The Kitty — (Noun) - A knowledge, talent, or item that can be called upon in a moments notice. Synonymous with an ace up the sleeve.

Intro

A classic piece of red pill advice is to keep two women in the kitty. That way, you know that if one girl your pursuing doesn't pan out, you have two other lovers to call upon for a fun night together.

The abundance isn't found in the state of having multiple other women to bang, it's found in the knowledge that you can find another women in due with without extreme effort.

Body

It took me a long time to realize that women find me attractive. Even as a low status kid in middle / early high school, I had girls coming up to me and befriending me. My low confidence at the time (due to a rough upbringing) prevented me from even considering that cute women could ever want to hold my member in their mouths.

I was dating in a polygamous way before I ever knew The Red Pill, or this side of the internet, even existed.

Eventually I started getting girlfriends, at one point during high-school I was dating 3 girls at once, yet I still had that gnawing at the back of my mind. "Women don't want you," this voice would claw at me, "do whatever you can to keep them."

This line of thinking turned into a self fulfilling prophecy. I lost all 3 of my girlfriends, 2 by being dumped, and 1 I dumped myself. By senior year, I was single once more.

But I came out slightly more confident. "Maybe I am good enough to get girls already, i dated some pretty cute girls already."

Enter college. I hit the scene full of life ready to make friends, and make friends I did. I look back with a smile because years of enduring hardship in my family life has blinded me from seeing the facts:

  • I was welcomed into the "cool kids" social circles from the moment college started.

  • Women would attempt to isolate ME, bu approaching me and starting conversations with me, making it obvious they wanted me to seduce them.

  • When I was invited to some parties, a drunk girl would pick me out of all the guys, yell "come here, sexy!" and we'd have a drunk make out session.

Throughout early college I had that experience plus success in the online dating realm. Some really hot girls, some just for the experience.

Yet I still felt I wasn't good enough. The girls I would date (because I was still blowing easy opportunities at hooking up due to my insecurity) would eventually separate from me because my insecurities would surface eventually. Some times it took years, other times just a few weeks.

Only now have I learned the value of The Good Kitty.

The Good Kitty

Normal guys find girlfriends in their social environments, whether it be school, sports, work, or the bar / painting club, whatever.

Im sorry to say, but if you haven't had the "normal guy experience" of dating women, then you've got alot of work to do.

But the good news is: everyone can learn to swim.

And thats all it means to have The Good Kitty, when it comes to women.

It's knowing, in the back of your mind, that if your wife leaves you, your girlfriend dumps you, or all your plates ditch you for super chad 9000; that you can go out and find new women to have fun with, in a reasonable time frame.

I personally never dedicated time to "sarging on girls." My dating style was to simply talk to the women I meet, invite them to be alone with me, then get physical. But I met them all in social, warm scenarios (except for the online dating girls.)

It finally hit me that the only time I spend a ridiculous amount of time single are the times I have no social life. If I'm monk mode focused on some project, hanging out with only 2 people, I get no women unless its through online dating.

When I'm hitting the social scene, I find girlfriends eventually, usually women make their interest known fairly quickly.

That is the good kitty.

The best kitty, In fact.

Summary

The good kitty is self security in knowing that if you run out of fish, you know how to fish, and where to fish, to feed yourself again.

If you put yourself in a good, sturdy boat, surrounded by juicy fish, armed with spear or rod, you will come home with at least 1 fish to last a while, after a few hours of fishing.

Actions You Can Take

If you're a guy like me who had success, but there's some kind of cognitive block preventing you from accessing and accepting that as a part of yourself, then you need to do deep internal work, reflecting on your psyche.

I know of a red pill community that helps guys cultivate this aspect of their mentality, it can be found in the Fraternity Discord.

If you prefer to traverse that road alone, write down on sticky notes every negative thought you associate with women. Whether it be "im too short, im too ugly, im not smart enough," etc. Next, sit with each individual thought and remember the very first time you felt that way. Remember the whole moment. Finally, try to find a moment that disproves that thought. Whether you can or cannot, finish this exercise by asking yourself whether holding that belief as true helps your life in any way. You will find the answer is always no. After you accept that the belief is worthless to you, burn that paper away and move onto the next one.

If you're a guy who has no success with women, then you have much more work to do than those of us who have a lot of success but haven't accepted we are good enough.

First, you need to figure out why you're not successful.

Personally, I've been lean, modelesque in my physique, and somewhat tall, plus uniquely handsome. All of which I proudly attribute to my success with women. However I wasn't always like this. Long story short, I was once a 220 lb piece of shit.

If you have some significant handicap, such as being really fat, having no social skills but good looking, etc, the first thing you must do is stop your train of thought. I already know what you're thinking: "but so-and-so is fat and bangs hot girls! So I don't have to become athletic!" yeah well, he's him and you're you. Theres a reason why he can do it and not you, evidently, his style will not work for you, as you've realized by now.

So once again, if you have no success with women to pull out from your good kitty, than identify your major handicaps and begin inmediste work in correcting them.

Who DARES wins.