Need elaboration on soft nexting.

jb_trp · 2017-05-22T23:08:24+00:00

This post is more appropriate for askTRP

MattyAnon · 2017-05-23T13:53:23+00:00

Would you consider soft nexting if she wasn't displaying you enough affection/attention, you weren't getting enough sex as you would like etc.

Yes.

. I mean, would you soft next for small issues that she could quite possibly be aware of, and before these small issues become bigger issues in the future if they are not nipped in the bud. Or could soft nexting for small reasons such as what I mentioned above be counter productive

small issues: "don't do that".

Also in these circumstances, would you be reinitiating contact after 3-5 days, would you wait longer or would you just wait for her to contact you after the time of the soft next has expired?

longer than normal, whatever "normal" is for your situation with her. 3x longer than normal, ideally including ignoring of her contact.

In my experience it works well. They either become more interested or if they're drama queens they get crazy needy and entitled and rude about it, in which case they get dropped like a hot rock.

As a man, your only power is withdrawal of attention - but it's a very great power.

Oh, and don't use this to "fix my relationship with this one girl". The whole POINT of soft nexting is that she feels The Fear Of Losing Him, while you spend the time getting more options.

Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.... you have to know this. If you're afraid to use it, you don't have options.

For maximum effectiveness you get up and leave without saying a word. No display of emotion, no words. Just get up and leave and that's it. They feed off words and drama and conflict. They hate the absence of all emotion because they can't work with it to leverage it into something that benefits them.

gideon_zotero · 2017-05-23T10:34:46+00:00

Be genuinely busy mate. Have at least once in your life 5-6 girls on tap.(it's hard as fuck and completely unsustainable but work at it there's a point to this more than just jerking off you ego.)

Only when you reach that level of exhaustive outcome independence are you even marginally on the same level as a girl. A girl that is hanging lazily at home bored has at the very least 3 options(and that's if she is a loser) to entertain herself, but they are not worth her time.

When you have 5+ girls, you will feel that. You will feel like it's too much time wasted to actually meet up and you will soft next them naturally, only meeting up once every 10 days or so with each one, just so you aren't an asshole.

That's what a girl does when she comes out with you. That is her base line.

Ironically when you are the one with the mindset and long ghosting periods this will push her into your "why didn't she text me back, it says she read it" mindset. This instantly pushes you to the top of her(all 5 of them) priorities, just like her leaving you hanging pushes her to the top of your mind.

Like with all red pill behaviors and traits. these aren't tips and tricks. these are natural behavioral patterns that come naturally when you push yourself into alpha situations. You have the blue print in you, you just suck at shit testing yourself and forcing yourself to use it.

Title	Need elaboration on soft nexting.
Author	Pork_Sword3
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	May 22, 2017 9:45 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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