This is from Deida's Superior Man book, which I read last year and got a lot out of. I picked it up today out of the blue and just flipped through the book without looking for a specific section. The first section I read had an interesting view, and I think everywhere here can benefit from it.

Deida's does not use the term alpha or beta. Everything is masculine and feminine, and that he asserts they work like yin and yang. You will attract the opposite of yourself. A masculine man will attract feminine women. He asserts that people with strong polarity will attract the other side. Feminine qualities being nurturing, caring, communication, emotional. What most people consider good qualities from a female partner.

"The priority of the masculine core is mission, purpose, or direction in life. The priority of the feminine core is the flow of love in intimacy. If a woman feels your feminine is stronger than hers, if she feels that intimacy is more important to you than her- then she will naturally animate her masculine. She will want space, she will want freedom to pursue her own direction, and she will be repulsed by your clinginess. "

.. and a paragraph lower..

"In such cases, the poles have reversed, with your feminine desire for love meeting her masculine desire for freedom. This is not viable grounds for intimacy between a man with a masculine essence and a woman with a feminine essence."

As it relates to the readers of this forum a few key points.

"If a woman feels your feminine is stronger than hers, if she feels that intimacy is more important to you than her"

This is a clear indicator that you do not have to be 100% "alpha". You need to be more masculine than her. But you do not have to live your life in constant "what would a redpill do?" mindset. Just like if you are running from a lion, you do not have to outrun the lion, you just have to be faster than someone else. You do not have to do it perfect, you just have to do it.

"then she will naturally animate her masculine. She will want space, she will want freedom to pursue her own direction, and she will be repulsed by your clinginess."

I have seen "strong women" yield in the presence of me and completely love being dominated in bed, told where to meet, and led. When you bring masculine qualities, she will in time turn more feminine as long as she trusts you to lead her. The inverse is also true, when she feels your desire for intimacy stronger than hers, she will become more masculine and desire freedom. This is the yin and yang part. You will always attract your exact opposite and if already in a relationship, your partner will reciprocate to keep the polar dynamics opposite. A woman with a feminine essence (about 80%) will be miserable if she has to be more masculine. Just as a man with a masculine essence (about 80%) will be miserable with a woman competing with him.