Some amazing beta responses to a Quora question about attraction/dating

JP_Whoregan · 2014-02-11T17:51:18+00:00

Oh my God, that was vomit inducing. I could summarize the whole thing in four words: "Pedastalize the entitled bitch."

Rumble_in_the_Jungle · 2014-02-11T17:07:07+00:00

That was painful to read. Here's something that will actually work:

http://www.thumotic.com/the-100-guaranteed-first-date-bang/

http://www.thumotic.com/the-guaranteed-second-date-ban/

Edit: Here's some analysis of why the quora top post is bad:

First and foremost, you have to find someone that you share interests with, are attracted to, and also seem to be interested in you as a person.

As usual, these "helpful suggestions" open up with the assumption that you've already successfully done 80% of the work without actually explaining how. Thankfully, we have TRP to explain the 80%.

Dinner implies romantic aspirations.

Two relative strangers watching each other stuff their faces while sitting in an isolated environment with no external stimuli to help the bonding process. I'm not saying there aren't situations where two people instantly hit it off and can talk about anything for hours, but how realistic is it to expect that from every first date? Also, why lock yourself into a situation you can't escape from if the date is going terribly?

You have to select a place that is on the higher end of affordability while also aligning with your soon to be hacked "date."

Why?

When setting the date ask two questions. 1) Is there a preference you have regarding food? and 2) What do you plan to wear so that I may dress to match... If your date is wearing a suit or dress, don't show up in jeans.

Even with the most shallow understanding of human nature, you should know that women want to be taken on an adventure, which it most certainly won't be if you're asking her for help. Tell her where you're taking her, what time to show up, and what to wear - she'll be relieved!

During the date stay away from three topics. Politics, religion, and exes.

One of two pieces of good advice. It's all about positive feeeelings.

Is there a museum or park or something along those lines in your area? If there is, go there. Otherwise, come up with some activity that keeps you in close proximity to one another and preserves the lines of communication. This may just mean going to a bar but ensure that the bar is quiet enough to allow communication.

The other piece of good advice. Should have just started with this and skipped dinner. Museum / walking -> endless amount of stuff to talk about, which helps with the pacing of getting to know the other person, as well as packing the date with more things. Same rationale as jumping venues to create a sense of time dilation. The quiet bar is another great choice, especially if you have already built up a relationship with the staff.

Now this is a crucial part of the date. You have to be very perceptive. Kiss or no?

Jumping into a kiss without any kino warmup is a terrible idea unless you're just that much more attractive than she is.

Hesitance to end the date and a desire to continue a conversation on your date's part imply a kiss is desired.

This reads like a guide for high functioning autists. If you really are one, just go for it, every time - at least you'll learn the body language tells that much sooner.

Okay. First date in the books! Did you like her? Want to go on a second date? Now, the age old question. A question that philosophers have been asking for millenia. Really since the dawn of time. When do you call for a second date? What is the formula. Some say two days. Some say three. This has been one of the most contentious debates of all time. Are you prepared for the truth? It's mind blowing. Here it comes! The next day. One call. A good rule of thumb is actually to call around an hour before your date time the previous evening.

Why? Simple. It shows that you are thinking about her. Are you thinking about her? Keep things simple on the phone. Tell her that you enjoyed yourself. Ask her if she enjoyed herself as well. Did she? If yes, proceed.

This is how she will interpret the above: "Hmm if this guy is tripping over himself to date me, I could probably land someone better with more effort on my part. Not only that, but since he's asking me it means he doesn't have any other girls in his queue, which means he probably isn't as attractive as I thought he was."

Never dominate the conversation. Keep things somewhere around 50-50 as to who talks.

Actually it's better to keep things 70/30 with her doing most of the talking and you guiding the conversation. She feels that you listen well, and you see if you actually like her or not.

THERE IS NO TRICK. NO HACK. NO STEPS THAT GUARANTEE LOVE.

Correct. However, there are plenty of things that will guarantee that love never has a chance to develop in the first place, many of which are listed as advice by the author. At the same time, once you know what buttons to push, it's incredibly easy to simulate love, which then puts you in a position to decide if you want to continue developing actual love.

Overall this is terrible advice --> it assumes that you already know how to attract women, but then gives you aspergers-level advice to fuck everything up.

pulsar1919 · 2014-02-11T17:21:09+00:00

And this is the shit us younger guys have been exposed to and told is "correct". It was sickening to read.

rumbledust · 2014-02-11T18:20:53+00:00

This is great TRP content. It shows the bullshit we've all been fed for so long.

elderstorm · 2014-02-11T17:15:57+00:00

Lol the first response HAS to be a troll.

robesta · 2014-02-11T17:36:33+00:00

That was horrible advice! Should have been "How to not fuck and spend a lot of time and money."

bad_pattern · 2014-02-12T08:44:09+00:00

Continue on for fourth, fifth, sixth, nth dates. Always offering to let her decide.

it's like watching flat-earthers preach while you circumnavigate the globe

redpillbanana · 2014-02-11T19:26:19+00:00

That first answer was the ultimate cross between "be yourself" (i.e. there are no hacks) and "put the woman on a pedestal" bullshit.

First hypothesis: there is an ideal way to behave around a particular woman that will result in the highest chances of her falling in love with you. See the movie Groundhog Day for reference.

Second hypothesis: there are a set of ideal behaviors that will cause the largest percentage of women to fall in love with you. See Bill Murray himself for reference.

Conclusion: hacks/strategies exist.

Title	Some amazing beta responses to a Quora question about attraction/dating
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Date	February 11, 2014 4:51 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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