How Do you display value?

TRP-Talk · 2014-02-24T18:06:34+00:00

The best way to display value is to create value for yourself. You create value for yourself when you pursue your passions, your goals, and your interests. These ways of creating value have to be self-directed. They're not something you do in order to demonstrate value to women, but rather something you do to create value for yourself. Fortunately, women happen to find self-directed value creation highly attractive.

For instance, I have been skateboarding for over a decade, and I'm pretty damn good at it. It's something I have always done for myself, because I love it, and for no other reason. My girlfriend cannot even differentiate one trick from another trick, but she values me because I have dedicated myself to something that creates value for myself, and especially because I don't give a shit about whether she likes it or not; I'm gonna skateboard anyway!

My example indicates that if you have passions, goals, and interests that are self-directed, and create value for yourself, attraction follows. She sits there admiring me while I skateboard, even when she doesn't have a clue what I'm doing.

I heard a girl once define a nerd as someone who is unabashedly enthusiastic about the things that bring them value. Apply that same logic not to comic books and video games, but many pursuits, and generally masculine awesomeness.

slcjosh · 2014-02-24T19:49:24+00:00

Social proof. She has to see with her own eyes that you can and will replace her if need be. Usually this role is flipped. If a woman broke up with you, she could easily have another man within minutes. This is not an exaggeration.

To keep a level playing field, you need to establish that she is just as replaceable.

nuone99 · 2014-02-24T23:49:54+00:00

This is an incredibly important topic, because I see so much vast confusion here in this sub.

Creating value for oneself is NOT about the opposite sex. My best example is playing the guitar:

I come across so many guys who want to learn how to play guitar in order to "get chicks." This never works, because the very premise is flawed. Learning how to play guitar takes a huge amount of passion and hard work, and so if one's only interest in learning guitar is to impress women, (A) he'll never learn guitar, and (B) his insincerity will be horrendously obvious and will translate into insecurity, boorishness, and being a fucking douche bag.

I'm a diehard guitarist and a musician; it's my number one passion in life, and being a musician is what genuinely makes me feel life is worthwhile. Never ONCE have I thought "let me do this so that chicks will sleep with me."

I spend almost all of my spare time working on my music. I often stay in on Friday nights because I'm so engrossed in my music that I don't even make time to eat, let alone go out and tell girls I'm a musician and hope they'll be impressed.

End result? Yes, some women like that fact that I'm so passionate about my music. I genuinely don't give a fuck what they think though. I can't stress this enough: I DO NOT FUCKING CARE if women are impressed by my musician aspect or not (I also have a normal career).

Generating value is all about doing things because you love them, NOT doing things in order to get girls. Dress well because it's the civilized thing to do; partake in an activity because it makes living worthwhile.

If you can't do this, then you should just go over to the seduction sub, because all you want are disingenuous "tricks and gimmicks" to get girls. To me, Red Pill is all about living life as a MAN (and no, this doesn't mean "wear Tapout and do MMA and be a fucking douchebag).

Live life for yourself, and the women will follow. Or not. Who the fuck cares, all that matters is that you're living life for yourself.

whatthenig · 2014-02-24T19:55:18+00:00

-Don't compromise.

-Attitude is everything. Hold your frame. You are the man of the relationship, and 99% of the time, what you say goes. Make her understand this.

-Be ready to walk away at any moment. Spinning plates helps, but it's not required. You don't even need to say it, it'll show. Make her recognize that you don't NEED her. Make sure you have a plan in case things goes sour in LTRs.

-Recognize shit tests. If you let her manipulate you in any way, she will lose all respect for you. High value females are used to having beta orbiters around that they can manipulate into doing... well... almost anything. This is how they separate the men they use from the men they want to date.

FortunateBum · 2014-02-24T20:53:53+00:00

Money, friends, fame, useless skills that took lots of time to perfect, lots of time spent on useless stuff like wardrobe and good abs, Veblen goods, the attitude of a high status person (dark triad, asshole, lack of empathy, etc.).

High status.

Title	How Do you display value?
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Date	February 24, 2014 5:34 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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