Strange problem - do you ever find that there are girls you just can't maintain frame with? I'm not sure what's causing this?

Fagrapist · 2014-02-13T19:53:09+00:00

You said it yourself, you don't mesh with her personality, to the point where you'd rather not bother with her. Perhaps your conscious awareness of her physical beauty is creating some cognitive dissonance and shutting down your frame?

bankruptedcasino · 2014-02-13T20:31:04+00:00

Anyone else experience this? A "mental block" with just one girl for no reason you can think of?

Yes. With my last gf.

Is it possible that I'm subconsciously picking up on a vibe I'm not attracted to, and it's preventing me from getting in game mode?

This was the reason for me. I initially thought our personalities were totally compatible. When we started dating, it seemed as if we were always on the same page. Her text message game mirrored mine, and we made each other laugh. Conversations were easy to come by. She seemed not at all demanding or bitchy; in fact, she seemed quite the opposite.

Still, something just felt ... off. My game never felt like it was quite right, and I'd always get a really uneasy feeling whenever I was on my way to see her or she was on her way to see me. Like butterflies in my stomach, only more foreboding. Just like I'd feel when I was 10 and heading to the doctor's office (I had an unconquerable fear of needles back then).

I ignored these feelings and we made things official. Without going into too much detail, she pulled a total 180. It was quite obvious that she was only acting a certain way to snare me into a relationship. Once she achieved that goal, she dropped the act and showed me who she really was - an entitled, spoiled brat who expected her man to do her bidding with vague promises of sex in return.

Naturally, I BluePilled the fuck out of this chameleon and (to the surprise of no one), it didn't work out. That was about a year ago this time. Because of her, I discovered TRP. I'd always believed in the stuff touted here, but lost my way over the years. As awful as it felt to feel taken advantage of, I'm grateful that she brought me back to the light.

If your girl is a 9/10, and your friends are trying to set you up, then you have some game. You know the score, even at a subconscious level. If you're having trouble gaming her now, it's highly likely your subconscious is picking up on something. If it feels off, it's probably because it is.

Remember, "Love is like a fart. If you have to force it, it's probably shit."

Nevertheless, the biggest harbinger of doom is this:

she's interested in a few things I find annoying

This is a cancerous tumor that will metastasize. Whatever you find annoying now will grow ever-more annoying three days from now, three weeks from now, three months from now, and three years from now.

none of those things should be stopping me wanting to fuck her?

No, not really. It all depends on what you're looking for.

If you just want the bang, let your friends set you up but tell her that you're not interested in anything serious. Tell her that you're dating other women and that she's free to date other men. Keep things light and casual. Never let her get the drop on you by trying to escalate the relationship past the occasional bang. That means you don't spend the night at each other's houses, and you get out of there like a bat out of hell after you've climaxed.

Telling her that she's free to date other men and you're free to date other women at the beginning is crucial. Normally I wouldn't put boundaries on a relationship until asked, but here your have mutual friends that are trying to set you up. Play the game poorly in the beginning, and you'll have a butt hurt 9/10 at the end. And that means your mutual friends will circle the wagons around her. And that means they won't hang out with you anymore, or they won't trust you anymore. And that means no more set ups with 9/10's from this group of people.

I like to live in abundance. I like when my friends do the work for me so I don't have to. I don't burn bridges with people who want to set me up, even if they deserve it, and even if they're stupid girls who keep sending crappy prospects to my door.

If you don't want the bang, tell your mutual friends that you're not looking for a relationship right now. Girls speak girl. And as Pook says, "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" means "I'm not looking for a relationship with you." Your mutual friends will get the hint. Bonus: you get points for being up front and honest with them, leaving them free to set you up with other 9/10s in their social circle.

Hopefully one that doesn't make you feel like it's pulling teeth to holla.

monsieurhire2 · 2014-02-14T08:04:51+00:00

You find her physically attractive, so you have chemistry, which is intoxicating, like a drug, and it's distorting your game, which uses your conscious mind, and works best, sober. That's one group of factors.

Another group is probably repressed fears. Because you know you're attracted to her, and because you know game, you don't want to comunicate to her that you're attracted because that will appear beta, so you overcompensate by being overly business-like with her, which creates a feedback loop where she thinks you may actually be turned off by her instead of merely playing it cool.

This probably remedied by not giving a shit. Don't be afraid to fail. If you want her, make your move and let the chips fall where they may.

2014-02-13T20:55:06+00:00

I have a similar issue. Girls who are below my league I have no problem with, they chase the fuck out of me. Girls out of my league, I just don't care what I do or say because I know they won't want me once we get past the first day. The girls that are on par with me are the hardest. I can't seem to get it right with them. I'm in some place between place, not quite over all my BP behavior, not totally in the RP mindset.

bobjoe177 · 2014-02-13T20:30:03+00:00

ha the rationale of this thread is laughable. op is freezing up because she's hot and his fragile ego wont allow him to admit to himself that the problem is his approach anxiety. if you're telling the truth you have all angles working for you and are shitting the bed. ask her about stuff that interests you- lead the convo.

Title	Strange problem - do you ever find that there are girls you just can't maintain frame with? I'm not sure what's causing this?
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Date	February 13, 2014 7:42 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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