Reverse-Friendzone

SgtTRP · 2014-09-11T08:57:25+00:00

"I'm developing feelings for you and this is not good for me so i won't hang out with you anymore"

If you are in the friend zone, she already doesn't want to fuck you. By making such emotional and pathetic statements like you won't make her want to fuck you.

She'll say:

"Ooooh! So, sorry to hear that. Don't go."

You are not rejecting her. You are giving her a huge validation and making a fool of yourself.

niczar · 2014-09-11T12:13:17+00:00

Yeah, I have, and what you propose is very ineffective. The only way out of the friendzone is to turn into an asshole and start being sexually assertive. And it doesn't work often. But it works better than meekly avowing your betaness.

aussiehank · Thu Sep 11 12:56:28 2014 UTC

imagine if you are friendzoned....

No, your doing it completely wrong. Your friendzoned because your not escalating towards sex. And you start escalating by using kino.

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turnballZ · 2014-09-11T08:52:27+00:00

Isn't that kind of like saying "you can't fire me, I quit"?

So anecdotally wouldn't the reverse friend zone you're speaking of be more like the male growing in this scenario? With the idea being to get some self respect? That would then no longer have them playing the beta in this and hopefully in future relationships.

Tl:dr: I'm not sure that's possible o_0

Edit: the outcome would be the guy returns cause he never had strength to begin with, or they're growing in understanding and no longer the beta. That's why I don't think it's possible to happen, and keeping the emasculation

SIK_KUNT · 2014-09-11T16:06:32+00:00

I've done this and in turn she developed feelings for me, and she was also she was in a LTR at the time.

But I didn't word it like a retard.

"I can't do this, I have feelings for you and it's not fair to either of us."

exit_sandman · 2014-09-11T15:41:34+00:00

Imagine if you are friendzoned and you noticed it and do something about it saying to her: "I'm developing feelings for you and this is not good for me so i won't hang out with you anymore"

Nope, this sounds cheesy. If you don't want to risk appearing too aggressive (more on that later), try it with “I really wish I could be your friend, but I’d really thought we meant more to each other than that after so long, and honestly, I’m looking for more. Sorry, but I guess I was wrong about you.”

You can try to appear aggressive, but if she doesn't perceive you that way in the first place, it can be difficult to sufficiently tune up your aggressiveness to attract her without appearing totally fake in her eyes. Besides, it can blow up in your face (a girl I know friendzoned a rather douchy guy with an extremely fruity vibe, and after several years he was fed up with her and picked the caveman-route, meaning he engaged in very graphic sexting which she didn't really appreciate. Cue restraining order.)

Assuming that women don't like breakups nor rejection, what would be the outcome of this, her emotional tampon rejecting her ? Have anyone had some similar situation ?

First: let go the idea that she's your friend or that you are hers. Second: never ever assume you can turn her around by using dread. You shouldn't threaten to "break up" with her as some kind of weird reverse psychology, you have to be prepared to leave her for good. This means that your decision has to be outcome-independent, with the scenario of her grudgingly seeing you go (after trying to guilt-trip you into staying) being the default result - so plan for this. And when you're gone, go no contact.

UEMcGill · 2014-09-11T18:45:56+00:00

Let's just assume that you're an orbiter. This whole communication is still from a Beta-frame.

First, you are communicating to her with content. No Bueno. She's a woman and delivers feeling and emotion with her communication. She communicates covertly, unless under stress. Do you think you victim puking on her is going to make her even realize you're a catch? Fuck no.

If you want to deliver the message from an ALPHA frame you would escalate, KINO, escalate, isolate etc. When she tried to slap you back into orbiter, push through it. If you still meet resistance, walk out. Get up. Leave.

Same message. "I want you in a non-platonic way. I won't tolerate being around you otherwise". The second way delivers it in a way she can get the full impact from.

Quit talking to women. Actions are understood.

chakravanti · 2014-09-12T02:25:48+00:00

A reverse friendzone would be more along the lines of light kino until you get a kiss, then saying, " I don't think this will work, can we just be friends."

Even if you don't intend to call her back. If she says yes, definately don't.

Red_Shirt_Blue_Pants · 2014-09-11T15:57:43+00:00

Tried it. It doesn't work. Neither does leaving, Alpha-ing and coming back (because by definition, that isnt alpha). What does work is to get laid by attractive girls/have a hot gf. It will make her jealous and i her jealousy she will develop romatic feelings. PRESELECTION

Title	Reverse-Friendzone
Author	averageredpill
Upvotes	3
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Date	September 11, 2014 8:46 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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