An epiphany: It's generally viewed that being a good man means being honorable and full of integrity. But it should be noted that this can be a trap for manipulation by others and women. Women, will use your honor and integrity against you in order to shape your behavior or win some issue.

Therefore, beware the promotions of chivalry by women and men alike. they are traps that limit your maneuverability. women play with no honor or integrity, because they know it is a trap to be used against men. Thus there rules of engagement dictate from the first, no quarter, go for the balls. Men, it is time for us to realize that trying to play with integrity severely limits our game.

The idea of being a good man is so well engrained that it attaches to our very egos. it becomes painful to the ego to use the tools of manipulation in the way women do. therefore the problem becomes that of the good man ego. it limits us and confines us to obey, the "rules". Who defines the rules for the good man? anyone with a voice.

who defines the rules for the independent man: his reason, and nothing else. This post correlates well with white knights, but this is a more subtle dangerous form of trickery. Beware the words, honor, integrity, strong, real man, chivalry, good man, for they are the shackles of matriarchy.