Provision Is Essential To Manhood

TL;DR: Become a provider in the sense that you secure your influence and power to attract women because it's masculine.

Some background - I found this sub years and years ago. I'm familiar with the sidebar and the mantras. I visit from time to time now. As I continue to develop myself more as a men's online magazine owner and writer I hope to contribute when possible. I welcome the criticism and barbs.

What I aim to address in this post is the propensity from other members to often misconstrue provision as feminine or 'beta' behavior by: selling exciting anecdotes about homeless men or prison convicts achieving incredible success with women, painting financial success as an unessential aspect of becoming successful with women, and illustrating with persuasive argument that money can be substituted by game or looks.

What many fail to understand is that success with women is achieved in degrees and attraction is not homogenous. That is to say - money creates a different type of attraction or psychological behavior. That's not obvious to the average man I'd argue. The attraction to a man with muscles is not the same for a handsome, suave intelligent one. Optimally, we want the full experience of a woman's attraction and sexual interest hence the striving to become a well-rounded alpha. What we witness in real life is an endless testimony of men maxing out one criterion or combination of criteria that attract women and espouse that to be the secret ingredient. Muscles, game, height, looks, status, intelligence, and money all produce different types of sexual attraction in women, and it is a beautiful thing. The song and dance of improving those aspects of ourselves and putting it on the market is truly remarkable.

Money signals one of the core tenets of manhood for women and their biological makeup: provision. It's a trope in this sub to condescend the ideal of becoming a provider. She'll never give you the sexual experience she'll give the man who treats her like a whore, and on and on. That's very immature, surface-level idolizing. Provision is essential to manhood. You must provide for yourself. You must provide for your family. My grandfather had 8 children as a farmer. He wasn't rich, but he was a provider. I'm sure he didn't spare an expense once in a while to roll in the hay. Becoming the provider makes you more dominant, more assertive, and if it doesn't then you know money was not the issue in your relationship with women. You're not getting the sex you want because you do not know your value.

You can be tall, handsome, muscular, charming, financially successful even. However, if you are not a provider and fulfilling that instinctive aspect of your manhood and masculinity - you will not get the full experience of a woman's sexual interest. Blowing all your money on nice things for yourself is alright if you've made sure you've taken care of the people who are your foundation, your power base. That doesn't always mean family. That could mean a CEO who gives his employees a raise instead of buying a new Corvette.

I'm not saying pay her bills, take her out to fancy dates, buy her things, or sell yourself as a secure bet. I'm saying you should take care of your family, your base, or your community as an essential element of securing your influence and power. So do what you want with your money, but consider becoming a provider as a crucial element of your masculinity and see if it doesn't change your behavior towards women in a more successful way.