Lost In Transition

PaperStreetVilla · 2017-09-20T09:06:33+00:00

Bans. No asking questions outside asktrp and the megathread

mugatucrazypills · 2017-09-19T22:14:41+00:00

aside: The posts on TRP seem increasingly cringeworthy

TL;DR ---> YOU NEED COPING SKILLS

The family support, stability, resources, academic completion including an MBA and early athletic and social success with women put you ahead of 97% of posters your age here.

Your post reads like the story of a "High School Hero", except that your heroic run has extended through the college years.

The problem is that you haven't HAD major setbacks until now and you haven't learned coping skills. It sounds like success has always been expected and nearly automatic for you.

Welcome to the real world where the bills have to be paid and your best efforts often fall on their face.

My advice is to read Tony Robbins "Unlimited Personal Power" and "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. Then start reading more bios of actual successful individuals in business, and business philosophy. Try to visualize success.

In the MBA you've studied case studies of business successes, but do not seem to have learned about the personal characteristics and character of successful businessmen.

I think you've come to the conclusion that the MBA meant the world owes you a job, whereas in truth it's just a ticket in the door of the big game.

There's also something peculiar about your English, I can't put my finger on. You need to find out where the expensive education you've been purchased has just been a themed vacation and people buttering you up and clean up those deficiencies by teaching yourself and finding the resources you need.

This means you doing the homework and the pulling. Not saying I have an MBA, what can I get ? Be aware that the entire therapy and psychological counselling industry is chronically infected with Blue Pill/Gynocentric ideology and individuals and that it is very difficult to get appropriate help there as a man. They are happy to take your money to listen to, and your complaints and cultivate your self-pity.

Any woman you are pining over is statistically very unlikely to be in your life in any meaningful way in 10 years.

TrenGod37 · 2017-09-19T21:36:37+00:00

Look man that's a tough thing for anyone. I'm sure most of us can relate in a way of being on top of the world and then having it taken from us.

I dealt with the same thing in college I was the man. Same shit you talked about. Now I'm out in an LTR and the women don't throw themselves at me like they should.

Here's what I can say. Couple things. Your situation sucks but it won't be forever if you stop being a pussy and accept that things are going to be hard and you're going to have to put some work in to get where you want to be.

Set some goals to get a job. Anything for now. Go online and look how to improve your resume. Shit like that. And get a job. Any decent paying job to get out of the house. That shit at your age is the most depressing thing if you ask me.

Second. When you speak of your ex you're just acting desperate as hell no you shouldn't reach out to her. You have no reason to. Other than you feel down and you're looking for someone (her) to bring you back up and make you feel good about yourself and feel the void.

You need to find a fucking purpose dude. Find some hobbies. Try new shit. Find stuff you're good at and then try to make money from it.

Are you lifting?

Kdknicker87 · 2017-09-19T21:24:45+00:00

First you need to chill out. You're probably not going to get much sympathy here because so many have had to do more with much less. You're at a point that you actually have to make decisions on your own and be productive and it sounds like it terrifies you. A couple things I can say for sure; 1) If you have an MBA, figure out how to put some systems in place to generate income and move out of your parents house; 2) Make a plan and take action. A half ass plan started tomorrow is 10x better than a well thought out one started in two weeks. You will adapt. edit* spelling/punctuation

PranksterLad · 2017-09-19T23:10:15+00:00

So if I had to make a step by step plan for myself based on what you read; what do you suggest is next for me. I'm in my parents house by myself, it fucking sucks.

[deleted] · 2017-09-20T07:56:02+00:00

I saw a bit of myself in this, I had to rebuild a good portion of my life because of a horrible car accident (made the news). I lost my physicality, couldn't lift, I lost my confidence, didn't trust my driving (accident wasn't my fault). Lost the girl, lost my startup progress, lost my car, ect... .

Stop stalking people on social media, that shit gets you depressed. You aren't going to improve things because you're looking at people with better lives.

Get a gym membership and a social hobby. Lifting will give you more peace of mind. A Social hobby will get you friends, some of whom you'll keep for life. I play tennis as an example, it has easily gotten me twenty plus people to talk to every week. If soccer isn't working try something else man.

Don't play video games and don't isolate yourself. If you've fallen down get back up, don't sit on your ass, you are the only one who can fix your life. Do your interviews, go out take some damn risks in meeting people.

Forget the ex, she's your past not your future. There are a million plus better girls out there, you have looks, a career an education ect...

I'm telling you this from personal experience. In the space of 10 seconds I got set back months even years. I sat on my ass and played games, fucking waste of time. I acted depressed and stalked people on social media, fucking waste of time.

But you know what I replaced my car, replaced my stuff, finished my physical therapy went back to lifting, forgot the girl and now I'm ahead of where I was before the accident.

It's simple:

Don't Isolate yourself

Spend your time benefiting yourself

Be around the right people, whether it's church, University students, your gym buddies, be around people who make your life better and point you in the right direction. I personally surround myself with people who seek to improve and compete.

Title	Lost In Transition
Author	PranksterLad
Upvotes	8
Comments	17
Date	September 19, 2017 8:56 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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