, then gradually switch to a cold shower. Fully cleaning is for my night showers only to wash the day off. Next is breakfast, usually mixed vegetables from a bag warmed up. Sometimes a protein shake. Oatmeal. Eggs, etc.. whatever I feel like. Always healthy. Three vitamins: Turmeric, fish oil, and multi-vitamin. Sometimes I substitute the multi for a straight B-vitamin. Get dressed, work clothes, br… | /r/askTRP | 22/04/15 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Wall women do the craziest things.I think it's even simpler than that. Woman hits the wall, realizes she's not sexually desirable by men her own age, goes for the easy kill - men/boys much younger. In her head, this proves "she's still got it", but in reality, the students just want to get some since they're going through a time where they're awkward and have idea about SMV, etc. Men their age don't want them anymore because looks are decaying and men of that age are realizing they can get girls in the 22-27 age range for fun an… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Quick A&A this Shit-test PracticeThat's pretty good actually. I don't have any critiques for it. It assumes attraction. It plays long with the joking around. It also avoids using smileys and that crap. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/15 02:41 PM |
| 2 | "You cannot negotiate desire" vs. dread game?Women want value. Period, plan and simple. When you go from being 'meh' in a relationship or marriage, with an already developed emotional attachment to someone, the other person will see your change and see a high potential if you're doing it right. It's the same as if you dump someone and see them months/years later very successful. Those feelings come back. When you do this in a relationship, even a dying one, attraction spikes again. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/15 01:52 PM |
| 10 | Married man from r/DeadBedrooms gets fed up. Applies every single RP principle by the book, without even knowing about RP. Results are as predictable as you'd expect.This is a truly inspiring story. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 01:44 PM |
| 1 | What single change brought about the biggest improvement in your sex life?I'd highly recommend this advice. I see a lot of guys with PIED or even the inability to cum due to porn. Porn is a slippery slope and before you know it, you're watching some crazy shit you're probably not going to get to experience in real life. This leads to you being unsatisfied. Keep it real folks. 'Edging' can help with being a minute man, but balance that with becoming too numb to the regular sight and feel of a real woman. | /r/seduction | 22/04/15 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Why social media is killing masculinityI like what you said about 'pixelated screens'. I find many co-workers and male friends talking at lengths about Facebook photos, girls at work who are dressing provocatively, etc... and it's all just talk. Just like how they're sitting behind their screens. They creep on girls through Facebook, instagram, etc.. "Wow, did you see the dress she had on this weekend going out?"... Me: "Uh, yeah, sure. Totally cool." They don't take action, they don't approach. Doesn't mean approach those girls at w… | /r/seduction | 22/04/15 01:04 PM |
| 1 | The Importance of the Boys' ClubI'm involved with the car scene a good bit and with that comes mostly males. A few females mixed in, but a lot of times, they're certainly not the typical. Anyways, I will say it's great to have a just male oriented activity and friend group. Sexual jokes, some immature, some raunchy, whatever it is. It's a bond. It's also a time, especially when racing (legally, on a track) we can pursue the 'male' goals of going faster, cornering better, stopping harder. I'd rationalize it to shooting guns wit… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 12:59 PM |
| 4 | Women and submissionIt's all biological. Even at a basic core level, the male is inserting part of himself.. aka giving, and the female is receiving it. That ties to the male dominating, female being submissive. Again, at another core physical level, the 'girl gets fucked' or as a guy 'fucked her'. Again, strong language, but the male is in the act of doing, female is receiving. There are many flavors and forms. Bondage, rape fantasies, choking, etc. It all goes back to the same thing - control. Who's giving and re… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 12:53 PM |
| 2 | I get a text out of the blue with just my name... Did I play it right?My response would have been her name. Plain, simple, almost like you're just playing along. I'd interpret your response as being like "Huh? What's up? Is everything ok?"... just my interpretation. Text is hard to get you intended point across sometimes.. this is one of them. Clearly you didn't blow it or she wouldn't be talking to you after that. I just think it could have been better handled. Learning experience. I've been there too. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/15 12:24 AM |
| 2 | It's as easy as picking up a dropped phone.I loled at this. | /r/seduction | 21/04/15 08:16 PM |
| 2 | The Five Stages of Red Pill, and how to read r/TRP textpostsCool, I'm in the bargaining phase. Probably even just getting out of the anger phase. It's funny how true it is. Same with the 5 stages of grief. They're spot on. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/04/15 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Danger????Win win. lol. | /r/askTRP | 21/04/15 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Approaching in a parkGood luck. I'm 27, so well out of the college and sports scene also. My only real friends are all car guys (and a few gals), so I have to get better at cold approach. I wouldn't rely too much on group sports, joining clubs, and things like that. You have to put a lot of effort into playing the sport or doing club activities, just so you might get a chance to talk to a girl or two. With cold approach, you can go up to anyone in the mall, on the street, etc.. and start conversation. It's hard - ap… | /r/seduction | 21/04/15 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Approaching in a park9/10 if you can get their attention somehow, they'll stop. Meaning, a quick wave and a smile in front of them.. kinda like you'd do with a guy friend with his headphones in. Now you just go with your opener. "Hey, just saw you running and thought I'd say hi"... or whatever. Don't make it elaborate. This isn't a bar or club. You're just being straight up. The key is confidence. I notice anytime I get drill eye contact 100% unwaivering, the interactions usually go well. If I don't, it goes bland. … | /r/seduction | 21/04/15 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Ive reached rock bottom and I have no idea where to go from here.This. Hell, I'm even 27 and I'm kicking myself for being asleep this long. If I was given this sub at age 17, I'd arguably be a god by now. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/04/15 01:03 PM |
| 1 | I approached a girl on the elliptical at the gym today..I actually workout at home, in a garage. What we're getting at is most people don't like interruptions during their 30-45 minute workout. Many of us work 9-5's, hit the gym after, and need go get done what we want done there. For males or females taking even 5-10 minutes out of that time, you kill the momentum. Many times I'm working out at home and my phone starts ringing. Reluctantly, I answer. 20-30 minutes later, I remember I just started my first set of benching..... and need to get onto ot… | /r/seduction | 21/04/15 01:01 PM |
| 30 | I approached a girl on the elliptical at the gym today..This. As a guy, when I'm working out, I don't want to be approached either... and by approached I mean approached by males, females, cats, dog, exotic animals, whatever. I don't want to be bothered. Number two, on asking girls out at gyms, I personally never do because you're asking the girl out at a time when she's probably wearing yoga pants, flexing around, etc... she has enough creeper guys checking her out.. you tend to be thrown in that bucket even if your intentions are true. Just food fo… | /r/seduction | 20/04/15 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Am i scaring them away?Ha, negative. I don't watch that at all. | /r/seduction | 20/04/15 08:42 PM |
| 2 | I'm in a dilema. Feels are involved.Listen to me, I'm 27, been there, done that. All of what I am about to say is 100% true and others will back me up. Hang on to your butts! Ok, let's dissect why Will is attractive and why this girl is still clinging on, even after he's treated her like garbage. Will is an alpha male. He does what he wants, says what he wants, gets what he wants. This is attractive to a girl because he's on his purpose, probably stoic. He is probably the leader of his little pack of friends and everyone knows it.… | /r/seduction | 20/04/15 08:41 PM |
| 8 | Danger????People have tons of things going on in their lives. It's very well possible that she's writing that about something else, however I'd be cautious. I do believe you're over reacting with the rape allegations. If anything she'll probably just tell you off if she's not down anymore. Curious though - does she know it's a FWB situation? Or is she thinking you two are going to be an item at some point. | /r/askTRP | 20/04/15 07:24 PM |
| 14 | Am i scaring them away?I've been doing a lot of daygame and have been sticking to the easy stuff. No grand openers, etc... just "Hey, reach out hand who are you?"... they always answer, I repeat their name and introduce myself. Usually with a "I just saw you sitting here and though you might be an interesting person"... usually from there, it goes into the bland. 9/10 girls are not up to anything interesting when just sitting around or walking somewhere. If I'm on a college campus, I banter back and forth about their … | /r/seduction | 20/04/15 05:37 PM |
| 3 | AF/BB in action: guy's wife admits that she used to give blowjobs to his alpha roommate while they were in college.LOL. Wow... totally didn't mean that. Nice catch. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/04/15 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Does women/sex deter you away from your goals?I agree. I think also when you get locked down with a girl, even in a LTR, you don't have to work for it anymore, so you get lazy. You don't have to be on your best all the time to 'get some'. Then you wake up 3-4 years later and you're a little beta chump. Trust me, it's happened to me 3 times before I found TRP. I get pissed off, work on myself, land a good girl, LTR her, 3 years later I'm chump-like again and she leaves. | /r/askTRP | 20/04/15 01:29 PM |
| 3 | FR: Women can't cheat.This summer I let my 3 year LTR go on a vacation to Europe with her cousin. The day she came back, she text me, told me to come over. I did and within 10 minutes, we were sitting on the couch with her crying saying "I think we should take a break." Having gone through this before with a previous relationship, I agreed and even though inside I was freaking out (pre-TRP days). Thanks, chump-like PUA skill thinking. The next day, I was out at the local park being a lame-o beta, trying to scope out … | /r/TheRedPill | 20/04/15 01:16 PM |
| 9 | Finally off my chest. A story on saving a life...Appreciate the post. I found myself at the beginning using TRP as a crutch thinking the endgame was to get girls. Kinda like how a PUA thinks in a way - and I had been there, studied and practiced that stuff for 2-3 years. After going on some solo roadtrips, I found that actually brought me the most happiness, more than with women. That's when it clicked for me and I started seeking out non-women based activities. ... funny thing is, when you do that, the girls tend to come with much less work, … | /r/TheRedPill | 20/04/15 12:59 PM |
| 14 | AF/BB in action: guy's wife admits that she used to give blowjobs to his alpha roommate while they were in college.I think it's a rebellion or tabu thing. They know they shouldn't, so it makes it even more exciting to them when they do. Kinda like when your parents tell you no more cookies and 5 minutes later you're sticking your hard in the cookie jar - even if you're not even hungry. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/04/15 12:41 PM |
| -4 | Tips on being more vulnerable and honest?Girls want a strong, stoic, guy in control of his emotions, not vulnerable and open. Mystery and intrigue are key here.. you blow that and boom, it's like the fun is over. | /r/seduction | 20/04/15 10:32 AM |
| 22 | AF/BB in action: guy's wife admits that she used to give blowjobs to his alpha roommate while they were in college.I find this funny because I was with a girl, a virgin, for three years in my beta days. BJs were the norm, many of them, sometimes even in bathrooms at drunken parties, before family events, where ever. I'd have her dress up in lingerie, heels, get into light bondage. She would then pride herself in being a virgin, close to God, etc. Had another girl in college do the exact same, although she loved to be called a slut, had a rape fantasy, loved to give BJs like crazy, loved to dress up, stripper… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/04/15 10:30 AM |
| 6 | Does women/sex deter you away from your goals?I find your body works like this: When you're not ejaculating, your body knows you're not 'spreading the seed'... so it's motivating you and staying on top of it's game by promoting you to be better. Higher T levels, more muscle, more motivation, better concentration, etc... When you ejaculate, your body assumes you are spreading your seed. It doesn't know if you're doing it to pixels on a screen, in a condom, or with a real girl. Once you do, it allows you to feel relaxed, lazy, all that becaus… | /r/askTRP | 20/04/15 10:21 AM |
| 1 | A young guy's confession: Feel like even if I improve a lot and am a better version of myself in the future, the game will never be this fun, easy, and amazing.I was in a LTR for 4 years through college. Met the girl right after graduation from HS, she was a grade younger. She eventually followed me to school. I can say, I had a lot of fun though my years. Fun chick, down and dirty. Loved to party. We broke up after I graduated college because she wanted to continue the fun, I needed to get my masters and a job. I do however look back and say "Wow, I really wish I was single and got the play the field then. It would have been so easy socializing at par… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/04/15 10:01 PM |
| 1 | AWALT - List of qualifications from a female 'friend' for dating materiallol, a chuckled out loud at my desk over this response. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/04/15 06:13 PM |
| 21 | Can't figure this one out on my own.I'll get you over your approach anxiety with this fun story from high school: I was 18, total beta, zero friends. Just quit the ice hockey team senior year - even as assistant captain. LTR girlfriend of three years dumped me for a freshman football star. Things just not going great. I started at the school district in 6th grade. Even at age 27, I can still remember being in 6th grad seeing this girl, Rachel. Cute, not necessarily hot. Girlfriend material. Being a total noob with girls, I never a… | /r/seduction | 17/04/15 08:38 PM |
| 1 | AWALT - List of qualifications from a female 'friend' for dating materialRuns in the family. Sister just got married at age 24ish. Only dated one guy through high school and college. Total toolbag. They still take Easter pictures together with the family, spring dresses, Easter baskets, derby hats, and all. Special indeed. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/04/15 08:22 PM |
| 3 | AWALT - List of qualifications from a female 'friend' for dating materialSometimes I honestly wonder what it would feel like being female and being able to use looks/makeup/clothes to get things easily. Think of the increased opportunities in dating, job interviews, less need for money. Only issue is, looks deteriorate (the wall) and are luck of genetics. Just because you're female doesn't mean you're 'hot'. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/04/15 06:19 PM |
| 1 | In theory everyone hates Red Pillers. In practice, they love them.They hate TRP because their minds tells them it's wrong. When you apply the skills in practice, they get the tingles and feel what nature intended to be felt. Feeling > rational words. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/04/15 05:45 PM |
| 8 | Going out alone(clubs, bars etc)I did this at the beginning of the year. First time, I just hit up a this Dave and Buster's style place with games, which had a live band playing and a bar. Got a table, drank a beer, and enjoyed the music. Showed me I didn't absolutely need people to enjoy myself and made me put a lot less emphasis on the people and more emphasis on the music, lights, environment. I've gone out to malls, daygame, even some bars and clubs alone before. Best advise is to not get stuck walking around in any venue … | /r/askTRP | 17/04/15 04:23 PM |
| 1 | How tall are you ?I should wear 6' stilettos. | /r/askTRP | 17/04/15 02:52 PM |
| 2 | How tall are you ?5'11" I pass for the magical 6' when I stand up straight and have shoes on. | /r/askTRP | 17/04/15 02:33 PM |
| 21 | AWALT - List of qualifications from a female 'friend' for dating materialIt's very fitting you bring up the 'princess mentality'. I shit you not, they have Disney Princess mugs and watch Disney movies still. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/04/15 02:11 PM |
| 3 | What kind of advice would you guys have for a teenager?Number one, I'd suggest cutting the ponytail. Girls want a man, not a girl. I mean, it can be attractive to some girls, but you're really secluding yourself from most. Really up to you, but I'd chop it. Next, get used to rejection. It's a numbers game too. It's really normal to talk to even 5 random girls a day, get completely turned down by 3 of them, get a conversation that goes no where going with 1, and maybe a flaky number off another. Using only your social circle limits you. I know you're… | /r/seduction | 17/04/15 12:56 PM |
| 1 | How do I respond to "Why aren't you drinking?"Ha, I tell them then. Then I get shit for only being 145lbs... however it's no biggie. Gotten used to it. | /r/seduction | 17/04/15 12:51 PM |
| 1 | Admitting Ignorance When Setting up a First Date?Admitting you don't know where you should go is you not taking the leadership postilion very early in the relationship - which is exactly where you should be showing dominance and alpha qualities. The girl doesn't like a man (errr, boy) who can't even come up with one place to go do the first time. How would you ever keep her interested in the future she's thinking. | /r/seduction | 17/04/15 12:50 PM |
| 3 | Does giving a girl your number EVER work?Yes, somewhat. The playing field is more leveled, however it's very important to continue to take the lead in asking your SO to do things, setting up dates, etc even years into a relationship. Trust me, I know from experience. 3 LTRs for 3-4 years each and all of them have essentially ended because I slowly became a guy who got comfortable. I massively took the lead at the beginning, initiated, came up with fun things to go do. 3 years later, we were just sitting on the couch each weekend, maybe… | /r/seduction | 17/04/15 12:48 PM |
| 1 | How to approach girls in potentially unapproachable situations?That same day after freaking out to two approaches while studying: "Why can't I meet a 'nice' guy!" | /r/seduction | 17/04/15 09:56 AM |
| 6 | How to approach girls in potentially unapproachable situations?Sarcastic or not? lol | /r/seduction | 16/04/15 10:37 PM |
| 3 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 4/14/15Shake hands, but hold on longer. Not creepy long, but certainly longer than you would with a guy or business partner. Don't make it weird. Just keep talking and staring at her, eye to eye. She'll notice the extra time. | /r/seduction | 16/04/15 08:50 PM |
| 8 | How to approach girls in potentially unapproachable situations?Personally, being just out of college, I go to the local campuses downtown where I work to approach. I do it on my lunch hour. College campuses are the best - obviously about 50% girls there, it not more, all in the 19-23 age range, many single too. Downtown, there are mostly 35+ year olds, many from age 25-30 have boyfriends, kids, married, etc. You'll find many more men working too. Back on topic, approaching on campus - I only go for girls walking or sitting alone. Easiest ones are just girls… | /r/seduction | 16/04/15 07:58 PM |
| 1 | What would Seddit do: spicing up a relationship.This. As much as I don't advocate drinking constantly and using alcohol as a crutch, you tend to develop that 'college friends' bond with people when you get drunk and are able to fully express yourselves. | /r/seduction | 16/04/15 12:37 PM |
| 23 | My(f20) girlfriend(f20) won't have sex with me anymore. How do I seduce her?Dread game. Not really a 'PUA' type of thing, but along the lines. Basically, you stop initiation, start working out, getting your finances and life together even more and boom, she fears losing you, sex happens, everyone's happy. | /r/seduction | 16/04/15 10:36 AM |
| 5 | I'm not good with words, any tips for me?Standup comedy. Download from Youtube and watch it. Gets your mind thinking of funny things when in conversation. Or even not hilarious things... it just allows you to keep conversations going on better and to tell stories better. | /r/seduction | 15/04/15 05:59 PM |
| 1 | My ex gf brother died. Need advice.My ex-girlfriend had a brother die of an overdose. I didn't go to that funeral. Not even sure if there was one. A few months later, her mother died of a "fall down the steps", although I heard she was an alcoholic. I did go to this one. Overall, it was a little awkward as she was still hanging with my college friends and I graduated and was getting out of that scene. I was in full beta mode for months before that trying to get back with her. I figured going to the funeral would be some way to ma… | /r/askTRP | 15/04/15 04:19 PM |
| 25 | Boys need a father.This. I have a dad too, great guy, tries his best. Caters to his aging mother's every request, some being completely ridiculous. Breadwinner of a family. He's been like this forever. At the beginning of high school, I had to have my mom teach me to shave and/or figure it out on my own. I never had any talks about girls or dating with him at all. Zero advice on any 'man' fronts. I see him now and see a frail man, sitting there with his legs crossed like a girl. He moans and complains about everyt… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/04/15 12:42 PM |
| 1 | What's the right way to respond to "is she hotter than me?"http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/32kree/a_moment_of_rptier_frame_control_from_my_best/ | /r/askTRP | 14/04/15 07:46 PM |
| 2 | girls confess they cheat during spring breakTake it from my experience. Let a 3 year LTR go to Europe with her cousin. I'm sure shit went down. We're no longer together and she's with some guy from Australia. Same goes for spring break or any other vacation you're not around. They will cheat if given the opportunity. If they don't, they just didn't have the opportunity. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/15 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Struggling to improve myself whilst in a relationshipI get the exact same way too. If I'm single, no real prospects, I'm 100% engaged and motivated to do everything. Then I'll start 'talking' to a girl, dating, etc, and poof, motivation is gone. It's even worse when getting into a relationship. Always remember that your purpose and improvement is #1 on the priority list. Lifting, making money, getting better at your career.. all come first. | /r/askTRP | 11/04/15 12:51 PM |
| 3 | [FR] "Why do you hate me so much?"I actually had to pause and think when that one popped up. I believe I said "You're so cute when you get like this" with a smirk. That's pretty much my go-to when I can't come up with a good witty response. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/15 10:40 PM |
| 1 | The Bluebit: there and back againSame exact thing happened to me, buddy. 3 years in, she went on vacation to Europe. Met some Australian guy who is presumably more alpha than me (certainly at the time, yes). What really hits home about your story was I started doing the same shit after she become cold too.. flowers, dinner, offering to drive everywhere, etc. I never did these things in 2-3 years prior and she was literally begging for marriage. Then boom, one day Australian popped into the picture here in the states for a visit… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/15 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Cheek or lips?Not sure if you're trolling or not. Something makes me think you're not actually. All depends on your last interaction. I never kiss a girl on the cheek. Period. If you kissed/made out the last time you were together, or the first time meeting them we're presuming, then yes, go for it. If you have not hit that level yet, it would be weird to just initiate it right off the bat seeing her this time. You'd need to escalate up to that point. | /r/askTRP | 09/04/15 03:19 PM |
| 1 | [FR] "You're an asshole, but in a good way though."Asshole = alpha = holding frame = you're awesome. That's how they see it. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/15 01:46 PM |
| 2 | How do I become 'fashion savvy'.Jeans and a black T is my go-to for just about anything random. Going out, bars, event 'dates'. Comfortable and cheap. OP, instead of trying to build an magnificent wardrobe, start with buying 1-2 pairs of jeans that fit well, some dress shoes and matching belt. Then swap whatever shirts you have already on top of that for different 'outfits'. | /r/askTRP | 08/04/15 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Long-term relationship ”We are not going to have sex are we?”Been there. Dated a girl from 24-27, I was the same age. Semi-religious, really only because her family is. I found some notebooks in her room once with prayers and some other religious things she wrote. She even lived in a convent when she worked as a teacher through her masters degree. We did not have PIV sex for those years until the very end. Even then, it was actually a slip up when pushing too far dry humping... so yeah. She was very much into humping, BJs, swallowing, anything else sexual… | /r/askTRP | 08/04/15 01:12 PM |
| 10 | The marriage apocalypse. CNN talks to kent state students on there future ambitions.One who wants an man... errrr, boy, to sign a legal document, provide income, and take care of the kid. She'll be out working, mingling, and having 'fun' with other men. .... but now that I think of it... no girl is actually going to marry the guy in the first place. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/04/15 06:45 PM |
| 30 | The marriage apocalypse. CNN talks to kent state students on there future ambitions.I literally almost vomited when the guy said he wanted to be a stay at home dad. Good lord. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/04/15 06:01 PM |
| 2 | IS being NICE actually BETA?Chivalry, being nice, all that.. yeah, it is frowned upon here. It works in the movies, on TV, and it's what we're all led to believe will work. Put it in practice and you'll see girl's attraction drop like a bag of bricks. It's not to say you can't throw a few of these acts in here and there, but it better be for a different reason other than catering towards the girl. Take for example the simple act of opening a door for a girl. Don't do it because society says you need to to please the door..… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/04/15 05:54 PM |
| 2 | IS being NICE actually BETA?Many times when being 'nice' we're supplicating to society's standards of being 'nice'. Basically, we're not doing what WE want, we're doing what society says is good to do. So, you're not actually acting out your own will, not on your path, and aren't conveying your feelings. This is beta behavior. If you want to be nice, it has to be 100% genuine and come from you. Problem is, we're not biologically built to be nice all the time. We're meant to be acting out our own primal selves of getting mo… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/04/15 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Successful man got cheated on, he stood up for himself.I think we can all take away from this story is to 'act like you're a business man'. Because let's me real, you're not going to be with someone who doesn't give you sometime in return, period. It's not harsh, it's real. It's an investment. You're investing your time, money, resources, and if you aren't getting to companionship, sex, whatever from it, it's not worth it. Success business people know when to cut losses and get out of markets. He did just that. Business goes wrong - he gets out, cle… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/04/15 01:19 PM |
| 13 | Her heart is breakingI'd like to commend you for standing your ground and not giving into something you don't seem to want. Also, props on holding frame through the ordeal. I'd also like to say good going on giving her a hug and consoling her when she was feeling like shit. I see many many hardcore people on here just being complete assholes, really using and abusing girls. I think what you did in total was a good mix of what I first stated, but still being a kind human being. On the heart breaking topic, it's hard,… | /r/askTRP | 06/04/15 09:25 PM |
| 11 | Is clubbing every weekend and drinking/getting wasted a red flag for a girl?Personal preference, I'd toss her out for any potential LTR. If you want to have fun, go ahead, just be safe from a health standpoint. She's probably sleeping around. It's typically normal for most to go through a stage of this at least in her early 20's, even if it doesn't involve sleeping around. You should always be "de-pedestalizing" the girl. We're all humans. Period. | /r/askTRP | 05/04/15 02:47 PM |
| 6 | What if you HAVE to get married? You have no choiceOP, with all respect to your religion, this is the only way. If you expect to chose (or have chosen for you) a woman who will be a good match for you, not crazy, and of high quality, you'll need to date them for a while. I've dated 3 girls all for 3-4 years each, still not married and completely happy that way right now at age 27. Still felt that even after this long dating period, through their family and friends begging me to marry them, they just weren't right for me... or a good time to do s… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/04/15 01:06 PM |
| 2 | You're here because you are dumbI'd rather be dumb and know I'm dumb, than dumb and stupid for not looking outside the box. With that said, I agree. Thought for everyone: compare yourself to someone you see from your life as being naturally alpha and having their shit together. They probably didn't do it through TRP. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/04/15 05:57 PM |
| 8 | Don't get comfortable.Hmmm. care to elaborate a bit? I don't fully see what you're saying. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/04/15 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Wives & Lovers – Wives Hate SexI'd have to agree on your point. I'd have to add that when marriage happens, I think both parties get very lax in their sexual nature many times. Ya know, not dressing up as much, not being adventurous and outgoing, things just become hum dum. So as much as I agree it's a 'conditioning', I think a lot of things come to play here. Just seeing a person day after day, not having to work for "it", dealing with small petty things like which way to hang the toilet paper, what bananas to buy, etc kills… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/04/15 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Need some advice regarding overcoming breakupGirlfriend of three years cheated on me with some guy from Australia. Long story short, she went to Europe in the summer with her cousin, hung out with this group of Australians for 2 weeks, hot tubs, partying, etc. Came back, wanted to break up, I agreed, thinking she was just on a high from traveling. Came back a day later. 6 months later, she had still been texting, snapchatting, and calling this guy across the world. He ended up coming for Christmas and New Years, with me trying to hang on f… | /r/askTRP | 01/04/15 12:41 PM |
| 4 | How many of you migrated here from r/seduction or any pickup-related sub?Excellent reply. I felt the same way. Felt something was missing from PUA. I mean, yeah, it works, but it's not natural. It gives you the means, but not really a background or understanding why. I also like how you can apply TRP to everything in life. Work, guy friends, family... just about everything. It's about being a man. Everyone respects and likes a guy with boundaries. It's a holistic approach. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/03/15 08:39 PM |
| 70 | What do girls provide in a relationship?You are correct and they are correct. Yes, a lot of girls just watch Netflix, go shopping, and basically exist.. especially at your age. Their value to the world and others is really based on their looks, and they know this. They flaunt it to get what they want. Attention, boys, service at places, drinks (when 21+), the list goes on and on. They think they deserve XY and Z from a guy. They want a guy with 6 pack abs, 6'1", muscles, but he has to be able to drink a keg or two himself, party all w… | /r/askTRP | 31/03/15 05:37 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First night clubbing after 8-10 months of TRP and semi-Monk modeThanks for the post. Encouraging. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/03/15 01:09 PM |
| 1 | What is life like for red pilled people outside of college?I wasn't open to TRP before being out for a few years from college. Out here, TRP is the only way I can think that would work. Reason being, you're on your own. You make career choices, your friend choices, choices about your money, where to go, what to do. TRP is a guide for how to expend your resources to get the best outcome. In college, you're constrained by homework, classes, campus events, etc. It has it's application for sure I can see.. I really wish I would have been enlightened, but th… | /r/askTRP | 31/03/15 12:44 PM |
| 2 | what happens when everyone becomes aware of rp the way ppl are aware of pua stuff?The PUA thing was accepted by society, mainly the beta males who couldn't even comprehend TRP if given it on a spoon. They want to get girls, it gives them a seemingly logical way to obtain this. Essentially a set of steps, some lines, body language, etc. I can attest, I was there a few years ago. It seemed like the solution, but I could never internalize it. I was just playing some dancing monkey game at bars and clubs while living a lame life. TRP, if followed, corrects your life and other for… | /r/askTRP | 31/03/15 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Girl claims she's 'into' 50 Shades, brings up past relationship...Thanks, I needed that. | /r/askTRP | 30/03/15 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Girl claims she's 'into' 50 Shades, brings up past relationship...Thank you. Best reply ever. (Mainly because it's what I wanted to hear). Dated a girl in college for 4 years, she was totally into it. Got with another girl after that, and she was the complete opposite. Anytime I'd push, she'd say "I'm just not into that". Repetitively said, she wanted just the 'intimate' kind. Probably why my view is construed at this point. Appreciate the reply. | /r/askTRP | 30/03/15 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Quick Litmus Test: Does she eat 3 pieces of pizza or 5 pieces of pizza?I won't argue having a kid doesn't physically do this to you... I mean, it does. Think about. At least 6 months of those 9 you can't really work out. You have to eat more for the kid growing inside you. Then afterwards, it's a bunch of work caring for the kid. This one is the killer because it doesn't end after 6-9 months... it ends in 18 years.... maybe. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/03/15 08:30 PM |
| 6 | Quick Litmus Test: Does she eat 3 pieces of pizza or 5 pieces of pizza?Only thing I see wrong with any of this is let's say at age 26/27, pre-marriage, maybe even dating.... she's concerned with her weight. She hasn't locked down a guy, hasn't had kids, etc. She may very well not have any pizza, or just slice. Fast forward after marriage, maybe a kid or two, age 35 and boom, she just don't care. No need to stay relatively in fit for her man, she has him locked down. All her friends are getting fat too, so it's ok in her mind. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/03/15 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Do it all for yourselfI'm about 3-4 months and feel the same way. Massive improvements, but the feeling of something missing. My motivation is make myself look better/attractive towards others, not for this to be coming from the inside. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/03/15 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Is porn really that bad?Poke around in here: /r/NoFap/ I found that abstaining from jerking off put a huge dent in my social anxiety, shyness, all that. I used to be very tired all the time, now I have normal energy. So although the 'superpowers' they claim may be exaggerated, they are mostly true. I think most of it is due to your body naturally working to improve itself.. motivating you, etc because you're not ejaculating... aka not getting girls, no reproducing. When you jerk off, your body says, "oh, ok, don't need… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/15 06:51 PM |
| 4 | Is porn really that bad?I find porn to be a slippery slope. Before you know it, you're looking up the freakiest of the freaks. This leads to dissatisfaction in the real bedroom, with real women. You want her to wear heels, tight dresses, skirts, stockings. You want her to do all these crazy things, but... those were trained actors with years of experience, on basically a setup stage. Your mind thinks you actually lived through those things... thus it wants more of it.. more of that dopamine rush. So you go back to porn… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/15 06:32 PM |
| 13 | Askreddit: "What would you tell your high school self if you could go back in time" comments are a list of TRP tenetsYou'll look back in 5 years and go, "Holy shit, I'm awesome." Take it from me - at age 27, I had rotten time in high school, a decently fun time in college, and three 3-4 relationships through it all, major oneitis each time. My only regret is not finding TRP earlier. No manning up. Not going for what I want. If I had, I would have been surrounded my awesome friends, girls, doing the hobbies and things I wanted, and most of all growing as a person leaps and bounds. Making up for lost time now at… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/03/15 06:07 PM |
| 4 | FR: I LOVE WomenLoved the post. Resonated with me. I've 3-4 months in after finding the pill, maybe 2 in of decent acceptance of it. I'm not rethinking my timeline. For about 1-2 months I completely avoided women, 'looking' for anyone, and just hung out with guy friends, worked on cars, lifted, went to work. Really, it was good. Then I came across a girl and we've been hanging out the past 2 weeks... which, I have a date planned tomorrow to go to her place with wine. She's really a great girl, but it almost mak… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/03/15 06:01 PM |
| 3 | How to go about getting a girl with a boyfriendProbably best just to skip it. I mean, it's going to be more work, possible repercussions, etc. If she's interested at all, she'll go to the comedy club with you. If it's a long term boyfriend, she's going to be thinking over and over about what she's doing, what she's losing etc. This is the issue. If she's pissed at him, thinking of leaving him, or if you're just over the top much higher in SMV and totally awesome in her book, then she'll jump. Combination of these things helps a lot. I see yo… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/15 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Is it ever a good idea to start a text convo?The girl I'm currently 'seeing' lives about an hour away, maybe a little more. I see her once a week, but even that's a bit of a drive with my work commute. We text here and there during the week, but mainly I'm busy, so she's initiating... which is good. I only text for one of two reason. 1.) to setup a 'date' or hangout. Obvious. 2.) If something really witty or funny happens that's related to us. Inside jokes, etc. These are few and far between. They are usually short and just start a banteri… | /r/askTRP | 26/03/15 03:55 PM |
| 1 | How to go out with no expectations?I like to think of going out in itself as an accomplishment. You could be sitting at home, on the couch, by yourself.. but instead you're out, with friends. You win. When you start thinking this way, anything that happens after that is just a bonus. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/15 03:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you stop feeling below someone?Been here for years. I was lifting, had a masters degree, good job, money, but always felt like others were doing better and having more. I took what I was doing and put 110% into it. Started working harder at work, not just slouching around. Lifting heavier and eating better.. even though I was already doing this before, I just got more into it. I got more into my hobbies and such, learned more. This led to me feeling better about myself naturally. Because I was good at X and my buddy was good … | /r/askTRP | 26/03/15 02:46 PM |
| 5 | "How many have you slept with" - What's the wrong answer?Answering sarcastically is the best advice ever. Period. | /r/askTRP | 26/03/15 02:31 PM |
| 2 | "I'll make it work"I've done this with great success. I used to say things like "It is what it is." (Boss pointed this out in a performance review once).. or things like "I'll give it a shot". Now I say things like "Yeah, it'll be done." or "I'll take care of it." Not just in the workplace, but out and about, working on cars, etc... it's great. Don't just say it.. do it. It's like a motivator. "Yeah it'll be done"... makes you put 100% effort into it. "I'll take a shot at it" screams I'm going to give 60% and see … | /r/TheRedPill | 26/03/15 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Broke up with LTR - best thing that ever happened to meHa, coming from a similar (yet highly different) situation. Landed, by chance, a freaky girl in college, loved dressing up, handcuffs, all that. Went beta after graduation, broke up after 4 years. Wanted another girlfriend ASAP, so I jumped in with this new girl for another 3 years, but I really question why I was staying with her that long when she didn't want to do any of the semi-freaky stuff I pushed. She brought up numerous times she really wanted intimate missionary position only, eye on e… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/03/15 02:13 PM |
| 3 | How do I deal with the TRP knowledge ?TRP will never become mainstream. You should never bring it up to friends, relatives, etc... they won't take it well. It's way too off the charts for most people to understand. My belief is you need to have some really shitty experiences and not know why it works... bad breakups, girls flaking, etc.. then you're out seeking a reason why it's not working for you. You find TRP, and boom, it all makes sense once you digest it.' Best thing you can do is download everything into your brain, practice … | /r/askTRP | 26/03/15 12:50 PM |
| 3 | How often do you text your make friends?Mostly just logistics for me, or car related stuff... sending a picture, making a comment back, that's about it. If I do need to talk to a bro, or he to me, we call. Very rare, but it happens. Maybe he or I are seeking advice on something. Funny thing is, most of the time I'm just busy working out, at work, whatever and don't respond for a while. I do the same with girls too.. I just don't get to their texts super quickly. Even if it rings in my pocket, I just don't look at it immediately. | /r/askTRP | 25/03/15 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on stoicism and holding frame...Meditation and books are great, but I'm finding standup comedy helps too. It takes the edge off of things. I used to get bent out of shape over everything.. not necessarily 'mad' like you, but just shaken up, frail, easily throw off by simple, stupid things. Comedy has made me laugh at things and not take them too seriously. This helps keep that 'cool', everything's ok, frame. Like "Nah, that doesn't phase me, it's kinda funny actually"... then assess or fix the problem. | /r/askTRP | 24/03/15 07:56 PM |
| 14 | Thought she was the one. I was beta for 9 years. I'm 28. NOW I'M FREE!!!!!!Welcome to the club. Please enjoy your experience :) | /r/TheRedPill | 24/03/15 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Why are women incapable of telling the truth?I can attest to this 100%. Low confidence, usually based upon appearance. They're constantly comparing themselves to other women. I had an ex that was constantly avoiding conflict. She'll bitch about X, Y, & Z behind whoever's back, but then be ok with the issue in front of them. Begs to question what she was saying behind my back when I was with her. Most likely the complete opposite of what was going on in front of me. | /r/askTRP | 24/03/15 04:13 PM |
| 2 | My brother married a virgin, and he's constantly having to fight her on nonsense that she would have grown out of with other men. What are the benefits of marrying a virgin?I was cheated on by a virgin. Yes, odd story, from previous blue pill days, but we were together for 3 years and did everything else besides PIV (side note: that makes it ok, right? ha). She then found a guy who exhibited party-like qualities and started texting/snapchatting/etc behind my back. That eventually led to me being let go and him being in the picture. Anyways, with that said, I see the only benefit statistically is that they are LESS LIKELY to cheat. This is not a full proof "they wil… | /r/askTRP | 24/03/15 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Have you had to start "new" in your RP journey?I had to start anew, but not by choice, by necessity. I've been in three LTRs, all for 3-4 years. Each one goes like this: huge attraction, fun times in between, stagnation in everything, then ultimate decline and them either cheating or wanting to look for another partner. Saw a trend, found TRP, welcomed my new life. Last one she cheated on me with an Australian. I ended up building my social circle around her, her family, and friends. That was all taken away and I had to build my own. Happene… | /r/askTRP | 24/03/15 12:41 PM |
| 3 | How can TRP apply to the life of a last year highschool student?Being 27 and a total beta in high school (3 year girlfriend left me for a freshman football player), here are my HS specific tips: Start lifting - even the short term benefits will help. Stop caring what people think of you - say what you want, do what you want, be with who you want Keep those grades up - no slacking Maybe small word of advice, if there is any girl you want to ask out, do so. I can remember a few girls I was attracted to, but never had the balls to ask out. I should have. I'd do… | /r/askTRP | 24/03/15 01:21 AM |
| 4 | Dread game > friend zone [FR]Point taken. Let's tack that down to 99.9% then. For real though, highly unlikely. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/15 08:37 PM |
| 0 | What to make of women who defy AWALT?"What to make of women who defy AWALT?" Glitches in the Matrix. All kidding aside, AWALT is a general rule. Bank on it when unsure, it's probably applicable 90-95% of the time on whatever topic you're assessing. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/15 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Why I may never get married...Also being 27, I'm highly impressed in your level of accomplishment. Good job. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/15 06:51 PM |
| 4 | Dread game > friend zone [FR]Dated a virgin when she was 25-27. Same as OP's... super religious, family oriented, all the basic stuff. Went to party school, masters degree too. Let's just say I have 100% definitive proof she was a virgin. Isn't anymore. So it's very well possible at age 22, she is. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/03/15 06:28 PM |
| 9 | I’m A Guy Who Stopped Dating Because I Found The Next Best ThingReally like this post. For me, it's like when I "don't give a shit" and just text or be with a girl for the hell of it and for the sexual end of things, it's easy. The girl is having fun, attracted, and it's high fives all around. Then 1-2 years in, I think, wow, this girl is really cool, I actually kinda like her for being an awesome person. She's got a nice job, shit together for the most part, things like that. Then boom, attraction plummets and it's all downhill from there. Keep them at a di… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/03/15 08:34 PM |
| 2 | I’m A Guy Who Stopped Dating Because I Found The Next Best ThingThe car thing has been very good to me. Never read the mentioned book, but I may check it out now that you mentioned it. Nearly all my good friends are car related now. That's guy and female friends too. We actually have a few attractive girls into the scene too, who are cool to hang out with. It's just something we're all passionate about, so it binds us all together. They've been there with me through the ups and downs. Hell, I've even had people call me up after hearing of breakups and saying… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/03/15 06:53 PM |
| 32 | I’m A Guy Who Stopped Dating Because I Found The Next Best ThingSimple - many guys cut out the laundry, cleaning, live in shit holes. Don't read, don't have hobbies like guitar. Sleep? They don't need that. Run on 4-5 hours every night, especially weekends. Result: they get girls here and there from just going out, random interactions, the numbers game too. Problem: they don't develop as a person, which eventually matters if you want to keep girls around, even if it's as plates (or as girlfriends/wives). I agree, I'm like you too, gym, sleep, working on cars… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/03/15 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Say PleaseLOL, thanks. Autocorrect FTL. | /r/askTRP | 20/03/15 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Say PleaseI see what you did there with the "Go put on a dress" remark... however, as much as it's good to not just play into her cards of making you the 'begging' one, it's also equally important to make her feel valued and desired in her mind. Most likely, she just felt like you wanted the dress, not her. I don't have any direct wording to get this to happen, but I'll throw this out there. In college, my girlfriend usually never really 'dressed up' when we went out or parties, stuff like that. However, … | /r/askTRP | 20/03/15 04:28 PM |
| 1 | How do I up my text game?The biggest hints I can give are these: 1.) Text like you screw around on Facebook with short messages, comments, and idiotness. That's how texting should be done, not long, complex, romantic conversations. 2.) Avoid using 'lol', 'haha', smiling faces, winking, etc... that's for the girl to be doing. Make your messages fun, but you don't need to label them like it. Some smiling faces are ok occasionally if needed to convey the message successfully with sarcasm or something, but very very few and… | /r/askTRP | 20/03/15 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Took [TRP] at 28. 3 LTRs for 8 years. Looking to set priorities, a little confused after unplugging.Welcome. Being 27, I have also been in 3 LTRs over the last 10-12 years or so, each for 3-4 years each. Also live at home still. Recently just cheated on, for a full 6 months before my thick skull accepted it. Thought the world was all about finding true love, building a family, and having kids... although, something inside kept nagging me that family and kids weren't the way to go and were a financial burden. Always felt like there was 'more fun' to it than just latching up to one mediocre girl… | /r/askTRP | 19/03/15 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Should you ever tell a ltr that you "love" her?So, serious question, let's assume she says the magic words first. Obviously then, you return the favor as to not make things awkward (at the bare minimum). Is that then losing power in itself, or is that 'ok' since she initiated. | /r/askTRP | 19/03/15 12:39 PM |
| 0 | This is petty of me, but seriously? Must be staged.Just from listening, I think it's pure gold. Guy's voice screams "I don't really care either way". It's certainly a different style than the more upbeat approaches I've seen. It's more of a "daygame" approach in a park, not a loud nightclub style. | /r/askTRP | 18/03/15 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys not miss the satisfaction, the jitters?This is funny because I've found it to be true too. I'm 27, used to be only dating people my age as I went.. basically another 27 year told a few months ago. Just 'hung out' with a 21 year told. No joke, the awkward jitter stage was there.. kinda like I was 21 or so again. Kinda cool. By awkward jitters, I mean on her end of course, ha. Either way, I had more fun. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/03/15 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Is my wife holding me back or pushing me forward?Best you can hope for is a woman who can carry her own weight, or at least not be a burden to you as a man. Which, is hard to come by. Most will seem like they're going to, but then you commit, put a ring on it, and once she has you locked down, she's free to do whatever she wants. This is why all women in general (minus a select few) let their looks completely go after marriage, don't workout, eat like shit, stop with schooling, get lax with their jobs, etc... to them, all of that isn't needed … | /r/askTRP | 18/03/15 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Is my wife holding me back or pushing me forward?I'd have to argue if it's worth the alimony payments, legal fees, etc.. divorces can get ugly. I'd rather see him turn it around rather than burn it down. | /r/askTRP | 18/03/15 07:06 PM |
| 11 | Do you guys not miss the satisfaction, the jitters?I agree here. No joke, I went on a 'date' this weekend for the first time in a while. Like a planned "I'll pick you up at 8pm" to go to some burger shop date. It was weird. My first instinct was 'wine night' at her apartment, and yep, you know where that was going. Don't get me wrong, the burgers were good, but it was weird not immediately escalating and going all out within the first hour of meeting someone. It very much reminded me of the old days when I would take a girl out multiple times, w… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/03/15 06:14 PM |
| 8 | Is my wife holding me back or pushing me forward?I've been in 3 long term relationships (3-4 years). I can confirm, for certain, that when a girls behavior changes, you need to look at yourself. I will admit that in each of my three cases, when the girl started not dressing up as much, not being as into sex as before, etc etc, it was 100% due to me heading back to showing beta tendencies and getting too comfortable. From what I'm reading in your specific case, I can see through the conversations you're having she's trying to bring you down to … | /r/askTRP | 18/03/15 05:55 PM |
| -4 | An orbiter, from the physics perspective.E = MC2 .. or something like that. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/03/15 02:17 PM |
| 21 | Instant grat and Delayed grat activities, how they can change your life.This is mainly why I quit watching porn. Realized it was too easy to get sit down at a computer, click to whatever type I wanted to experience, and boom, done. Too easy. It feels great right clicking around, getting into it, and then zero real lasting satisfaction afterwards. However, experiencing it with a real girl, despite the extra effort, is well worth it in the end. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/03/15 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Can I TRP my wife into becoming a seductress?1.) Foreplay - ... and no, not just that 10-20 minutes before sex. I mean foreplay as is hours before. Could be sexual text messages in the afternoon at work, touching and/or whatever right when she gets home, etc.. basically, get those thoughts moving well before you're jumping into bed for the night. 2.) Sexual clothing - doesn't have to be lingerie, but yeah, many times it is. Heels possibly, whatever. It should be something that turns you as well as makes her feel comfortable and sexual. The… | /r/askTRP | 18/03/15 12:42 PM |
| 4 | I've slowly watched my divorced co-worker become red pill in front of my eyes.I'm only 26, but this is an inspiration to me that even 40 year olds, divorced, and seemingly 'out of options' can pull this off. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/03/15 09:46 PM |
| 2 | People DO NOT want to hear the truth.Back when I was into being a PUA, probably 2-3 years ago, I mentioned it with my old college roommates. They just looked stunned and confused. No joke, I've even told a 3 year girlfriend about it after she found out I was going out with other guys to help them work on their skills. She took it well knowing I was just helping, but later the insecurity got to her that I knew what I knew and was into it. I also told one other person randomly about it at a bar - a friend from a party, we had hung ou… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/03/15 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Need some suggestions on how to start being more alphaI have your #1 issue to a T. Same exact thing. I have never brought a girl home. I take that back, once I did, a 9/10 from a night out at a bar, asked her to come in.. then she found out I lived with my parents due to the extra cars. She promptly left. Plan your logistics here. Just know you can't bring girls home - even if it's just to 'hang out' (no sexual stuff). Always assume you need to go to their place, a car, another venue, or outside. | /r/askTRP | 16/03/15 06:00 PM |
| 1 | If a woman lives in or has lived in Party World, she's already an Alpha Widow.I agree with you here, but remember this... Although I do believe men and women both mature and grow out of the party scene, once we've all lived it for a bit, random cravings pop up. Some people more than others. At age 27 now, I've gotten bored with going out every weekend, but about once a month, I find myself wishing to head out with people to a club/bar/whatever for a 2-3am night. Then it happens, and the next day, although I have fun, it wasn't as fun as I had fantasized in my head. I thin… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/03/15 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Why you should listen to stand-up comedyNot even joking...I downloaded and listened to this earlier today around lunch break... haha. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/03/15 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Why you should listen to stand-up comedyHa, funny you ask. Just today I was having trouble keeping a straight face, then wondering what everyone was thinking I was smiling at. Although I do smile while listening to or watching these things, I rarely bust out completely laughing unless someone I'm watching it with does the same. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/03/15 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Why you should listen to stand-up comedyMy PUA past must be rubbing off then - got heavily involved in it for 2-3 years after a rough breakup. Always thought something was gimmicky about it and although it works, it was never something I could totally internalize. Then I found this place and was like "Oh, this is what I was looking for". | /r/TheRedPill | 13/03/15 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Why you should listen to stand-up comedyI used to post up a lot of political articles, things people should be aware of, all that. I wanted to 'be right' when something happened.. like an 'I told you so' type of thing. I've since totally cut that out. I've found replying to texts the same as you do little dinky Facebook comments and messages works well and brings it all together. Anything through digital means like this should be sort, to the point, and probably funny/sarcastic in some way. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/03/15 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Strange behavior at the office from certain woman.I have had a similar experience. I work in a typical finance office. Once and a while, an attractive girl will engagement in some small talk conversation. Usually I just say what I have to and pretty much it just ends there as don't date or mess around with people in the workplace. Example: Getting water. Blonde chick that as a male 'entourage' on our floor commented on me putting hot chocolate in my coffee. Something like "Oh wow, that really smells good. How did you come up with that??" (enthu… | /r/askTRP | 12/03/15 08:06 PM |
| 1 | A tough life is what makes you a manCouldn't agree more. For me, it's cars. Racing, meets, all that. That's why when guys see a 'car girl', they're drooling and all over her. And not to mention it's a very male dominated hobby. But I see what you're referring to. I've been on many dates were you inevitably hit on a 'so what do you do for fun' type of question and all you get is 'drink', 'go out'... or maybe 'traveling'. To me, EVERYONE does that. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/03/15 08:15 PM |
| 1 | [Slight FR] My oh my, women have a skewed perception on "average".I laughed at this post. It's a great post, but the girl... I mean... seriously. Epic fail. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/03/15 01:07 PM |
| 4 | A tough life is what makes you a manOn the other side of this, I've met a few girls who are incredibly involved in work, running a side business, and other 'work' things. You'll meet them randomly, on the street, whatever, make a good impression, and swap numbers. Start texting and anytime you try to get them out, they have something work related. Happens a lot with nurses or those that work weekends too. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/03/15 01:03 PM |
| 2 | When is it time to let go?Similar situation, along with many guys. Ended a relationship with a girl after 3 years. Currently still stuck in the memories phase when practically everything reminds you of them. Songs, places, everything. I've found that when I'm out doing social stuff, or even things I'm jut interested in, all of those memories and things that keep popping up just don't. When I'm idle, not doing anything, or stay in a night, they pop up. Advice: get out and do stuff. Social stuff. Find friends. Guy friends,… | /r/askTRP | 09/03/15 12:49 PM |
| 2 | Slowing the social game downI felt the same exact way. Here's what helped me. I used to try to focus on what to say, body language, all that. Like I was 'socializing' wrong or something. Then I realized I was ranking myself below these people, usually other guys, because I felt their accomplishments were above me. I went out and started to do fun stuff. Traveling on my own, like road trips, going to concerts with a friend or something, happy hours at work. That then gave me the confidence that I was doing the same stuff or… | /r/askTRP | 07/03/15 06:42 PM |
| 1 | What do you RP guys do in your free time?EJ205, stock block, stock internals, all that. Just your typical stage 2 turboback, AP, with loads of suspension and braking bits. | /r/askTRP | 07/03/15 05:00 PM |
| 2 | What do you RP guys do in your free time?What free time? (Seriously, ha) I work on cars and race autocross. Car meets are another big thing. I have a 2004 WRX with a bunch of mods. I'm also into firearms and shooting. | /r/askTRP | 07/03/15 03:58 PM |
| 5 | Branch Swinging HamstersI can 100% back this up. Girlfriend came to me, crying, said we should end things, I accepted 100%, walked away. Next day, she came crawling back saying it was a bad decision. What I didn't know was she had just met someone else in the last week and that was true reason why she wanted to end it. Fast forward 6 months down road, she came to me again and really wanted to end things. That's when I found out what was going on. Essentially, due to distance, she wanted me there in case this fell throu… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/03/15 06:27 PM |
| 3 | How can I build a social circle?Same exact thing here - cars. Specifically, I think the car culture breeds a very spring social circle. We ask others for help fixing our cars, others ask us, recommendations on parts, mods, etc. It's a good thing. Basically, social circles form from or around common interests. Another smaller example, I recently went out with some people from work (happy hour) and this eventually led to a six of us in the 'younger' crowd going to a male stripper bar for the girls and then a traditional strip cl… | /r/askTRP | 06/03/15 02:32 PM |
| 2 | How to never get dumpedI will agree on this. Dated a girl for 3 years. After year 2, she complained I was too aloof, didn't spend enough time with her, and was doing my thing too much (car racing, car meets, etc). Throughout these two years, she was HIGHLY attracted. Sexually, "romantically", and all that. Even said she wanted to marry me around this time. I made the mistake of giving in and doing more for her. She made me feel bad i was actually neglecting her. Within 6 months to a year, things spiraled out of contro… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/03/15 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Your leap from child to a grown manDope post. Appreciate it. Really. | /r/askTRP | 05/03/15 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Your leap from child to a grown manI had two. Both with girls. Girl in college dumped me 'super senior' year. No, I wasn't dumb, I was going for my masters after graduation, but was back with the old crew, about a year younger than me. Girlfriend was a true senior then, I was showing major beta tendencies. Needy, texting, calling. I was working part time, doing graduate classes, and not partying. She sensed this, tried to break up numerous time, I kept going back. I alienated all my guy friends in the group and female friends. Be… | /r/askTRP | 05/03/15 09:22 PM |
| 6 | Red Pill, the End Game.For me, TRP is a solution to a problem. Since turning 15, I dated three girls for 3-4 years each... through HS, college, and now most recently after in the real world. Each time I was a needy bitch. The girls just stuck around because it was easy for them too. They were not really quality women, but girls who just wanted someone there for them, not to be alone. I didn't have options. I felt like my only key to happiness would be 'finding the one' and TRP fixed that. Now I focus on me. What do I … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/03/15 07:31 PM |
| 2 | [FR] First relationship since TRP, slight case of oneitis RP theory confirmed.I like to see you're learning from it. That's always positive. You'll do better in the future and look on the bright side - you had your fun too with her, and that's a good thing. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/03/15 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Friend is about to get Beta Bux-edHonest opinion - you can't force TRP down someone's throat. The best way you can approach this is to coax him into wanting to know more. Maybe tell him how much it's improved or effected your life so he want to know more. When you try to force it or tell someone about it, I find they tend to immediately reject it. | /r/askTRP | 05/03/15 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes I feel depressed on nights out?My advice: get other things in your life settled. Whatever it is - work, family things, finances. You'll see once you get these things handled, then your 'state' is just naturally higher. For example, I used to not like the people I worked with and it made working a pain. Fridays, I'd just want to go home and not do anything. I felt horrible going out. Even Saturdays, I was just glad not to be at work. Then I associated with them, happy hours, went out, etc.. now I kinda like them. It's greatly … | /r/askTRP | 05/03/15 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Lately I've found: Girls want to get laid but not make the decision consciously.The perception of being a slut is a girl's worst nightmare. To her friends, family, or even guy friends... or quite frankly, even in her own mind. Every time, they need a justification that it was out of their hands. This is one of the main reasons why most girls won't initiate it. They won't initiate swapping numbers even if you're going for that. In the end, when it does happen, they can justify it wasn't their 'fault'. Also, it does screen out a lot of betas who don't ask for numbers or initi… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/03/15 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Tinder is about to die; another reason online dating is a waste of your timeWell, that's our thinking. However, I'd have to argue there is a large majority who are desperate on there and willing to pay because they don't know how to go out or have 'not so awesome' lives.. aka boring. They believe online is their only chance, hence are willing to pay. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/03/15 02:34 AM |
| 3 | Tinder is about to die; another reason online dating is a waste of your timeCan't really fault the companies. People will gladly pay for services like that. Well, at least the majority of users. They don't care about individuals using it for free hookups or dates and that's it. Money makes the world go round. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/03/15 07:18 PM |
| 2 | TRP is not another PUA. You can't just use it as a technique to land a girlfriend/wife. Truth cannot be compromised. You need to do the work and really change your thinking to reap its rewards.On the PUA vs TRP note, having been involved with the PUA community for 2-3 years before this, I always found it just never worked the way I thought it would for me. Sure, there are things that did work, even basic sayings. More so, it was about the mindsets and mentalities - but at the same token, I was just applying those in that one circumstance, not in my entire life. I actually find it much easier to just integrate all of it into your lifestyle, so when you do that one certain aspect of you… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/03/15 02:40 PM |
| 8 | Suddenly, most of my friends are betasOn your point, I think a lot of us didn't "get the girls", or other things in life for example. We weren't captains of the football team, etc... So we had to figure out what actually was going on through trial and error, or by coming here eventually. Then bingo, things clicked, our limits are raised through knowledge of how things work and also by putting in the work. I'd rather have a higher max limit than the ability to level up quickly. Can you tell I used to play MMORPGs when I was younger? … | /r/TheRedPill | 02/03/15 04:36 PM |
| 7 | The Reason Women Hate Insecure Men3 years into a relationship, in a high tension situation, I once cried in front of my then girlfriend. Within 1-2 weeks after, we were done. Yes, there were some things brewing otherwise, but I believe her seeing me like that may have been the the final nail in the coffin. If you actually do need to cry, do it in private. Lose a loved one, or something really bad happens, etc... shit happens, it is ok to cry in certain situations, but keep it private, or with someone who isn't a sexual partner. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/03/15 03:32 PM |
| 4 | Suddenly, most of my friends are betasFor me, I always thought I was behind the curve in high school, and even college. Ok, actually I really was. Then I see almost all of those who I regarded as alpha, chick bangers marrying off, sometimes with 6 and 7's at age 25-27ish. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/03/15 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Fatherly AdviceRings true with me. He works, my mom stayed home and raised me. No joke, my mom taught me how to shave... and I sort of figured the rest out myself. Never had any 'girl talks' from my dad either. Any of the traditional father son relations didn't really happen in my case. Never even had a beer with my dad until age 24 or so. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/02/15 12:20 AM |
| 8 | Fatherly AdviceThank him. My dad wasn't, or anything close. Lifted in HS - about the only remotely alpha thing he ever did. Then got a job to buy his mother furniture. Then found a girl to do the same to. Beta buck to the Nth degree. Still love the guy though. That will never change. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/02/15 07:09 PM |
| 22 | Fatherly AdviceI think most of us are here because we did not have strong father figures. Doesn't mean we didn't have a father... for example, I come from two parents who have been together for 30 years. Dad has a job, provides, etc.... and is beta. To the extreme. I guess I should rephrase and say most of us probably didn't have alpha father figures. That captain of the football team you envied in high school... yep, $10 says his dad was hardcore alpha. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/02/15 05:30 PM |
| 1 | What women want, and what they say they wantWent down this road in college. Regret it to some extent. Girl was freak, but I could have had multiple different experiences, which may have been better. So it's whatever now. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/02/15 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Strong, silent type vs energetic, out-going typeIt depends on two things - what you're most congruent with and what the environment entails. Example: If you're the strong silent type and that's just you, if you try to play being outgoing and crazy, it can come off as you just doing it for attention, etc.. girls pick up on this, attraction goes down or shit just doesn't work. Same goes the other way. Second is the environment. Clubs/bars cater towards outgoing and loud personalities. Other interactions cater towards the strong silent type. Per… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/02/15 02:11 PM |
| 1 | AskReddit gives hundreds of examples on how women will hide things until after marriageThis thread has been eye opening. Well rather, I kinda always knew these things, but didn't want to admit it. There's some cold hard truth, without you having to live through them. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/02/15 06:48 PM |
| 1 | At the age when women hit the wall.Going through the same now after just turning 27. Hell, I just looked at some Facebook pictures of the girl I dated in college and and went "Oh my God, I didn't date that, did I?"... then I looked at some college era photos and felt ok again, ha. It's mostly about looks, but it's also a big change in what I can see as personality and where they're going in life. I personally believe all their working, improvement, etc just just to have kids. They're nearing that time, so they're maxing out. Us m… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/02/15 11:23 AM |
| 0 | My suggestion to all young guys, especially those that are in college.Couldn't agree more. I probably studied a bit too much. 3.8 GPA in bachelors, near the same in masters. Partied on the weekends, but skipped a lot on the weekdays. Kinda regret it, but only for the social growth. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/02/15 03:15 AM |
| 3 | How many of you tried numerous relationships and found they're just not for you?Couldn't agree more, on all points. Let me elaborate on the time one. Dated a girl 3 years. I get up for work at 5:30am, come home at 6:30pm to my place. Off weekends. We usually spent weekends together, both days, sometimes Friday-Sunday. Then she wanted to start having dinner some nights during the week. Then it was more than one. Told her it was cutting into my workout time and that didn't go over well. Needy needy. I'm the kinda guy who can hang out with a girl once a week, or even every oth… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/02/15 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Confessions from a recent MGTOW swallowing the red pill.My story is similar to yours... kinda. Or really many people here. In short, I get so involved with one girl, time after time, heart broken, only to realize essentially the girl is just making biological choices on who so wants to reproduce with. I hate to say that's what 'love' is, but it's certainly a foundation. After 10 years of jumping from 3-4 year LTR to another, just a month or two ago I realized I actually get more happiness out of doing things I love, rather than being with a girl. Don… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/02/15 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Wake up and figure out who you really are.Just autocross - been into it on and off for about 4-5 years now, but I'm getting serious about it now. Love meeting people through it. I personally have a 2004 WRX. Also contacted a rally team from NJ and should be at the Empire State Rally and STPR this year for their pit crew.... racing against Ken Block, Travis Pastrana, and David Higgins. Fingers crossed that goes through!.. I'll probably just be changing tires and such, but it would be totally worth it for the experience. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/02/15 09:03 PM |
| 12 | Women will shame high SMV men who refuse to commit. Women believe they deserve those resources.Been there, kinda. Obviously, I'm not an NFL star, I don't have millions, etc (or am I? ha) However, with zero debt, no school loans, and a good paying job, I'm doing a lot better than my peers in terms of finances, which carries of to other things I have options to do. Traveling, cars (my main hobby), etc. Was with a girl for 3 years, didn't want to commit in marriage. She did, and wanted 4 kids and large house. Thought I could provide - and I could, financially. Her family and friends now view… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/02/15 07:06 PM |
| 6 | The straw that broke the beta's back.For me, it was a 4 year relationship in college.... ok, and then it took another 3 year relationship just recently to solidify it. I'm think skulled. In college, I was free, didn't give a shit, didn't care. Got too grades, but partied hard, and was social. Then came graduation. Boom. I went for my masters and had to get down and dirty. Girl was seeing 3 years in by then wanted to party and have fun. I became beta. Whiny, complained a lot, didn't have fun, etc. She broke up with me, I went into c… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/02/15 05:36 PM |
| 3 | BP transition... how to adjust mentality?Been there, done that. Sounds to me she's not meeting your standards for anything really long term besides FTB, or just a short fling on the side. I'd use the opportunity to experiment with some 'Red pill ways'... read the sidebar and implement. Also understand it's completely ok to keep her around... just make sure you're going out and getting more numbers, improving yourself, and dating other people. Waking up to the red pill is just that in a nutshell. Not getting tied down by one girl. Learn… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/02/15 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me with someone she met on a Eurotrip... from Australia. He came for Christmas/NYE.Excellent quote. I always felt this even when PUA 'tactics' worked. It felt fake because I was being fake. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/02/15 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me with someone she met on a Eurotrip... from Australia. He came for Christmas/NYE.Thanks. Good advice. And yes, I think I'm done with all the PUA crap. It works, to an extent. But it's the mindsets, not the words. The same can be achieved when you focus on yourself, career, and end up not giving a fuck what others think. ... yikes, scares me how I was acting a month ago. Yuck. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/02/15 09:47 PM |
| 4 | Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me with someone she met on a Eurotrip... from Australia. He came for Christmas/NYE.Thanks. I know I am. First girlfriend was for 3 years in high school, ended with her cheating. Then a quickie in between that and another 4 year one in college... ended with her taking the base of my friends in the end and wanted to 'party more'. Again, after I fell out of the whole party guy scene. Then this last one for 3 years, again, following the same path. I will certainly take your advice. I know it's what I need... just wanted someone to bash it into my thick skull. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/02/15 09:37 PM |
| – | Well..RP ConfirmedActually no, she lost it with me. 100% for certain - not to be graphic, but blood on the sheets, her in pain.. yeah, that was her first time. I'm sure she probably sucked Aussie off and whatnot in Europe.. probably did everything she did with me, with him. She was a Catholic girl, big family, saving her self for marriage. She screwed me 2 days before 'the love of her life' was coming.. then probably did it with him. This was a big wake up call to women in general. You'll have periods of anger, d… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Well..RP ConfirmedMy biggest evidence came when my 3 year LTR came back from a European trip with her cousin, balled her eyes out, and says her life sucked back home and wanted to 'take a break'. Having been in a similar situation, I accepted it. I went out the next night to the bars and clubs, only to have her messaging me within 24 hours saying it was a mistake. I went back, said I would improve and be a better boyfriend (beta talk). Fast forward six months later. I find out she met some Australian guy on that … | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Male-Female friendships. Can men and women be friends? How is the dynamic different VS male friends or girlfriends/plates?I believe they can, on a strictly platonic level though. Case in point: We have a female in our car scene here... loves her WRX, drives it, mods it, comes to meets, drinks beer with us. Just hangs too. But yeah, zero chance of anyone hooking up or going relationship-style. She actually had a boyfriend prior to this, but that fell apart when she purchased her WRX about six months ago. She then started 'hangin' with us guys. I have an inclining her showing up to meets and hanging with her boyfrien… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Not girl related but need some adviceNumber one, you're 20. That's nothing. Even at age 27, I still feel like I'm just getting started in the world. I will say, also being in finance, you'll probably need some type of degree and experience to get into investing and the stock market. People aren't going to hire some guy off the street when there are thousands of applications coming in of people with degrees. I only advocate college because you NEED it to get your foot in the door. I have an MBA, BS, AS, all built on one another. Not… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Crazy girl? Psychotic?Anytime a girl makes a sexual decision she ends up being unhappy with, she will rationalize it some way or another. Either rape, alcohol, he pushed too hard, etc. It isn't uncommon for truths to be stretched or even totally made up stories. | /r/askTRP | |
| – | When is it acceptable to cry/show emotionSounds like you need to let it out. We're human, not TRP robots. You can show emotion, just not around girls you want to date/plate/LTR. NEVER do that. You cried in front of your friend. THAT'S GOOD. Get that shit out. Ball your eyes out of you need to. I'm an overly emotional guy, probably the opposite of you. I get attached to things, cry, get really happy over shit too. However I learned that crying and showing negative emotion like that is best kept secret, but of course, sometimes with anot… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Is being turned from women to a certain extent normal?Read this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1x0gln/the_five_stages_of_red_pill_and_how_to_read_rtrp/ If you're 6 months in, I'll take a guess and say you're in the depression stage. But also, you could just be chilling in a mild anger stage. Trust me though - the stages are real and you'll go through a progression through them. | /r/askTRP | |
| – | escorts safe?Escorts are a no for me, mainly due to legal ramifications. Quite honestly, I feel I'd be walking into a sting operation. There is also the STD risk. Plus, the $$$. I'll skip, it's just not worth it to me when you add up all the risks and costs. Also totally quit fapping. I've found it helps because I'm now more eager to associate with real women, not just get off to a computer screen, despite how 'normal' society makes fapping seem. The urges come, but then I think about the time and effort los… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Eight year relationship worth keeping?Gotcha, clarifies a few things. If you're dating this girl from high school, you absolutely need to get out there and meet more women. The fact that you were a depressed wreck shows you're not ok with yourself without women's validation. And that's ok, I've certainly been there too. Hell, I'll even admit after my second LTR of 4 years out of college, I cried and went into a 6 month state of depression and terrible feelings inside. I feel it's part of the process. Essentially, I think you're two … | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Eight year relationship worth keeping?I would move on. Not just being a typical TRP 'go get plates and increase SMV' response. You should move on because the relationship will cap your overall development. Also, not to mention your sexual exploration and experience building. I don't mean that in a 'go fuck everything that moves' way either - but in a confident, relating to women, way. I was in three LTRs, all lasting 3-4 years each. Each time, I didn't want to move on due to the time invested... and that was it really. Fear of being… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | What's up with these girls?Ah, you sly dog. I see the abundance and 'random' encounter there. I would have never of thought of this. | /r/askTRP | |
| – | What's up with these girls?Honest opinion from going through the same thing: There's nothing you can do with these to make it work. You respond, they get their validation and assurance they didn't do anything wrong. That's good enough for them, they stop texting. You don't respond and pull the TRP card. You think "Hahaha! No validation for you! I win!".... but do you really because they never get back to you after that anways. Side story: Just a week ago I messaged a girl from college. Last time I saw her was about a year… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Thoughts on having a "celebration" rather than marriage?If you're just trying to 'feed the hamsters', I'd just say forget it. No need to. Because really, who cares what they think? That should be one of your foundations of life. TRP or not. Now, if you and your eventual partner would want to have a party of sorts, by all means, do it. I think it's an awesome idea. I'd surely attend, ha. | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Thoughts on having a "celebration" rather than marriage?Your idea is plausible, but it will be very hard to find a woman down for this. I'd have to say 95% are deadset on marriage once in their late 20's and early 30's. | /r/askTRP | |
| – | I broke up with my girlfriend 21 of two years, but i dont want to see her with other guys. what should i do?It usually takes about half the time you were in the relationship to stop having feelings for someone. In your case, your incubation period is 1 year. Anytime you see this girl with a dude for the next year, you're going to get butt hurt. You can speed up the process by meeting and going out with other women (aka, rebounds) however this is a bandaid and doesn't cure the underlying issues. Monk mode. Lifting. Traveling (if you can, even 2-3 hours away to places for day trips). Eating well. Workin… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Question regarding Marriage LawsIn the US, ours goes state by state. Some states automatically combine all assets at marriage, then attempt to divide evenly at the time of divorce. This is difficult when a $300k house is in both names, cars involved, and other large ticket items. Also, alimony is clearly slanted for females. That's just how it is. It's seen here in the US that the male has an obligation to support his ex-wife for many years, not matter who calls for the divorce. This is what I really have a hard time wrapping … | /r/askTRP | |
| – | My Blue Pill To Red Pill StoryHey bud, I skimmed your post. You're better off out. It's hard - I get it. I've been in a similar-ish situation. You care, but you get treated like shit, used. You rationalize that you 'Love her' and 'she'll change'... or 'you can fix her'. The truth is that they will jump to whatever relationship or man suits them at whatever point they are in their lives. They disregard the feelings of others and focus on themselves. This girl is a train wreck and is going to wreck the lives of anyone she stay… | /r/TheRedPill |
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