Holding frame

IanIronwood · 2014-09-10T00:38:58+00:00

You know all that bullshit about "just be yourself"?

Don't.

Be someone else. A badass. Watch Las Vegas (TV series) and check out James Caan's character, Ed Deline. Pure Wolf Alpha who almost never, ever loses frame. (also a whole lotta eye candy and great RP themesong.)

Be him.

Or Elvis.

Or whichever Alpha you identify with. Cultivate the ability to project an Alpha presentation, and you won't lose frame. Feelz are for Grrlz. Grab your rocks and get cocky, son.

tracer123 · 2014-09-10T01:15:57+00:00

A lot of it is practice. You build on previous dates and you start to recognise elements where you went wrong, it actually becomes enjoyable as you strip out the beta from your life, when you get to a certain point you are just changing it by small degrees and actually realise you need to inject some beta so she thinks she can convert you. If you are young, it gets easier with age. My thought process is usually the following: "ok, next time I won't say this" or something similar.

itchymuller · 2014-09-10T01:30:59+00:00

It's a matter of practice. After swallowing the red pill you'll become more and more perceptive of the shit-tests and the situations where you need to hold frame. The more you recognise these moments early on, the more you can take a moment and hold frame.

Only after reading the stuff here on this sub have I begun to slowly recognize my past mistakes and recognize the shit-tests when they were given to me. And i revel in them. Every time I get a chance to hold frame I see that as a win. A chance for me to one-up the girl and pass the test, with a better outcome for me than before.

Trial and error, my friend. Realise that every single waking day of your life, a situation may arise where you need to hold frame. Be vigilant. Your emotions are yours and not one else's. You don't talk about em, you don't even get to feel them at the time they arise. They are yours.

Get it in your head that the moment you show emotion, you failed. The moment that you engage in whatever juvenile bullshit someone comes up with, you fail. And you don't want to fail... so from now on everytime you sense that something is not right: You breathe and think 'what would a TRPer do?'.

What also helps is to just remove yourself from the situation. Just say: 'I will not engage you and the way you are handling yourself right now is not worthy of my time and respect' - and leave. Give yourself some time to figure out how to react. Usually the answer is either silence or a stern 'no'.

Roughknot · 2014-09-10T03:36:19+00:00

I try and remember this quote from a story I found on Return of Kings. "Emotions were nothing but the ripples that emanate from the gap between expectation and reality." This makes me laugh at myself for expecting people to live up to my expectations. I don't think you'll ever eliminate the gap (nor should you) but it makes it easier to handle the truth of the situation.

MasterBaiterX · 2014-09-10T00:52:36+00:00

Honestly I used to be very hot headed, even before any kind of RP stuff I made a conscious effort to stay quiet for a couple of secounds and take in the situation.

A lot of the time people think they have to react immediately, but if a chick is shit testing you at a bar or something, and you just take a drink or stare at her or look distracted for like 3-5 secounds before saying anything you have more time to A. Come up with something B. not lose control C. it's kind of menacing(not really, but something along those lines).

Of course this is very situational, but always make an effort to take it all in and remember silence and in some cases removing yourself from the situation is better than failing a shit test.

Title	Holding frame
Author	Rogerdodger1985
Upvotes	0
Comments	5
Date	September 10, 2014 12:25 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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