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[–]NineInchPitchfork 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You can't be seriously considering letting her dictate how and where you work out? If you give in on this you will be on your heels for ever more in your LTR. Calmly but firmly tell her that working out is important to you and that all decisions regarding it are primarily your concern. Only change gyms if you regard it as a positive development for your training. If you do, you will have to make it clear that you did NOT do so because of her issues (jealousy, insecurity).
[–]hassavo1 points 10 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh, I totally understand that. The gym she's getting me a membership for is just SO much nicer than my current gym. How can I convince her the change isn't due to her new insecurities?
[–]NineInchPitchfork 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You would have to show wild enthusiasm for how much better a workout is at the new gym AND throw a little dread game her way (make some female acquaintances at the new place and make sure your SO knows about it).
[–]dgillz 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This. Thank her profusely while going on about how much better of a workout you're going to get. Then after the first few actual workouts, repeat. After the 4th-5th workout, mention as cool as you can that you have met some really cool guys and girls there (even if it is not true). The hamster will take it from there.
She needs to realize you are the prize and changing workout venue does not change that one iota.
[–]bl33dingr3d 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You unwittingly have applied dread game, congrats. Switch gyms only if you want to, but don't do it on her accord. BUT, if you want your girl to get in better shape and going to the gym together will get her there? Might be worth it if it doesn't detract from your goals. Up to you, this is a pretty minor issue in the grand scheme of things.
[–]TheMGhandi 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
All gyms have hot chicks...dude I think she's sending you to a gay gym.
[–]Profdiddy 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is very similar to the shit tests my girlfriend gives me. I am not exactly a RPer but i definitely ascribe to some of the self improvement advice given here. I have been on a 5 x 5 lifting program for the past four months. Was lifting aimlessly and doing cardio before this. My insanely jealous Greek Albanian gf shit tests every time. She will say things like "you look fatter and seem weaker" or "you don't have the energy to fuck me like before" or the annoying "are you going to the gym to see your other gfs?" I should write a post about this. I usually deflect these or amplify into absurdity or simply shut her up with the D. Back to the point. Of course she feels threatened, we are looking better and to their lazy butts it is passive dread game. In bringing her, you confirmed her dread. Don't bring her. Bring or make a guy friend. Reassure her you have nothing going on. Take a look at passing shit test posts. Now go pray at the temple of iron like I am about to do!
[–]ModRedSovereign 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Post questions to /r/asktrp.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
and she got very upset about "the way girls were looking at me"
Hypergamy is working in your favour and she's shit testing you hard.
Obviously don't change, this is relationship fuel, don't burn it.
[–]hassavo1 points 10 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
How do I capitalize on this?
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You say "No". It's all working just fine.
[–]hassavo 1 points1 points1 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
No to the new gym? It's SO much nicer than mine though...
Unless it is a gay gym as someone else suggested (do these even exist?) I'd take it and let her know about all the cool guys and especially girls you met there (even if its not true). Talk about how girl X is so in shape, etc. The hamster will take it from there.
You might your girl in the gym and you'll definitely get laid.
[–]1oldredder -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
NO: let her have her space and let her be angry that other women better than her check you out.
If she didn't have space she'd mess up your life. If she didn't see other women want you, she'd put you down and exploit you.
This course of action, how you got where you are, is actually the best it will ever get.
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