Summary: It's easy to be angry when you got something that is undeserved. Take a moment to think about how little of that (expressing your pain onto others) matters to your future self.

Body

At one point or another you might get angry, things escalate, you feel like you have to physically move out the room but maybe if the other person would calm down then you might.

This might all be happening in your head, like when you are taking a shower or driving or trying to sleep and your head is having these really bad thoughts. It is as if your mind is justifying your anger, whatever you do is right. It's better to feel powerful and in control than the latter. A man must take control.

That manager you have is really grinding it out on you; it suddenly makes sense- that your managers are female, of course. You worked really hard on a project but other people get the rewards, in fact, in anticipation of your rewards, you were told to do your project again...not only that, but the people you worked with get to take off.

Quite honestly feels like you been stepped on, stabbed in the back, almost left to die. The world doesn't care, you could shoot up the nation. And out of despair, if 'I' have to go 'I' might as well take that person down with me.

Whatever your situations are insert here. Something that makes you go... it's unforgivable, I'm widely misunderstood, why is this happening, what did I do to deserve this, why the god dam are they all female.

Lessons Learned or Conclusion

Ways to maintain frame

Lesson 1: Physically walk away from the situation. Afterwards, find ways to constructively solve the situation if possible.

Lesson 2: Look at your goal chart. I have this huge calendar that I write my aspirations on almost daily.

Lesson 3: Occupy your mind with some mind-active solitary activity like learning something you're cool with.

Lesson 4: Evaluate your attachments at their roots and replace them with said activities.

Lesson 5: Take melatonin or do something if you're unable to sleep. The problem with doing something is it'll be harder to wake up or correct the sleeping habit.

I just came up with some on the spot, you can add your own.

Conclusion: I think in your mind its very easy to imagine killing someone since its an illusion, and your head might even boil at the thought of it. The thing I think to do is not be submissive and drown yourself in your sorrows with cake, but by removing yourself from the situation and doing something constructive, whether it be doing an activity you like or looking at your aspirations, whom or what you hope to become.

Sometimes its easy to dream of these assassinations when trying hard to fall asleep. Personally right now I'm going to eat something lightly carb-ous probably because of my blood sugar (which affects thoughts), and most likely I will take melatonin, do as you will.

Useful Resource:

One on my aspirations is Seneca, and I basically did a google search and found that he wrote a topic on anger. Here is a video about it by Alain De Bottom and I'll come back with the summary if I don't fall asleep.

Summary: Seneca was the tutor of Nero, a heartless ruler that liked to kill virgins. Seneca was appalled and wrote a book on anger, hoping that reasons will calm people down. People who get angry have the wrong expectations of the world, so people can be more pessimistic to adjust their inflated perceptions. Acceptance of situations helps, since we cannot always conform the world to our wishes. We are like dogs tie to a chariot, we have some freedom but the leash keeps us following the chariot (the world) or else we would choke. Essentially, we can change our attitude of the world. Rich people have absurdly high expectations and use money to insulate them from setbacks. However, the greatest combat to anger is not money, it is to be prepared by imagining things that may happen. In the end, Nero's dumbass thought Seneca plotted against him and gave him a death sentence. While his family lamented, Seneca calmly slitted his veins and died the way he urged us to live.