How can I overcome Nice Guy Syndrome?

vys1 · 2015-06-23T07:06:36+00:00

Read no more Mr nice guy. Life changing

PowerValve · 2015-06-23T07:28:05+00:00

To stop being a doormat, ask yourself this question when a situation is presented to you:

Would I benefit from this?

If the answer is NO, then don't do it.

tomysotomayorfuxboys · 2015-06-23T08:07:53+00:00

Don't invest in women who don't reciprocate. If a woman doesn't give you sex, don't be friends with her or give her emotional support.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-06-23T13:38:30+00:00

No More Mr. Nice Guy as suggested by /u/vys1.

We each have a finite amount of time, energy and resources. If you are spending your time, energy and resources on others, then you had damn well better be compensated for it. People (especially women whom you orbit) are more than happy to let you run your ass to death doing things for them, while praising you for being such a "nice guy".

The reality is that we are all in the same struggle and people can do things for themselves. It's one thing to do something out of kindness, but it's quite another thing to do things for others in order to be liked by them. All you're doing is setting yourself up to be used for the time, energy and resources that you could have spent on making yourself a better person.

Learn to be selfish. Selfish: Loving thy self. There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, you should learn to love yourself first.

usul1628 · 2015-06-23T13:36:40+00:00

Before you do anything, ask yourself if it makes you money or makes you happy. If it doesn't do either, don't waste your time. Once you do that, start speaking your mind with a minimal filter.

infoscott · 2015-06-23T17:43:23+00:00

There is a huge difference between being a nice guy (bad) and a good guy (good). From my blog: http://www.whatrealmendo.info/2015/05/rmare-chivalrous.html

'9'. Thou shalt operate from abundance, and cheerfully give from your surplus.

If you want to be good and not appear nice, practice giving from abundance but with outcome independence (like not expecting sex for paying attention to a woman). Give people good feelz and it acts as a natural magnet.

This small change can make a huge difference.

DStoo · 2015-06-25T07:41:54+00:00

I'm the typical "good listener" guy friend that never gets any action in return.

"In return", do you think that listening to someone entitles you to action? Because that's exactly how it's worded.

I've always had the mentality that if I respect women and treat them nicely they will take interest in me.

Why?

I don't want to be a total douchebag

So don't.

I take pride in being a nice person (covering people's shifts at work, helping my friends when they need me)

So do I. IMHO it's the best strategy.

rpscrote · 2015-06-25T14:48:09+00:00

Read the sidebar. Specifically, read No More Mr. Nice Guy

MoreThanMan · 2015-06-23T07:02:20+00:00

These two simple things helped me... You can try them

Do what you think is right, not what you feel is right. (Be open to ideas, suggestion, but do what you think is right).
Do not make any compromises unless it gives you tangible benefits.

Nice guys often compromise to get validated by others, especially by women. So, not compromising on what you want will go a long way.

Title	How can I overcome Nice Guy Syndrome?
Author	Manchild_Jim
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	June 23, 2015 6:36 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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