I've been hooking up with a girl now who i would've considered out of my league years ago and i did it through being socially active, focusing on my appearance, and generally not giving a fuck of what the consequences were in a light hearted way.

The crazy thing is, if i had even gotten with this chick a year or two ago, i know that i would've gotten so emotionally invested after the first lay that she would've wanted to leave asap, but it never came to that. Ironically, i'm so focused on getting my own shit done, working out, and flirting with other girls, that it's always HER that initiates every message. I don't respond right away most times, not because i purposely want to impose dread, but because i'm genuinely too busy with my own shit or don't feel like it. Wait a few hours and guess what? Bam 3-4 more messages of her trying to reinitiate a conversation.

Lesson learned: live to improve yourself and those closest to you that you care about, whether it be family or best friends. When you do that, the woman thing settles itself