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It’s just your turn. It will always be “just your turn”. It may last decades, but it won’t ever be a ‘sure thing’. This is one of the fundamental lessons beta’s don’t understand that ends up with them asking the questions such as ‘why did she leave? We were perfect together”.

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A lot of men go through life with the inherent misconception that life is a “sure thing”, that they’ll go to college, get a degree, get a job, find a partner, buy a house, have children and live happily ever after.

At least that’s what Hollywood would have you believe. Also your parents.

In reality, however, it’s not that simple. Most people, at least at a primal level, understand that you cannot predict and plan for everything 100%. Today you go to work, tomorrow you get sick and can’t make it in. So why do men make the assumption that if they meet a nice girl and they ‘click’, that they will be together forever?

A fundamental aspect of female psychology that women and the mainstream media (news/movies/music) tactically cover up is women’s inherent solipsistic nature. ‘Solipsism’ means ‘the theory that only the self exists, or can be proved to exist’. In regards to women, it translates to her innate evolutionary behaviour to make the subconscious assumption that she is the only one in her world, and that nothing else matters. What this means is that as she moves through life, through the world, she is, essentially, only thinking of herself.

Women have an inbuilt radar that can quickly detect the ‘quality’ of a man (potential for mate ship), and her biological imperative dictates that she partners up with the highest quality male her looks can attract, hence where shit tests come from.

The misconception, however, comes from men assuming that once acquired, their women will stick with them forever, or that God forbid, marriage, would guarantee them the commitment from her.

Women’s solipsistic nature dictates that she forever be searching for males of a higher calibre than the one she is with. The shit tests are designed to show her the frame in which the man operates, is it weak, or strong? If he can show that his frame is stronger, the shit tests will decrease in number over time, but never fully cease, as she needs to be reminded that she made the right decision by committing to a man.

This however, does not guarantee her commitment eternally. For if something was to happen, such as an accident, that would render the man’s frame weak, most women would eventually leave that relationship as she would find another male who is better financially, health, etc.

So when you are with a girl (dating/plating/etc), always know that at this time, you may be the highest quality male she is in contact with, but that does not mean she can find someone else and leave you. You shouldn’t be getting attached to any girl (let alone a plate) as you should be focusing on yourself first. Remember: Women talk, men do. You can easily attract women just by ‘doing’.

In saying all this, you should still be engaged in females. Just because you know that she will dump you without hesitation were your health to be seriously degraded, or you lost your job. The point is that you should be focusing on yourself. Finding the ‘commitment’ you seek from her, from yourself. This will display behaviour that she will perceive as independent and aloof, which will attract her to you even more. But you shouldn’t be doing this to ‘attract’ her, you should be doing this because it fulfils you, because it makes you happier to live life for yourself. For if she knows that if she was to leave you, you would not care and replace her quickly, her competition anxiety will dictate to her that you are a high value male and she should continue to commit to you.

Conclusion:

Live your life for yourself, and focus on yourself. This behaviour will show females that you hold the frame and that they will have to enter it in order to get with you. This also acts as protection for if she was to dump you, you won’t care, since you’re primarily focusing on your own needs and will replace her with someone else quickly.

Never underestimate a female’s ‘competition anxiety’. Allow females into your life, but always maintain in control of yourself and your life. And remember, as much “I love you” as you will hear coming from her mouth, she is not truly yours. It’s just your turn.

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