Hamster thinking on modern day 'dating'

HumanSockPuppet · 2013-02-13T18:46:18+00:00

As usual, it's only a problem when it happens to her. The cause-du-jour is technology.

Vague statements like "Technology is changing the way we socialize" are missing the point.

The game is the same. Social media and cellphones are just an added tool, and they're shifting the power in men's favour. Here's why:

The reason dating used to be more formal is that you had fewer opportunities to make contact with a specific person. You had to call someone on the phone and arrange to meet them, so each exchange felt more significant.

But nowadays, you can reach anyone, anywhere at anytime. You can be in perpetual contact with partners and never be in the same room as them for months at a time.

Thing is, women are now getting a taste of what it's like to be option #27 in a list of 39.

See, women were still being hit on constantly even in the pre-social media days. Their perception of option availability was still much higher than men's.

Now that social media has allowed us all to reach more people, both sexes have seen their numbers of perceived options increase, but the number of perceived options that men have has gone up higher than it has for women relative to what they were pre-social media.

In other words, men are now acting as "flaky" as women because they feel like they have as many options as women do. And they're not wrong.

And so, the hamster turns its wheels to find a "problem".

VZPurp · 2013-02-13T19:07:51+00:00

At 29, I’m very happy with my life - it’s fun and fulfilling and I rarely feel lonely.

The rest of the article, especially its conclusion, suggests otherwise.

[deleted] · 2013-02-14T12:13:50+00:00

What immediately struck me was how she made it seem like it she had to reveal her entire world online. Like it wasn't a choice. Like she had to follow the herd of women with their phones and other validation streams.

Sola_Rex · 2013-02-14T00:39:36+00:00

Money quote was here:

At this point, I’d been sleeping with this man for…. it was clear that our ‘relationship’ was no such thing, that he wasn’t willing to give me what I wanted and deserved.

and deserved

Blame it on new technology? The more things change, the more they stay the same. Her picture and second chin put her at a fairly low spot in the sexual marketplace (perhaps a 4, depending on how charitable one wants to be), but she is still holding out hope that some 'prince' is going to notice her (that 'chemistry') and it's all going to work. Has modern technology changed how the female self-deception works? Not in quality, but because of the greater ambiguity, it allows them to fool themselves more easily.

What does that mean to us? It means: Just play the game. Leave it ambiguous where possible, and only become clear when absolutely necessary. This gives women space to spin their own romantic dramas, complete with the full range of emotion from infatuation to dread.

sweisman · 2013-02-14T20:24:17+00:00

If she has a problem with being Facebook friends with former lovers, why doesn't she just defriend them, instead of complaining?! Typical hamster at work.

legendofpasta · 2013-02-13T21:32:41+00:00

Look at her feminist dykey hair cut... Yeah she's gonna need a cat or something

Title	Hamster thinking on modern day 'dating'
Author	strontiumdog
Upvotes	16
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Date	February 13, 2013 1:24 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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