Just a note - English is not my native language so please excuse my mistakes.

Place of action - western Europe. 8 years ago, I was in college, just moved to a different country as an exchange student. I was a mad man - great shredded body, social butterfly, pretty much everyone knew me on campus after a month. And with all that, I was also doing very well at academics, which never was my issue.

During one party, I met this girl, easy 9/10. We hit it off instantly. The very first night, she sucked me off big time. I was not looking for a relationship at that moment at all but I asked her out for a date anyway. Fast forward 3 month and she moved in into my room. Till the end of college the relationship continued like a bed of roses.

After 1 year we both graduated. As we were from different countries and English was our only common language, we decided to move to UK. Before the actual move, I secured a great job in a top company in my field which took care of all the relocation burden so moving was pretty easy. At that time, she didn't have a job yet so I was paying for all the expenses - flat, food, etc. She started to complain that there were no jobs in her field here - which was not entirely true. Quickly she became lazy and unmotivated, stopped seeking for employment and started playing some stupid facebook games.

After 1 year of long discussions, we decided to move to a different country and city where the job market was supposed to be much better for her. So again, I secured the job in that new city and we go. The job turned out to be a complete shit. But I decided to stick it out so that my girlfriends' career can take off. But again, she wasn't doing much apart playing those facebook games. She even started to lie to me that she's applying to jobs when she wasn't really - I asked her to show me confirmation e-mails from companies where she applied - there were none. She was excusing herself that she was not feeling confident because of the 1+ year unemployment gap and so on. I ended up looking for jobs for her and sending her lists where she had to apply - you can guess with what outcome. In the meantime because of the shit that was going on in my work and her not having a job and doing nothing about that I started to develop symptoms of neurosis. I managed to quickly recover from that as I tried some extreme sports and got really hooked in. As we were moving from country to country a lot I didn't have many close buddies. So I was taking her with me to do these sports, she even tried some and also go into them.

It continued like this for a couple more years. I was paying for home, food, exotic trips, all the equipment and what not. In the meantime she was taking care of home - typical house chores like cooking, cleaning - I couldn't complain about that - and of course facebook games. Also, we didn't have kids. Oh, and we moved one more time.

Now, fast forward to April this year. Out of the blue, she asked me if she can go to UK - apparently there was her old friend from her university times that was about to move to the US and she was afraid she may not see him again. Of course it was a male friend but according to her living with a girlfriend. This is when I got really suspicious because I never heard of this guy and come on - we lived in the same city a couple of years ago. So I said, I will go with her because I want to see my friends from old work - which was true. Then she got very defensive, accusing me of not trusting her and so on. Anyway, she went there for a weekend and during it I managed to check her facebook chat with this guy. Apparently, she was cleaning it regularly so I didn't learn much except the fact he did not have a girlfriend. When she came back, I started to grill her - I took me 2 weeks to find out that: guy indeed didn't have a girlfriend, he was not going to a US, he was not a friend from university but they met online through one of the facebook games, she did flirt with him long time ago but was supposed to cut it and he is a musician in a band and has a party bus which he drives during weekend nights. However she never admitted she cheated on me, claiming he's just a friend. I didn't believe her because after every new fact she told me, she also promised there's nothing more. Still, every next day I managed to get something more out of her. The findings I wrote above are the "final" ones - in between there were many other versions of this story.

So I gave her a week to move out and that was it. Nope, not really. After 2 weeks I cracked - thought maybe she really didn't cheat on me - turned into 100% pussy and started to beg her to come back, sent her flowers saying we can fix it, to try and so on. Obviously that didn't work. Later I found out that she had seen that guy again.

All in all, I've wasted 7 years with that person, pretty much my entire 20s. Now I'm 29. Career wise I'm more than well set. Body wise - not so bad, I'm in shape as I developed a habit of working out back in high school. However I started to bald pretty significantly which I kind of didn't notice throughout last years so I got a clean shave now. Socially - outside of my professional network - I'm zero. Mentally - pretty devastated.

But at the end I know I fucked up big time here, ignored many red flags, just carried on without any reflections and I know that I'm responsible for that. Now I have to find my mission and start a new chapter of life. TRP helped me a lot during the most dark moments so just wanted to say THANK YOU.

Peace.

EDIT: You guys rock! Thanks a lot for your kind words! Really appreciate. In terms of losing 7 years - you are right, I didn't waste them completely but ROI is very small in my opinion. I always wanted to have a family, kids and from that I got nothing. But now I have to internalise the true reality and forget about the typical model that I've been taught about family, woman and relationships.