Growing up without my father

whatever6 · 2013-10-29T11:33:30+00:00

If working on yourself and your career is the only thing that matters to you now. Go for it.

dischordiasnightmare · 2013-10-29T13:17:50+00:00

If you never have, I would suggest seeing a counselor. You're been through some brutal shit and talking about it with a professional may be a good thing. Stress can lead to loss of libido.

And don't freak out. If being as academic as hell is helping you right now, then do it. If nothing else, you're upgrading. Check out Coursera and Ted Talks if you haven't already.

FortunateBum · 2013-10-29T21:20:01+00:00

Sounds good. MGTOW is the shit. Let the women worry about the chase and you'll be so much happier.

pcadrian · 2013-10-29T16:18:19+00:00

You know, my story is somewhat similar to yours, divorced mom, remarried but stepdad wasn't very involved in being a role model, mom constantly manipulative (she still tries it). I moved out as soon as I could, and I've actively worked on self-development for the past couple of years (I'm 25, you are way ahead of the game doing all this at 21).

I think you just have to take matters into your own hands and learn as much as you can on your own. Stick around this sub, as there is a lot of valuable content popping up here and there.

Is this a transient thing?

Well, the only thing to ask yourself is whether or not you are happy doing what you're doing. It sounds to me like you have a clear mission to work on (your education at the moment), and that you are fulfilled doing that. That's all that matters.

I've had periods where I was so immersed in my mission that I could care less about women or getting laid. And I was happy doing what I was doing. Like you said, there's a lot of BS to put up with, as quality women just aren't the majority anymore. I don't think there's anything wrong with you for not wanting to deal with all that.

Good luck.

johnstinbeiber · 2013-10-29T16:41:10+00:00

Thank you everybody. I appreciate it; absolutely will be sticking around.

mordanus · 2013-10-29T17:10:37+00:00

self improvement is always the way to go man. Academia is a good one to start on. My suggestion would be to add martial arts and lifting to that. Both of those give you confidence and that confidence will help you leave your shitty past behind. Also pick up a couple of hobbies that interest you like flyfishing or woodcarving or whatever. Something that you can do that will give you pride in your own accomplishments. Try to avoid hobbies that you can't show off to others.

Finally I would add that you have to accept what was done to you and move on. Never allow anyone or anything that resembles your past to enter your life again. Do not date women with that kind of baggage. You might think that a woman like that will understand you or that you can possibly help her and try to fix her. It will only bring back the pain for you. If you are going to ever date a woman try your best to make her everything that your family is not.

trudatness · 2013-10-29T14:01:54+00:00

As men we are expected to internalize and as you say "soldier" through it. This can be risky, but it sounds like you have found an outlet (school) that allowing you to burn up some energy in a constructive manner. Avoid self-medicating with drugs or alcohol.

You're experiencing some aversion to females because of your experience with women in your life. Sort of like the hand and the hot stove. Hopefully you will start associating relationships with women as being a positive experience sometime in the future, but it will take some time and a fair amount of self-counseling (and maybe some professional counseling).

For me, getting through difficult things in my life just took a period of introspection. I needed to remove myself from the negative stimulus and process it all. Sounds to me that's what you are doing with school.

My father told me long ago that women are just bitches. They just are. They are solipsistic, selfish brats that expect you to do things for them. Even the most independent, self-supportive, emotionally mature, financially high achieving women expect you to open doors for them, always pick up the check and generally kiss their asses all of the time while they rule like queen bitches on high - and maybe - just maybe - if you're a good little soldier - they'll act like they kind of like fucking you on occasion.

Dude it fucking is what it fucking is - you might as well get used to it. Women are cunts. Lets not sugar coat this. They expect you to give 110% while they give 30% at their leisure. If you don't fall in line with their expectations, you pay the price.

That's the bad news.

The good news is you don't have to be their doormat and you don't have to let them run roughshod over you for their fun and profit. Set boundaries and don't allow yourself to be manipulated. Gain control over yourself and your emotions. Learn to check people right from the get-go, that need to be checked . Once you master that, then you can project influence over your environment. It's a process.

You're young. At 21 you are supremely disadvantaged in the gender war. It just goes with the territory. As you get older, and if you make good choices, you'll find yourself more and more in the driver's seat.

If the petty, manipulative bullshit turns you off, then ignore them for a while. Set yourself up for success in life. You wouldn't be the first one to throw himself at building personal achievement to get through a tough stretch. If the internal pressure is too much to handle, then let it out to a counselor.

Get on a mission and stay on the mission, before you know it shit will start to look good. Then maybe you'll be able to stop and smell the roses. Single dudes with high paying careers who are confident and give zero fucks get their asses kissed by women. Sounds to me like you've had enough of them shitting on you, you need to experience the alternative.

Title	Growing up without my father
Author	johnstinbeiber
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	October 29, 2013 10:44 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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