Here is a long story which I wrote in an amateur way but bare with me as this is my first post here. This all happened before I was aware about TRP and is the reason behind my discovery of it. So I had a strong case of onetis with this girl who I liked for 4 years. During these 4 years, Several changes took place like: I became above average in looks from being ugly and started having a good social life instead of being a socially awkward penguin while this girl went from being pretty to being chubby and not that attractive by face now (She still has a nice body). So last year after graduating from high school,Since I occasionally talked about her to my friends,one day one of my out of shape looking friend who was somewhat good friends with this girl too revealed to me that this girl had a little sister who was mentally unstable and she died 1 year ago due to brain tumor and hence she this girls stays depressed and at the same time her bf who was of different school dumped her(Although point to be noted is that when she was committed to that guy,she also used to be super clingy with another dude of our school who once himself told me that this girl is a slut). So I felt really bad after knowing this and thought no one deserves such tragic things.

So finally I started initiating conversation with her in fb in the hope to know her and make her happy at the same time and then started whatsapping her after giving her my number (I would like to point out that she knew very well about me liking her before I initiated the conversation as during the last days of school I did confess to her that I used to like her, Did it after getting sentimental upon hearing her sad story). It was all going good,we had free time as we had the holidays in between of transition to college.I flirted with her and she flirted back with me and even sang romantic songs for me and asked whether I want to impress the girl singing this song and all(Many teases like that and late night talking and flirting) but I have to admit that she was very boring but she was very sweet and this became the justification for my Onetis for her and made me think that she might not be pretty or interesting but at least she is very sweet and innocent and that's something I want from a potential gf. Through these convos with her I also came to know that her parents are quite strict and don't allow her to go anywhere out without some trusted friend living near her house accompanying her (And this is quite true. She never hanged out that much outside school with school friends much although had dated 4-5 boys during school time which I was aware of myself so it wasn't like she didn't date guys. Anyways now she was bored most of the time in home as we were in between the holidays of transition from school to college. So yeah I was the only one talking to her other than some of her female friends living near her home. Since having a major onetis for her. I was always scared of being totally frank with her and telling her that I like her. Although I made it 99.99% apparent with the way I talked to her and she knew it too very well. So I indirectly asked her to have a specific dish (She is a foodie) that she hadn't tried before at a place which is famous here for it, alone with me and she agreed and said once her college start, She'll bunk it to have it with me.

Now once her college started, I started getting flaked on asking her to meet me. I asked her 3 times total and in between those asking of meetups she herself insisted to take her to that place and again flaked,So I told her to drop the plan as I realized she is just flaking me but then again few days later she tells me that "You didn't take me there to try that dish :(" to which I replied "Now I don't have time for it" for which she taunted me by saying that I was showing attitude and since I am a person who doesn't like to say no to anyone or make anyone sad and specially to someone who has lost her sister. I again proposed her a day to have that dish and guess what ? She flaked again :'D . By this time I realized she has put me in the limbo so I stopped flirting with her but I still did favors for her due to sympathy like giving her step by step instructions on troubleshooting her laptop as her computer knowledge is next to nil(Although I would like to say that she kept flirting back in an obvious way too and it didn't seem to like an one way delusion. I now realize that she was very cunning and was always able to sense when I was losing interest in her hence she baited me more) and now whenever she asked how she looked in her pics, I started honestly giving her my views that she is not that attractive now as she used to be and she has gained weight too, to which she used to send me different pics of her to justify she hasn't got that fat or chubby too and she used to mention random dude's name and doing dumb stuff like praising random guys synthetically that it was so obvious for me that she wanted me to react but I always avoided reacting and had lost interest in her.

Now I rarely initiated with her and she was the one who started coming for me and all this continued for 2-3 months more. So now lets come to present. A few weeks back,out of sympathy I started telling her what she can do to be interesting in convos and she started implying them so it made me happy that she is at least trying...and on 13th feb she again did the dumb thing of bringing a dbag dude in the convo who she met in her friends birthday party saying how cute this guy is (she sent me his picture) and how he is a friend of her female college friend and how sweet this guy is..plus my favorites "If I wanted to have a bf I would have settled for him" and "He is so sweet that I might get diabetes". It was so obvious that she wanted me to react that I out of pity faked a reaction saying "I don't give a fuck about him" to which she taunted me saying that I got jealous and how "Hahaha Boys are so weird". Anyways that day we did the maximum talking we ever did on any day. So at night all this made me think out of pity that maybe now I should propose her and maybe that's why she is doing all this before valentines day and so I did ask her out the next day and in return I got a "No :P i lyk u as a frnd"(Btw that's how she types). And I was pissed the whole day because I realized I am so naive and a noob at all this and I have never asked out any girl before that day as I am very afraid of rejection and rejection is what I got :'D . Then she started to take the convo towards a basic convo while I was still in disbelief. I did talk a little with her but then I couldn't control my anger and told her "I didn't talk to you because I find you pretty or interesting. I did because of my old feelings for you but since that is not in the equation, I have no reason to talk to you". She replied with "ohk bye" but after 10 minutes or so she started showering angry smileys and I kept ignoring her and at the end she said "Fine don't ever talk to me,bye" and I replied with bye.

After 3 days, It was her birthday. So I did wish her as it seemed correct to me morally and she replied with thank you,after that we didn't talk to each other. Few days passed and in the morning I got message from her saying "V need to tok" and I ignored it stating to myself that this girl is not worth my time and energy. Then at night I was browsing fb and she becoming friends with that guy came in my newsfeed. Since she was not online, I realized she was desperate enough to send this guy a request which she rarely does for any boy and this realization made me so sad that I felt like crying, That how I stayed loyal to her for 1 year and didn't pursue any other girl while how easily she fell for a guy she met a guy once a few days back. I really felt that I got played by a girl to whom I asked her out of sympathy ? btw I have a popular friend circle with pretty female friends too whom I intended to be my friend only unlike this girl) and I had a reputation of cool guy and other than my friends so I would like to say that I am not an social outcast (I have a good sense of humor too according to everybody I talk to) and every girl used to mistake my social awkwardness with attitude and how "I don't talk to people". Anyways what should I do to not get rejected like this again ? I do know making her my priority was a big mistake and I would like to put emphasis on the fact that I am much more good looking than that girl's exs. That's why it feels like a blow to my self esteem.This girl is also under the impression that I do all that because she is attractive and shit while most of things I did or compromised for her was because of my sympathy for this girl. Do you think if next time this girl tries to contact me,I give her the fatal blow and burst her bubble by bringing up the main reason for putting up with her is because I feel bad for her losing her sister and not because she is attractive ? or is she not worth that too ? Bringing this up will surely make her sad but I think she needs to learn her lesson too.

Tl;dr: I think I put beta category to new level of shame.