Roughknot Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
40	I am happy	Roughknot	/r/ThankTRP	07/08/14 02:02 PM
23	Making your reality her perception	Roughknot	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/12/15 01:15 PM
9	[FR] - Realisation of bigger success	Roughknot	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/01/15 12:53 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	10 ways to fail in turning your LTR red This is bang on advice / observations of the effort it takes to maintain a LTR or marriage.	/r/TheRedPill	15/09/19 12:54 AM
6	10 ways to fail in turning your LTR red Yeah but for a lot of us going Rambo is just finding limits. You have no basis for comparison so it's natural go past the limits. The trick is recognising it, parking the ego and recalibrating.	/r/TheRedPill	15/09/19 12:48 AM
19	How To Attract Women By Challenging Them "Treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen." Is a quote I grew up with. The best advice I read on here was to tease them like you would your little sister.	/r/TheRedPill	18/03/19 08:31 PM
1	Discussion: Do you want children? What is the best way to have children? I have a few kids. The best way I've found to raise is teach them to be cynical and to question & challenge things that occur in life. I planted seeds along the way since I took the red pill and they are all bearing fruit. News stories of bias and circumstances that arise are good teaching moments. Discipline is critical. What I mean by that is not being unduly hard on them but making them understand the value of self discipline. Make sure whatever they are pursuing in life that they are being d…	/r/TheRedPill	08/03/19 11:54 PM
9	Jordan Peterson's Cathy Newman Interview: Good Example Of "Meta-Frame" Against Feminism So you've taken one part of his beliefs and values, overstated it's importance in his overall identity because of your of slopism and your perceived expertise in this aspect. This is no different to what the SJW do with identity politics. They take one part of the whole and make absolute generalisations about the whole person. In other words have taken a potentially valid argument and made yourself appear cheap and petty.	/r/TheRedPill	23/01/18 08:20 PM
6	You are going to get old You're missing the big picture here. With my mum in a nursing home and my dad dying last year all I can say is keep on doing the red pill shit. Stay strong, fit and healthy. Take charge of your life and be accountable for it. We strive to be the best we can be here and yet here you are painting a bleak picture of mediocrity and it's shitty consequences. My life is not going down that blue pill path anymore. So fuck off with your doomsday bullshit and become an actuary so you can afford your the …	/r/TheRedPill	19/12/17 10:48 AM
2	Maroon 5's failed attempt to use The Redpill Are they trying to say no one googled "red pill" before they chose the name? Bullshit.	/r/TheRedPill	25/11/17 02:28 AM
1	Authenticity The first phase is the fake it till you make it or as I like to call it the paint by numbers approach. Take the bits of the Red pill and apply them. To continue the analogy. You can fool some people into thinking your an artist with a paint by numbers approach but won't bear heavy scrutiny. At the other end of the spectrum you have someone who has mastered the craft and is creating true art and who is confident in their abilities as an artist.	/r/TheRedPill	05/11/17 04:48 AM
3	Dread Game I think you are getting into semantics but I'll address the intent of your reply. Personally I don't threaten to leave. When I did it once and it wasn't a threat I was going to leave. I'm being more honest with her now than I ever have. She knows I've got options and if I'm not happy I can choose to use those options. If I'm not happy with her I let her know, I don't threaten her with consequences, we're adults, see has options too. If she doesn't like me expressing my needs and desires she can …	/r/TheRedPill	18/10/17 04:51 AM
5	Dread Game The assumption that manipulation or persuasion is inherently abusive is naive. People are always manipulating or being manipulated. You're trying to do it now by reframing it as abusive to create shame in your audience. I've used dread in my marriage and guess what it took a while to work because she was a better and more experienced manipulator! Again you're probably thinking she must be BPD or something, nope just a regular female. Now I've got dread working in the relationship at a sustainabl…	/r/TheRedPill	18/10/17 02:20 AM
7	The main lessons I've learned after 3 years of implementing TRP You should be very proud of what you have achieved, both mentally and physically.	/r/TheRedPill	20/09/17 03:11 AM
2	Fuck your male hamstering Thank you for calling this bullshit out and furthermore explaining why it was bullshit. Remember if it was easy everyone would be doing it!	/r/TheRedPill	17/07/17 05:20 AM
3	Shit Tests Vs. Narcissistic Abuse (Extensive) Think you missed something in all of this. You need to have boundaries and you need to manage them in a way that doesn't come across as butt hurt. There is a real difference between shit tests and plain old disrespect. Learn the difference or you will end up as the doormat you've described. Good luck fellas.	/r/TheRedPill	25/04/17 01:59 AM
8	The truth about the older guy and younger girl dynamic as well as older guys that do well with younger women. I'm in my late 30s, been lifting and redpilling for 3 years. Even with a solid amount of grey in my hair people assume I'm 10 years younger. I get crazy attention from younger girls, even some that go to high school with my sons! University students seem particularly keen though. Be attractive don't be unattractive are maxims to live by, build a strong body and look after your health will make you attractive but don't fuck it up by being unattractive with shit grooming, dressing like a grandpa o…	/r/TheRedPill	24/04/17 12:12 AM
1	We're almost 1/4 of the way into 2017- what have you started doing to up your game? New hair style - time to mix it up Needed to make more time in the day so get up at 5:15am now to go to gym. It was a hard transition but worth it. Stretching and yoga moves - dedicating the early start on my rest days to stretching and yoga moves to loosen my hips, legs and back. Working out great	/r/TheRedPill	16/03/17 11:45 AM
1	Review of Rollo's SMV Chart I think what it really needs is a distribution range. Younger age groups 10% killing it based on looks (body/face), older age groups it might widen to 20% as other SMV factors success as wealth and status broaden the pool of high SMV beyond that that built and/or good looking.	/r/TheRedPill	28/02/17 09:35 AM
6	The Wife, PMS, RedPill, and AWALT Call her out, keep busy. Sometimes I lose track of her cycle and without fail I always lose my attraction for her and my eye starts wandering and I get my flirty with other girls. Wife doesn't have to be there, she feels the change in me and gets the dread. She gets nice real quick.	/r/TheRedPill	28/02/17 09:16 AM
1	Do not neglect your lower back muscles! I've had back issues since my teens. Early on lifting helped more than anything, particularly squats and deadlifts. However there is one part that still stuffs me up. The desk job. The imbalances from sitting need to be countered. For me that means stretching the lower back and groin while strengthening my hamstrings, glutes and abs. This has improved my back out of sight.	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/17 05:55 AM
1	Two concepts that have helped me Learning to be happy despite discomfort is greater challenge. Or finding happiness, satisfaction, gratification from going through discomfort. Being a man is often about doing the things others either can't or won't.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/02/17 05:47 AM
1	Done my back doing deadlifts - help Hey mate, been there done that. Few things to get out of the way. The deadlift was the tipping point but likely not the cause. It effectively highlighted underlying strains, pressures and other issues all in your back and legs (from your own statement of "not feeling the best") Most likely is a severe muscle spasm. This will take time and some help to reduce. There are a few good stretches to check out - you will need a form roller for a few. Legs * Get your adductor (groin) stretches. Lunging a…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/12/16 03:12 AM
5	Mitch's Purple Pill That initial phase is what I refer to as painting by numbers phase.	/r/TheRedPill	14/10/16 01:46 AM
2	Selecting a wife: you can lower your odds of divorce to about 10% through proper vetting The fundamental question that I ask is this; after reducing the risk of divorce is it still a good relationship? Would you still want to be married? What if they don't divorce because they feel trapped. Staying married isn't necessarily predicate a fulfilling relationship or individual happiness. Using divorce as a success measure could be seen as specious when you don't contrast the alternate states of martial status.	/r/TheRedPill	14/10/16 01:33 AM
1	FR: POLL: Where we are at How long you have implemented red pill into your marriage? 2 years Where are you at on the 12 Levels of Dread? Took it to level 10, sitting comfortably at 8 (I enjoy 8) How long have you been married, and how is it going? Over 15 years. Never been better. How is your sex life? (quantity and quality) Usually as much as I want (sometimes more), quality has improved out of sight. Never been better.\ How are you? (happiness, fitness- do you even lift? dadbod?) I'm the happiest I've ever been. I lift…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/06/16 11:26 PM
11	Shameless Brag Thread Firstly some context for those looking for something like their own situation. I'm in my late 30's, been with my wife ~20 years, kids. Swallowed the pill almost 2 years ago since then. I'm in the best shape of my life Earned a promotion with 30% pay rise Girls flirt with me and get flustered around me Gay guys have asked for my number A girl almost 20 years younger hit on me I get road head or handies from the wife I have plenty of sex and it's good sex Wife has got hot again edit: formatting	/r/TheRedPill	19/04/16 09:01 AM
2	Why you're lost To move away heavy philosophy discussion and back to the intend of the post. Moving straight to this desired state as OP describes is fucking hard. I think it is completely valid for people trying to find their way after being unplugged to be guided rather that try and answer this question first. I went through the motions of applying what I learnt from TRP knowing it was working but unsure of the end goal. Why? Because I lacked a sense of self, an identity. I had been the dutiful son, the good …	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/04/16 01:04 PM
7	ThotMart & Objectification of Women 101 Spot on, happened in my marriage. I improved my SMV well above hers and she still couldn't see that I'd changed from a Beta Bitch. I was preparing to walk, she found out, told her what had to happen for me to stay married. She has complied and now we are both happier (Honestly didn't expect her to change). Now I'll never love her like I used to but I couldn't put my finger on the difference. But you've done it. I objectify her now, she either adds value or she doesn't. Any other sentiments are a…	/r/TheRedPill	31/03/16 02:22 AM
3	"Are you gay?" Sometimes it's their hamster. They know they don't have a chance but they still want you, so they make up their mind that you are gay and that's why. Nothing about them having a much lower SMV. The example I have is when drinking with some randoms at a bar and post wall hag made the statement that I'm gay trying to get me to qualify myself. I just laughed it off, ignored her and talked to the blokes at the table. The interesting part came later when she said "you have to be gay, you're too perfe…	/r/TheRedPill	28/03/16 12:48 AM
9	Long awaited suggestions from a RPW Mod Honestly who gives a fuck. Sure I was hamfisted and crude when I started TRP (before mrp), but I didn't give a fuck. When you're angry you don't really care who you hurt including yourself. But guess what, my measure of success wasn't being married, it was being happy. I've achieved that now AND I also happen to be married (still). But I also know I could be happy not being married.	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/03/16 08:32 PM
5	Why "choreplay" won't result in sex I was was recently speaking to my friends wife. She wants a pool he said no. She said she'll just go on a sex strike. But they don't see that as manipulation it's just fair. In my BP days I was big on the coreplay. Fuck that shit. A while ago she came home after therapy and said I need need to help more. I said no. I said everything you do around the house I can do. You can't do everything I do, so you'll keep doing the laundry until you are willing and able to yard work. Shut her up nicely no i…	/r/TheRedPill	07/03/16 08:16 PM
1	Does RP work in a Work Environment? Without a doubt. The confidence you get from lifting and understanding basic human psychology makes it easy to cut through the crap. When I started swallowing the pill I was in a job that while important for the organisation had no growth and shitty management. I was a doormat. I work in a large corporate so I took a side step to escape and rebuild. Since then I've been dressing smarter, networking, play the leadership when possible, can do attitude, talk less (pause before responding, throw the…	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/03/16 11:00 PM
1	Making your reality her perception I've been there many a time over the last 18 months. Only you know your limits of patience and only you know your wife's capacity for change. There is whole other post about disrespect that is separate but related to sexual strategy which I think needs to be addressed in MRP. For me when I reached the point of leaving, I was prepared to own the consequence either way it fell. I left nothing on the table when I told her why I was leaving. That was very cathartic and it means I got to reset as wel…	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/12/15 08:22 PM
1	Making your reality her perception Excellent point. You have to remain congruent to the new perception otherwise it will falter and the old image may resurface.	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/12/15 08:11 PM
2	Making your reality her perception Firstly well done. I'd would have preferred not using the brunt force approach. But why set people up for failure? There is much context lost in such a short post. In relation to the conditions that I thought she would fail, these were issues that I'd previously raised but she had dismissed or straight out refused. Without these things being addressed I was still going to walk. These weren't minor things, like how to stack the dishwasher. She finally saw how serious these issues are to me. And n…	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/12/15 08:09 PM
1	The 30 Day Challenge #1 - SLEEP DAY 4: 8 hours. Went to sleep at 22:20 and woke up at 6:10am	/r/TheRedPill	03/08/15 11:39 PM
1	The 30 Day Challenge #1 - SLEEP DAY 3: 8.25 hours. Went to sleep at 22:05 and woke up at 6:20am	/r/TheRedPill	03/08/15 03:21 AM
1	The 30 Day Challenge #1 - SLEEP DAY 2: 8 hours. Went to sleep at 22:06 and woke up at 6:00am	/r/TheRedPill	03/08/15 03:20 AM
1	The 30 Day Challenge #1 - SLEEP DAY 1: 7.5 hours. Went to sleep at 22:36 and woke up at 6:10am	/r/TheRedPill	03/08/15 03:19 AM
1	Embracing Difficulty I was always one of those pathetic guys making excuses for myself by shitting on what other accomplished. I've woken up and I know that those are the guys I seek out as friends , colleagues and mentors. I am letting my masculinity have the reins and life is steadily improving.	/r/TheRedPill	01/08/15 07:09 AM
4	The 30 Day Challenge #1 - SLEEP Roughknot will take part in this challenge!	/r/TheRedPill	31/07/15 03:46 AM
1	Well fellas, I might have been way too late for MRP... Correct. But clearly in this situation the best thing within his control is to get a divorce. Being a man doesn't mean taking on all the world's problems.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/07/15 01:34 AM
4	Well fellas, I might have been way too late for MRP... No way man. That shit is not acceptable under any circumstances, regardless if you are blue pill, red pill. Lawyer up and get the fuck out. I don't understand why everyone else is putting this on you and second guessing you. Look after yourself first. Like fucking oxygen on the plane.	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/07/15 09:11 AM
20	The "You're gay" shit test The best response I've read is "No but my boyfriend is." Wish I'd remembered it.	/r/TheRedPill	30/06/15 02:14 AM
2	The "You're gay" shit test Got this the other week. This post wall hag asked me if I was gay. I laughed. She kept at it. And then she said "You must be gay, you're too perfect". I just laughed again ignored her and talked to my new drinking buddy's. She was into me the whole time. Before I met her my buddy's said she was mirin. She was just trying to get me to validate myself to her or try to make me prove I'm not gay with her. Yeah right.	/r/TheRedPill	30/06/15 12:38 AM
1	For all you guys that ask for advice and then get pissy, or delete your account read this My comment from the main original thread stands: He wasn't looking for feedback or criticism. It sounds like he was looking for endorsement or validation of his approach. That way if it didn't work he >could transfer the agency of responsibility to the "TRP community" and therefore not take any >responsibility for his actions. If it worked, he was right all along. Basically he is scared of failing and even more scared of taking responsibility for failing. The people here aren't a crutch to help …	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/05/15 09:58 AM
1	Coming up on 11 years... I think you are projecting here. I had the same upbringing as you but I don't think for a second that any unplugged man is going to make the same mistakes as a Beta father after a divorce. Or at least not the not the fathers on MRP who give a damn. Many of my learned behaviours were created before the divorce because things were so tense and sought not to be moments bother. Divorce would have been a better outcome if my Dad had been involved more instead of moving an hour away.	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/05/15 02:23 AM
1	Coming up on 11 years... Look man I'm in a similar situation. I realize I don't have the self awareness to bring this out on my own. I've started seeing a therapist to discuss how I'm feeling, the things that trouble me so I can try and get to the why of this feeling of dissatisfaction, in spite of significant improvements. Some the things that have come out for me so far is the lack of respect, the game playing, black & white thinking and the lack of support / encouragement. There is also factors of her personality whi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/05/15 02:17 AM
2	Take the Fucking Criticism He wasn't looking for feedback or criticism. It sounds like he was looking for endorsement or validation of his approach. That way if it didn't work he could transfer the agency of responsibility to the "TRP community" and therefore not take any responsibility for his actions. If it worked he was right all along. Basically he is scared of failing and even more scared of taking responsibility for failing.	/r/TheRedPill	19/05/15 01:37 AM
1	[Poll] How close have you come to just saying "Fuck it" and starting your life over? Probably 3 times that I had my finger on the trigger, so to speak. * Once pre-RP which led me to RP * Again during the anger phased * And a few months ago after some really shitty behaviour by her Why I didn't are due to a few factors, * I wanted to give RP a chance * I was a pussy * I want her to get some job security before I did it * Some things are too convenient / comfortable to move on at that point (mainly kid stuff) Shit is complicated and as much I try to find justification and rational…	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/05/15 09:53 AM
1	The Red Pill in Context Or what? Someone out there, won't think well of us, our opinions or arguments? I'm pretty sure that those that going looking for fault will find with or without your microscope. End of the day the posters aren't here to carter for an mythical audience. There are here to share with their brothers who come from all walks of line and experiences. One size will not and should not fit all. Bring on the irreverent, bring on the crass, bring on the smut, bring it on.	/r/TheRedPill	22/04/15 06:54 AM
7	Questions every man should be asking Top quality post of useful theory and application. I'm reading more about assertiveness and when people use should / shouldn't, generalisations etc they are limiting you and trying to keep you in a box via manipulation. The most effective way is to innocently challenge their assertion. e.g. Nagging wife says to the husband: "What would happen if everyone's husbands spent Saturday's playing golf?" (Trying to guilt husband). A brow beaten husband would rely "You're probably right" and put the club…	/r/TheRedPill	22/04/15 03:12 AM
1	You can't force feed the pill. I found TRP via Deadbedrooms (which I lurked heavily for about 6-9mths). I think someone was bagging it out which prompted me to look. I'd reached the point of divorce, so TRP seemed like damned if I do and damned if I don't. So with zero fucks to give I jumped in. Turned around the DB the jury's still out on the marriage surviving. Your mind definitely has to be in the right frame to accept TRP and reject the blue pill indoctrination.	/r/TheRedPill	20/04/15 10:36 AM
3	The ultimate shit test: withholding sex I was in a similar place as the poster from /r/deadbedrooms After lurking deadbedrooms for a long time I was going to end the marriage and was sifting through deadbedrooms putting together an exit plan when I found TRP. The turnaround was 180. By being that close to the brink made it very easy to take the pill. To this day I still have my exit plan and keep working on it because I think I'll need it. However this abundance mentality of walking at a time that suits me is probably the only thing g…	/r/TheRedPill	23/03/15 02:53 AM
2	The Three Dysfunctional Captains and First Officers of Married TRP I appreciate the response, you guys are solid at stepping up. I've just reread your posts you linked I can relate however I believe my wife has more of the Histrionic personality traits. The thing is now with the rose coloured glasses off and when I'm not dealing with the crazy shit I don't find much I value in her any more as a person or lover. This is very sad realisation. It's true when you care less, and need her less it gets easier to disengage from her moods. You handle the shit tests bett…	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/03/15 12:35 PM
5	The Three Dysfunctional Captains and First Officers of Married TRP Wow. This is top quality material. Our marriage is a number 2, actually it's quite scary how accurately you have portrayed my life in that summary and the issues that have arisen. I have taken some professional help but she still refuses to seek therapy. This has become a large deal breaker for me in one of the periodic melt downs that have occurred. At this point our marriage won't survive, balancing on razor thin edge of shit and comfort tests while in a cyclone is too hard.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/03/15 11:35 AM
2	Here's a challenge, how about some RP advice for LTR/Married men. Firstly who said PUA doesn't work with a wife. It works in marriage as well as picking up new girls. Go to the Married Red Pill subreddit first, the sidebar it designed for marriage / LTR blokes. Second read posts by the mods at Married Red pill. Third do the shit you read about and don't sit on your hands and do nothing! Finally always be lifting! Now get to gym and fucking lift.	/r/TheRedPill	07/02/15 11:07 AM
1	[FR] - Realisation of bigger success I think for those of us that were predominately blue pill all their lives or at least Nice Guys, that when we start taking the Red Pill we try a few different styles, because hell, with no previous experience we don't know what fits. I think this is good thing though because you find the boundaries with your RP knowledge and this precipitates the relationship reset (props to the recent post on that). I can be aloof but it's not my primary game, I started heavily with this because I honestly coul…	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/01/15 12:23 PM
1	3 Weeks in and Loving it That will explain the speed. She was craving it, expecting it and welcomes it. I wife's upbringing, while not as traumatic as some, wasn't great and certainly didn't have any true RP foundations to which to base are relationship (not that I can talk).	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/01/15 12:10 PM
2	3 Weeks in and Loving it Almost line for line with my our story. Your progress is quicker than most in terms of her accepting your new frame. It's clear your wife wants you to succeed in being her man, which is great. It's been a rocky 7 months for me, with lots of shit tests, comfort tests and other related issues. It has gotten a lot better of late though, her attitude to me is starting to make her physical nature.	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/01/15 10:02 AM
2	Married, not attracted to wife, and I want to spin plates. I agree with /u/RPSigmaStigma I didn't joined up to this sub I didn't agree to omit other models on what constitutes a marriage or LTR. Not that I want an open marriage but if TRP can help make both parties happy in an open marriage then go for it.	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/01/15 09:45 AM
6	[FR] - Breaking out of the Blue Pill Story I'm actually really impressed with the quality of posts in MRP and the frequency and participation has really increased. I come here more often that TRP because it is a lot tighter and relevant now.	/r/MarriedRedPill	29/01/15 11:27 AM
1	Own Your Shit [weekly thread] Thanks, I can't help but think that this type of conditioning could be a slippery slope (my hamster). I do play it off well most of the time and focus my other enjoyments.	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/01/15 07:49 AM
1	Own Your Shit [weekly thread] I cook up a whole heap of pasta meals and freeze them. I take these to work (office job) for lunch to avoid the temptation and a hip pocket of eating out every day. Take them out put it in the microwave, it'll be quicker than pizza and you have a meal that you made and tastes good.	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/01/15 07:37 AM
4	Own Your Shit [weekly thread] I'm not sure if I'm much help because I do the same thing. My therapist gave me some good advice based on Cognitive Behaviour Therapy techniques. Ask youself, "What is the worse thing that can happen?". Now most people that are in our situation or talking to a therapist will straight away go to the fatalist options, she'll leave, the marriage will be over, what will happen to the kids, will she hurt herself etc. Basically the sky is falling and it's all going to shit in handbasket. But the trick…	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/01/15 12:07 PM
2	Own Your Shit [weekly thread] My biggest weakness is still stab of rejection, I can play cool most of the time now and act with outcome independence when I get rejected by my wife but I tell you what it still hurts. It cuts, that first 5-10 mins hurts after rejection still hurts, not as bad as during my pre-RP sexless marriage days, but it pokes the wounds. The resentment and the angry all bubble up and threaten to break my frame. Removing myself and calming down work well but it chips away at your resolve.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/01/15 11:52 AM
1	Quick Question / Confirmation of Strategy for New Married Red Piller From my experience set the right boundaries in your mind that will help you achieve your goal. At this point it's the gym and diet that are your core focus to succeed. Make sure you are solid on these points first and pass shit tests regarding these aspects of your life. You'll get the comments like "don't get too big", "you're obsessed", "you and your crazy diets", "who are you trying to impress" etc. Focus on this first and you will be well practised to handle the other shit tests. And remembe…	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/01/15 06:42 AM
14	Much of the mental "frame" draws power from the physical one. TL;DR: Why lifting is a necessity. This is true. From lifting you get confidence from: knowing when eyes are on you the look or nod of respect from other men that want your acknowledgement when guys back down from you by default Also have used Stronglifts app and loved it. 6 mths solid on the same program, minimal thinking just lifting and reaping what you sow.	/r/TheRedPill	25/01/15 06:25 AM
3	"I love it when you pick me up." [X-Post from /r/TRP. This looks pretty useful.] This post was a good prompt as I'd let this part of my game slip. Just got back from the gym a little while ago and was feeling pumped. Walked up to her in the kitchen with my shit eating grin, took the things out of her hands, lifted her straight up (she giggled), kissed her, took her to the bedroom, kept kissing her, locked the door and threw her on the bed (more giggles). Fun times were had by both. Note: It's the middle of the day here and the kids are home. No way this would have happen in …	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/01/15 06:48 AM
2	Discussion of Blue Pill Trolls in /r/marriedredpill We done OP, I think you have successfully flushed out the trolls as opposed to those with honest opinions. Get your ban hammer out now and hit them like Thor. I've got no time for bullshit and people new to this sub don't need to be filled with even more doubt.	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/01/15 07:45 AM
1	Intro: new to TRP but excited Being in the right frame of mind it critical to accepting the Redpill. It sounds like you are in the right place to accept the truth and turn your like around (couldn't check your post as it was removed). Best of luck taking responsibility for your life. You will fuck up along the way...but we all do.	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/01/15 11:27 AM
1	How to deal with resurfacing resentment? Hell yes. A couple months into the swallowing the red pill I was seething ball of resentment. I detested her and couldn't stand being in the same room as her. Nothing she did was good enough or done with the right intention. It got to the point were the wife goggles had fallen off and she was not longer my young hot sweet heart from 20 years ago. She was a fat, saggy, wrinkly woman with a constant frown and a demeanour to match. I didn't want to touch her much less make love to her. (I found a b…	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/12/14 09:01 AM
1	What are your goals? I have a few I'm working towards. No specifics but I have goals for: lifting - weight goals join sporting team learn a language exhibit my art Future goals: * develop own income stream * travel to my ideal destination * learn how to dance Bite off as much as you can chew.	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/12/14 02:08 AM
3	Wife has no fantasies or kinks Yeah more often than not. But I still notice her when I'm not fully immersed or after sex. I work the "I" in DEVI from sex good method but at that can be like flogging a dead horse.	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/12/14 05:21 AM
2	Wife has no fantasies or kinks Same boat here friend. Just finished a quiz. Everything listed is what we do now. I think part it's plausible deniability (I'm not a slut) and part genuine prude. She doesn't masturbate either. So as others have said I'll take what I want but escalating until I get to a hard no. The thing I am more concious of now is that she doesn't lose herself in the moment and I feel sorry for her.	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/12/14 02:20 AM
1	Strategy suggestions - how to move forward? What the other guys have said is important but I'll phrase a key point differently. Stop calibrating your life to her behaviour. You are living in her frame. Create you our frame of happiness and then she'll either want to join you or she won't. The first step to creating your own frame is to lift. (P.S. You have a bit to lose so don't believe the BS about cardio burning more fat. I lost as many inches from my waist from lifting for 6 months as I did from running the previous 6 months. Lift.)	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/12/14 11:53 AM
2	[Update] From crisis to crisis, making it impossible to redpill. Now marriage is the lowest it's ever been and it seems divorce is looming! There is a real difference in being sick/injured and being selfish about your our well being compared to being sick and expecting sympathy or even empathy. Since TRP I injured myself and needed crutches, I didn't make a fuss just asked her to get the crutches for me and after that I tended to myself and did what I had to, so I could get well. Sympathy and empathy given by her = 0. Instead she took from it - a story to tell her friends about.	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/12/14 11:25 AM
2	This test is so easy to pass now that I understand it! Well done. I'm in a similar situation each year and this will be my first year to try and resolve it for mutual benefit. Thanks for the tip.	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/12/14 11:17 AM
2	Anyone else struggling NOT to talk to women? Yes. It's especially hard when they are 10 years younger, hot and giving you the eye big time. Things get very HARD. I don't entirely trust myself, so I keep interactions where the girl initiates to eye contact flirting where possible. If I choose to talk to girl on my terms to test my 'game' I have more control over myself and the interaction.	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/12/14 05:24 AM
1	how to deal with the "red week" when asking for intimacy is "beta" Ground work is essential in the lead up to rag week. Try and increase the frequency of bj's in the lead up. Also as Marriedwithkidz says if you label it as BJ week (thanks to whoever I read that from) with the right frame it creates the right expectation. Timing is everything. If she is hurting or feeling really blah back off, because you trigger a bad association mentally. I don't push the first day but second night I escalate and isolate. Near the end of week we may even plough on through.	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/12/14 11:14 AM
-2	Christmas party success For me I still think it's 50/50 chance at the moment even with things going well. I think this outcome independence (with an almost fatalism mindset) is the main thing keeping things on an even keel. I did go too hard at first (with the alpha) and that almost dashed us on the rocks, but I still question if my happiness is in spite of her instead of being shared or amplified with her. I am concerned what a shared life with her would look like after the kids are growth. mmmmm to much musing for on…	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/12/14 11:06 AM
0	Christmas party success Used your story as inspiration for wife's work Christmas Party. Dressed to impress (fancy dress, so played to my strengths), worked the room, ended up knowing more people than she did by the end of the night! The older chicks wanted to dance with me and the younger ones wanted me to hit the town with them :) Since then it's been poon every day ;)	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/12/14 10:47 AM
1	How society rewards beta body language. Fix a lifetime of smiling and talking too much A mental trick I use to bring on this sense of confidence is to imagine an army walking at your back. People are going to move for an army, you can choose to be the benevolent leader and grace someone with a smile or you can burn them with your gaze.	/r/TheRedPill	29/10/14 08:02 AM
2	How I Took Back My Marriage Good on you man. Great to hear more stories of how to do RP within a marriage.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/10/14 05:10 AM
3	How I Took Back My Marriage It has always existed! The only difference is we now have the networks to share it with our brothers.	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/10/14 04:52 AM
5	It's on - starting now Personally I never brought it up and think it would be a mistake. I think it comes off as defensive. You should never apologise or explain yourself. As rurpe says actions speak louder than words. Now if you have gone no contact just start interacting again either on an as required (as you have done) or give affection interaction as reward for behaviour your approve of (personally I'm a big fan of the butt slap and the long kiss while holding their head in both hands. Don't say anything and keep …	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/10/14 04:50 AM
2	Curbing Outward Displays of Frustration after bein rejected sexually. Absolutely agree 100% with SorcererKing and steu4718. We've all been there regarding the resentment when recovering from a deadbedroom. One thing to add based on your comment. Don't make it all about the gym though, give yourself other areas to improve on as well. If you put all your eggs in one basket, i.e. the gym, and you don't get gains there you'll be feeling the same resentment about the gym as you are currently do with your wife. Also if you are lifting, going to gym 3-4 times a week is m…	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/14 06:33 AM
1	You want to know what's really alpha and helps you keep your frame? Meditation. Like monks mediating via repetitive pray or chant I find myself entering a meditative state when doing repetitive actions such as gardening, particularly digging. Also get it when chopping wood. The other activity that puts me in an altered state is drawing without interruption.	/r/TheRedPill	01/10/14 02:58 AM
2	Do men stay for financial reasons? I'm in a similar place to yourself. There are three things that top the list for me in considering my position. Attraction At this stage she is much more attracted to me than during my blue pill days, however with her off the pedestal she isn't as attractive to me any more. She is to trying (in a half arsed way) to get back in shape but the jury in out. I'm riding this out for period of time to see if she can make sustainable change, she needs some concession to reflect my abrupt change. This wi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/09/14 10:07 AM
1	Thanks for the Attitude Adjustment Great to hear you have a solid base to work from, it'll be the mental hurdles for you more than anything as you have identified. If you haven't read it make sure you check out No More Mr Nice Guy on the side bar. The hard part is breaking the mental habits, but just remember how awesome you are and use that feeling.	/r/ThankTRP	17/09/14 12:24 PM
1	Holding frame I try and remember this quote from a story I found on Return of Kings. "Emotions were nothing but the ripples that emanate from the gap between expectation and reality." This makes me laugh at myself for expecting people to live up to my expectations. I don't think you'll ever eliminate the gap (nor should you) but it makes it easier to handle the truth of the situation.	/r/TheRedPill	10/09/14 03:36 AM
1	One month in…Dead Bedroom is turning around Great to hear buddy. I hope you keep being happy.	/r/ThankTRP	26/08/14 09:14 AM
1	Another one Great move my friend.	/r/ThankTRP	17/08/14 06:25 AM
1	Marriage saved This is excellent. The fact that applying the TRP can so dramatically turn around a 10 year marriage shows how on the money it really is. Best of luck man and I hope you both remain happy.	/r/ThankTRP	11/08/14 01:40 PM
2	I am happy Thanks for the feedback man.	/r/ThankTRP	08/08/14 08:45 AM
2	Swapping Dominance I just didn't give a fuck. I figured my marriage was over anyway so she can either choose to come on board with alpha me or go our separate ways. So my advice is don't live with fear, don't walk on egg shells.	/r/TheRedPill	06/08/14 10:12 PM