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[–][deleted] 47 points48 points49 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is a case of oneitis. You're focusing too much on her. The likelihood is, you'll find another better girl. The thing to do here is move on and find another girl. As for your question, maybe. I wouldn't bother though.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Spin plates, buddy. Spin plates. It'll make your long term relationship selections much more rewarding.
[–]MTGROX[S] 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
spin plates?
[–]rule_of_law19 points20 points21 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Maintain as many "relationships" with as many women as you can handle... It's called spinning plates because it's kind of hard to keep up forever. To do this (which is what I find impossible), you have to basically tell each woman what she wants to hear in terms of your commitment to her. Some (most?) will want you to give her the impression that you are not into a relationship. It'l like a cover for them; if you're interested in a relationship, they can't blame you for there not being one after you fuck them. They need someone else to blame or else they're whores. Playing the fool for plausible deniability is their game, and your game is to find out to what extend they need to be "fooled" before they can lie to themselves and others. This practice seems to be becoming more popular, however, as women have begun to no longer pretend that those values, such as monogamy, commitment, standards (the ones that, when combined, instill a sense of reservation towards wanton sex) hold any value to them. They are, by an old school person's definition, a whore. The number of whores has increased greatly with this new generation, as women have collectively stopped seeing the activities that make themselves whores to be inherently bad.
[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I simply tell them all I am seeing other women. They can enjoy my company, get some cock, maybe some other forms of sex play, and sometimes they even join in with me and one of the others. It just happens that all but one of my current plates knows each other, and the one knows two of the others.
Just last night I had the one who has been hanging out helping me move and another that comes by about twice a month for a three way. It was rather enjoyable, and they both enjoy touching each other. They arent whores, just divorced women who want time with a divorced man who will fuck them right and display alpha traits with a modicum of dominant behavior.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
While this sub recommends reading every article on this list I was referring to the plate spinning series of articles:
http://therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/
[–]puaSenator15 points16 points17 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is perfectly normal behavior for people who got dumped by someone they like. It's normal for your ego to be hurt and go into a mode to try and get them back.
You just need to move on and find other people. Maybe down the road your paths will cross again and you can continue, but for now, you have to move on for your own sake.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your frame is waaaaay too fucked to get her back right now.
Spin more plates. Get some massive social proof going that she knows about, (not from you, you cut contact right?) and she might get the tingles again, but as you are now you have nothing to work with or build on.
Best advice? You have a case of oneitis. The cure for this is to go fuck a dozen other girls then check again to see if that perfect magical flower still smells as sweet.
[–]jolly--roger11 points12 points13 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
neeext
[–]Luckyluke231 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
thats the trap people fall into when they get into a relationship.
they don't focus ON THE SELVES. find hobbies, work out, love life, and KEEP GAMING. you can still go to the club and talk to girls. ( sure you are taken) You don't have to sleep with them.
[–]MTGROX[S] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is what I did.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
While I'm here, I am experiencing the same problem. I'm completely forgetting what I did in the first place to attract my woman. Now I'm in a committed long distance relationship with her and I fear I could lose her attraction due to the distance. I know a lot of people here probably wouldn't ever be in a LTR at a distance, but what can I do?
[–]Pibe_de_Oro1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
there is only one thing to learn about LDRs:
GET OUT! Get out fast, you should have gotten out yesterday.
If it is a temporary ldr with a fixed-end-date (she has gone for a semester abroad or something) it can work out.
If it isnt, get out. It will end badly, and you are going to develop a case of oneitis. She will either cheat or become so attached to you that you lose any interest anyways. A LDR brings all the bad things about a relationship without any of the good.
repeat after me: If there is no short/mid term change coming (I'd accept a year max if you are really commited and have had a healthy long termn relation previously with her) GET OUT!
[–]ekjohnson90 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What has she done for you lately? Like within the last 3 days. Probably nothing right? Oneitis man. Let her walk.
[–]MTGROX[S] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sex at anytime that I want. Twice the day before this happened and she often times pays for our days out.
[–]ekjohnson91 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd spin plates for a while until she shows some loyal behavior on a consistent basis. End of the day it's your call. Don't fall into the trap of good behavior too quickly or it dry up
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You lost your frame. You can easily reframe after not having seen her for a short while, hell a week or two would be enough. That said, you need to get away from the idea of getting back together, you need to work on inner game more if you dropped back to being beta for her.
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