How to be alpha over skype.

CamTalbot · 2016-10-04T05:04:48+00:00

Let me give you some advice based on my own experience.

NEVER DO LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS.

There is no scenario where you will be together in the end . She will get bored and be fucking someone after a while. Don't even waste your time.

LoveCorgis93 · 2016-10-04T07:30:06+00:00

You don't. Long Distance will not work. That IS the rule. There are exceptions but let's not deal with exceptions.

I wasted 3 years (read; The Entire Time I Was In College) in an LDR. There were plenty of "I miss yous" "cant wait to sees yous" etc. Forget all of that shit.

If you think she will cheat, why even bother giving your time and committing to the Absolute worst form of a LTR , LDR?

You won't win in LDR.

AnjaJutta · 2016-10-04T08:57:32+00:00

The phrases "my only plate" and "LDR" mentioned in the same post.

She is either your plate or your LDR. Choose.

MattyAnon · 2016-10-04T11:24:54+00:00

The rest of TRP is telling you that a LDR is a bad idea, and they're right.

Exclusivity is barely worth it at the best of times, and absolutely not worth it long distance.

I've actually done LDR's quite a lot. And I regret it. It's a waste of time, a waste of emotional energy, doesn't benefit you much, it's actually quite bad for your mental state in the long run.

The most you want to do is to keep her as an option. Don't do it as exclusive. You end up in the worst beta position possible - it becomes an emotional relationship with (by definition) no sex. You end up living in hope and "the future", and every day is really a backslide of your self improvement as regards women.

As an option/plate.... might be ok. You must maintain emotional distance (ie FEEL not too involved). Don't use it as an excuse not to approach and be involved with other women. Don't say "I miss you" (she will, she'll beg you to say it too). Don't freaking skype every day. Don't emotionally invest in a future that she can (and most likely will) cancel on you for a better/closer option later.

Every day that she might say "It's over, I've met someone else", you should expect to feel "ah well, thanks for letting me know", you feel a twinge of sadness and then you get on with your day. Fine.

DO NOT be in a position where she says "It's over, I've met someone else" and you feel that you've wasted your time. That feeling is because you HAVE wasted your time, by investing in something ethereal rather than yourself. Had you been self improving and working on other options meanwhile, you wouldn't have felt that you wasted your time.

DontBeFredo · 2016-10-04T05:13:37+00:00

"don't do skype" should have been the only thing written

LordThunderbolt · 2016-10-04T12:53:36+00:00

You mean to tell me that there is no decent girl on that island? Damn.

You don't have a plate you have a oneitis long distance ltr.

MajorLeagueMagick · 2016-10-04T06:23:50+00:00

For instance, I dont want to talk about my feelings to her, but every long distance thing I've ever had has always been "I miss you so much" "cant wait to see you" etc etc. How do I keep this going without acting beta?

Your only chance of eventually turning a long distance relationship into long term relationship where you both live together, is usually with a women has significantly less sexual market value than you. Its not even worth it. Its just my opinion, but you can have female friends online that you talk to once in awhile, but that's it. If you show any amount of vulnerability with a woman online, that you want to have sex with, you are setting yourself up for misery. She does not have a male brain, she will NOT place the same value on your conversations as what you do. Talking about vulnerability and feelings for her, especially online and before you had sex, MEANS NOTHING for her versus what it means for you.

Keep her as a casual friend, or stop talking to her entirely, everything else will emotionally fuck you.

If you repeatedly and directly show vulnerability with a woman you met online, that you want to remain sexually attractive to, she will lose that attraction and will brutally emotionally wreck you.

Masturbate a lot and use the internet to help with loneliness.

You can't improve yourself and be vulnerable with a woman online, unless she's legitimately nice and you have absolutely no intention of having sex with her.

MattyAnon · 2016-10-04T11:25:19+00:00

The rest of TRP is telling you that a LDR is a bad idea, and they're right.

Exclusivity is barely worth it at the best of times, and absolutely not worth it long distance.

I've actually done LDR's quite a lot. And I regret it. It's a waste of time, a waste of emotional energy, doesn't benefit you much, it's actually quite bad for your mental state in the long run.

The most you want to do is to keep her as an option. Don't do it as exclusive. You end up in the worst beta position possible - it becomes an emotional relationship with (by definition) no sex. You end up living in hope and "the future", and every day is really a backslide of your self improvement as regards women.

As an option/plate.... might be ok. You must maintain emotional distance (ie FEEL not too involved). Don't use it as an excuse not to approach and be involved with other women. Don't say "I miss you" (she will, she'll beg you to say it too). Don't freaking skype every day. Don't emotionally invest in a future that she can (and most likely will) cancel on you for a better/closer option later.

Every day that she might say "It's over, I've met someone else", you should expect to feel "ah well, thanks for letting me know", you feel a twinge of sadness and then you get on with your day. Fine.

DO NOT be in a position where she says "It's over, I've met someone else" and you feel that you've wasted your time. That feeling is because you HAVE wasted your time, by investing in something ethereal rather than yourself. Had you been self improving and working on other options meanwhile, you wouldn't have felt that you wasted your time.

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stonepimpletilists · 2016-10-04T10:39:12+00:00

Sidebar, exorbitant the rules section

michael_wilkins · 2016-10-04T06:28:04+00:00

After reading this sub I know she's probably going to cheat if we're in a long distance relationship. But I don't really give a shit anymore. There are a million other girls out there, if she cheats she cheats.

Don't tell us, tell her that.

Title	How to be alpha over skype.
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Date	October 4, 2016 4:14 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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