Hi, I`m new here and I am in a bit of a dilemma. First of all, I am 43 and probably much older than the average of TRP.

Let me tell you my (dating) life`s story in a few words. I was a late bloomer, had my first sexual experiences with 22. I lacked a lot of flirting/seduction knowledge other guys my age had. But I learned fast. Several visits to relatives in South America helped a lot. So I did fine until when at the age of 30 a serious medical condition struck me. I had to take tons of medication, stop working out and often had not enough energy to leave the house.

Now I am much better again, but gained weight. Last year I was at 140 kg, started working out again, so today it is 120 kg. Before my "black decade" I was at 95 kg (at 183 cm) and quite muscular. Of course, I want to get back to that.

My question is: Should I wait with dating till I am lean, or should I go out and approach girls right now? I hate waiting any longer. It has been 13 years after all! But I am afraid that if I get turned down by girls too often, I could get depressed. I don`t know how well I can handle rejections at this point.

What do you think are my chances with girls at this point? I should mention that I prefer girls of about 28-45 years (MILFs rock!). How important is weight, considering that I know how to dress and style, have a good job and a nice car?

Thanks for your answers!