Some but not all of us have formed our relationships with our wife's while predominately blue pill. I'm in this camp.

This distinct lack of red pill shaped the basis for your blue pill relationship and is the reason you are here now. For those well progressed on the journey you are committed, disciplined, read the sidebar, busting your ass in the gym, dressing sharper, developing skills/hobbies, gamed your wife, used dread and crucially given the pill time to work.

But what if she still hasn't turned the corner in terms of being sex/submissiveness/respect/appearance?

I think she can't turn the corner because she has a very firm (burned into her retina) perception of her beta blue pill boy she originally accepted commitment from.

While I was musing about this drafting this post u/OmLaLa posted this on TRP, which explains this concept well as the The Shilouette Constant and a related post on not rekindling old flames . Read them; they are good posts.

But both aren't directly applicable to married guys.

What can you do then?

Well firstly I'd like to expand on the theory and refer to Johari Window. This is a quadrant for known and unknown combinations between your self and others. I'm taking some liberties with the application.

Despite your evolution to a Red Pill man, your wife's perception of you is in a Blind Spot. I.e the red pill you is not known to her but evident to others. (Remember girls default to perception and feels, not evidence and logic). Or from your perspective the Red Pill you is know to you but not to your wife so it is Hidden. (She is denying the reality of your changes).

Back to solutions.

Well in most cases the natural application of Red Pill theory appears to do the trick is breaking perceptions. Including but not limited to the 12 levels of Dread as discussed by the professor.

For some it would be a girl flirting with you in front of your wife.

For some of you it would be an affair.

Personally I got to Level 10, she found some details of my exit plan to separate and leave her.

This freaked her out as you'd expect and she begged. I set some terms that I thought she would fail and laid out what I require for the relationship to continue and thrive.

This shattered her perceptions and finally allowed her mind to accept the a new image of me. It's been 5 months and the new perception is holding so far. Terms have been met and now she knows where the balance in the relationship lies. Make no mistakes though, you still have to be on top of your Red Pill game.

For those that have been blue until discovering TRP, have you had to do a 'hard reset' like this? What did it take? Has it stuck?