I was asked to do a post on a comment I made about being able to tell if a women is really interested in you based on her body language in public vs private. So I decided to just post a general body language post so everyone can put in their observations.

The observation I have had is that when a women is nonreciprocal to your own body language in public than her interest in you is not benign (what really is going on here is, why would someone be embarrassed to reciprocate your behavior but still hang around?).

Im sure their are outliers and women that don't show public affection very well, but I'm not really talking about physical touching in public. When a women is really into you she mirrors your'e body language in public...almost to a tee. Especially if your in a formal situation. When you cross your legs she might cross hers, when you lean in she leans in, mirror stances and gestures, smiling before the joke is finished, a touch for a touch, a smile for a smile, emotional states are copied. She will pretty much sync everything to you and do things on your cue.

I will say its easy to let this stuff go to your head, and when it comes to reading body language you have to look at things cumulatively, not specifically (i.e., she didn't laugh at "one" joke....she's using me, etc). It takes hours, days or even weeks to really get a good idea what someones motives are from body language, and even then its never 100%...but its a pretty good indicator most of the time.

It should be pretty obvious when you just open your eyes and look for it...and I know most of this is widely known and wrote about, although I have noticed stuff like this since I was a kid. Some people might be saying "well duh", and it kind of is. But what the hell, just throwing it out there.

Warning signs I noticed:

  • She crosses her arms/legs when you speak.

  • She avoids eye contact and seeks eye contact from others for validation when you speak (a women wont care how stupid you sound if shes into you).

  • She will cut you off when someone else speaks (obvious).

  • Giving her what she wants actually makes her act more distant.

  • Touches other men in front of you (hugs, grabs arms, bullshit like that, your fucked...sorry).

  • She always does the take away (pulls hand away, pulls body away...you want to be doing the take away's).

  • Acts like putting your hand on her thigh make her uneasy around people (YMV, she might not be into public affection...but its not a good sign).

  • Unwilling to give you a big wet one when you deserve it (this is hard to define, but its not a peck, its a real kiss of thank-you. On the lips, open mouth).

  • She wears cloths to show cleavage/skin around public when you go out but covers up when your home (!!!this should be a big warning sign!!! fix the situation or get out!!)

  • If your same height but she will wear heels (!always!) to make herself taller than you (your fucked, she considers you beneath her. If shes into you she will will wear flats to keep things looking matched).

Thoughts, opinions, observations?