Off Topic I think I'm doing it wrong. Do I need to go monk mode?

[deleted] · 2016-11-05T06:01:30+00:00

I think you should lay off the internet dating.

But that's probably not what you wanna hear. I just think that since most of communication cannot be experienced over text and the sheer disadvantage any guy has online... you would wind up sleeping with more women if you met them in person.

OhAndOneMoreThing · 2016-11-05T06:31:27+00:00

I'm not gonna necessarily say you need monk mode, but you definitely need to re-absorb the fundamentals.

From what I'm reading here, it seems to me like you read a little about TRP, and the gist you took away was to be outcome independent, "play it cool", and not act to excited because that is being beta and needy.

What I think you missed, is that once you are being cool and then a female genuinely shows desire (she flat out said she wanted to bang? and sent pics? and offered to come to you????), you don't take that time to say "Nah, I could take it or leave it."

You had her, she wanted to fuck you, and you gave her the silent treatment then threw a temper tantrum. You can't communicate overtly with women, it makes them uncomfortable. And once they're dtf, you have a VERY limited window to seal the deal or they will decide you are a pussy.

Don't take it hard though, it's a continuous process. You're putting in the work and thinking about what you're doing, which means you're working harder than 75% of men out there. Monk mode is also a possibility, but IMO that's more for someone who needs to get over an ex or being an orbiter. If you don't need that break to get your mind right, I think that continuing to practice with women and adapting your game when you have setbacks will do more for you in the long run.

cdawg47 · 2016-11-05T07:20:51+00:00

As mentioned when you get the green light seal the deal man. Once you bang it's over you won. I don't know why you waited but I'm sure you had your reasons.

You're response was not good. You said way to much. You explained in a paragraph what you wanted when you could have said it in one sentence. General rule of thumb the less you say the less likely you'll fuck up.

You should of made fun of her for blowing up your phone. Trust me she would get the message (; just do it in a light non serious funny way. If she doesn't take the hint or you want to come off firm right away then be straight forward "yo stop sending me a million texts it's annoying and I don't like it" or "if you don't stop blowing up my phone I'm never talking to you again." Personally the line starting with yo is better it conveys what you don't like. It devalues them and it leaves to their imagination what might happen if they don't stop.

P.S. I laugh like fucking crazy when they blow up my phone. I think its hilarious. I'll show my buddies and be like "this bitch is crazy over me"

abbafishhead · 2016-11-05T10:07:06+00:00

If she said she would drive over, what were you doing fucking around instead of setting up a date and time and place? You're missing the point if you're mulling over your response to her blowing up your phone -- that's a red herring.

You had your chance, and you blew it.

Kiltraki · 2016-11-05T14:36:15+00:00

You gave a terrible response. You just came across as angry. The whole point of being alpha is to not lose frame and let emotions get the better of you. Even if you weren't angry, it comes across as if you are in the message.

Just my opinion, but I think you've read TRP but haven't figured out the context in which to put it in place. It seems a very unusual response.

Newbosterone · 2016-11-05T15:53:59+00:00

I don't know about you, but I learn in two ways. By conscious study, and by making mistakes. The second is much more vivid! It is not an either-or thing. If monk mode means you're going to focus on the conscious study, good, but it also means you're not going to get the experiential learning that comes from doing.

Personally I'd keep trying until the mistakes become too painful, too frequent, or don't help me learn. Then I'd use monk mode for introspection and to build a foundation. To figure out what I wanted, how to get there, and build the habits that take me where I want to go.

Title	Off Topic I think I'm doing it wrong. Do I need to go monk mode?
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Date	November 5, 2016 4:52 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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