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[–]davosnator4 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Thanks brother I really appreciate it.
[–][deleted] 29 points30 points31 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
The Red Pill backfired on me
Before I read your post, I'm willing to bet that the issue is your misinterpretation of TRP backfired on you.
I now have a terrible reputation for using girls
Yep. If you want multiple FWBs you have to have the social skills to know how to handle those situations. If they actually feel used rather than enjoy being with you, you were doing it wrong.
I am losing people who cared for me... I am beginning to feel lonelier
That also shouldn't happen. Sure, there might be some overly-sensitive, pessimistic people who you stop hanging out with, but you shouldn't be losing friendships.
I'm an asshole
RP =/= asshole
For what it's worth, nothing in that post leads me to believe you even internalized TRP at all, much less overdosed on it.
[–]davosnator 8 points9 points10 points 12 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
That's how I got off on the wrong foot at the beginning, the asshole misconception.
[–]fuck_six_sigma 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I don't know how this is such a common misconception. You will make a woman's panties niagara falls if you're a polite, frank, and genuine person. Asshole behavior should never come into play it just looks childish and dries up a pussy in a hurry. Do you mind expanding on it though? Were there certain things you read or heard that led you to behave more like one? How much of an asshole were you exactly? Is it something that can be chalked up as like the regular-guy-being-an-asshole-having-a-bad-day type or the smug-cocky-douche type?
[–]Crazystarf 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sometimes being genuine works, sometime it doesn't. It's probably the reason why being yourself works for a fraction of people while it blows up in their face for others.
Just keep improving yourself physically and mentally. People flock to those who are strong.
[–]fuck_six_sigma 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hmm, I like this point. I think you're right about
being yourself works for a fraction of people while it blows up in their face for others.
I guess I was assuming that the self improvement part, being that it's half the battle, was already won.
[–]allcapsisyelling 10 points11 points12 points 12 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
What did you do that made you an asshole? Did you lie? Don't lie. I think you will find that RP advice will be very helpful in avoiding ladytraps as you get older. You may not even appreciate it because you won't know you avoided them. Right now it sounds like you may be stuck in a small clique of teenage friends. Broad-en your whore-izens.
TL; DR? Lift.
[–]davosnator2 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Thanks man, excellent TLDR.
[–]mercuryg3 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Fixing what exactly? Exactly what have you done?
[–]cascadecombo 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What the hell dude, you didn't overdose on anything. You just took advantage of people without actually using your head at all.
Plates wouldn't gang up on your if they knew they were plates, which is something everyone who spins properly makes known before they start spinning them.
You didn't even give any real examples for anyone to give you advice with, stop crying for yourself and actually discuss this shit.
[–]DarkSayed 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm barely 19 years old.
OK, so who cares? Apart from your family, most of your circle probably aren't going to be there is a few years.
[–]a_chill_bro 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you're doing it right people should be flocking to you, not turning against you.
Plates should want you more, you should be making new friends and bonding even tighter with your existing ones, you should be packing on the muscle a-la-Schwarzenegger, getting promotions at work, making more money, feeling awesome about your life, I could go on and on.
It takes real training to apply TRP correctly to your life. I find it ironic that we refer to this stuff as a pill, which implies all you have to do is swallow it and all your problems are gone.
The pill is only the beginning, it only lays the FOUNDATION for true self growth. Like anything worth doing in life it takes hard work, sacrifice and determination to apply correctly.
[–]Gabe6678 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Hey, listen. I had a friend that acted this way constantly. Everyone hated him, even his close friends. He lied, exaggerated, and deceived others. He did attract some women, but for the most part everyone thought of him as a cocky lying asshole. TRP is more about being assertive. When I first came here, my instinct was to be a jerk to everyone. Its more of a push and pull. Also, you don't have to treat your friends any differently. People will get sick of you sooner or later. I suggest you apologize for the way you've been acting, and try being more assertive rather than an asshole.
[–]davosnator 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I read once on an article linked here on TRP about never apologizing because you look weak but I guess this is an exception right?
[–]Gabe6678 5 points6 points7 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't apologize to the women. I should have clarified that. They'll come and go, but if you've been a jerk to your close friends, you need to at least give an excuse for your behavior.
[–]cascadecombo -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You apologize when it's appropriate.
You don't apologize for anything that doesn't need an apology for. You can admit you were wrong, but why would you apologize for simply being incorrect? It's silly to do so.
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[–]davosnator 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah that's what I meant to say, I misunderstood TRP. Thanks brother.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Be a generous person. Don't tell people you will change. Just change in your actions, and all will be fine in 6 months.
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[–]a_chill_bro 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's these types of negative responses we need to keep out of this sub. We are here to improve not only ourselves but each other.
OP came to us seeking our help. Either post something helpful or move on to the next post.
Cut this irresponsible shit out.
[+]shadowbananas -12 points-11 points-10 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's these types of negative responses we need to keep out of this sub.
Who’s we, sweetpea? You’re not a mod, so no-one gives a shit about your personal opinion.
OP’s post reeks of idiotic melodramatic teenage angst. It is fair to point that out. Don’t waste your time on giving me instructions or suggestions, as I could truly not give less of a shit about what you think.
Again, you’re a random dweeb. What deludes you into thinking I care?
[–]davosnator 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago [recovered] (11 children) | Copy Link
Whatever bro.
[–]harkrank 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Nobody gives a shit about what a 19-year old says or does, for better and worse."
He didn't mean we don't give a shit here. He means that you're only 19 and your reputation is not destroyed, because you are young and people forgive things young guys do. People fucking love a guy who was wild when he was young.
[+]shadowbananas -9 points-8 points-7 points 12 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Dude, you’re doing it again! You’re being a total asshole, and it’s ruining your life!
Quick, run and buy tampons to soak up your estrogen-laden tears!
[–]Uedukai 7 points8 points9 points 12 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
This comment is in no way usefull, and this sub is about helping eachother improve, not being a dick to someone seeking advice.
Get off your non-existant highhorse buddy, for all we know, "you're a random dweeb" as well, and you're certainly acting like one. As you can tell by the replies and downvotes, no one cares about your opinion, I don't care about your opinion, and this topic has nothing to do with you. Actually, this sub has nothing to do with you either, because you clearly haven't learned anything from it.
Practically everything you've posted sounds multitudes more angsty than anything he posted. Just plain hypocritical.
"Nobody gives a shit about what a 19-year old says or does"
You don't, but we do. I would have love to give my 18 or 19 year old self the information and experience I know and have now, and so I help others.
[+]shadowbananas -9 points-8 points-7 points 12 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I’m sure you’re very happy with your decision to spend ten minutes writing something you knew I would disregard.
Oh, and: no u.
[–]cascadecombo 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Read side bar, grow up, then come back please.
[–]shadowbananas -3 points-2 points-1 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
...What is it with you non-mod nobodies presuming to tell me anything?
[–]cascadecombo 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Because it's obvious you don't know much/are immature/ are still learning/ trolling.
People who are here want actual discussion, not childish squabbling.
[–]cascadecombo 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
you howling retard
Can't remember the last time I actually howled, but that's the type of stuff I was just talking about. Rather than getting upset and calling people names (which I assume you will do when you reply) you could have ended at the comma and actually sounded like someone with at least half a brain.
Now for your question, Isn't it obvious? You asked a question, if you didn't want/need a reply don't ask people questions. Again, if you had at least half a brain it would be obvious.
[–]ashglass 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fallacy of insult man.
[–]davosnator3 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
As I said in response to another comment, what I meant is that I misused it and I am not blaming the Pill. I blame myself.
[–]Do not send modmail to my personal inboxCrazyHorseInvincible[M] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Personal questions or requests go in /r/asktrp.
[–]drallcom3 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That it an idiot.
[–]davosnator1 point 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Thanks to everyone who provided constructive feedback. No, I am not trolling, I was looking for legitimate advice.
[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 12 years ago (44 children) | Copy Link
As an older (30 yr old) woman I say, buck up young man. You are 19, you have a lot of "exploring" to do before you settle. You have many good years ahead of you, remember to have fun. You are not an asshole, you are 19. Remember that girls talk to each other about everything. You can change your reputation, just not overnight so don't panic if it takes awhile.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (40 children) | Copy Link
As an older (30 yr old) woman
Tits or GTFO.
This is a perfect example of a post, where someone states his/hers gender in the first sentence. And we had enough of this bullshit.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (39 children) | Copy Link
What a nice thing to say. I hope you have a great day to.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (38 children) | Copy Link
As a man, I do indeed
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (37 children) | Copy Link
As a woman I to am having one great day among many, and I hope that young man starts having better days as well.
Yeah, there wasn't a need to say you were female. dotzie is a retard most the time who I'm constantly calling out on his stupid shit. But seriously keep your tits in your shirt. We don't care / want to know that you are a female as it comes off as karma whoring.
If your point is valid it is valid, regardless of your gender.
[–]EducatedCavemen -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Seriously though, there was no need for identifying your gender.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I do it all the time. If I don't I get mistaken as male so often it kinda hurts my feelings a little. Sorry if that offends you. I just want people to know who they are talking to.
[–]EducatedCavemen 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Here we judge a person's character by what they say(or do, if it's outside the internet) rather than by who they are. I don't care how often you do that, here in TRP you don't do that.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Right on..I just get tired of being mistaken as male is all. I will try to not identify my sex again.
[–]EducatedCavemen 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If getting mistaken as a male offends you then this is not the place for you. Got to RedPillWoman.
[–][deleted]1 point 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I'm there already. And I'm here because true equality interests me. I feel that now days men do get the shaft. I'm not here to fight or be provoked or insulted. I just want to learn stuff.
[–]EducatedCavemen1 point 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
aight.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (28 children) | Copy Link
As an old woman. FTFY
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (27 children) | Copy Link
Hey man. We all get older and older every day. I was 22 yesterday and didn't know anything. You will be 50 before you know it just like me and everyone else. Question is will you be a happy old person with a real partner? Or will you be at the bar striking out at 35 yrs when the 25 yr olds no longer find you attractive?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Maybe you are getting old. I'm already 35 and at least 4 girls 25-30 found me attractive 2 days ago. And no, I am not going to the bars.
Maybe you should change your diet or do some exercise.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I do diet and exercise. I'm old because I have 3 kids. They wear my ass out. Have fun with them young girls and their daddy complexes.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Have a great lazy life with your kids as an excuse!
Lazy life? You misunderstood me. I do homeschool. So I also do PE every day with them. Mostly thats walking running and bike riding. So I feel tired and old every darn day.
AWALT
Huh? I don't know what that means.
No wonder you feel tired and old, too tired to Google.
Right on man.
Are women allowed to post in this subreddit, by the way?
I don't know, I haven't been kicked out yet. If you feel insulted by my presence here I suppose you should report me or something.
If I cared, I would.
Right on.
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
I don't understand why I should be mad. It's not my business.
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[–][deleted]2 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
It doesn't make me mad though, sorry. When I was 18 I was banging a 40 yr old. But that doesn't always happen. There is a point at which the under 30 crowd will no longer find a person attractive. That's the point I was trying to make. If you stay single past that point, chances are that you will be single and lonely forever. For some that point is 35, for others it could be 65. I threw out a random number to make a vaild point. And once again I dont get mad, I get glad.
[–]davosnator1 points 12 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
What do you suggest I do to start changing the reputation situation?
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well if you plan to see more than one girl at a time be up front about that. Tell them that you enjoy their company, and have a good time with them, but also be honest that you are not yet ready for a "real" relationship. Many girls are okay with this, those that are not will only fill your life with drama anyway. When I say have a good time I mean it, don't waste your time trying to bang a girl you don't even like, it will show, you will be labeled. If you are uncomfortable with that honesty I suggest you see different women from different towns. But seriously try to be honest about it, women like the honesty and you will end up attracting more drama free women if you approach it in this way. It's when you lead a girl on and make her believe she's the only one that you get the "cheater" reputation. When I was single I had an arrangement with a man that was so open and honest that I would recommend him to other women I knew that also needed to just get laid.
[–]ashglass -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No one cares about your opinions, post-wall woman. Haha
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