Hypothetical long distance relationship

tridentmark · 2016-07-30T02:29:58+00:00

I cant make it work and wouldn't want to.

Relationship = shared activities / shared proximity. Romantic relationship includes sex.

None of those things happen with LDR. No proximity.

You can keep a relationship, but not a romantic one unless you see each other in person weekly. And even then.,....

thescalpmaster1 · 2016-07-30T04:32:28+00:00

Long distance relationship doesn't work. I tried my best to make one work for over two years and in the end, she didn't even care about the effort I made. (happened before I discovered redpill)

The major issue is the difference in time but there are others ...

1)You can never know if one person is cheating on the other.

2)You can never even touch the other person, let alone sex.

3)Suppose, you both started quarreling. Do you think it can be solved through video chat? (I tried it once and regret it)

4)She can be having sex with someone else and sexting you. You poor soul will assume that you're making her horny.

5)Sextalk doesn't work. I felt like I was watching solo porn while masturbating. (I know, it sucks)

6)You will slowly convert from being a boyfriend to being an orbiter.

7)She can fool you very easily. You can never find out if her emotions are true or not.

There are a lot more but you get the idea..right?

LordThunderbolt · 2016-07-30T05:19:55+00:00

We would hypothetically advise you against it. Stop hamstering, you already know the answer. There is no relationship without physical contact and or fair proximity to each other. Skyping day in and day out to be all cutsey and lovey dovey is pathetic. Accept that it doesn't work and move on. There is no one girl out there for you, there's billions of chicks out there.

GentlemenMindset · 2016-07-30T06:17:49+00:00

Might as well have a relationship with your hand because that's the kind of action you'll be getting.

imbackbabyyeah · 2016-07-30T07:10:33+00:00

I managed it for about a year but it wasn't easy. You need to be meeting regularly (once a month, every two months at very minimum) and there needs to be a solid way out of it - after about a year you will hit breaking point , perhaps sooner. The other thing that made it work ok for me was that it was at the very beginning of the relationship, we both said after we had moved in together that we couldn't go back to something long distance after living together.

I tried something like it before, and it went to shit fast after we both realised how little we were going to see each other.

I'll go against the grain slightly here though and say that if you can manage meeting up about once a month, that can actually be a really exciting experience. I really enjoyed it and had the time and means to travel to cool places to meet her. Plus, you don't have to put up with so much of the day-to-day BS although you should expect her to be down at times. If you are really into each other, then not seeing them for a few weeks can make the anticipation of meeting them and the actual meeting very intense.

She was perhaps cheating but I didn't give a shit because I was messing around too.

The final thing Id say is keep your expectations low, and realise there is a high chance of it not working out. If it does it is a bonus. Also, I regret this but I turned down a decent employment opportunity because it would have messed the relationship up and this has fucked me quite a bit down the line long after the relationship ended, so dont prioritise the relationship ahead of your own shit.

Title	Hypothetical long distance relationship
Author	Exoski
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Comments	7
Date	July 30, 2016 2:20 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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