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Remember: It's all about how you make her feel

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January 20, 2014
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Title Remember: It's all about how you make her feel
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Upvotes 20
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Date January 20, 2014 8:52 PM UTC
(12 years ago)
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[–]Redonqulus13 points14 points15 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"Hey can somebody make me feel better please"? "Hey come on, rally around me" is what she truly desires. After all, she insists that she's the Unicorn.

[–]dropit_sphere4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

People need to stop treating LTR's like they mean anything.

An LTR lasts until either party decides it doesn't last. There is no moral force holding people to promises they never made! And yet guys will think, "Well, we're in a relationship, and I did Y for her, so she owes me X..."

Did she ever promise X? Probably not, you just want to hold her to you by whining.

"Therefore when thou [do nice things for chicks], do not [recount them while whining], as the [betas] do [on their forums], that they may have [sympathy from other betas]. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward."

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep - http://therationalmale.com/2012/05/21/relational-equity/

LTR are resource heavy (time, money, cost of opportunity) yet there are no guarantees.

[–][deleted] 10 points10 points10 points 12 years ago | Copy Link

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[–]whatever63 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

What an evil, callous and indifferent sociopath.

Huh? The guy is doing everything wrong and she has zero desire for him as a result. She feels bad because she is going to have to break his heart and is reluctant to do it. Why is she a sociopath? If she was one she would feel zero sympathy and either crush his heart outright or exploit the guy.

[–]Sunshinelorrypop0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes,

Ironically you need to be a sociopath in this kind of situation. Trying to be nice will only prolong the agony. She doesn't feel the same way about him, then just be honest with him, it's the kindest thing she could do.

It's entirely the guys fault. He could make her heart flutter but he did it all the feminist way. The funny thing is that the other guy is probably just keeping her plate spinning for when he gets back from banging all kinds of foreign women. Then you'll see the beta guy on /trp and after a while a follow up from the women saying that she's hit the wall and wish she'd settle with the beta guy and now she's afraid that no one will love her.

[–]tsudonimh3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

But remember, she is a nice person... lol.

Let it go. Letting stories like this affect you like that is just giving them power over you.

Shake your head, shrug, think 'what a cow, glad I dont have to associate with her', and go about your day.

[–]2johnnight3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

Textbook example, love it.

Guys, she is not THAT bad as you make her. She is not a sociopath, she is the opposite. I read her as an emphatic person, who has trouble doing the right thing for the other person, because it will hurt that person's feelings.

The beta herb is the source of the problem, because he is actively sabotaging any attraction she could potentially feel(clingy ,"I dislike how emotional he is", "he acts like a girl" ). He is acting on false assumptions and we know that. She should dump him for his own good! But she is unable to, because "I know that I am going to destroy his heart."

Calling her a sociopath is some Feel Good Bullshit on your part, guys. It's the easy cop out explanation. You should be looking at the dynamic of the relationship. You should see how a nice person can also be keeping a beta orbiter/provider boyfriend around.

And this makes it ten times worse. What she is doing is like not telling a fat big boned chick that her dream of becoming a ballet dancer is not possible. She needs to man up and stop wasting his time.

The fact that she is profiting from his resources probably also has some impact on her decision to keep him along. The paradox thing is that if he was not giving her any gifts, his chances would be so much higher. Too much beta sugar makes her sick of him.

[–]Endorsed Contributor303030303030303 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I just got in with him kind of to kill time. I feel like such a bitch/cunt/horrible person. I am going to stomp on him so hard

and one sentence away

I am one of the nicest people you'll ever meet

A female, gentlemen.

Men can't be as ruthless as women even if we wanted to. It's just impossible. Learn it already, women HATE betas.

[–]2johnnight4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

another comment over there:

I am actually going through the exact same thing right now. I'm dating this guy called Arthur and he is extremely sweet and caring. He is really emotional and romantic, I also feel like I am the guy in this relationship.

guy behaves like a woman, she has to fill in the man's role in the relationship and it feels wrong

I kind of liked him in the beginning, because he wasn't that into me, he just wanted to hook up.

guy was alpha/aloof, she was attracted. check.

Now that he's in love with me, I honestly couldn't care less about him.

guy went full beta, she is not attracted. check.

And then, I have two other guys! One of them, Pedro, is just for hooking up

guy #2 on the side to fill the alpha spot

and the other one is Lucas, who's really funny and incredible. He also happens to live far away. It's what people say, we only want things we can't have. He's so far away, I don't know what to do about what I'm feeling.

guy #3 is away, so he is 'mysterious'. She is not confronted with his beta behaviors, which would have manifested in a close distance relationship.

All I know is that Arthur is completely in love with me and I am a complete bitch towards his feelings.

he went beta and she hates him for it.

We're not bad people, we're just complicated. We'd be bad people if we acted like this without realizing what's wrong with the situation.

she can't explain her attraction triggers. hamsters.

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