I know many women who hate this movie because they think Lester is an asshole. He isn't an asshole, he just has self respect. I really think Burnam acts, in some cases, the way many men in his situation should act. Wife won't have sex with you? This is not acceptable, don't stand for it. Don't want to drive your car anymore? a car which your wife never drives in the first place? Trade it in. Don't let anyone control you, don't let anyone else tell you that you can't be happy. For clarity, I know not all women are the way Burnams wife is in the movie, but I see too many men put up with just that.