Hey, long time lurker, first time poster.

Lot of the things in this sub really just made sense when I started coming here. I've been through a string of shitty relationships which I can account partially to AWALT and partially to my weakness as a man. First girl I had sex with was sending nudes to other dudes. Second cheated on me multiple times and...gasp...I took her back 2/3 times. Then the cheating that happened in earlier relationships increased the presence of the needy traits I had in new relationships.

This is partially due to the level of clinginess I exhibited in each relationship. I was always worried, always anxious of a possible lapse in loyalty on their part. Eventually it got the point where I knew I couldn't depend on any woman and had to be an independent, emotionally stable, self sufficient man.

I'm a lot better now, strong, not needy, very open to many things. I have things I enjoy, I hit the gym and don't make sacrifices with my time and effort for people who wouldn't do the same. And it seems in this moment, right when I'm at the top of my game, I meet a girl who could be a unicorn.

Met her at school, we hit it off, and started messing around. First time i had her in bed i went down on her for a good while, pulled the condom out, then she dropped it on me. She was a virgin. Now, my friends said that I should get out, she's gonna be crazy and clingy if we fuck. But I kept going, taking it slow, never pressuring her to have sex, in fact I never mentioned it once. I liked her personality, looks, and added bonus, she would consistently blow me every time we hung out outside of school. I was chasing other plates, and getting tail left and right, i didnt need her sex. This went on for about 4-5 months. Valentines day we went out, saw a movie, went back to my place and banged. I was her first lay.

It's been almost a year of seeing this chick now, and we never put a title on it. I'm free to see other chicks, but have lost the desire to. On her period, she blows me. The other times we hang out, we fuck 4-5 times a night. I find nothing I want to change about her. I'm still a skeptic on whether or not she's a unicorn. I intend to keep doing me, keep lifting, meditating, learning, and talking to new people. But I don't see myself spinning anymore plates when the sexual satisfaction I share with her is more complete than any one night stand or past relationship to date.

This brings me to AWALT. Not all women will cheat on or lie to you, some will worship you, but only if you make yourself worth worshipping. Don't settle, don't sell yourself short. Do what you need to for success and make sacrifices where necessary. Enjoy the people worth enjoying. But never drop your guard. A lot of times, personally, for a whole I was caught in the AWALT ideal and didn't give it my all cause i was sure that it would fail regardless. But now I heed it as a warning of what happens to weak men with weak women.

Godspeed, have a fun trip. I'll swing by in a few months to let you guys know if I'm still riding the unicorn or if she was just a one trick pony.

Tl;dr

If you really want a LTR or unicorn, keep working on yourself and don't stop. Don't let AWALT dissuade you. Be a man worth worshipping.