Sex addiction. Does it really exist?

analrapeage · 2014-02-12T06:41:13+00:00

Considering that my perfectly attractive brother cheated on his wife with prostitutes to the point of putting himself in physical danger, went to rehab, got divorced, then spent more of his $ on prostitutes and is still out of control I'd say yeah, it's an addiction. Normal people don't do that

[deleted] · 2014-02-12T08:44:51+00:00

Sex addiction is real in that there are people who experience a mental / physical addiction to sex and in the worst cases, these people will behave similar to a crack addict. Their ego and body will feel amazing when they have sex and right after, then they will be miserable and craving it to the point where they cannot function until they have sex again. To the point where sex isn't that pleasurable, it's mainly just an escape from the "lows". This would be a worst case, someone who has a less serious sex addiction might be similar in behavior to someone addicted to WoW. Base their identity in it, only happy when they are doing that, when they are at work they fantasize about what they will do when they get on their computer, etc. They can be completely "cold" as you said.

Now often when celebrities claim it, it may or may not be bullshit. But there are sex addicts out there who have a real problem. I did not read that article because I don't want to support HuffPo, so I don't know whether that dude in question has real sex addiction or his wife is just hamstering (or some degree of both). But you can't just infer from one woman's take on X that X is not real.

GurneyHalleck85 · 2014-02-12T18:31:36+00:00

You guys don't get it. While some men may have a higher libido than other men, the affliction called "Sex Addiction" is a pseudo-science anti-male crap that stems from women being miffed that the betas they married would like regular and frequent sex. Since the women don't want to meet this expectation (or don't have the hots for the betas they married), the expectation itself is called into question as some sort of illness.

wittywittakers · 2014-02-12T18:35:58+00:00

http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2014/02/sex-addiction-hamster-said-masculine.html

this woman married a dude, who is by all accounts a good husband and father, but . . . shudder . . . he wants sex. With her. Every day.

Apparently Cupcake couldn't handle it. She expected his libido to fade in conjunction with hers like "normal" people, but he persisted in being a regular guy . . . which means that he wants sex with his wife every day. After years of dealing with his daily initiation and her usual rejection, she couldn't stand (or understand, apparently) why he might get frustrated. She starts to pray he has an affair, but he's . . . shudder . . . a loyal husband and father, and despite his wife's apparent frigidity, he still loves her enough so that he's not going to give her an out by cheating on her. "I wished he would turn to other women, but as the long-suffering husband, I don’t think his psyche would allow for it." It doesn't enter her pretty little head that he might just be, y'know, a good husband and father . . . it has to be his ego and mental state (Beta) that she takes issue with. He doesn't cheat because he's not man enough to cheat.

He turns to porn and she's hopeful . . . until he starts realizing all of the other sex their not having, too. That just makes it worse. "The porn further warped his sexual expectations, and his bitterness at my continued reluctance to be physically intimate with him more than three or four times a week grew." Further warped his sexual expectations . . . as if his expectations of a healthy sex life were already warped.

But he still won't leave her. He still won't do anything to cause a divorce because he's a stand-up guy. The fact that she's no longer attracted to him isn't going to make him back out of his commitment. He committed. She committed. There are kids involved.

Only Cupcake just . . . can't . . . take it anymore. She cringes at his touch. Her hamster is spinning: how do I get out of a relationship with a man I don't find attractive anymore if he won't cheat?

"Try Sex Addiction", the Hamster says.

So wanting sex with your wife every day - which the vast majority of husbands are guilty of - is enough sign of "sex addiction" to give this woman the rationalization she needs to destroy her family. Because her husband "thought he owned my body" (the same body she presumedly had the day she married him and committed to being in a monogamous sexual relationship with him) he was a mentally ill monster who deserved to have his children ripped from his home.

[deleted] · 2014-02-12T07:17:46+00:00

Well, I might be addicted...

SgtSplacker · 2014-02-12T21:45:46+00:00

If he was a woman he would have accused her of being a lesbian and gotten a divorce and nobody would question him. Custody awarded..

BluepillProfessor · 2014-02-13T05:32:13+00:00

Anything that gives you that jolt of Dopamine- looking on you lovers face, an orgasm, tapping a new girl, hitting the crack pipe, gambling, even getting stoned- can become a difficult habit to break. Yes there is such a thing as sex addiction. Pretty hilarious example you have though.

Title	Sex addiction. Does it really exist?
Author	wittywittakers
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Comments	14
Date	February 12, 2014 5:54 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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