Swallowing TRP: Learning from Cringe Experiences

sagginpus · 2014-05-12T20:14:49+00:00

For me, I got laid all the time in high school and during a short stint in the military afterwards, then the well ran dry as I started to get all beta in my mid-twenties (thanks to a string of LTRs). Somewhere along the way of wondering how my luck with the ladies had changed, I discovered TRP and re-evaluated how I acted around women through an objective lens. I know that when I was in my young 20s, when I was running through several women a week sometimes, I was completely sociopathic and self-centered. Many people called me an asshole, and while that's likely true I'd like to believe that the subtiered traits of an asshole - self reliance, self confidence, willingness to be a polarizing figure, disinterest in dissenters, etc. - are all key alpha traits that led to my success with women.

Now I'm in my 30s and working on a strong professional career. I don't want to be an asshole, really, but I do want to harness those same traits that I listed above in both my personal and professional life. The more I read TRP content, the more I believe that these types of "alpha" traits (I should really call them masculine traits, because that's what they are), are important outside of just picking up girls. When I show that I am decisive and strong at work, I get more professional respect in a similar way to how showing these traits will also get me more attention from women.

I think a lot of guys who grew up in the last few decades have grown up in an era of feminism. Men aren't expected to act like men anymore - Don't play too rough with the other kids! The ideal man listens to a woman's feelings! Here's a trophy just for participating! Just be yourself! - and somewhere along the way society forgot what a man is supposed to be. Because the traditional view of a man isn't quite PC in today's terms. If you've just started to get into TRP and you feel "lied to" that's a big part of the reason why. The underlying fact here is that we as people, both men and women, are wired to respond to traditional masculinity in both intimate and platonic situations.

For me, and many like me (maybe you too?), opening my eyes to TRP is more than just reading up on a lot of stuff that seems to make sense... it's about making an intentional and permanent change to how I interact with the world - the respect I garner, the women I choose, and ultimately the quality of my life. Because the biggest realization TRP showed me is that nobody will give me the things I want by playing "the rules" as understood by a brainwashed beta. I have to go out and get that shit myself.

charlesbukowksi · 2014-05-13T00:41:44+00:00

Stop cringing. Don't judge yourself. You didn't know. How you acted was natural given what you did know. Also, try to find the humor in your failure. Realize failure carries with it the seed of an equivalent success. Rejoice in failure.

The Bhagavad Gita tells us we only have a right to our actions, not the fruit of those actions. To desire a specific fruit is to enslave yourself. To be independent of the outcome, engrossed in the act, that is liberation.

AlteredMentalStatus · 2014-05-13T04:50:33+00:00

I most definitely cringe. Thinking back on things I've said and done just for approval makes me slightly ill. At first, when I first discovered TRP, I was pisssssed. The truth was right in front of me and I ignored it, which led to some dark times. In the end though, I'm grateful because my experiences led me to this way of life and the best is yet to come.

GroundGear · 2014-05-13T00:51:10+00:00

I can't remember when I first observed the bullshit one-way street men and women walk on, but I do know it's been years since I made that observation. I was pretty beta all through highschool(graduated 2013). I discovered TRP maybe 4 or 5 months ago. It made so much sense I thought it was a Godsend. I quickly made a 180 and have made great improvements since. My confidence is through the roof and I'm getting all sorts of attention from women. I've learned to review all of my interactions and analyze them before bed. You then make fine adjustments and go out and try again. I think you get to a point where your cringeworthy moments become funny. I look back at my highschool years and get an absolute kick out of it!

On a side note, I haven't seen it mentioned much here, but I found great success in watching alphas interactions. Watching shows like Boston Legal(current series that I'm working my way through) get me fired up and actually boost my confidence. I suppose that might be because I'm a visual learner.

[deleted] · 2014-05-13T09:47:43+00:00

I had to delete the texts from my first relationship. Now that I think of what I said it seems like some other person, I can't believe the omega shit I used to say.

Thankfully I've learnt from my mistakes and with every girl I'm becoming a better man.

cray-cray-cray · 2014-05-14T14:14:18+00:00

I can't help but cringe at my previous behaviour.

Oh, yeah, yes.

How did you swallow TRP and learn from cringe experiences?

It's all obvious in hindsight. I thought I had reasonably good game because I usually had an attractive girlfriend. The problem was that I believed in the fairy tale... not the "someone for everyone" bullshit, but I'd go beta in relationships and eventually wreck them.

I'm slightly over 40, and I've seen most of the things here play out in real life, either with myself or friends. So, I'm able to explain a lot of behavior I've seen in real life, but never really had a roadmap for. And I always thought myself to be very good at sussing out motives and such. Nope, not sexually... not at all.

In the past, I've been an orbiter, put pussy on a pedestal, been divorced, gone full beta, been clingy, made tons of dating mistakes, unknowingly turned down pussy my entire life, and the list goes on.

In the last several years, I kept 4 plates on rotation. It eventually got a little exhausting since I was making time to bang each one at least once a week, but I sure learned a lot in the process. I eventually zoomed in on a good one, but it's my stronger ltr game that keeps her cooking, cleaning, sucking, and fucking. It started with pre-selection and abundance mentality, and that's a much better way to start.

I have room for improvement, but I'm miles ahead of where I was 3 years ago in a lot of ways.

mast0rz · 2014-05-13T09:06:23+00:00

Among them, I have a few relationship where, by definition, I am an orbiter, but I enjoy and value them as people and as friends. This is probably my own hamster running?

Are you sure they value you as a person and as a friend? Try to look at it objectively and ask yourself if these people would do the same for you as you are doing for them. If not; walk away.

hntr16 · 2014-05-13T02:16:23+00:00

informative

Title	Swallowing TRP: Learning from Cringe Experiences
Author	GroundGear
Upvotes	24
Comments	14
Date	May 12, 2014 5:39 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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